2. Use Genuine EncounterUse Genuine Encounter
Moments (GEMS)Moments (GEMS)
Your child's self-esteem is greatlyYour child's self-esteem is greatly
influenced by the quality of time youinfluenced by the quality of time you
spend with him-not the amount of timespend with him-not the amount of time
that you spend.that you spend.
Negative attention in a child's mind isNegative attention in a child's mind is
better than being ignored.better than being ignored.
3. Use Action, Not WordsUse Action, Not Words
Statistics say that we give ourStatistics say that we give our
children over 2000 compliancechildren over 2000 compliance
requests a day!requests a day!
4. Give ChildrenGive Children
Appropriate Ways toAppropriate Ways to
Feel PowerfulFeel Powerful
Often we do the job for themOften we do the job for them
because we can do it with lessbecause we can do it with less
hassle, but the result is they feelhassle, but the result is they feel
unimportant.unimportant.
5. Use NaturalUse Natural
ConsequencesConsequences
If we interfere when we don'tIf we interfere when we don't
need to, we rob children of theneed to, we rob children of the
chance to learn from thechance to learn from the
consequences of their actions.consequences of their actions.
6. Use LogicalUse Logical
ConsequencesConsequences
Often the consequences are too far inOften the consequences are too far in
the future to practically use a naturalthe future to practically use a natural
consequence. When that is the case,consequence. When that is the case,
logical consequences are effective. Alogical consequences are effective. A
consequence for the child must beconsequence for the child must be
logically related to the behavior inlogically related to the behavior in
order for it to work.order for it to work.
7. Withdraw from ConflictWithdraw from Conflict
If your child is testing you through aIf your child is testing you through a
temper tantrum, or being angry ortemper tantrum, or being angry or
speaking disrespectfully to you, it isspeaking disrespectfully to you, it is
best if you leave the room or tell thebest if you leave the room or tell the
child you will be in the next room ifchild you will be in the next room if
he wants to "Try again."he wants to "Try again."
8. Separate the DeedSeparate the Deed
from the Doerfrom the Doer
Never tell a child that he is bad.Never tell a child that he is bad.
That tears at his self-esteem. HelpThat tears at his self-esteem. Help
your child recognize that it isn'tyour child recognize that it isn't
that you don't like him, but it isthat you don't like him, but it is
his behavior that you arehis behavior that you are
unwilling to tolerateunwilling to tolerate
9. Be Kind and Firm atBe Kind and Firm at
the Same Timethe Same Time
10. Parent with the End inParent with the End in
MindMind
if we spank our child, he will learnif we spank our child, he will learn
to use acts of aggression to getto use acts of aggression to get
what he wants when he grows up.what he wants when he grows up.
11. Be Consistent, FollowBe Consistent, Follow
ThroughThrough
Your child will learn to respectYour child will learn to respect
you more if you mean whatyou more if you mean what
you say.you say.
12. Thank youThank you
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