To understand the roots and causes of conflict To understand the potential of conflict for ill or for good To learn how to deal with conflicts through personal peacemaking To learn how to deal with conflicts through mediated peacemaking To follow God’s principles when conflicts cannot be resolved
The PEACE ProcessProblem behaviorEmotions involvedAssessment of motivesConfession and forgivenessEncouragement for the future
Mediated Peacemaking Matthew 18:15-2015“If your brother sins against you, go and show him his fault, just between the two of you. If helistens to you, you have won your brother over.”
Mediated Peacemaking Matthew 18:15-20 16 “But if he will not listen, take one or two others along, so thatevery matter may be established by the testimony of two or three witnesses.‘”
Mediated Peacemaking Matthew 18:15-2017“If he refuses to listen to them, tell it to the church; and if he refuses to listen even to thechurch, treat him as you would a pagan or a tax collector.”
Mediated Peacemaking Matthew 18:15-20 18“I tell you the truth, whateveryou bind on earth will be bound in heaven, and whatever you looseon earth will be loosed in heaven.”
Mediated Peacemaking Matthew 18:15-2019 “Again, I tell you that if two of you on earth agree about anything you ask for, it will be done for you by myFather in heaven. 20 For where two or three come together in my name, there am I with them.”
Key Principles• When conflicts arise, we must first apply personal peacemaking.• When personal peacemaking doesn’t work, we must involve other people (i.e. mediated peacemaking).• Mediated peacemaking can only work if it is done with utmost seriousness and authority.
Types of Mediation• By means of a Counselor• By means of an Arbiter• By means of a Judge
How to COUNSEL• Care for the counselee• Obtain a clear picture of the problem• Understand the level of need• Note the area of concern• Speak the truth in love• Encourage faith responses• Let go and let God
What kind of Mediator?• Must be acceptable to both conflicting parties (1 Tim 2:5).• Knows the PEACE process or some other model of reconciliation• Knows how to teach or communicate• Does not take sides or is fair (Phil 4:1-3).• Is mature and has self-control (2 Tim 2:23- 24)
When a Judge is Needed Exodus 18:21-22a 21 But select capable men from all the people — men who fear God, trustworthy men who hate dishonest gain — and appoint them as officials over thousands, hundreds, fifties and tens.
When a Judge is Needed Exodus 18:21-22a 22Have them serve as judges for the people at all times, but have them bring every difficult case to you; the simple cases they can decide themselves.
When a Judge is Needed 1 Corinthians 6:1-4 1 If any of you has a dispute with another, dare he take it before the ungodly for judgment instead of before the saints? 2 Do you not know that the saints will judge the world?
When a Judge is Needed 1 Corinthians 6:1-4 And if you are to judge the world, are you not competent to judge trivial cases? 3 Do you not know that we will judge angels? How much more the things of this life!
When a Judge is Needed 1 Corinthians 6:1-4 4 Therefore, if you have disputes about such matters, appoint as judges even men of little account in the church!
How to JUDGE• Judge with God’s authority• Understand the whole situation• Depend on God for wisdom• Guard your heart against biases• Enforce God’s word
Your Authority Matthew 18:15-20 18“I tell you the truth, whateveryou bind on earth will be bound in heaven, and whatever you looseon earth will be loosed in heaven.”
Your Authority Matthew 18:15-2019 “Again, I tell you that if two of you on earth agree about anything you ask for, it will be done for you by myFather in heaven. 20 For where two or three come together in my name, there am I with them.”
Mediated PeacemakingGroup Discussion:• Recall conflicts where mediated peacemaking would’ve been very helpful. What could’ve been the outcome?• How can this be applied in your personal/work/church context now?