You know what makes you tick... why not document it for the rest of the world? Presented at #shesgeeky unconference

1. Write your own
USER
MANUAL
2013
HEIDI MILLER
SHE’S
GEEKY
@heidimiller
Saturday, April 27, 13

2. WHAT IS A USER MANUAL?
WHY
If you don’t know where you are going,
any road will get you there.
‘ Lewis Carroll
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Saturday, April 27, 13

3. WHY WRITE A USER MANUAL?
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4. Do you want out of life? What are your goals? Career, family,
kids, honesty, joy, friends--what are your priorities?WHAT
Do you come from? What were your parents like? What is
your relationship with your siblings, and how has that affected
your world view? What major life events formed you?
WHERE
Do you value in life? Freedom? Stability? Honesty? New
experiences? A job that challenges you? Excelling at a sport?WHAT
Would you describe yourself? Independent? Connected?
Introvert/extrovert? What motivates you?HOW
A
BACKGROUND
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Saturday, April 27, 13

5. HOW TO TURN ME ON EMOTIONALLY
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6. B
Emotional needs
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Extremely Moderately Kinda Not
Be there when I call at least some of
the time
Be there for me in case of illness or
emergency
Show me your vulnerability; I’ll show
you mine
Be willing to say “I was wrong”
Tell me when you believe I’m being
an idiot
Tell/show me you like me for who I
am
Ask about my day
Tell me about your day
I need to feel included, supported,
opened up to, understood
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7. HOW TO TURN ME ON SEXUALLY
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8. makes you giggle/feel weak?WHAT
touches turn you on?WHICH
gestures are especially meaningful? Opening the door, offering a
ride, making dinner, cleaning the bathroom?WHAT
is a special date for you? Dinner? Staying home? A cultural
event? Travel?WHAT
C
FLIRTING
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Saturday, April 27, 13

9. is your take on casual sex?WHAT
is your definition of “sex”? Kissing? Touching? PIV only? Oral?
Snuggling?WHAT
are you into? Any fun fantasies, fetishes or quirks? What is your
favorite porn?WHAT
turns you on every time? What turns you off every time?WHAT
C
SEX
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Saturday, April 27, 13

10. Write your own
USER
MANUAL
2013
HEIDI MILLER
SHE’S
GEEKY
@heidimiller
Saturday, April 27, 13