This document discusses the importance of balance between talking and listening in conversations. It states that both talking excessively and saying little can be signs of fear, insecurity, selfishness, and lack of compassion. It encourages participating in dialogs where the conversation flows in both directions, rather than debates. It warns that excessive talkers often only listen to themselves and lack empathy. Developing self-awareness, objectivity, and making corrections to develop empathy, compassion, and love for oneself and others is described as important for finding harmony with others.

1. Talk .... & Listen
July 11, 2012
Wisdom is knowing when to shut off the ‘jabber’ valve, and listen! Balance
between listening, and talking is a sign of healthy compassionate, conscious
thoughtfulness. Fear and insecurity are behind both who talk too much, or
those who say little. Both characteristics are signs of selfishness, and a lack of
compassion for others wishes and feelings. No one likes to listen to anything that they
have no interest in, likewise anyone void of conversation becomes boring, creating a
desire to avoid them.
Part of being conscious and spiritually aware is to pay close attention to conversations
with emphasis on ‘dialog’. A dialog, unlike a debate or argument, is to participate in a
conversation flowing in the same direction for both. For the ‘talker’, is more
being said than needs be for a welcome reception from the listener? Are you
as the listener listening closely to what others have to say?
‘Jabbering talkers’ often only listen to what they themselves
have to say. Most of us are too polite to offer suggestions to
the ‘talker’ to let us get a word in edgewise. Communication
needs sensitivity, and participation.
‘Gabbers’ are always covering up ‘emotional discord’. They
are sometimes like ‘seagull’s, squawking incessantly
oblivious to courtesies, and like seagulls who have poor
‘sphincter muscles’ while flying over people, who are alarmed by being
coated with ‘digested garbage’, they seem to have little control. Low
empathy is often a characteristics of both incessant talkers as well as non talkers. You
ultimately attract those how you act, and with ‘annoying’ habits you will attract others
with the same or mostly different ones.
You are a thought - a thought in your mind of who you are, as well as in others minds.
Be the watcher of both those. You took millions of years to become a reality of a ‘you’.
Know what and who that is, and with persistence in thought it will become a reality.
Every reality in life begins as a thought. Look at all your habits with as much clear
objectivity as you can, and confirm with others of clear objectivity. We live in an
interactive and interdependent ‘ fishbowl’ world where we always need to find harmony
for a peaceful coexistence. Self observation with any correction for a semblance of
empathy, compassion and love for ourselves and others is ‘Divine’.
Balance talk and listening.
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2. Talk .... & Listen