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  • 1. The  other  moral  to  your  same  old  story
  • 2. 2
  • 3. Once  upon  a  time  there  was  a  pond  with  the  most  exceptional  7ish  one  could  think  of.  Everyone  agreed  that  it  was  a  vibrant  ecosystem  -­‐  a  textbook  example  for  other  7ish  communities.3
  • 4. The  man  who  took  care  of  the  pond  was  very  focused  on  it  and  wanted  it  to  be  the  greatest  pond  of  all  time.  So  did  the  7ish.In  fact,  thats  why  they  decided  to  get  together  a  long  time  ago.  The  man,  the  7ish  and  the  pond:  they  shared  the  same  goals  and  aspirations,  as  if  they  were  made  for  one  another.4
  • 5. As  time  went  by,  and  the  pond  grew  bigger  and  more  complex,  the  man  started  to  take  more  and  more  control.  At  7irst,  he  did  this  out  of  a  desire  to  keep  it  all  spic-­‐and-­‐span.  The  7ish  accepted  his  initiatives  and  they  swam  accordingly.    The  man  felt  that  the  7ish  had  become  complacent  and  lost  their  sense  of  initiative,  so  he  ended  up  not  trusting  a  single  7ish.5
  • 6. 6
  • 7. Instead  of  just  giving  them  food  and  providing  them  with  oxygen,  he  hooked  them  up  each  day.  That  way,  he  knew  exactly  what  they  were  doing  and  how  they  were  doing  it.  Each  day  he  weighed  each  7ish,  pushed  the  food  down  their  throat  and  told  them  exactly  what  they  should  do  before  he  let  them  into  the  water  again.7
  • 8. The  man  was  quite  proud  of  the  way  he  controlled  it  all.  Any  time  of    day  anyone  could  ask  how  the  pond  was  doing  and  he  would  explain  in  detail  with  colors,  graphics,  metrics  and  key  performance  indicators.  By  any  measurement,  this  was  the  greatest  pond  of  all  time!Nothing  could  stop  the  man  from  getting  exceptional  results:  he  had  a  plan,  he  had  a  system,  he  had  it  all  under  control.  8
  • 9. 9
  • 10. In  order  to  control  the  7ish  effectively  the  man  threw  out  nasty  bait:  a  talking  worm  who  told  the  7ish  how  complacent  and  lazy  they  had  become.  Every  day,  nasty  bait  told  them  how  bad  their  work  was,  how  the  quality  sucked,  how  they  were  behind  schedule  and  how  it  made  the  man  nervous  as  hell.  The  man  thought  this  kind  of  bait  would  keep  the  7ish  sharp.  And  it  did.  The  bait  was  simply  irresistible.10
  • 11. 11
  • 12. 12
  • 13. Below  the  water  surface,  Red  Fish,  Blue  Fish  and  Yellow  Fish  caught  every  nasty  worm.  They  were  smart  7ish,  strong  and  bright-­‐colored.  Each  time  the  bait  was  thrown  out  it  was  only  a  matter  of  seconds  before  they  would  catch  that  nasty  worm.  Red,  Blue  and  Yellow  were  the  best  of  the  breed.  They  were  talented.  They  had  passion.  They  were  born  for  this  pond.13
  • 14. Red  Fish  was  always  the  7irst  to  swallow  the  bait.  “That’s  not  true,”  he  said,  “I’m  going  to  show  him!”  He  knew  they  were  better  than  the  worm  was  saying,  and  he  went  out  each  day  to  prove  it.  But  the  rage  and  discontent  grew  with  each  catch.Blue  Fish  swallowed  the  bait  differently.  With  each  catch  his  self-­‐doubt  grew,  for  he  started  to  believe  the  accusations  that  the  worm  was  throwing  at  him.Yellow  Fish  was  smarter  than  either  of  them.  He  would  not  7ight  it  like  Red  Fish,  nor  feel  guilty  about  it  like  Blue  Fish.  His  approach  was  to  solve  the  man’s  problem.  So  he  swallowed  the  bait  each  time,  thinking  he  could  solve  the  man’s  problem.14
  • 15. These  smart  7ish  were  all  different  in  how  they  approached  nasty  bait  –  that  much  is  true.  But  there  was  one  thing  they  all  had  in  common:  they  always  swallowed  the  bait  impulsively  and  each  time  they  got  back  into  the  water  they  felt  sore.  They  didn’t  know  why;  they  were  bubbled…15
  • 16. And  then  one  day  a  duck  landed  on  the  pond.  He  said  he  had  seen  these  situations  in  other  ponds,  but  the  7ish  didn’t  pay  attention  to  the  duck;  it  was  just  a  duck  and  they  had  bait  to  catch.  What  does  a  duck  know  about  life  below  the  water  surface,  anyway?  The  7ish  were  too  busy  swallowing  the  bait  that  was  thrown  at  them.  Days  went  by  and  from  the  surface  the  duck  could  see  the  daily  ritual  the  7ish  went  through.16
  • 17. These  smart  7ish  suffered,  but  they  were  too  proud  to  admit  it.  After  all,  they  were  the  best  of  the  breed.  They  had  never  learned  to  ask  for  help.Then  came  the  day  the  hooks  left  the  7ish  aching  so  hard  that  they  needed  some  time  to  recover,  so  they  7igured  they  might  as  well  listen  to  the  duck.  “OK  duck,  let’s  hear  it,”  Red  Fish  said.  “Things  are  not  okay  down  here,  so  tell  us  what  you  think  is  going  on,”  Blue  Fish  said.17
  • 18. “It’s  fairly  simple”,  answered  the  duck,  “from  up  here  it  is  obvious  how  you  are  exaggerating  on  the  R-­‐side”.  “The  R-­‐side?  What  the  hell  is  that?!”  Yellow  Fish  replied.The  duck  patiently  continued,  “You  see,  there  is  a  pattern  in  your  daily  suffering.  It  all  boils  down  to  four  Rs.Red  Fish  is  driven  by  Revenge.  That  is  the  7irst  R  –  and  he  is  left  with  resentment.Blue  Fish  is  driven  by  Regret.  That  is  the  second  R,  which  leaves  him  feeling  guilty.And  you,  Yellow  Fish,  you  get  hooked  because  you  try  to  Rescue  the  man,  and  in  the  end  you  are  insecure  because  it  didn’t  work  out  as  planned.  There  is  just  one  thing  you  should  know  about  these  R’s:  they  will  always  get  you  hooked”18
  • 19. 19
  • 20. “But  that’s  our  nature  –  don’t  you  understand?”  Red  Fish  said.  “This  pond  is  our  destiny-­‐  there  is  nothing  we  can  do  about  it,”  Blue  Fish  said.  Yellow  Fish  concluded,  “The  only  way  out  is  to  change  the  bait”.  20
  • 21. “Hang  on  -­‐  there  is  another  way  out,”  the  duck  said,  “but  it  will  require  you  to  use  a  different  R  than  you  are  doing  today.I’m  not  asking  you  to  change  your  nature,  Red  Fish,  but  you  need  to  become  aware  of  it.I’m  not  telling  you  to  change  for  a  better  pond,  Blue  Fish,  but  you  can  think  of  yourself  as  the  pond  instead  of  the  7ish.And  7inally,  Yellow  Fish,  you  cannot  change  the  bait  that  is  thrown  at  you  –  you  just  need  to  know  that  you  can  choose  not  to  swallow  it.The  last  R  I  am  talking  about  is  called  Responsibility.”  21
  • 22. The  7ish  were  bubbled.  They  couldnt  make  sense  of  what  the  duck  was  saying."Become  aware  of  my  resentful  nature?”  Red  Fish  thought.  "That  duck  is  crazier  than  I  7igured."Blue  Fish  wondered,  "Think  of  myself  as  the  pond  instead  of  a  7ish?  I  dont  have  a  clue  what  he  is  talking  about.  Besides,  I  think  Mr.  Duck  forgot  who  the  victim  is  here:  I  am  the  one  in  need.  And  since  Im  not  the  one  to  blame,  why  should  I  change?"As  always,  Yellow  Fish  was  the  one  who  thought  of  a  solution.  "I  think  the  duck  misunderstood  the  real  problem  at  hand  here.  Maybe  we  should  help  him  understand  our  situation  a  bit  more  so  he  can  adapt  his  advice."  22
  • 23. It  was  clear  to  the  7ish  they  had  just  been  wasting  their  time.  That  mumbo-­‐jumbo  about  the  Rs  may  be  true  for  other  7ish,  but  it  certainly  didnt  apply  to  them.  They  were  different.  Their  pond  was  different.  And  the  duck,  they  agreed,  was  just  a  crazy  duck.  As  for  them,  they  were  talented  7ish  and  they  knew  what  they  had  to  do:  they  just  had  to  try  harder.23
  • 24. Days  went  by  and  the  7ish  swallowed  more  bait  than  they  ever  had  before,  convinced  that  they  could  turn  the  tide.  But  things  didnt  change  for  the  better.  Trying  harder  didnt  seem  to  work.  In  fact,  the  7ish  began  to  resemble  their  lesser  selves.  Of  course,  everyone  noticed  this  and  silently  gave  them  nicknames  to  re7lect  the  way  they  were  acting.  Red  Fish  became  known  as  raging  red;  Blue  Fish  as  whiner  7ish  and  Yellow  Fish  as  chicken  7ish.24
  • 25. After  a  while,  trying  harder  felt  like  swimming  circles  in  a  7ishbowl.  "We  are  swimming  the  same  laps  over  and  over  and  yet  we  expect  to  arrive  in  another  place,"  Red  Fish  said.  Blue  Fish  agreed,  "This  is  hopeless."  "This  is  insane",  Yellow  Fish  continued,  "We  might  as  well  do  whatever  that  crazy  duck  told  us  to  do".  25
  • 26. So  they  returned  to  the  duck.  The  duck  explained  that  they  would  continue  suffering  as  long  as  they  tried  to  change  the  man  or  his  behavior.  "The  one  thing  you  should  know  is  that  you  cant  control  the  7isherman,  nor  the  bait.  You  can  only  control  your  own  behavior.  Remember  that  last  R  I  talked  about?  Responsibility  is  nothing  else  than  redirecting  your  attention  to  what  you  CAN  control:  what  you  do  and  the  way  you  look  at  things.  Just  try  it  –  you  have  nothing  to  lose!  When  you  approach  the  bait  with  Responsibility,  you  become  aware  that  you  are  able  to  stop  and  capture  the  useful  information  without  getting  hooked.”26
  • 27. 27
  • 28. Because  the  7ish  had  no  other  alternative  they  decided  to  try  this  crazy  idea.  Days  went  by  before  they  could  turn  off  the  automatic  pilot  that  hooked  them.  Eventually,  they  did  it  and  they  reported  back  to  the  duck:“We  managed  not  to  get  hooked  for  a  few  days  now,”  Red  Fish  said.  “And  what  were  your  7indings?”  the  duck  replied.  “Well,  it’s  hard,”  Blue  Fish  said,  “because  it  needs  all  of  our  attention.  But  now  at  least  the  pain  is  less  and  we  can  get  back  to  doing  what  we  were  here  for  in  the  7irst  place.”  Yellow  Fish  thoughtfully  added,  “This  is  almost  as  dif7icult  as  swimming  upstream.  Some  days  we  get  hooked  before  we  even  realize  it.  It  demands  our  constant  attention.”28
  • 29. “Indeed,”  said  the  duck,  “approaching  nasty  bait  with  Responsibility  is  as  hard  as  swimming  upstream.  Responsibility  means  that  you  can  choose  how  you  respond  to  a  situation.  And  it’s  not  easy,  because  it  demands  your  full  presence  and  attention.  Just  remember  that  it’s  the  swimming  upstream  that  makes  you  stronger!”29
  • 30. 30
  • 31. The  man  never  changed.  Neither  did  the  bait.  But  the  7ish  grew  stronger  each  time  they  realized  that  there  is  always  a  choice  in  how  they  respond  to  a  situation.31
  • 32. This  fable  tells  the  story  of  three  7ish  who  learn  that  we  always  have  a  choice  in  how  we  respond  to  a  situation.  Mostly  it  takes  an  outsider  -­‐  a  duck  -­‐  to  unhook  us  from  a  certain  behavior.The  Pond  offers  simple  and  direct  language  to  talk  about  being  stuck.  It’s  a  conversation  (re-­‐)starter  for  friends,  families  and  teams.I  would  like  to  thank  Jessica  Adams  for  the  editing  and  Michaël  Huyghe  for  the  artistic  inspiration.Luc  GaloppinJune  2013

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