1. September 11, 2011
Picking and choosing what can and cannot be said with someone you
are close to is to be a ʻcherry pickedʼ incommunicado. In situations
making communication ʻriskyʼ for harmony, any stepping ʻover the
sensed line of expected positive responseʼ is to likely meet with
varying degrees of negativity including anger or hostility.
Communication need a sense of total freedom and trust that it will be received with resonating
sensitivity. Like all mediums of technological communication, there must be a ʻgiver and a
receiverʼ in tune with each other.
Real communication goes both ways. The speaker has no limits in what can be said, and the
receiver is open to hearing anything without rancor or judgement. Love in depth has no barriers
to a freedom of expressing any thoughts. The ʻfire of loveʼ burns all impediments, melting the
essence of two individuals into one. Rarely are couples in a sync that
expands the quality of togetherness higher than that of the seeming
individual quality. Communication can be the doorway to illimitable
heights of consciousness. Communication faltering anytime into
a dark guarded abyss by one or the other is an impediment to a
relationships growth.
A cold winterʼs rain that suddenly transcends into a lovely sunny
moment is suggestive of a relationships blocks that wonʼt ever go
away, but only deepen with out fluid communication. The
ʻheartland of loveʼ resides in each individual, but requires the free
air to fuel it to a merger that emanates a magical like quality. Opposing thoughts and
actions are antipathy to the highest expressions of love, and sour love causing likely
heart pains that reverberate in the mind as a hopeless quagmire. Pains from the heart
to the mind are the result of a failure to communicate. Even the communication to unblock the
separation can be met with the confusion and resistance to communications flow.
Avoiding open communication with no limitations or secrets is as rare as an albino in any
species. Marriage tends to even further ʻlock outʼ communication, instead fueling ways to avoid
the responsibility. Marriage has a ʻlegal bondʼ. In a ʻfree relationshipʼ you have the responsibility
to be deeper in the bond as only mutual trust hopefully exists with no net of legal obligation.
Strangely, all but the rare marriage becomes a haven for avoidance of ʻstirring the hornets nestʼ
making it more of a contractual arrangement with spots of love.
In addition to always having communication as a focal point as a good way to lubricate the flow
of it is to cultivate a sense of humor that cushions any ʻdelicateʼ conversations. Laughter is fuel
for love communication! The greatest language is love!
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