2. Me, my wife and Agape
MK West Africa Willeke CC The
Netherlands
3. Who knows how often the word
“god/God” is typed in Google
everyday worldwide?
• 2,000 times
• 20,000 times
• 200,000 time
• 2,000,000 times
• 20,000,000 times
4. Who knows how often the word
“god/God” is typed in Google
everyday worldwide?
• 2,000 times
• 20,000 times
• 200,000 time
• 2,000,000 times
• 20,000,000 times
7. Seekers in the 21st century
• “What is life all about?
• No Christian family or friends
8. Seekers in the 21st century
• “What is life all about?
• No Christian family or friends
• 25% of searches on Google has to do
something with the supernatural
9. Seekers in the 21st century
• “What is life all about?
• No Christian family or friends
• 25% of searches on Google has to do
something with the supernatural
• People want to make their own
choices, want to determine their
own path in life
10. Seekers on the net
(WJ?-participants)
Barbara (Australian lady): I
Sanne (Dutch teenager): For don’t believe but I’m
some time now, I’ve been looking for God.
thinking about ‘believing’. I Enric (Romanian
feel attracted to God. I want man)After all that I’ve
to believe but I don’t know gone through in life,
where to start... I’ve lost my faith in
god. But last Sunday
at a Christian event, I
Klaudia (Polish lady) I found it agian. Now
have a feeling there is I’m sitting here with a
something missing in lot of questions about
my life. There has got to god and jesus.
be more than a good
career and money....
11. Our mission/calling
• We need to be..
– available on the net
– help seekers nd answers
– offer them a safe place
– bring them into contact
with Christians (online/
offline)
– partner with churches and
other Christian organisations
13. KnowingGod
• Originally a French evangelism
website
14. KnowingGod
• Originally a French evangelism
website
– The Father’s loveletter
15. KnowingGod
• Originally a French evangelism
website
– The Father’s loveletter
– Interview with God
16. KnowingGod
• Originally a French evangelism
website
– The Father’s loveletter
– Interview with God
– Who is Jesus? (short)
17. KnowingGod
• Originally a French evangelism
website
– The Father’s loveletter
– Interview with God
– Who is Jesus? (short)
– Testimonies
18. KnowingGod
• Originally a French evangelism
website
– The Father’s loveletter
– Interview with God
– Who is Jesus? (short)
– Testimonies
• Sinner’s Prayer
19. KnowingGod
• Originally a French evangelism
website
– The Father’s loveletter
– Interview with God
– Who is Jesus? (short)
– Testimonies
• Sinner’s Prayer
• Nearly 2,5 million people indicated
praying to Jesus
20. KnowingGod
• Originally a French evangelism
website
– The Father’s loveletter
– Interview with God
– Who is Jesus? (short)
– Testimonies
• Sinner’s Prayer
• Nearly 2,5 million people indicated
praying to Jesus
• Next step: WhyJesus?
23. WhyJesus?-course
• Interactive, anonymous online 5-
week course
• It’s all about Jesus!
24. WhyJesus?-course
• Interactive, anonymous online 5-
week course
• It’s all about Jesus!
• Personal e-coach
25. WhyJesus?-course
• Interactive, anonymous online 5-
week course
• It’s all about Jesus!
• Personal e-coach
• Preparation for ‘next step’
26. WhyJesus?-course
• Interactive, anonymous online 5-
week course
• It’s all about Jesus!
• Personal e-coach
• Preparation for ‘next step’
• Worldwide: 12 languages, local
and international partners
27. WhyJesus?-course
• Interactive, anonymous online 5-
week course
• It’s all about Jesus!
• Personal e-coach
• Preparation for ‘next step’
• Worldwide: 12 languages, local
and international partners
• 6,500 participants (650 e-
coaches) a year
28. WhyJesus?-course
• Interactive, anonymous online 5-
week course
• It’s all about Jesus!
• Personal e-coach
• Preparation for ‘next step’
• Worldwide: 12 languages, local
and international partners
• 6,500 participants (650 e-
coaches) a year
• Question Driven Coaching-
method
29. Plans for 2011-2012
• New languages in progress
– Japanese version - launch Sept 2011
– Russian version - launch September 2011
– China - exploratory talks with potential partners
31. Purpose of the training
• Train you in how to coach online seekers
32. Purpose of the training
• Train you in how to coach online seekers
• Show you real-life examples
33. Purpose of the training
• Train you in how to coach online seekers
• Show you real-life examples
• Practice what we learn
34. Purpose of the training
• Train you in how to coach online seekers
• Show you real-life examples
• Practice what we learn
• Answer your questions and discuss ideas
35. Purpose of the training
• Train you in how to coach online seekers
• Show you real-life examples
• Practice what we learn
• Answer your questions and discuss ideas
• Hear what God is doing in your life
36. Purpose of the training
• Train you in how to coach online seekers
• Show you real-life examples
• Practice what we learn
• Answer your questions and discuss ideas
• Hear what God is doing in your life
• Pray with and for each other
37. Topics to cover
The seeker’s world: Crossing the QDC: The art of
“It’s my choice!” ‘spiritual river’ connecting
38. Topics to cover
The seeker’s world: Crossing the QDC: The art of
“It’s my choice!” ‘spiritual river’ connecting
41. “It’s my choice!”
MyLife
It's my life
It's now or never
I ain't gonna live
forever
I just want to live while
I'm alive
- Bon Jovi
42. “It’s my choice!”
MyLife
It's my life
“The greatest gift
It's now or never
you have been
I ain't gonna live given is the
forever
freedom to make
I just want to live while choices”
I'm alive - Dennis A. Curyer
- Bon Jovi
43. “It’s my choice!”
MyMedia & MyFriends
• Media
– iGoogle
– Ipod(video)
– YouTube
– iPhone
44. “It’s my choice!”
MyMedia & MyFriends
• Media
– iGoogle
– Ipod(video)
– YouTube
– iPhone
• Social networks
– Facebook
– LinkedIn: 55M+ members worldwide
45. “It’s my choice!”
MyMedia & MyFriends
• Media
– iGoogle
– Wh
Ipod(video)
– YouTubeate
ve
r, w
– iPhone
• Social networks he
– Facebook n ev
er,
wh
– LinkedIn: 55M+ members worldwide
ere
ve
r
48. “It’s my choice!”
MyReligion
Religious supermarket Indian taxi-driver
49. “It’s my choice!”
Alice, the seeker
“I don’t know exactly what ‘faith’
is expecting from me. The things
I read, I hear and that happen…
I really like the ideas Jesus stands
for. But not everything, and I
find it hard to go to a church
because I think the people over
there take everything literally.”
50. “It’s my choice!”
Lessons learned (past 10 years)
• Seekers are looking
for...
– A place where they are
allowed to ask all
questions and nd
answers
– A place where they can say
anything they think
– A place which offers
choices and ‘next steps’
51. The traditional approach
Jesus Christ: Start with Do’s and don’ts
- Your Only Hope - what’s wrong
52. Let’s see how we try...
“At the airport”-video 1 & 2
56. Crossing the river: How?
People in a
relationship
Non- with God,
believer in living in
“the land “the land
without with God”
God”
57. Crossing the river: How?
Traditional
approach:
We build a bridge
People in a
relationship
Non- with God,
believer in living in
“the land “the land
without with God”
God”
58. Crossing the river: How?
And we yell from the
Traditional
other side: “Cross the
approach:
bridge!”
We build a bridge
People in a
relationship
Non- with God,
believer in living in
“the land “the land
without with God”
God”
59. 21st century approach
People in a
relationship
with God,
Non- living in
believer in “the land
“the land with God”
without
God”
60. 21st century approach
1. We lay stones
in the river
People in a
relationship
with God,
Non- living in
believer in “the land
“the land with God”
without
God”
61. 21st century approach
1. We lay stones
in the river
2. We must go to the
other side ourselves
and stimulate people
to put their foot on a
stone.
People in a
relationship
with God,
Non- living in
believer in “the land
“the land with God”
without
God”
62. 21st century approach
1. We lay stones
in the river
2. We must go to the
other side ourselves
and stimulate people
to put their foot on a
stone.
People in a
relationship
with God,
Non- living in
believer in “the land
“the land with God”
without
God”
63. 21st century approach
1. We lay stones
in the river
2. We must go to the
other side ourselves
and stimulate people
to put their foot on a
stone.
People in a
relationship
with God,
Non- living in
believer in “the land
“the land with God”
without
God”
64. 21st century approach
1. We lay stones
in the river
2. We must go to the
other side ourselves
and stimulate people
to put their foot on a
stone.
People in a
relationship
with God,
Non- living in
believer in “the land
“the land with God”
without
God”
65. 21st century approach
1. We lay stones
in the river
2. We must go to the
other side ourselves
and stimulate people
to put their foot on a
stone.
People in a
relationship
with God,
Non- living in
believer in “the land
“the land with God”
without
God”
66. 21st century approach
1. We lay stones
in the river
2. We must go to the
other side ourselves
and stimulate people
to put their foot on a
stone.
People in a
relationship
with God,
Non- living in
believer in “the land
“the land with God”
without
God”
67. 21st century approach
1. We lay stones
in the river
2. We must go to the
other side ourselves
and stimulate people
to put their foot on a
stone.
People in a
relationship
with God,
Non- living in
believer in “the land
“the land with God”
without
God”
68. 21st century approach
1. We lay stones
in the river
2. We must go to the
other side ourselves
and stimulate people
to put their foot on a
stone.
People in a
relationship
with God,
Non- living in
believer in “the land
“the land with God”
without
God”
69. 21st century approach
1. We lay stones
in the river
2. We must go to the
other side ourselves
and stimulate people
to put their foot on a
stone.
People in a
relationship
with God,
Non- living in
believer in “the land
“the land with God”
without
God”
70. 21st century approach
1. We lay stones
in the river
2. We must go to the
other side ourselves
and stimulate people
to put their foot on a
stone.
People in a
relationship
with God,
Non- living in
believer in “the land
“the land with God”
without
God”
71. 21st century approach
1. We lay stones
in the river
2. We must go to the
other side ourselves
and stimulate people
to put their foot on a
stone.
People in a
relationship
with God,
Non- living in
believer in “the land
“the land with God”
without
God”
72. 21st century approach
1. We lay stones
in the river
2. We must go to the
other side ourselves
and stimulate people
to put their foot on a
stone.
People in a
relationship
with God,
Non- living in
believer in “the land
“the land with God”
without
God”
73. 21st century approach
1. We lay stones
in the river
2. We must go to the
other side ourselves
and stimulate people
to put their foot on a
stone.
People in a
relationship
with God,
Non- living in
believer in “the land
“the land with God”
without
God”
74. 21st century approach
1. We lay stones
in the river
2. We must go to the
other side ourselves
and stimulate people
to put their foot on a
stone.
! People in a
relationship
with God,
Non- living in
believer in “the land
“the land with God”
without
God”
78. De nition of an e-coach
Someone who listens to people, who
comes alongside them to help them
find answers to their questions, who
helps them take (their first) steps in
getting to know Jesus Christ and
prays for them
79. De nition of an e-coach
Someone who listens to people, who
comes alongside them to help them
find answers to their questions, who
helps them take (their first) steps in
getting to know Jesus Christ and
prays for them
80. De nition of an e-coach
Someone who listens to people, who
comes alongside them to help them
find answers to their questions, who
helps them take (their first) steps in
getting to know Jesus Christ and
prays for them
81. De nition of an e-coach
Someone who listens to people, who
comes alongside them to help them
find answers to their questions, who
helps them take (their first) steps in
getting to know Jesus Christ and
prays for them
82. De nition of an e-coach
Someone who listens to people, who
comes alongside them to help them
find answers to their questions, who
helps them take (their first) steps in
getting to know Jesus Christ and
prays for them
83. De nition of an e-coach
Someone who listens to people, who
comes alongside them to help them
find answers to their questions, who
helps them take (their first) steps in
getting to know Jesus Christ and
prays for them
84. Pro le of an e-coach
• Has a solid and active spiritual walk with Jesus
• Is an active member of a local church/congregation
• Open to learning
• Knowledge and experience with faith and the Bible
• Can handle/deal with difficult questions and criticism of the
Bible
• Knows his/her own limitations with regard to questions for help
• You don’t know everything!
• Is aware of the times we live in, culturally-in-touch
• Has a group of prayer-partners supporting him/her
85. Your role as an e-coach
in prayer
• Pray for those that visit the website, that it will have
impact on their lives
• Pray that they will make a choice to follow Jesus
(1 Tim. 2:1-6, John 16:8-11)
• Pray that they will respond to your emails
• Pray for Gods wisdom and discernment through His
spirit in responding to emails
• Get prayer-partners to support you
• Encourage your contact to pray
86. Your role as an e-coach
in contact
• Be faithful in answering
– New contacts within 24 hours
– Respond to responses within 72 hours
• Be an encouragement to participants
• Answer every question so that you help them (re)discover
who God is
– Ask questions
– Challenging
– Loving
– To-the-point
• Realize you are an ambassador of Jesus Christ
87. Your role as an e-coach
in contact
• Treat the communication con dentially
• Be careful about sharing personal information
(e-mail, tel-numbers, facebook, address, etc.)
• We’re available to help you (as a back-up) for
difficult questions
• Don’t look at websites which con ict with your
faith
• Limit your time online
93. Question Driven Coaching
the art of connecting
1. Stop “preaching” at people ‘the gospel’
- ‘preaching’
94. Question Driven Coaching
the art of connecting
1. Stop “preaching” at people ‘the gospel’
- ‘preaching’
* Long monologues and words
95. Question Driven Coaching
the art of connecting
1. Stop “preaching” at people ‘the gospel’
- ‘preaching’
* Long monologues and words
* One-way traffic
96. Question Driven Coaching
the art of connecting
1. Stop “preaching” at people ‘the gospel’
- ‘preaching’
* Long monologues and words
* One-way traffic
* Not effective in today’s interactive world
97. Question Driven Coaching
the art of connecting
1. Stop “preaching” at people ‘the gospel’
- ‘preaching’
* Long monologues and words
* One-way traffic
* Not effective in today’s interactive world
- ‘the gospel’:
98. Question Driven Coaching
the art of connecting
1. Stop “preaching” at people ‘the gospel’
- ‘preaching’
* Long monologues and words
* One-way traffic
* Not effective in today’s interactive world
- ‘the gospel’:
* Word never used nowadays outside church
99. Question Driven Coaching
the art of connecting
1. Stop “preaching” at people ‘the gospel’
- ‘preaching’
* Long monologues and words
* One-way traffic
* Not effective in today’s interactive world
- ‘the gospel’:
* Word never used nowadays outside church
* Biblical times: Good news (of new emperor)
100. Question Driven Coaching
the art of connecting
1. Stop “preaching” at people ‘the gospel’
- ‘preaching’
* Long monologues and words
* One-way traffic
* Not effective in today’s interactive world
- ‘the gospel’:
* Word never used nowadays outside church
* Biblical times: Good news (of new emperor)
* Apostles used it to connect
104. Question Driven Coaching
the art of connecting
1. Stop “preaching” at people ‘the gospel’
2. Ask questions
* Get to know him
* Find out where he is spiritually
* Find out where there are potential obstacles
105. Question Driven Coaching
the art of connecting
1. Stop “preaching” at people ‘the gospel’
2. Ask questions
3. Translate the message into Johnny X’s language
* Forget about your own ideas
* Use words of his world
* No Christian jargon
106. Question Driven Coaching
the art of connecting
1. Stop “preaching” at people ‘the gospel’
2. Ask questions
3. Translate the message into Johnny X’s language
* Forget about your own ideas
* Use words of his world
* No Christian jargon NEW
WORDS
107. Question Driven Coaching
the art of connecting
1. Stop “preaching” at people ‘the gospel’
2. Ask questions
3. Translate the message into Johnny X’s language
* Forget about your own ideas
* Use words of his world
* No Christian jargon
108. Question Driven Coaching
the art of connecting
1. Stop “preaching” at people ‘the gospel’
2. Ask questions
3. Translate the message into Johnny X’s language
4. Make a tailormade connection
* Connect to his world
* Connect to his questions
* Connect to his life
109. Question Driven Coaching
the art of connecting
1. Stop “preaching” at people ‘the gospel’
2. Ask questions
3. Translate the message into Johnny X’s language
4. Make a tailormade connection
* Connect to his world
* Connect to his questions
* Connect to his life
110. Question Driven Coaching
the art of connecting
1. Stop “preaching” at people ‘the gospel’
2. Ask questions
3. Translate the message into Johnny X’s language
4. Make a tailormade connection
5. Help JohnnyX discover it himself
–Give him freedom to maneuvre, wander off
–Encourage him to try something new
–Encourage him to take a next step
111. Question Driven Coaching
the art of connecting
1. Stop “preaching” at people ‘the gospel’
2. Ask questions
3. Translate the message into Johnny X’s language
4. Make a tailormade connection
5. Help JohnnyX discover it himself
6. Offer a choice
* Don’t force him where to go next
* Give him options
112. Question Driven Coaching
the art of connecting
1. Stop “preaching” at people ‘the gospel’
2. Ask questions
3. Translate the message into Johnny X’s language
4. Make a tailormade connection
5. Help JohnnyX discover it himself
6. Offer a choice
* Don’t force him where to go next
* Give him options
119. Asking questions: the underestimated tool
1. Preaching at people
* I talk, other listens
1
You JohnnyX
120. Asking questions: the underestimated tool
1. Preaching at people
* I talk, other listens
* No interest in the other person’s questions
1
You JohnnyX
121. Asking questions: the underestimated tool
1. Preaching at people
* I talk, other listens
* No interest in the other person’s questions
* Dumping my story
1
You JohnnyX
122. Asking questions: the underestimated tool
1. Preaching at people
* I talk, other listens
* No interest in the other person’s questions
* Dumping my story
* Avalanche of bible-texts
1
You JohnnyX
124. Asking questions: the underestimated tool
1. Preaching at people
2. Listening
1
You JohnnyX
125. Asking questions: the underestimated tool
1. Preaching at people
2. Listening
1
You JohnnyX
2
126. Asking questions: the underestimated tool
1. Preaching at people
2. Listening
* I listen, other person talks
1
You JohnnyX
2
127. Asking questions: the underestimated tool
1. Preaching at people
2. Listening
* I listen, other person talks
* No way to steer conversation
1
You JohnnyX
2
128. Asking questions: the underestimated tool
1. Preaching at people
2. Listening
1
You JohnnyX
2
129. Asking questions: the underestimated tool
1. Preaching at people
2. Listening
3. Asking questions
1
You JohnnyX
2
130. Asking questions: the underestimated tool
1. Preaching at people
2. Listening
3. Asking questions
* I talk and listen at the same time
1
You JohnnyX
2
131. Asking questions: the underestimated tool
1. Preaching at people
2. Listening
3. Asking questions
* I talk and listen at the same time
* More interest in what the other person is saying
1
You JohnnyX
2
132. Asking questions: the underestimated tool
1. Preaching at people
2. Listening
3. Asking questions
* I talk and listen at the same time
* More interest in what the other person is saying
* Way to steer conversation
1
You JohnnyX
2
133. Asking questions: the underestimated tool
1. Preaching at people
2. Listening
3. Asking questions
* I talk and listen at the same time
* More interest in what the other person is saying
* Way to steer conversation
1
3
You JohnnyX
2
135. Write a welcome message
• Welcome the person to the course
• Shortly introduce yourself
• Ask a question
• Respond to the welcome message
• Give it back
• Respond to the response
• Give it back
• Evaluate: how did the welcome message come across? How did
the response come across? What can learn from this?
136. The art of connecting
1. Stop “preaching” at people ‘the gospel’
2. Ask questions
3. Translate the message into Johnny X’s language
4. Make a tailormade connection
5. Help JohnnyX discover it himself
6. Offer a choice
* Don’t force him where to go next
* Give him options
138. From sign-up to completion
• Participants sign up for the course
• Match between the participant and the e-coach is made by
the coordinator
• Website sends automatic e-mails to the participant and the
e-coach
• Participant answers the questions of each theme before
moving on to the next theme
• E-coach responds in the Dialogue-module
• Interaction takes place through the Dialogue, message-
board and chat
• At the end of the course, participants are invited to a next
step
140. Question Driven Coaching
Steps to take
1. Get to know someone
2. Look for common ground
3. Identify the obstacles
4. Remove the obstacles
- Ask questions
- Make comparisons
* Using the Bible
* Role of prayer and the Holy Spirit
142. Question Driven Coaching
Get to know someone - general info
• General social info: age, family, study/work, kids, relationships
• Religion: muslim, atheist, agnostic, Christian....
• Christian: nominal, liberal, searching, wandering, active, not, ...
• God: self, none, impersonal, all gods the same, 1 God
• Jesus: did not exist, human, teacher, a prophet, Son of God, =God
• Cross: not cruci ed, chose to do it, not dead, dead, + resurrected
• Mission: vague, to bring people to God, die for mankind, die for sins, for me/my sins,
out of love
143. Question Driven Coaching
Get to know someone - spiritual position
2? 3?
1?
Mission
Cross
Jesus
God
Church
Christian
Religion
General
152. Question Driven Coaching
Look for common ground: agree
* Agree when the other one is right
* Don’t object directly against someone’s
statements (especially at the beginning)
* Try to step into someone else’s shoes
* Don’t emphasize the differences but the
similarities
154. Question Driven Coaching
Alice
“I don’t know exactly what ‘the faith' is expecting from me. The
things I read, I hear and that happen… I really like the ideas
Jesus stands for. But not everything, and I nd it hard to go to a
church because I think the people over there do take everything
literally.”
155. Question Driven Coaching
Alice
“I don’t know exactly what ‘the faith' is expecting from me. The
things I read, I hear and that happen… I really like the ideas
Jesus stands for. But not everything, and I nd it hard to go to a
church because I think the people over there do take everything
literally.”
What is Alice talking about?
What are possible connection points?
156. Question Driven Coaching
Alice
“I don’t know exactly what ‘the faith' is expecting from me. The
things I read, I hear and that happen… I really like the ideas
Jesus stands for. But not everything, and I nd it hard to go to a
church because I think the people over there do take everything
literally.”
157. Question Driven Coaching
Alice
“I don’t know exactly what ‘the faith' is expecting from me. The
things I read, I hear and that happen… I really like the ideas
Jesus stands for. But not everything, and I nd it hard to go to a
church because I think the people over there do take everything
literally.”
158. Question Driven Coaching
Alice
“I don’t know exactly what ‘the faith' is expecting from me. The
things I read, I hear and that happen… I really like the ideas
Jesus stands for. But not everything, and I nd it hard to go to a
church because I think the people over there do take everything
literally.”
159. Question Driven Coaching
Alice
“I don’t know exactly what ‘the faith' is expecting from me. The
things I read, I hear and that happen… I really like the ideas
Jesus stands for. But not everything, and I nd it hard to go to a
church because I think the people over there do take everything
literally.”
160. Question Driven Coaching
Alice
“I don’t know exactly what ‘the faith' is expecting from me. The
things I read, I hear and that happen… I really like the ideas
Jesus stands for. But not everything, and I nd it hard to go to a
church because I think the people over there do take everything
literally.”
161. Question Driven Coaching
Alice
“I don’t know exactly what ‘the faith' is expecting from me. The
things I read, I hear and that happen… I really like the ideas
Jesus stands for. But not everything, and I nd it hard to go to a
church because I think the people over there do take everything
literally.”
162. Question Driven Coaching
nding a connection point
• It has something to do with faith
• It’s something positive
• You both agree wholeheartedly
• It’s common ground
• It can serve as a good start for further conversation
• And possibly lead into the direction of Jesus
163. Question Driven Coaching
nding a connection point
• It has something to do with faith
• It’s something positive
• You both agree wholeheartedly
• It’s common ground
• It can serve as a good start for further conversation
• And possibly lead into the direction of Jesus
Let’s see how e-coach Peter proceeded...
166. Question Driven Coaching
A talk with Alice
Peter: Who was Jesus according to you?
Alice: A man with a mission… somebody that was sent by
god to get mankind on the right track again.
167. Question Driven Coaching
A talk with Alice
Peter: Who was Jesus according to you?
Alice: A man with a mission… somebody that was sent by
god to get mankind on the right track again.
Peter: Was he the Son of God? Was he God himself?
168. Question Driven Coaching
A talk with Alice
Peter: Who was Jesus according to you?
Alice: A man with a mission… somebody that was sent by
god to get mankind on the right track again.
Peter: Was he the Son of God? Was he God himself?
Alice: I don’t know…
I have to say that it is difficult for me to say God, I’d rather
say god, because I think it is an ‘all’, not one god which is
better than the others, allah, jahweh, shiva, vishnoe, the god
and goddess of the witches...
170. Question Driven Coaching
A talk with Alice
Peter: What was Jesus doing here then? What was his
mission?
171. Question Driven Coaching
A talk with Alice
Peter: What was Jesus doing here then? What was his
mission?
Alice: The people messed up… the Roman empire didn’t do
too well after all! There are rules given to interact with each
other in this world and Jesus came to make this clear.
172. Question Driven Coaching
A talk with Alice
Peter: What was Jesus doing here then? What was his
mission?
Alice: The people messed up… the Roman empire didn’t do
too well after all! There are rules given to interact with each
other in this world and Jesus came to make this clear.
Peter: And that was it?
173. Question Driven Coaching
A talk with Alice
Peter: What was Jesus doing here then? What was his
mission?
Alice: The people messed up… the Roman empire didn’t do
too well after all! There are rules given to interact with each
other in this world and Jesus came to make this clear.
Peter: And that was it?
Alice: That was it... Isn’t that enough? He was a messenger
from god, he made the people believe in god again and
wanted them to live by his rules.
175. Question Driven Coaching
A talk with Alice
Peter: So Jesus ‘saved’ me that I can live for 80 years on this
earth, and then it’s all over?
176. Question Driven Coaching
A talk with Alice
Peter: So Jesus ‘saved’ me that I can live for 80 years on this
earth, and then it’s all over?
Alice: Are you asking me for my thoughts about life after
death?
177. Question Driven Coaching
A talk with Alice
Peter: So Jesus ‘saved’ me that I can live for 80 years on this
earth, and then it’s all over?
Alice: Are you asking me for my thoughts about life after
death?
Peter: Well, I want to know whether you think what Jesus
did was only of signi cance for how we live on earth today?
178. Question Driven Coaching
A talk with Alice
Peter: So Jesus ‘saved’ me that I can live for 80 years on this
earth, and then it’s all over?
Alice: Are you asking me for my thoughts about life after
death?
Peter: Well, I want to know whether you think what Jesus
did was only of signi cance for how we live on earth today?
Alice: uhm, I indeed think so, Peter. I don’t believe in a
heaven, with angels on clouds and harps etcetera, and
neither in a hell with re and ames
179. Question Driven Coaching
A talk with Alice
Peter: So Jesus ‘saved’ me that I can live for 80 years on this
earth, and then it’s all over?
Alice: Are you asking me for my thoughts about life after
death?
Peter: Well, I want to know whether you think what Jesus
did was only of signi cance for how we live on earth today?
Alice: uhm, I indeed think so, Peter. I don’t believe in a
heaven, with angels on clouds and harps etcetera, and
neither in a hell with re and ames
…
182. Question Driven Coaching
A talk with Alice
Peter: Who is God and how do you know?
Alice: god is it all... God has always been there en will always
be.
183. Question Driven Coaching
A talk with Alice
Peter: Who is God and how do you know?
Alice: god is it all... God has always been there en will always
be.
Peter: How do you know?
184. Question Driven Coaching
A talk with Alice
Peter: Who is God and how do you know?
Alice: god is it all... God has always been there en will always
be.
Peter: How do you know?
Alice: god is the love in the eyes of my husband, the smile on
the face of my kids, the owers in the bank along the highway.
185. Question Driven Coaching
A talk with Alice
Peter: Who is God and how do you know?
Alice: god is it all... God has always been there en will always
be.
Peter: How do you know?
Alice: god is the love in the eyes of my husband, the smile on
the face of my kids, the owers in the bank along the highway.
Peter: Ok, this it what you believe, but a lot of people won’t
agree. How do you know this is God? Or do you just give it this
name?
188. Question Driven Coaching
A talk with Alice
Alice: I just give it this name.
Peter: Ah! Then the question remains: how do you know who
God is and whether he is there or not?
189. Question Driven Coaching
A talk with Alice
Alice: I just give it this name.
Peter: Ah! Then the question remains: how do you know who
God is and whether he is there or not?
Alice: I don’t know, that is why it’s called believing I thought,
right?
190. Question Driven Coaching
A talk with Alice
Alice: I just give it this name.
Peter: Ah! Then the question remains: how do you know who
God is and whether he is there or not?
Alice: I don’t know, that is why it’s called believing I thought,
right?
......
191. Question Driven Coaching
A talk with Alice
Alice: I just give it this name.
Peter: Ah! Then the question remains: how do you know who
God is and whether he is there or not?
Alice: I don’t know, that is why it’s called believing I thought,
right?
......
So what do we know about Alice so far?
192. Question Driven Coaching
A talk with Alice - next steps to take
• “How can you nd out who God is?”
• There is only one way.
• God needs to reveal HIMSELF.
• How should he do that?
• What would convince you?
• What do you think about the idea of God becoming a man?
• He did JUST THAT! That man is called Jesus…
• In that case it is awesome!!
193.
194. Question Driven Coaching
Steps to take
1. Get to know someone
2. Look for common ground
3. Identify the obstacles
195. Question Driven Coaching
Steps to take
1. Get to know someone
2. Look for common ground
3. Identify the obstacles
197. Question Driven Coaching
Alice
“I don’t know exactly what ‘the faith' is expecting from me.
The things I read, I hear and that happen… I really like the
ideas Jesus stands for. But not everything, and I nd it hard
to go to a church because I think the people over there do
take everything literally.”
198. Question Driven Coaching
Alice
“I don’t know exactly what ‘the faith' is expecting from me.
The things I read, I hear and that happen… I really like the
ideas Jesus stands for. But not everything, and I nd it hard
to go to a church because I think the people over there do
take everything literally.”
What is Alice’s obstacle?
199. Question Driven Coaching
Steps to take
1. Get to know someone
2. Look for common ground
3. Identify the obstacles
4. Remove the obstacles
- Ask questions
201. Question Driven Coaching
Remove the obstacles: ask questions - 1
• I read somewhere that you can’t experience
love if there is no evil.
202. Question Driven Coaching
Remove the obstacles: ask questions - 1
• I read somewhere that you can’t experience
love if there is no evil.
– Response with a statement:
• Babies can experience their mother’s love even if
they don’t know evil yet.
203. Question Driven Coaching
Remove the obstacles: ask questions - 1
• I read somewhere that you can’t experience
love if there is no evil.
– Response with a statement:
• Babies can experience their mother’s love even if
they don’t know evil yet.
– Response with a question:
• Can babies experience their mother’s love while they
don’t know evil yet?
205. Question Driven Coaching
Remove the obstacles: ask questions - 2
• I nd it hard to believe that dead people rise
from the dead
206. Question Driven Coaching
Remove the obstacles: ask questions - 2
• I nd it hard to believe that dead people rise
from the dead
– Response with a statement:
• God is our Creator. He created the world. He can
then also raise the dead.
207. Question Driven Coaching
Remove the obstacles: ask questions - 2
• I nd it hard to believe that dead people rise
from the dead
– Response with a statement:
• God is our Creator. He created the world. He can
then also raise the dead.
– Response with questions:
• Do you think God had anything to do with the
creation of our world?
• If God is our Creator, couldn’t he also raise the dead
again?
208. Question Driven Coaching
Steps to take
1. Get to know someone
2. Look for common ground
3. Identify the obstacles
4. Remove the obstacles
- Ask questions
- Make comparisons
211. Question Driven Coaching
Remove obstacles: make comparisons - 1
Diana: “I am very curious about the facts. I keep thinking
it’s a bit vague. Like when they say heaven is a
paradise. Nobody ever came back to tell us it’s really
nice up there. How can you believe this?”
213. Question Driven Coaching
Remove obstacles: make comparisons - 2
Peter: Well, it is like this: does it make a lot of difference to you in
what kind of house you live? I mean: if you had to choose
between a nice house WITHOUT your husband, or in a lesser
house WITH him? What would you do?
214. Question Driven Coaching
Remove obstacles: make comparisons - 2
Peter: Well, it is like this: does it make a lot of difference to you in
what kind of house you live? I mean: if you had to choose
between a nice house WITHOUT your husband, or in a lesser
house WITH him? What would you do?
Diana: A lesser house with him…
215. Question Driven Coaching
Remove obstacles: make comparisons - 2
Peter: Well, it is like this: does it make a lot of difference to you in
what kind of house you live? I mean: if you had to choose
between a nice house WITHOUT your husband, or in a lesser
house WITH him? What would you do?
Diana: A lesser house with him…
Peter: Exactly!!!! Because it is more important with WHOM you are
there then WHERE you are.
Heaven is a paradise, because God is there. God is love. The place
that is full of love is a paradise. Do you see?
217. Question Driven Coaching
Remove obstacles: make comparisons - 3
Diana: So you mean, that it’s more important that I’m in heaven with
God, than that I am in a nice place up in the air?
218. Question Driven Coaching
Remove obstacles: make comparisons - 3
Diana: So you mean, that it’s more important that I’m in heaven with
God, than that I am in a nice place up in the air?
Peter: Absolutely. If you, so to speak, are in hell, but you’re close to
God, it’s not hell anymore. If you are in heaven, but you nd
nothing of God anymore, then it’s hell!
219. Question Driven Coaching
Remove obstacles: make comparisons - 3
Diana: So you mean, that it’s more important that I’m in heaven with
God, than that I am in a nice place up in the air?
Peter: Absolutely. If you, so to speak, are in hell, but you’re close to
God, it’s not hell anymore. If you are in heaven, but you nd
nothing of God anymore, then it’s hell!
Diana: Very sharp.
221. Question Driven Coaching
Remove obstacles: make comparisons - 4
Diana: You say: “I know God is there and loves you”, but how do you
feel that? I’ve already been praying for so long and I don’t feel
anything as a result. I don’t know if I ‘ll ever get a reaction back”
222. Question Driven Coaching
Remove obstacles: make comparisons - 4
Diana: You say: “I know God is there and loves you”, but how do you
feel that? I’ve already been praying for so long and I don’t feel
anything as a result. I don’t know if I ‘ll ever get a reaction back”
Peter: God wants a RELATIONSHIP with you. With everything that
goes with it. Sometimes it seems like God doesn’t listen, but that
might be because we pray the wrong things.
223. Question Driven Coaching
Remove obstacles: make comparisons - 4
Diana: You say: “I know God is there and loves you”, but how do you
feel that? I’ve already been praying for so long and I don’t feel
anything as a result. I don’t know if I ‘ll ever get a reaction back”
Peter: God wants a RELATIONSHIP with you. With everything that
goes with it. Sometimes it seems like God doesn’t listen, but that
might be because we pray the wrong things.
Diana: But I don’t only ask him things, I also thank him.
224. Question Driven Coaching
Remove obstacles: make comparisons - 4
Diana: You say: “I know God is there and loves you”, but how do you
feel that? I’ve already been praying for so long and I don’t feel
anything as a result. I don’t know if I ‘ll ever get a reaction back”
Peter: God wants a RELATIONSHIP with you. With everything that
goes with it. Sometimes it seems like God doesn’t listen, but that
might be because we pray the wrong things.
Diana: But I don’t only ask him things, I also thank him.
Peter: Ok, let me ask you a question.
226. Question Driven Coaching
Remove obstacles: make comparisons - 5
Peter: Suppose you have a kid. And that kid would talk to you the
same way that you talk to God. What would you think about
that?
227. Question Driven Coaching
Remove obstacles: make comparisons - 5
Peter: Suppose you have a kid. And that kid would talk to you the
same way that you talk to God. What would you think about
that?
228. Question Driven Coaching
Remove obstacles: make comparisons - 5
Peter: Suppose you have a kid. And that kid would talk to you the
same way that you talk to God. What would you think about
that?
Diana: I honestly must admit that I would think: “You ask me for so
much and blame me for so much. You only want to see things
happen.”
Yeah, if you look at it that way, I probably indeed pray for the
wrong things.
230. Question Driven Coaching
Make comparisons - exercise
Benny
• is happily married
• has two daughters (between 20-30 years old), of which one
is already married and has kids
• lives on a luxurious farm
• is very rich and keeps horses for his hobby
• does generally believe in God, but has a lot of questions
231. Question Driven Coaching
Make comparisons - exercise
“People that change their mind at the last minute and
turn to God are hypocrites to me. I can’t imagine God
accepts them just like that. Those people do wrong
their entire lives and suddenly everything is ok? That
can’t be!” - Benny
What would be a good comparison
to use (from the Bible)?
232. Question Driven Coaching
Make comparisons - guidelines
*Must come out of the life of the other person’s life
*Is therefore very easy to understand/relate to
* Must look very much like the problem that was
addressed
* Is a real-life example of a spiritual truth
* Jesus used comparisons a lot too…
* It is a way of customizing the gospel.
233. Question Driven Coaching
Steps to take
1. Get to know someone
2. Look for common ground
3. Identify the obstacles
4. Remove the obstacles
- Ask questions
- Make comparisons
* Using the Bible
236. Question Driven Coaching
Using the Bible
* Can you make a comparison rst?
* ASK if they want to read something
237. Question Driven Coaching
Using the Bible
* Can you make a comparison rst?
* ASK if they want to read something
* Let them look it up themselves (online)
238. Question Driven Coaching
Using the Bible
* Can you make a comparison rst?
* ASK if they want to read something
* Let them look it up themselves (online)
* ASK what they think about it
239. Question Driven Coaching
Using the Bible
* Can you make a comparison rst?
* ASK if they want to read something
* Let them look it up themselves (online)
* ASK what they think about it
* Never use texts as an argument
240. Question Driven Coaching
Using the Bible
* Can you make a comparison rst?
* ASK if they want to read something
* Let them look it up themselves (online)
* ASK what they think about it
* Never use texts as an argument
* If they respond positively: give them homework to do
and agree to talk about it at a later point in time
241. Question Driven Coaching
Steps to take
1. Get to know someone
2. Look for common ground
3. Identify the obstacles
4. Remove the obstacles
- Ask questions
- Make comparisons
* Using the Bible
* Role of prayer and the Holy Spirit
244. Question Driven Coaching
Prayer and the Holy Spirit
• God is at work (John 3: 16)
For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son,
that whosoever believes in him should not perish, but have
everlasting life. For God sent not his Son into the world to condemn
the world; but that the world through Him might be saved.
245. Question Driven Coaching
Prayer and the Holy Spirit
• God is at work
• We cannot do anything on our own
(John 5: 17, 19; John 15: 5)
246. Question Driven Coaching
Prayer and the Holy Spirit
• God is at work
• We cannot do anything on our own
(John 5: 17, 19; John 15: 5)
But Jesus said, “My Father has never stopped working, and that is why I
keep on working. Jesus told the people: I tell you for certain that the
Son cannot do anything on his own. He can do only what he sees the
Father doing, and he does exactly what he sees the Father do.
247. Question Driven Coaching
Prayer and the Holy Spirit
• God is at work
• We cannot do anything on our own
(John 5: 17, 19; John 15: 5)
But Jesus said, “My Father has never stopped working, and that is why I
keep on working. Jesus told the people: I tell you for certain that the
Son cannot do anything on his own. He can do only what he sees the
Father doing, and he does exactly what he sees the Father do.
I am the vine, and you are the branches. If you stay joined to me, and I
stay joined to you, then you will produce lots of fruit. But you cannot
do anything without me.
248. Question Driven Coaching
Prayer and the Holy Spirit
• God is at work
• We cannot do anything on our own
• Jesus asks us to obey and love (John 9:31, 13:35)
249. Question Driven Coaching
Prayer and the Holy Spirit
• God is at work
• We cannot do anything on our own
• Jesus asks us to obey and love (John 9:31, 13:35)
We know that God listens only to people who love and obey Him.
250. Question Driven Coaching
Prayer and the Holy Spirit
• God is at work
• We cannot do anything on our own
• Jesus asks us to obey and love (John 9:31, 13:35)
We know that God listens only to people who love and obey Him.
If you love each other, everyone will know that you are my disciples.
251. Question Driven Coaching
Prayer and the Holy Spirit
• God is at work
• We cannot do anything on our own
• Jesus asks us to obey and love
• We need to be united(Joh 17: 21)
252. Question Driven Coaching
Prayer and the Holy Spirit
• God is at work
• We cannot do anything on our own
• Jesus asks us to obey and love
• We need to be united(Joh 17: 21)
Jesus prayed: I want all of them to be one with each other, just as I am
one with you and you are one with me. I also want them to be one
with us. Then the people of this world will believe that you sent me.
253. Question Driven Coaching
Prayer and the Holy Spirit
• God is at work
• We cannot do anything on our own
• Jesus asks us to obey and love
• We need to be united
• We will see more (Eph 3: 18)
254. Question Driven Coaching
Prayer and the Holy Spirit
• God is at work
• We cannot do anything on our own
• Jesus asks us to obey and love
• We need to be united
• We will see more (Eph 3: 18)
I pray that you may have power, together with all the Lord's
people, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love
of Christ...
256. WhyJesus?
Participant testimonies
“My e-coach helped me
out in discovering
answers to my
questions. She really
listened to what I had to
say” - Roxanne
“Shortly after nishing WhyJesus?, I joined a local church
and am currently attending the Alpha-course.” - Tim
257. WhyJesus?
E-coach-testimonies
“Asking questions has helped me avoid ‘preaching’ to my
participants. I’ve really also discovered that people tend to believe
something more easily if they discover it themselves”
- Stephan
“I just prayed with my participant
in the chat this evening and she
gave her life to Jesus! Halleluja!!”
- Sheila
