11. BIBLICAL FOUNDATION FOR
MARRIAGE
The Divine Origin of M
The Oneness of M
The Permanence of M
Sexual Intimacy in M (M & H)
Partnership (unity) in M
12. BIBLICAL REASONS FOR
MARRIAGE
The blessing of companionship
The function of reproduction
The fulfillment of the sexual urge
The socialization of children
The sheltering of the family
23. FAULT DIVORCE
1. Unfaithfulness to the marital vows
2. Cruelty
3. Abandonment or desertion
4. Mental illness
5. Criminal conviction
6. Culture,
7. religion, and
8. Disease
9. Abuse in all its forms
10.Financial backing
24. OTHER LEGAL REASONS
1. Getting in for the wrong reasons.
2. Lack of individual identity.
3. Becoming lost in the roles.
4. Not having a shared vision of success.
5. The intimacy disappears.
6. Unmet expectations.
7. Finances – too much/too little
8. Being out of touch ... literally.
9. Different priorities and interests.
10. Inability to resolve conflicts.
26. CHILDLESSNESS
THE IRONY IS THAT SOME COUPLES
SETTLE FOR CHILD-FREE MARRIAGES
WHILE OTHER ARE HITTING THE ROCK
AS A RESULT OF EITHER PRIMARY OF
SECONDARY INFERTILITY
31. Philippians 4:8
• Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true,
whatsoever things [are] honest, whatsoever
things [are] just, whatsoever things [are] pure,
whatsoever things [are] lovely, whatsoever
things [are] of good report; if [there be] any
virtue, and if [there be] any praise, think on
these things.
• Effective communication
• Exposure via reading good xtian literature on
human sexuality
33. EFFECTS OF THE FALL ON
MARRIAGE
The entrance of sin adversely affected
marriage. When Adam and Eve sinned, they lost
the oneness which they had known with God
and with one another (Gen. 3:6-24). Their
relationship became marked with guilt, shame,
blame, and pain.
Wherever sin reigns, its sad effects on
marriage include alienation, desertion,
unfaithfulness, neglect, abuse, violence,
separation, divorce, domination of one partner
34. Restoration and Healing
Divine Ideal to Be Restored in Christ—In
redeeming the world from sin and its
consequences, God also seeks to restore
marriage to its original ideal. This is
envisioned for the lives of those who
have been born again into the kingdom
of Christ, those whose hearts are being
sanctified by the Holy Spirit and who
have as their primary purpose in life the
exaltation of the Lord Jesus Christ.
35. Oneness and Equality to Be Restored in
Christ
The gospel emphasizes the love and
submission of husband and wife to one
another (1 Cor. 7:3, 4; Eph. 5:21). The
model for the husband’s leadership is the
self-sacrificial love and service that Christ
gives to the church (Eph. 5:24, 25). Both
Peter and Paul speak about the need for
respect in the marriage relationship (1
Peter 3:7; Eph. 5:22, 23).
36. Grace Available for All
God seeks to restore to
wholeness and reconcile to
Himself all who have failed to
attain the divine standard (2
Cor. 5:19). This includes those
who have experienced broken
marriage relationships.
37. ROLE OF THE CHURCH
Moses in the Old Testament and Paul in the New
Testament dealt with the problems caused by
broken marriages (Deut. 24:1-5; 1 Cor. 7:11).
Both, while upholding and affirming the ideal,
worked constructively and redemptively with
those who had fallen short of the divine
standard. Similarly, the church today is called
to uphold and affirm God’s ideal for marriage
and, at the same time, to be a reconciling,
forgiving, healing community, showing
understanding and compassion when
38. Marriages Can Be Destroyed
Marriage rests on principles of love,
loyalty, exclusiveness, trust, and support
upheld by both partners in obedience to
God (Gen. 2:24; Matt. 19:6; 1 Cor. 13;
Eph. 5:21-29; 1 Thess. 4:1-7). When
these principles are violated, the
marriage is endangered.
SCRIPTURE ACKNOWLEDGES THAT
TRAGIC CIRCUMSTANCES CAN DESTROY
MARRIAGE.
40. Matt. 5:32But I say unto you,
That whosoever shall put
away his wife, saving for the
cause of fornication,
causeth her to commit
adultery: and whosoever
shall marry her that is
divorced committeth
adultery.
41. Matt. 19:3 The Pharisees also came unto him, tempting him, and saying
unto him, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife for every cause?
4 And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made
[them] at the beginning made them male and female,
5 And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall
cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh?
6 Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath
joined together, let not man put asunder.
7 They say unto him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of
divorcement, and to put her away?
8 He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered
you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so.
9 And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except [it be] for
fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso
marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.
10 His disciples say unto him, If the case of the man be so with [his] wife, it is
not good to marry.
42. • And unto the married I command, [yet] not I, but the Lord, Let not
the wife depart from [her] husband:
• 7:11 But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried, or be
reconciled to [her] husband: and let not the husband put away [his]
wife.
• 7:12 But to the rest speak I, not the Lord: If any brother hath a
wife that believeth not, and she be pleased to dwell with him, let him
not put her away.
• 7:13 And the woman which hath an husband that believeth
not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him.
• 7:14 For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and
the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your
children unclean; but now are they holy.
• 7:15 But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or
a sister is not under bondage in such [cases]: but God hath called us
to peace.
43. Matthew 6:9-13
6:9 After this manner therefore pray ye: Our Father
which art in heaven, Hallowed be thy name.
6:10 Thy kingdom come. Thy will be done in earth, as
[it is] in heaven.
6:11 Give us this day our daily bread.
6:12 And forgive us our debts, as we
forgive our debtors.
6:13 And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us
from evil: For thine is the kingdom, and the power,
and the glory, for ever. Amen.
44. Matthew 18:21-22
• 18:21 Then came Peter to him, and said,
Lord, how oft shall my brother sin against me,
and I forgive him? till seven times?
• 18:22 Jesus saith unto him, I say not unto
thee, Until seven times: but, Until seventy
times seven.
45. DIVORCE RATE STABLE OR DECLINING IN 20
AFRICAN COUNTRIES
A rise in education, employment, and income
levels for women in sub-Saharan Africa has
prompted speculation that divorce rates would
also go up—as they have in much of the
developed world.
A new study, however, finds that divorce rates
across 20 African countries over the past 20
years have remained stable or declined.
46.
47. References
The information contained in these slides
are from the Seventh-day Adventist
Church Manual chapter 15
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