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1. Parents Hitting A Wall During The Pandemic Is
Totally Normal, Experts Say
By Ashley Jones
May 19, 2020
Life right now is more than a bit off-kilter. Do you even know what day it is
anymore? I sure don't most days. On whatever week it is of the current state of
affairs, why does it feel like everyone is hitting a wall during the pandemic?
From co-workers to children to friends, it seems like everyone is officially
*done* with this quarantine business.
"Our brains are processing so much information behind the scenes, both
logistically and emotionally. Our mental load during this pandemic is just
heftier," Laura Jordan, a therapist specializing in maternal and reproductive
mental health, tells Romper.
"Research demonstrates that those who persevere in a healthy way are
resilient," Fruitman says. "To be resilient is to have the ability to bounce back
from adversity or crisis. This is paramount if we want to role model how to

2. overcome change and adversity to our kids. As parents try and see the world
with fresh eyes, recognize the power you have to create a new schedule, a new
routine, and demonstrate gratitude."
It may be easy to read Fruitman's words and feel like slogging through this
messy time with renewed energy and vigor is simply unattainable, but experts
say it is truly within our reach. First and foremost though, giving yourself a
break is key.
"Expectations must be adjusted at this time," Jordan says. "This is not 'life as
usual,' so the standards you once held for yourself and your family have to be
re-evaluated and shifted."
Jordan recommends prioritizing your relationship with your children, learning
to be OK leaving your house a bit messier, take a drive while blasting your
favorite music, meditate, watch funny videos — whatever helps you feel better.
"Make a list of soothing, self-care based activities that you know work well for
you and start using it," she says.

3. Experts:
Belina Fruitman, LCSW, CAClll, therapist with A Woman's Way To
Recovery and Your Intervention
Laura Jordan, M.A., LPC, LMFT, licensed professional counselor and marriage
and family therapist at Jordan Therapy Services
Brook McKenzie, Director of Clinical Outreach at New Method Wellness Center
Anita Kanti, author of Behaving Bravely: How to Mindshift Life’s Challenges and
founder at Anita K Solutions