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Write your own user manual


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You know what makes you tick... why not document it for the rest of the world? Presented at #shesgeeky unconference

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Write your own user manual

  1. 1. Write your ownUSERMANUAL2013HEIDI MILLERSHE’SGEEKY@heidimillerSaturday, April 27, 13
  2. 2. WHAT IS A USER MANUAL?WHYIf you don’t know where you are going,any road will get you there.‘ Lewis Carroll@heidimiller www.heidi-miller.comSaturday, April 27, 13
  3. 3. WHY WRITE A USER MANUAL?@heidimiller www.heidi-miller.comSaturday, April 27, 13
  4. 4. Do you want out of life? What are your goals? Career, family,kids, honesty, joy, friends--what are your priorities?WHATDo you come from? What were your parents like? What isyour relationship with your siblings, and how has that affectedyour world view? What major life events formed you?WHEREDo you value in life? Freedom? Stability? Honesty? Newexperiences? A job that challenges you? Excelling at a sport?WHATWould you describe yourself? Independent? Connected?Introvert/extrovert? What motivates you?HOWABACKGROUND@heidimiller www.heidi-miller.comSaturday, April 27, 13
  5. 5. HOW TO TURN ME ON EMOTIONALLY@heidimiller www.heidi-miller.comSaturday, April 27, 13
  6. 6. BEmotional needs@heidimiller www.heidi-miller.comExtremely Moderately Kinda NotBe there when I call at least some ofthe timeBe there for me in case of illness oremergencyShow me your vulnerability; I’ll showyou mineBe willing to say “I was wrong”Tell me when you believe I’m beingan idiotTell/show me you like me for who IamAsk about my dayTell me about your dayI need to feel included, supported,opened up to, understoodSaturday, April 27, 13
  7. 7. HOW TO TURN ME ON SEXUALLY@heidimiller www.heidi-miller.comSaturday, April 27, 13
  8. 8. makes you giggle/feel weak?WHATtouches turn you on?WHICHgestures are especially meaningful? Opening the door, offering aride, making dinner, cleaning the bathroom?WHATis a special date for you? Dinner? Staying home? A culturalevent? Travel?WHATCFLIRTING@heidimiller www.heidi-miller.comSaturday, April 27, 13
  9. 9. is your take on casual sex?WHATis your definition of “sex”? Kissing? Touching? PIV only? Oral?Snuggling?WHATare you into? Any fun fantasies, fetishes or quirks? What is yourfavorite porn?WHATturns you on every time? What turns you off every time?WHATCSEX@heidimiller www.heidi-miller.comSaturday, April 27, 13
  10. 10. Write your ownUSERMANUAL2013HEIDI MILLERSHE’SGEEKY@heidimillerSaturday, April 27, 13