All relationships involve disagreements and indeed arguments from time to time. It is common for couples who have been married for a significant period of time to have what could be termed a “Groundhog Day” issue.

1. Arguments and Marriage - What is Your Groundhog Day Issue?
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All relationships involve disagreements and indeed arguments from time to time. It is
common for couples who have been married for a significant period of time to have
what could be termed a “Groundhog Day” issue.
You may remember the movie where Bill Murray woke up day after day after day and
lived the same day over and over again. That is the premise of this issue, where you
find yourself rehashing the same issue over and over again whenever you and your
spouse have an argument. This can be irritating and very frustrating for both of you.

2. If you are feeling like you are experiencing this symptom and are having issues in your
relationship because of it, you are probably right. Over time, if not addressed, this
pattern of “picking at the same scab” can indeed cause damage to your relationship
and your marriage. So today, let’s look at how you can resolve this and perhaps put
your “Groundhog Day” issue to bed once and for all.

3. 1) Identify Your Groundhog Day Issue
The first step in resolving this conflict is to identity what the issue is that keeps being
brought up again and again. For some, this is very easy and the issue is obvious. For
others, it may take a bit closer look. If you feel like you are not completely positive of
what keeps being brought into your arguments with your spouse, begin to make notes
and perhaps a list of the issues that we involved in your disagreement.
This practice accomplishes two things. First, it will help you to stay conscious of your
interactions with your spouse. And secondly, and more to the point, it will help you to
identify patterns and recurring themes that come up when you have an argument.
These patterns are what will show you what your core issues are.

4. 2) Bring Up The Issue
Once you feel like you have identified the recurring issue, bring it up to your spouse
and discuss it. Point out to them that this issue keeps being thrown out there and it is
something that you return to over and over during a conflict. Ask them if they have
noticed the same thing.
More often than not, your spouse will already know that this issue is indeed one that
is brought up time and time again. But particularly when it is documented, it can be a
surprise just how often it is.

5. 3) Talk Out The Issue
Once the two of you have agreed as to what the Groundhog Day issue truly is, ask
yourselves why it is you have not resolved it to this point. Maybe you simply need to
hear from your spouse that they hear you and respect your opinion, but they simply
disagree or have a different viewpoint on the matter. Often times it is simply an issue
that you or your spouse feel like they never received an apology for.
Whatever the issue is, it is best to drag it out into the open and discuss it with your
spouse when emotions are not high and you can examine them and discuss them in a
calm and rational manner.

6. This is just a quick overview to help you to understand the first steps to resolving your
Groundhog Day issue. However, to fully protect your marriage from damage during
conflict, I strongly recommend for you to download this FREE course from Dr. Frank
Gunzburg. Click here now for instant access.
Taylor Ranidae is passionate about love and relationships and writes
articles focusing on helping people save their relationships and marriages.
Her articles are a must read for anyone who is looking to either salvage or
further enhance their relationship.

7. This is just a quick overview to help you to understand the first steps to resolving your
Groundhog Day issue. However, to fully protect your marriage from damage during
conflict, I strongly recommend for you to download this FREE course from Dr. Frank
Gunzburg. Click here now for instant access.
Taylor Ranidae is passionate about love and relationships and writes
articles focusing on helping people save their relationships and marriages.
Her articles are a must read for anyone who is looking to either salvage or
further enhance their relationship.