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What’sInside:Section 1: News & Politics
Letter from the Editor 3
Advertising rates 3
Capital City Pride 2013 Des Moines,IA 4
From the Heartland by Donna RedWing 5
Remarkables by JonathanWilson 5
IowanAdvocacy byTami Haught 6
Meta-data and Privacy byTony Dillon-Hansen 6
Shrink Rap by LorenA Olson MD 7
Boy Scouts ofAmerica byWarren J.Blumenfeld 7
Just Sayin’ by Beau Fodor 8
Despite Repeal,Obstacles Remain by D. Wetherell 8
PFLAG - Des Moines Chapter Meeting 8
New GOglbt Business Referral Group 8
Minor Details:Pride by Robert Minor 9
GLSEN StudentAmbassador 9
Black Pride by Rev.Irene Monroe 10
Creep of theWeek by D’AnneWitkowski 10
Section 2:Fun Guide
Entertainment Picks for the Month 11
Chi Chi Larue at Club CO2 interview byArthur Breur 11
Inside Out:MyTribe by Ellen Krug 12
WiredThisWay by Rachel Eliason 13
Which Foods Burn the Most Calories? by DaveyWavey 13
I.C.Kings Celebrate Pride in Iowa City! 16
New Kings on the Block show their talent 21
The Bookworm Sez byTerri Schlichenmeyer 22
Comics and Crossword Puzzle 22-23
Hiring a wedding planner by Scott Stevens 24
Section 3:Community
FFBC:Dr.Jason Glass by Bruce Carr 25
PrimeTimers of Central Iowa 25
PITCH Calendar 2013 25
From the Pastor’s Pen by Rev.Page 26
Ask Lambda Legal By Dru Levasseur 26
Iowa NRCS EarthTeam 27
Business Owners to Support LocalArtists by J.Schaefer 27
LGBTQ Patient & Family Education and Support Groups 27
Business Directory 28-29
QC Pridefest celebrates Living Out Loud 30
DSM Gay Men’s Chorus at Capital City Pride Parade 31
University of Iowa LGBT S&F Association 32
CRPrideFest 2013: Shades of Pride Cedar Rapids, IA 34
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Kyle’sBed&Breakfast
interviewbyArthurBreur
GivingGaySoldiers
ourRespect
byAngelaGeno-Stumme
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This July Americans will be celebrating our country
with fireworks, food, and family. But don’t forget that our
country would be nothing without the men and women
who have fought to create and protect it. These soldiers
are in every community, including the LGBT community
and understanding their part in our nation is one way
we can give them respect for their service. Dan Wether-
ell and Angel Velez share their military experience and
views of the repeal of DADT.
Dan Wetherell
Dan Wetherell enlisted in the Army in 2005 when
he was twenty-eight, he served four years on active duty
and then four with the National Guard. He served at
Fort Lee, Virginia; Quyarrah, (Forward Operating Base
Q-West) Iraq and Camp Dubs located on the outskirts of
Kabul, Afghanistan. And has been attached to a National
Guard unit based here in Northwest Iowa.
Photo courtesy of Matty Smith.
Senator Matt McCoy. Photo courtesy of Daniel
Hoffman-Zinnel
Almost four hundred people came to the Supreme
Court Rally at the State House in Des Moines on June 26th
.
Waving rainbow flags, carrying signs, some wore the new
Ray-Gun shirt that proclaimed: “07-26-2013, today the
federal government is as gay as Iowa.”
Speakers included: State Senator Matt McCoy,
Senator Harkin staffer Benjamin Williams, PFLAG Mom
Susan Huber, married couple Melanie Muth and Tammy
Steinwandt, Rev Mark Stringer (UUA), Jeff Angelo from
Iowan Republicans for Freedom, Rabbi Edelman Blank,
the ACLU’s Ben Stone, Donna Red Wing (One Iowa) and
the fabulous Des Moines Gay Men’s Chorus who sang
“The Star Spangled Banner” and “We Shall Overcome”.
Ted Coppock, PFLAG Dad shaded the podium with his
giant rainbow umbrella.
The crowd celebrated. Speakers were cheered as we
DesMoinesSCOTUS
RallybyDonnaRedWing
ArticlecontinuationfromACCESSline’sJune2013Volume,
27, Issue No. 6.
Is the building in Kyle’s Bed and Breakfast a fixed
floorplan?
Oh,absolutely. Thefirstbookactuallyhastheblueprints
of the entire house in the back of the book. All four floors
and everything. [laughs] So I really do lay it all out exactly
the way it’s supposed to be. It was challenging to figure that
out. When I first started doing the strip it was kind of like,
“Oh, I’ve got five characters, and they all live here,” but since
then I’ve brought on additional characters.
TherearetenbedroomsinthisBedandBreakfast,andif
there are any more than ten characters, I can’t have them all
living there at the same time. It’s a good excuse for me—it’s
a limiting factor: if a character’s not working for me, then it’s
time to send them off on a business trip to London or some-
thing, [laughs] because I just don’t have the room for them.
People love to criticize things, so what criticisms
have you gotten about your strips?
I have to say, I’ve gotten so many good words that when

Time passes on and all things change.
This is a particularly difficult precept for
me to accept, personally. I don’t like to let
go of things that I’ve enjoyed, and I am a
bit of a control freak.
One good change that I am pleased to
announce is that Angela Geno-Stumme—
who has been the ACCESSline’s Managing
Editor for the past two and a half years—is
now stepping into the offical role of the
paper’s Editor in Chief.
To give full credit where it is due,
Angela has been doing the lioness’s
share of the work for at least half that
time, especially in the 18 months since
I moved with my husband to Portland,
Oregon. She encouraged me to continue
my involvement with the paper despite
that thousand-mile separation, and I’m
very thankful that she did. But the fact of
that physical distance has often frustrated
me, preventing me from directly interact-
ing with the people, places, and events
that are the focus of this long-running
community paper.
From the start, Angela has eagerly
added far more than asked for in her
efforts to improve and expand the paper,
and has pursued stories and interviews
that consistently delight and surprise the
ACCESSline’s readers, myself included.
I will continue to support Angela,
and will be acting as Publisher of The
ACCESSline as well as continuing to
provide editorial, graphic design, and
strategic support.
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spoke of our victory. And they went silent
as we remembered the folks we knew
and loved who did not live to see this day.
There seemed to be great energy around
the future and the need to continue to
organize and mobilize.
Similar celebration rallies took place
in Quad Cities, Cedar Rapids, Iowa City,
Cedar Falls, Sioux City, Mason City and
Ames.
Speech by Donna Red Wing
We have a great deal to celebrate. The
United States Supreme Court confirmed
the rights and the equality of all loving
and committed married couples.
The ruling on Proposition 8, while a
move in the right direction, was a modest
gain. We celebrate with and for same-
gendercouplesinCalifornia. And,wework
towards the day when all fifty states will
enjoy marriage equality.
As we celebrate the rulings and what
the future can be, I hope that we will
thank every person
and organization that
has brought us to this
place.Everymemberof
the clergy, every policy
maker, every attorney,
every activist, every PFLAG Mom or Dad.
I hope that we will remember, that we will
remember, why courts do matter.
I’d like to say a special Thank you to
Sharon Malheiro, and to Matt McCoy, and
One Iowa, and Lambda Legal, thank you.
If you are here tonight, you probably
didsomethingtogetushere. Youcameout.
You made a donation. You told your story.
You did what needed to be done. You are a
partofthishistoricmoment…you ownthis
historic moment and I thank you for that.
Tonight, as we celebrate, let’s send up
a prayer of gratitude to the women and
men who came before us, those twilight
lovers of years gone by, for their extraor-
dinary courage. Let us
raise up our voices to
our friends who never
got to see this day. We
will remember them.
Here, in Iowa,
we still have a great deal of work to do.
Our opponents are not celebrating. They
are opening their playbook and they are
turning the page. We know that we will
hear from Bob Vander Plaats and the
Family Leader tonight and tomorrow and
the day after that and the day after that.
We know that they will not simply walk
away from this battle.
Now, more than ever, we need to orga-
nize and mobilize. Please, take a moment
and talk to our canvassers. Commit to our
next chapter in this movement for equal-
ity. We need you! As we work to protect
our children; as we protect the kid that
gets bullied, how do we help stop kids
from becoming bullies? Can we make
sure that our aging community is treated
with respect and with kindness? Do we
continue to work towards our families’
legal rights; from birth certificates to
death certificates? How do we support
our transgender community? And will
we finally decriminalize AIDS/HIV in the
state of Iowa?
Together, my friends, we have made
history. Today belongs to each of you. My
question tonight is this…what will you do
tomorrow?
I hope that we will do all that we can,
all that we can, to make Iowa truly One
Iowa.
If you are here tonight,
you probably did something
to get us here.
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A place of moderation
Eighteen years ago a group of Lesbian
Avengers from San Francisco went to the
headquarters of Exodus International,
an organization with a mission to cure
homosexuality through ‘conversion
therapy’. The Lesbian Avengers carried
signs and chanted.
Some climbed onto
the reception desk
andshouted,“Wedon’t
need to be cured!”
And then the Avengers
released 1,000 locusts. Swarms of insects
crawledacrosstheExodusfloor. Thepolice
were called and told that “There are lesbi-
ans here and they have bugs!” By the time
law enforcement understood that the call
was not a hoax, the Avengers were long
gone.ThePlagueofLocustsdemonstration
was one of the more creative attacks on a
radical right organization that promoted
‘freedom from homosexuality through the
power of Jesus Christ’ and believed that it
could ‘cure’ LGBT people, or make them
‘straight’ through conversion therapy and
prayer.
Today Exodus is moving away from
its past practices and dissociating itself
from the reparative therapies. The orga-
nization has come to the realization that
it just doesn’t work. The organization
still believes that any sexual activity, gay
or straight, outside of a heterosexual
marriage is sinful. But it will no longer
engage in politics, in the cultural war
against homosexuality. As its president,
Alan Chambers, said this week: “I think
it’s time for us in the church to move on
from that fight.”
In a related move, the Church of Jesus
Christ of Latter Day Saints has proclaimed:
“With love and understanding, the Church
reaches out to all God’s children, including
our gay and lesbian
brothers and sisters.”
AnopenlygayMormon
wasrecently“called”to
serve as a leader in an
LDS congregation in
San Francisco. Church members marched
in the Utah Pride parade. And the church
said that even though the Boy Scouts of
America has lifted its ban on openly gay
Scouts, it would continue its long-time
association with the organization.
Excuse me while I check to see if Hell
has actually frozen over.
I am pleased to see some of our most
active opponents coming to a place of, at
least,moderation. Exodus is walking away
from the barbaric practices of conversion
therapy. Mormons are finding loving and
civil avenues of communication. This did
not happen overnight. I believe that it is
the culmination of decades of civil conver-
sations; of people coming out; of people of
faith really looking within and asking and
answering very tough questions. This is
a movement towards justice and anyone
can join.
Many of these conversations were
sparked and sustained by LGBT people of
faith. For a very long time we have tried
to reconcile who we were with what we
believed. And even in the most painful
of places, some of us were able to find
resolution.
And then there were those faith
leaders who have been on their own
extraordinary journeys. Reverend Dr.
C. Welton Gaddy is one of those heroic
leaders. He is both President of Interfaith
Alliance and Pastor for Preaching and
WorshipatNorthminster(Baptist)Church
in Monroe, Louisiana. He is past president
of the Alliance of Baptists and is a member
oftheCommissionofChristianEthicsofthe
Baptist World Alliance. Reverend Gaddy
wasonceamemberoftheSouthernBaptist
Convention’s Executive Committee.
I tell you his Baptist credentials
because they are so important to his work
in support of the LGBT community. Rever-
end Gaddy has written an extraordinary
paper “Same-Gender Marriage and Reli-
giousFreedom:ACalltoQuietConversations
and Public Debates.” He presented this
paper to one hundred Mormon leaders in
Salt Lake City. And they heard him. He has
debated Maggie Gallagher at the National
Organization for Marriage. He has taken
his ideas on religious liberty and marriage
equality across the nation in private and
public venues. He has spoken to bishops
and rabbis, priests and politicians. He has
addressedcongregationsandconventions.
As marriage becomes the norm, his work,
and all of the work that extends a hand
even to those who have opposed us, will
become more and more crucial.
Asweseeouropponentsmovetomore
moderate places I think it is important
to remind ourselves how and why this is
happening, and then, to think about how
we move forward.
We don’t need to release locusts any
more. I think we do, however, need to find
people where they are, wherever they are,
and invite them in.
Coincidence?
I Don’t Think So.
In The Des Moines Register on May
25,2013(page2A),thereappearedtogether
two brief articles in the Nation & World
Watch section within inches of each other.
OnereportedthataPhiladelphiajudge
ordered that a couple who believe in faith
healing over medicine be held without bail
on third-degree murder charges arising
out of the death of their 8-month-old son,
Brandon. Prosecutors said the couple
prayed over their sick child for two weeks
before he died, and never called a doctor.
Thejudgesaidtheywereaflightriskbecause
there could be a community of like-minded
people out there who might harbor them.
The other reported that the Roman
Catholic archdiocese in Madrid, Spain,
says it needs more exorcists to help some
of its faithful cope with
the devil. It claimed to
have only one exorcist
priestavailableandwas
considering a plan to
trainmore. Apparently,
accordingtotheRoman
Catholic Church, only a
priest authorized by a
bishop can perform an
exorcism and the brief
rite involves blessings with “holy” water,
prayers, and an interrogation of the devil
by the exorcist during which the demon is
asked to leave the victim.
There you have it. In the 21st Century
we live in a conflicted world still debating
elementary principles of fiction over fact.
Debating science over
mythology. Debat-
ing whether or not
the Earth is flat or
the center of the
Universe. Whether
or not all of God’s
children are straight
and the “gay” ones are
simply straight ones
misbehaving. Debating
whether up is down. Debating whether or
not illness is the product of demon posses-
sion. It’s a testament to the failure of public
education. When education is available,
ignorance is a choice. And prideful igno-
rance is the foundation of bigotry.
Informed, enlightened, wise folks are
dying every day. More ignorant, unen-
lightened, and foolish folks are being born
every day. The Roman Catholic Church
has managed to institutionalize ignorance,
unenlightenment, and foolishness. It seeks
to perpetuate all three to the detriment of
Brandon Schaible in Philadelphia whose
brother Kent died similarly in 2009.
Coincidence that those two articles
appeared virtually together in the newspa-
per? I don’t think so. Thanks to The Des
Moines Register. It tells me the magnitude
of the task before us. It reminds me that
education is not a destination, but a relay
race from one generation to another. It
confirms for me that the judge was right to
deny bail; that community of like-minded
people who might harbor those homicidal
parents could be as close as the nearest
Roman Catholic Church.
Thepolicewerecalledand
told that “There are lesbians
here and they have bugs!”
From the Heartland by Donna Red Wing, Executive Director One Iowa
Donna Red Wing is the Executive Director of
One Iowa. She served as Executive Director
of Grassroots Leadership, as Chief of Staff at
Interfaith Alliance, she was a member of the
Obama’s kitchen cabinet on LGBT concerns,
and was Howard Dean’s outreach liaison to
the LGBT communities. Red Wing was the
first recipient of the Walter Cronkite Award
for Faith & Freedom. Red Wing serves on
the national board of the Velvet Foundation,
which is building the national LGBT museum
in Washington, DC. Contact Donna at
OneIowa.org or donna@oneiowa.org.
Jonathan Wilson is an attorney at the
Davis Brown Law Firm in Des Moines,
and chairs the First Friday Breakfast Club
(ffbciowa.org), an educational, non-profit
corporation for gay men in Iowa who
gather on the first Friday of every month to
provide mutual support, to be educated on
community affairs, and to further educate
community opinion leaders with more
positive images of gay men.
It is the largest breakfast club in the
state of Iowa. He can be contacted at
JonathanWilson@DavisBrownLaw.com.
Remarkables by Jonathan Wilson
Debating whether or not
the Earth is flat or the center
of the Universe. Whether or
not all of God’s children are
straight and the “gay” ones
are simply straight ones
misbehaving.

Meta-data is data that describes data
without supposedly knowing the content of
the data (describing the object without actu-
ally telling you what the object is). Informa-
tiontechnologyhasbeen
usingdataandmeta-data
for years to determine
things such things like
buying habits, various
user systems, location
of the user and more,
without even asking
yourname.Thequestion
todaybecomeshowgood
are the inferences based
upon that information
and should the govern-
ment be in the business
ofscanningthis.Then,wefindthatthegovern-
ment has been taking it upon themselves
to review similar type of data about phone
calls, emails, and other contact mechanisms.
Further, they have been using a secret court
to gain justification and authorization for the
wiretapping where only the judge can chal-
lenge government suspicions.
A majority of people polled do not feel
threatened by the NSA surveillance program
because apparently this data “about data”
is supposedly without content. Also, people
want to be safe from
the growing terrorist
threats.Perhaps,people
feel safer because they
can stock up on AR-15s
and ammunition while
Congress is willing to
send young soldiers
to die in some foreign
land in the “cause of
freedom.” So we want
government to stay out
of our lives and out of
our bedrooms, but we
are willing to give a blank license for them to
collect and to survey data about us without
feeling spooked.
Let me give you an example of what is
conceivable. A spouse learns that the other
spousehasbeenspendingtimewithacouple
individualsinquietconversation.Thisspouse
also learns the times and places of a couple
encounters and discussions.
Upon learning this informa-
tion,thespousemaynaturally
approach the questionable
nature of the actions with a
sense of betrayal, distrust,
anger or fear. Then, this
spouse decides to confront
theotherpersonwithanidea
thattheapparentshenanigans
needtostop.Attherevelation,
the other spouse is horrified
by an unexpected confronta-
tionandsubsequentlyreveals
that the encounters of question were to
prepare a surprise vacation for the couple as
a gift to the offended spouse.
Now,onecanquestionorjudgewhether
the one spouse was correct for planning a
surprisevacationoriftheonespouseiscorrect
inquestioningorconcludingthoseplans.The
pointhereisthatthismistakemayberesolved
between the couple as how to communicate
between each other and the levels of trust
between them. Yet, the government, via the
NSA and law enforcement, is cataloging data
aboutthe“circumstances”ofdiscussionsand
encounters without supposedly listening to
the actual conversation. The government is,
by definition, not trusting when it is looking.
Thequestionthenbecomeswhetherthe
governmentwillrealizewhentheyhavemade
errorsofjudgmentandhowwilltheycorrect
them.Forinstance,ifaU.S.citizengetsaccused
of terrorism or plotting for a mass attack by
talking to friends in South Korea where the
citizen was only planning to meet with long-
timeassociatesforcollaborationonresearch
and education. (South Korea is almost North
Korearight?)Ofcourse,undercurrentenemy
combatant statutes, you, as the U.S. Citizen,
may find yourself exceptionally interested
in the prison conditions at Guantanamo Bay.
Weknowthatsomegovernmentofficials
maydecidetocontinueprosecutionsregard-
lessoffacts,andMcCarthy’sRedScarecantell
youexactlyhowthathasbeendoneinthepast
and how wrongly that can be pursued.
People are too eager to trade freedom
andlibertyaway,andthus,theyignorethatan
individualresponsibilityofhavingfreedomis
to also ensure that freedom endures despite
external or internal attacks. We must ensure
that freedom is respected or we may find
ourselves at the end of a baton or rifle for
some comedic remark. Expect no good will
from unwarranted seizures as they will find
something to use. As well, a good agent of
the government may not want to waste the
taxpayermoneyonamisguidedlead,andwe
have seen where those people may be out to
prove something that does not exist to save
face or some other false based story. They,
thetrustedgovernment,mayevenfindaway
to use a portion of code to justify smearing a
group of people.
Evenmore,peoplearoundtheworldlook
to the United States as an example of liberty
and individual rights. When the U.S. govern-
ment starts secretly investigating the press,
spyingoncitizens,orkillingsuspectswithout
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Meta-dataandPrivacybyTonyDillon-Hansen
Sowewantgovernment
tostayoutofourlivesand
out of our bedrooms, but
we are willing to give a
blank license for them to
collect and to survey data
about us without feeling
spooked.
Tony E Dillon-Hansen is a web developer,
organizer, researcher, writer, martial artist,
and vocalist from Des Moines. For more
information go to tigersnapdragons.com.
Doingwhatittakes…
everyday
IhavebeenlivingwithHIVfor28yearsin
asmalltowninIowa.Iwasdiagnosedin1985.
I was diagnosed when every-one assumed
you had to be gay or an injection drug user. I
wasasinglemotherworkingtwojobstokeep
the bills paid.
I started dating a man and everything
was great for a while. Then trouble started.
Onedayhecorneredmeinmyapartmentand
said if I broke up with him he would tell my
employer, insurance company, and worst of
allthethreatsofmyson’sschool.Eventhough
my son is negative, those days some schools
were kicking kids out just for having an HIV
positive family member.
Iwaslucky.Igothimoutofmyhouseand
my life, but I was always worried I would get
acallfrommyson’sschool,getfired,andlose
my insurance. I never felt more like I had lost
control of my life.
I would do anything to protect my son,
so ever since that incident I don’t tell anyone
I am positive. I just can’t be sure that when I
share such personal information it won’t be
told to someone I don’t trust to know.
Livingwiththissecretisnoteasy,butit’s
what I have to live with to feel safe.
CHAINLinkNews
IowaCode709Cinterfereswithpositive
public health measures to test and treat HIV
Community HIV/Hepatitis Advocates
Iowa of Network continues their efforts to
modernizeIowa’sPublichealthlaws,increase
publicsafety,buildpublicawarenessandfight
discrimination,stigma,rejection,criminaliza-
tion, and fear.
Our hope is to stimulate conversations
abouttheIowalawthatcriminalizesHIVand
why it is so bad for public health goals and
people living with HIV/AIDS.
The Problem: The current Iowa law,
709cisbasedonoutdatedbeliefs,howpeople
acquireHIV,whoacquiresHIV,andthemedical
risks associated with it.
TheSolution: Modernizethecurrentlaw
tocreateatieredsystemwhichaddressesthe
intentional transmission of any contagious
or infectious disease. Iowa must reform its
current law that criminalizes people living
with HIV/AIDS. Here’s why:
With advancements in medicine and
public health, HIV can be managed like other
chronic infectious diseases.
• Treatment of HIV has come a long
way in the last 30 years, and is no longer a
“death sentence.”
• Studies have shown that someone
diagnosed at age 25 has nearly the same life
expectancy as an unaffected person.
• We have come a long way in the
treatmentandcareforpeoplelivingwithHIV.
Our laws need to reflect that progress.
The current law—Iowa Code 709C—
undermines public health goals by discour-
aging testing and treatment of HIV, as well as
making disclosure of HIV status more risky.
• 709Cdiscouragestestinganddisclo-
surebecauseoftheseverepenaltiesassociated
withsimplyknowingyourstatus. Thecurrent
law reads that if the person knows his or her
HIVstatusispositive,heorsheriskscriminal
prosecution.
• Iowa has one of the highest rates
of late testers of any state in the nation (47
percent).
• Half of people who acquire HIV do
so from a partner who is unaware of their
positive HIV status.
The goal in this column is to provide
current information of advocacy efforts in
Iowa;tokeepyouinformedandtoaskforyour
help. Overthecourseofthenextfewissuesof
ACCESSline,informationwillbesharedabout
why CHAIN feels the law should be changed,
storiesfromIowanslivingwithHIVandsitua-
tionsofstigma,discrimination,hate,andfear
they have experienced after disclosure. We
hope that with more information individuals
will join our efforts and contact legislators
askingfortheirhelptojoinusinmodernizing
Iowa’s law.
Ifyouwouldliketojoinourefforts,please
contact Tami Haught, CHAIN Community
Organizer at tami.haught2012@gmail.com.
If you would like to make a donation to help
our education and advocacy efforts, please
send donation to: Attn: CHAIN, C/O Primary
Health Care, 9943 Hickman Rd. Suite 105,
Urbandale, Iowa 50322. Also, I am looking
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leadagroupandwouldlikemoreinformation
please contact me.
Iowan Advocacy by Tami Haught
Tami Haught has been living with HIV
for almost 20 years. She is the CHAIN
Community Organizer, President for
PITCH, and new member of the SERO
Project Board of Directors. Tami started
speaking out about her HIV status when
her son started school hoping that
providing education and facts would
make life easier for her son, by fighting
the stigma, discrimination, isolation,
and criminalization people living with
HIV/AIDS face daily. Contact info: tami.
haught2012@gmail.com website:
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Dr. Olson,
Life has become a burden. What can
I do about it? Bernie
Bernie,
Yourquestionistimely.TheCentersfor
Disease Control has just released a rather
startling statistic: From 1999 to 2010 the
suicide rate among persons aged 35–64
years increased by 28.4%.
Research has clearly established that
the most stressful time
in our lives is between
the ages of forty and
sixty. It is a time when
careers plateau, our
parents age, health
issuesappear,andthere
issomedeclineinsexualfunctioning.Those
with children may be caught in dual care
giving responsibilities (children and aging
parents).
The Buddha said, “Pain is inevitable,
but suffering is optional.” “Pain” are those
thingsinlifethathappentousoverwhichwe
havenocontrol(aging,beinggay).Suffering
is how we deal with those issues, and we
do have control over our response to life’s
inevitable pain. And not dealing with the
pain has its own consequences.
American culture is based on what
has been called “the emptiness of striving.”
Winning is everything. Everything is done
for the sake of doing something else as we
searchforthenexthighermountaintoclimb.
Even play often has the ambitious purpose
of striving to attain our “personal best.”
Enough is never enough; big food is better
than good food. People are seen as a means
to an end rather than an end in themselves.
This emptiness of striving even colors
our sexuality. We feel compelled to try and
seduceeveryattractiveperson.Formen,we
feelwemustbealways
ready sexually, always
successful–as defined
by a stiff erection and
a huge load–and we
must be certain our
partneris“successful”
and preferably at the same time. We’ve set
the bar very high–or perhaps, are we really
trying to jump over the wrong bar.
For men, performance trumps plea-
sure. Younger and younger men are using
testosterone replacement therapy and pills
to give them firmer erections. The first
signs of sexual decline lead immediately to
a sense of failure.
Young men can take a lesson from
oldermenwhounderstandthatdiminished
sexual drive, weaker erections and lower
ejaculatory volume do not necessarily lead
to diminished pleasure. Older men who
understandtheirevolvingsexuality,learnto
have sex in slow time, enjoying the journey,
not just the destination. Sexual intimacy
must be refocused on greater emotional
intimacy that accompanies the physical
aspects of sex.
But older men need to stop thinking of
themselves as the trolls we’re sometimes
called by younger gay men. Do younger
men who are attracted to older men see
in older men something they don’t see in
themselves? I think so.
What younger men tell me about their
attraction is that they see men who accept
themselves in spite of having made some
serious mistakes, men who have gained
wisdom through experiences following
difficult choices. They see men who can
enjoy their companions without wanting
something from them. They see men who
like to cuddle as much as they like to cum.
Theydon’tseewrinklesandsagsbutinstead
they see a seasoned face filled with the
beauty of a life well lived.
Youngorold,timeislimitedanddimin-
ishing.Welosethejoyofeachmomentwhen
weworryendlesslyaboutthefutureofcan’t
stop regretting the past. People should be
morethanjustastepuptheladder.Perhaps
we should stop always striving for our
personal best and focus on our personal
good enough.
So, Bernie, life can be burdensome, but
surely not all of it is. Refocus your thoughts
on what you have left rather than what you
have lost. Use your mind and your time
well. And remember, it is more important
to choose with whom you eat dinner than
what is on the menu.
Shrink Rap by Loren A Olson MD
Loren A. Olson MD is a board certified
psychiatrist in the clinical practice of
psychiatry for over 35 years. Dr. Olson has
conducted research on mature gay and
bisexual men for his book, Finally Out:
Letting Go of Living Straight, a Psychiatrist’s
Own Story. He has presented on this subject
at conferences across the United States and
Internationally. His blog, MagneticFire.
com, has a strong following among mature
gay and bisexual men. He established Prime
Timers of Central Iowa, a social organization
for mature gay/bisexual men. For more
information go to FinallyOutBook.com or
contact him on Facebook.com.
Americancultureisbased
on what has been called
“the emptiness of striving.”
Winning is everything.
The Good, the Bad,
and the (Still) Highly
Discriminatory
Without justice, there can be no peace.
Reverend Doctor Martin Luther King, Jr.
The good news is now well known:
last month, approximately 61 percent of
the fourteen hundred members repre-
senting the Boy Scouts of America’s (BSA)
National Council of delegates from across
the country met in Grapevine, Texas and
voted to lift its century-old ban against gay
and bisexual scouts. The decision will go
into effect January 1, 2014.
Accordingtoitspastpositiononhomo-
sexuality: “Boy Scouts of America believes
that homosexual conduct is inconsistent
with the obligations in the Scout Oath and
Scout Law to be morally straight and clean
in thought, word, and deed….”
So why, after its reiteration of the ban
just last year, did the National Executive
Boardevenconsiderareversal?Quitesimply,
the Board’s policies have placed the Boy
Scouts of America on
the endangered orga-
nizations list. Since its
reaffirmation of its ban
last year, major corpo-
ratedonorshaveeither
pulled out completely
or have severely reduced financial support.
SuchcorporationsincludetheIntelFounda-
tion, UPS, United Way, and Merck Company
Foundation. Over 70,000 people signed a
petition asking BSA’s National Executive
Board to drop its discriminatory policy. In
addition, around 65,000 scouts turned in
their uniforms during the last two years in
reaction to the ban, bringing down the total
membership below 2.7 million. Since 2000,
theorganizationhaslostapproximately21%
of its membership.
On the other side of the coin, the bad
news is that these same BSA delegates
failed to take a vote on
liftingitslong-standing
prohibition of gay and
bisexual scout leaders,
therebyleavingtheban
firmly in place.
Just last year, for
example, the BSA demanded that Jennifer
Tyrrill, lesbian mom and scout leader of
her son Cruz’s den, leave her post because
asreported,shedidnot“meetthehighstan-
dards of membership that the Boy Scouts of
America seeks.”
What “high standards” has Tyrrill not
met?Whileservingasdenleader,thecubsin
her den volunteered at a local soup kitchen,
collected canned goods for neighboring
churches to distribute in food baskets, and
performed a conservation project at a state
park.
The Girl Scouts of America and the
Boys&GirlsClubsofAmericaorganizations
proudly welcome and appreciate members
and leaders of all sexual and gender identi-
ties.TheGirlScouts,forexample,has,indeed,
fulfilled its own written promises and laws
“tobeHonestandFair,FriendlyandHelpful,
Considerate and Caring, Courageous and
Strong, and Responsible.”
Buthowcanaboyscoutorscoutleader
truly adhere to the Boy Scout Law of being
“trustworthy,loyal,helpful,friendly,courte-
ous, kind, obedient, cheerful, thrifty, brave,
clean,andreverent”whentheBSAstillclings
to its blatantly prejudicial, discriminatory,
and quite frankly, offensive inherent policy
on issues of sexual identity?
Inadditiontopotentialgayandbisexual
scout leaders, no atheist or agnostic need
applyeithersincetheBoyScoutsofAmerica
“Anthem” proclaims: “The Boy Scouts of
America maintains that no member can
grow into the best kind of citizen without
recognizing an obligation to God….The
recognition of God as the ruling and leading
power in the universe and the grateful
acknowledgmentofHisfavorsandblessings
are necessary to the best type of citizenship
and are wholesome precepts in the educa-
tion of the growing members.”
No one is advocating same-sex sexual
conduct between scouts or between scout
leadersandscouts.BSA’scontinuingbanon
gayandbisexualleaders,however,confuses
conduct with identity since the organiza-
tion continues to reject leaders in terms of
identity.TheBSApolicycouldbeconsidered
as its “Tell, because we will ask, and if you
don’t tell, we will pursue” policy.
Boy Scouts of America by Warren J. Blumenfeld
Warren J. Blumenfeld is author of
Warren’s Words: Smart Commentary on
Social Justice (Purple Press); editor of
Homophobia: How We All Pay the Price
(Beacon Press), and co-editor of Readings
for Diversity and Social Justice (Routledge)
and Investigating Christian Privilege and
Religious Oppression in the United States
(Sense).
Since 2000, the
organization has lost
approximately 21% of its
membership.

GOglbt is starting a new group
of GLBT business owners or business
professionals to meet twice monthly
to support each other’s businesses by
providing referrals.
They will meet every other Thurs-
dayfrom7:30am-8:30amataTBDWells
Fargosponsoredlocation.Refreshments
will be provided. Once they secure the
locationthemeetingswillstart.Member-
shipFeeis$50.00andwillincludeabusi-
ness listing on the GOglbt.com website.
To sign up to be a part of
this group please call Tom Luke
at 402-650-2917, or email him
at tom@lukedirectmarketing.com.
The Des Moines Chapter of Parents
& Friends of Lesbians & Gays (PFLAG)
will meet at 6:30 pm at the Unitarian
Universalist Church, 1800 Bell Avenue
Des Moines, IA 50315 on the third
Tuesday of every month.
The meeting begins with a short
business meeting followed by an educa-
tional presentation, and a social and
support session. All are welcome!
Made up of parents, families,
friends, and straight allies uniting with
lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender
(LGBT) people, PFLAG is committed to
advancing equality through its mission
of support, education and advocacy.
Undercurrent
of Homophobia
After spending this morning with a
California-based film crew, working on
a documentary about Marriage Equality,
and how far we’ve come already here in
the Midwest, well, I find myself feeling
humbled and grateful to still be part of
this journey.
The Pride events I’ve attended across
the state remind me of the continuing
growthandnew leadershipofourcommu-
nity.Iwasaskedtomarchagainthisyearin
theCapitolCityPrideparade,andItookmy
Grandmother along with me. At one point
an Associated Press reporter pulled us out
of the line-up and asked my Grandmother
why “she” was marching, and she actually
said, “Well, I am tired of defending my
Grandson’s place at the table... and want
him to be considered an equal while he is
seated there, instead of being fodder for
conversation.”
Later that day, as we crossed the river
on the Locust Street Bridge to go home
from an epic experience, a parade float
passed by and screamed faggots out loud.
The bridge was packed with tourists and
I can only imagine what they thought. As
far as myself and Gram, well, both of us
laughed...becausethey
knew me, (and I knew
they were just giving
a shout-out), but, she
said “Dear Boy, when
will people stop the
hate they seem to have
for your community?”
And I really didn’t
know what to say. For some reason I was
extremely embarrassed, but I quickly
explainedtoherwe’vecomealongway,and
now 30-somethings use that verbiage as a
term of endearment(yes, it was a stretch,
butIwantedtomakeherfeelbetter)andto
make her think it was all really o.k. now in
2013. I decided to let it go and we went out
for a nice dinner, and then got ice cream.
But,thismorningwhilefilming,Igotto
reflectandtalkaboutthatmoment.Ididn’t
realize until today how angry it made me,
andhowthisbehaviorfromwithinourown
communityisunhealthyforcontinuingthe
progress we’ve made.
Part of me is sad, that this 83 year-old
woman worries about
my safety and well-
being, but that isn’t
the worst part. What
saddens me the most
is the division in our
community between
demographics from
within our commu-
nity. Why do we put so much pressure on
ourselves? I’m honestly fascinated by the
deep undercurrent of homophobia that
runs rapid through our tribe. Young teens
are taking their lives all the time over
bullying, and their peers making them feel
ashamed for being whom they are. I get it,
it can be terrifying to be different because
we know what an a**hole society can be.
However, we need to stop perpetuating
the self-hate because it’s just making it
more difficult for people to be comfortable
with the idea of homosexuality being more
prevalent.
“Dear Boy, when will
people stop the hate they
seem to have for your
community?” And I really
didn’t know what to say.
Just Sayin’ by Beau Fodor
Beau Fodor is the owner of PANACHE, an
Iowa event and wedding planner who
focuses specifically on weddings for the
LGBT community. He can be reached at his
blog www.panachepoints.com.
Photo courtesy of Toby Schuh Photography.
It still seems near impossible to
believe that nearly two years ago I was
sitting on a dusty Army base in Afghani-
stan listening to my commander deliver
the Department of Defense mandated
briefing on the repeal of “Don’t Ask, Don’t
Tell”. The September 2011 repeal was
something I certainly did not expect to
see in my lifetime, much less my military
career. After all our military has a long
history of institutional discrimination
against members of
the LGBT commu-
nity. As early as
1787 a Continen-
tal Army Lieutenant
was discharged for
“attempted sodomy”.
In fact in the ensuing
years thousands of
personnel have been
discharged for their
sexual orientation.
Even recently between the implementa-
tion of DADT in 1994 and its repeal nearly
fourteen thousand people were separated
from military service.
The repeal was in many ways to me
not just an important victory for the LGBT
community but a personal victory as
well. Like many gay, lesbian and bisexual
members of the armed forces I enlisted
while the ban was in effect and during the
entirety of my service remained closeted
to my fellow soldiers. The repeal meant
I no longer had to hide an important part
of who I am as a person. There was no
longer the perception that me and homo-
sexuals like me were in some way flawed
or incapable of being an effective member
of the military. I sat there thinking about
our homecoming a few months away and
realized that unlike when I returned from
Iraq I could be greeted by a significant
other without fear that display of affection
would reveal my secret. I could bring a
boyfriend to company functions and they
could, if they so chose,
attend events for the
families of service
members.
Of course I
remained concerned
that despite Depart-
ment of Defense
protections for homo-
sexuals, if I were out I
could fall victim to the
cultural bias against
homosexuals which remains engrained
in military culture. As it turns out though
I need not have worried. For most the
repeal of “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” was quite
simply a non-issue. It seems that the mili-
tary, like society in general had over the
years come to realize that homosexuality
is not a medical defect or moral flaw. I
personally have never experienced an
instance of anti-homosexual behavior and
have talked to a good many LGB men and
women who have had similar experiences.
The fact remains though that while
the repeal was a great victory, there
remains many stumbling blocks which
must be removed before true equality
can be reached.
For example while the repeal of DADT
has legalized lesbians, gays and bisexuals
serving openly in the military by virtue of
a regulation related to fitness for service
the transgendered remain banned from
serving in the armed forces. Similarly
Article 125 of the Uniform Code of Military
Justice which bans the practice of sodomy
remains in effect. While it is seldom if
ever used the fact that it remains in effect
is of concern to a great many lesbian, gay
and bisexual service members who fear it
could be used if the ban on serving openly
should ever be re-enacted.
The biggest problem though is not
as the result of Department of Defense
policy but the Defense of Marriage Act
which prohibits the recognition of same-
sex marriage by entities of the federal
government. The Department of Defense
has made great strides in offering as many
benefits as possible to same-sex couples.
Earlier this year for example the Secretary
of Defense ordered extension of benefits
which they could, “lawfully provide” to
same-sex couples and their children.
There are several important items which
are not offered because to do so would
violate DOMA. First and foremost among
those is that for the purposes of base
allowance for housing which is based on
marital status even those LGB service
members who are legally married are still
considered single. Another major item,
which is excluded, is that medical benefits
are not offered to same-sex partners.
Other issues such as on-base housing and
burial remain under legal review.
To be sure, homosexual soldiers
like me owe a great deal of thanks to the
LGBT community for their efforts to date.
Without the prodding and agitating by
the community DADT would never have
been repealed. However, there remains a
great deal of work to be done, and I know
that many like me are not only willing to
do our part but grateful that we are now
able to do so openly.
Despite Repeal, Obstacles Remain by D. Raymond Wetherell
There was no longer
the perception that me
and homosexuals like me
were in some way flawed
or incapable of being an
effective member of the
military.
D. Raymond Wetherell is a former member
of the United States Army, a current
member of the Army National Guard and
a veteran of both Iraq and Afghanistan.
The views expressed in this article are his
and his alone and in no way, shape or form
represent the views of the Department of
Defense, Department of the Army, the Iowa
Army National Guard or any component
thereof.
PFLAG-DesMoinesChapterMeeting NewGOglbtBusinessReferralGroup

Surprised that There’s So
Much Rape in the Mili-
tary?
In 2012, 26,000 women and men
reported sexual assault in the American
military. We have no record of how much
remains unreported.
That’s only one year of
victimization in what
military brass admit-
ted before Congress
was a “cancer.” If
it weren’t for the
seven women on the
SenateArmedServices
Committee, I’d expect such reports to be
buried.
Hearing so many of the old Congress-
menrespondtothiswithstupidity,sexism,
and pseudo-science, even surprised those
of us who expect so little out of right-wing
politicians. And blaming the existence of
women in the military ignores the fact that
14,000 of those victims were men.
That’s 6.1% of the women in the
military and 1.2% of the men. And 98% of
the reported sexual assaults on men were
committed by other men.
In one of the most insightful analyses
of this epidemic, Ana Marie Cox of The
Guardian concludes: “it’s something about
being in the military today, at this moment
in history, fighting the kinds of wars we’re
fighting with the kinds of troops we have.”
[“The Real Roots of the US Military’s
Epidemic of Sexual Assaults”]
“It’s a truism among feminists–if not
senators–that rape is a crime of violence,
not of sexual attraction….Could it be that
the real crisis in today’s military is tied to
not who these soldiers are, but the nature
of what we’re asking them to do?”
Today’s military with a growing
number of soldiers
and veterans diag-
nosed with mental
illness and chemical
dependency, with the
tactics of modern
warfareandthelength
of troop service, exac-
erbates what we’ve
taught our men culturally and our military
men in particular.
It starts with what we teach our
boys as they enter puberty about what
manly sex is. In Scared Straight I called
that conditioning, the “Nine Layers of
Getting Laid,” a paradigm that continues
to dominate junior high and high school
male gender roles idealized in the studs
of contemporary media.
This cultural conditioning is often
excused as the male sex drive. Georgia
SenatorSaxbyChamblisssaidintheSenate
hearings: “Gee whiz, the hormone level
created by nature sets in place the possi-
bility for these types of things to occur.”
But the third of those layers is that
“Getting Laid” for high school boys is
impersonal. “It is best if a boy isn’t other-
wise acquainted with, or a friend of, the
sexual object. One does not marry the girl
whoisthebestlay….Gettinglaid,therefore,
is not about the person.”
The more that this impersonal layer
is internalized–the more it’s felt that the
sexisn’tdonetoapersonbutanobject–the
easier it is to deny that there’s violence
involved. One isn’t really hurting another
person.
Add to this the seventh layer–that
“Getting Laid” is self-centered, that it’s
done to someone on the agenda of a real
man - and the sexual act becomes an act
of power over another. One can see this
in the raping of men by men who identify
as heterosexual in our prisons–a situation
that’s often made into a joke.
Now, most of our boys know that
something like this conditioning is there
in their teen years but they fight it silently,
internally and seemingly alone because
men don’t talk about their deviations from
“manhood.” But what happens when we
add the conditioning men encounter in
the military?
A key goal of the military’s basic train-
ing is turning recruits into warriors who’ll
be ready to kill others if called to do so.
But a man can’t do this if he thinks of the
enemy personally.
That’s why enemies must be turned
into stereotypes and described with
phrases such as: “human life isn’t valuable
to them.” The face of the enemy must be
inhuman or it would be hard to destroy it.
Military conditioning thereby adds
another layer to thinking impersonally of
others. Other human beings are objects,
not living, loving human beings who are
sons and daughters of real people.
But it also de-humanizes the warrior
himself. His own value comes to be under-
stoodascontingentuponnotonlyisability
tokillothersbuthiswillingnesstobekilled
defending the system.
Violence to others becomes even
easier. And violence against oneself as
a just a killing machine who’s been put
further out of touch with his own, caring,
feeling humanity also becomes easier.
A true warrior expects violence. He
could even use its presence to finally
provide value for his own insecure manly
self-worth.
He can earn a medal from real men
at the top for killing another man, after
all, but be killed for loving one. Valuing
oneself for such violence turned inward
has spurred a record level of suicides
among those who serve and veterans, so
that in the past twelve years more have
died by their own hand than by enemy fire.
What’s actually surprising is that
these figures aren’t much higher. The
conditioning is doing everything it can
to encourage sexual assault as an act of
power and violence over some object so
as to assert one’s manhood and worth.
But they’re not, because men aren’t
inherently like this. They’re not naturally
driven by testosterone and hormones, no
matter how we might use these as excuses.
It’s not that “boys will be boys,” for
a lot of abusive manhood conditioning
software has to be installed in our little
naturally loving, caring, feeling boys to
make them killers and sexual assaulters.
And enforcing that is the fear that if they
don’t act tough, hard, cold, and object-
oriented enough, they’ll be put down as
girly and fags.
Add to this their impression that
society has given up on men. It’s not chal-
lenging their conditioning but sending
them to anger management, drugging
them, or finally throwing them away in
prison.
Conditioningisalllearned,andwhatis
learned can be unlearned. But do we have
the courage to lead that charge?
Minor Details by Robert Minor
Robert N. Minor, Ph.D.,
Professor Emeritus of Religious Studies at
the University of Kansas, is author of When
Religion Is an Addiction;
Scared Straight: Why It’s So Hard to
Accept Gay People and Why It’s So Hard
to Be Human and Gay & Healthy in a Sick
Society.
Contact him at www.FairnessProject.org.
A key goal of the
military’s basic training is
turningrecruitsintowarriors
who’llbereadytokillothers
if called to do so.
Matt Shankles is a shining example of
how students really can make a difference.
A native of Marion, Iowa, Matt faced
his own set of challenges at school when
he came out as LGBT. He experienced
name-calling, bullying and harassment
from his peers simply for being himself.
Matt chose to take action. He looked
for ways to change his school climate. He
beganaTwittercampaigntotweetencour-
agementtostudentswhohadbeenbullied.
Matt also participated in GLSEN’s Safe
Schools Advocacy Summit in Washington
where he met with lawmakers to push for
the Safe Schools Improvement Act (SSIA)
and the Student Non-Discrimination Act
(SNDA).
But Matt’s work didn’t stop there.
He joined GLSEN’s Student Ambassadors
team. He spoke on a cyberbullying panel
hosted by Iowa’s Governor. He also went
on to testify at a Senate committee hearing
in Iowa chaired by Senator Tom Harkin to
discuss the need for safer schools.
Just a couple of weeks ago, Senator
Harkin introduced an education bill that
included provisions from both SSIA and
SNDA.
FormoreinformationgotoGLSEN.org.
GLSEN Student Ambassador

Bryan Fischer
Did you hear the news? It’s now okay
tobeagayBoyScout.Butyoustillcan’tbea
gay Man Scout. Because as we all know, the
second a gay male turns 18 he turns from
a child into a child
predator. At least on
the planet inhabited
by the anti-gay right.
On May 23, the
Boy Scouts of Ameri-
ca’s National Council
voted to end the long-
standingbanongayScouts,but tokeep the
ban on gay Troop leaders in place.
Gay rights folks are only half
impressed. Unsurprisingly, the anti-gay
right is going berserk.
A lot of nastiness erupted on Twitter
after the announcement.
Peter LaBarbera, founder and presi-
dent of the ironically named Americans
for Truth about Homosexuality, sputtered,
“Boy Scouts dug own grave,” and warned
of an anti-gay splinter group.
Liberty Counsel’s Matt Barber
Tweeted, “Boy Scouts of America: Born
February 8, 1910 | Died, May 23, 2013
#RIP,” as if death notices don’t deserve at
least a phone call.
Butbyfarthenastiestcommentscame
from the American Family Association’s
Bryan Fischer.
“BSAnowstandsforBoySodomizersof
America,becausethat’swhatwillhappen,”
Fischer Tweeted. “Mark my words.”
Get it? Because gays are all about
the butt sex and letting gay kids be Boy
Scouts,insteadofostracizingthemlikeGod
intended, means that the entire organiza-
tionisbasicallygoingtobeabigrapeparty.
No longer will Boy
Scoutsmakepinewood
derby cars or learn
howtobuildcampfires.
The BSA in Fischer’s
twisted fantasy is all
anal-penetrationallthe
time. “Mark my words”
is a nice touch, too. As if Fischer is gleefully
waiting to be proven right, as if this is actu-
ally what he wants to see happen.
But perhaps Fischer is just speaking
out of unhinged anger after being proven
wrong.
“[T]he ban on homosexual Scout
mastersandhomosexualparticipants,that
ban is going to be upheld. It’s going to be
defended,” Fischer ranted on Focal Point,
his radio show, in February. “It’s the end
of the game. This is game over. This is the
Super Bowl and the good guys have won.
Make no mistake about this, this is a huge
win for the pro-family movement; it is a
big, big, big setback for Big Gay.”
Oops.
Granted, you could say he was half
rightsince,afterall,gaygrown-upsarestill
banned, but Fischer was adamant that BSA
would never happen. He had no contin-
gency plan. It never dawned on him that
BSA would adopt a more humane policy
toward gays of any age.
Of course, now that they’ve done it,
Fischer is sure he knows why. He Tweeted,
“Boy Scouts have sold their soul for a
mess of corporate pottage. They will wind
up with lots of money and no scouts.”
That’s right. It’s all about the
Benjamins.Justabunchofgreedybastards
in neckerchiefs up in the BSA. No doubt
moneyisgoingtostartpouringinnowthat
thequeersarehere.Andwithcashinhand,
the gay BSA take-over will be complete.
Before you know it Dan Savage will get
a fleur-de-lis tattoo on his forehead and
Elton John will perform, “Can You Feel the
Cubs Tonight” at the next National Scout
Jamboree.
Or, in all likelihood, nothing much will
happen except some gay kids who previ-
ously felt excluded may join. Some kids
whoarefreakedout(or,morelikely,whose
parents are freaked out) may quit. And gay
kids who are already members will take
comfort in knowing that an organization
that requires a serious level of dedication
doesn’t officially forsake them.
Mark my words.
Creep of the Week by D’Anne Witkowski
BSAnowstandsforBoy
Sodomizers of America,
because that’s what will
happen.
Distinct and Emblematic
Black Pride reaffirms our identity. And
it dances to a different beat.
What started out in Washington D.C.
in 1990 as the only Black Gay Pride event in
thecountryhasgrowntoover35gatherings
nationwide. Each year
celebrations start in
April and continue to
October. Over 300,000
LGBTQ people of
African descent rev up
for a weekend of social
and cultural events
celebratingtheirqueeruniqueness.In2007
aloneover350,000attendedBlackGayPride
eventsthroughouttheU.S.Thelargestevents
are held in Washington, D.C., Los Angeles
and Atlanta, and smaller Black Pride events
(like Boston’s) provide an important sense
of identity and cultural heritage.
Sundaygospelbrunches,Saturdaynight
Poetryslams,Fridayeveningfashionshows,
bid whist tournaments, house parties, the
smell of soul food and Caribbean cuisine,
and the beautiful display of African art and
clothingarejustafewoftheculturalmarkers
that make Black Pride distinct from the
dominant queer culture.
JustlikeinthemainstreamofAmerican
society,culturalacceptanceandinclusionof
LGBTQcommunitiesofcolorinlargerPride
events is hard to come by. Many can experi-
ence social exclusion and invisibility in the
big events. Segments of our population will
attendseparateBlack,Asian,andLatinoGay
Prideeventsinsearchoftheunitythatisthe
hallmark of Pride.
The themes and focus of Black, Asian,
and Latino Pride events are different
from the larger Pride events. Prides of
communities of color focus on issues not
solely pertaining to the LGBTQ commu-
nity, but rather on social, economic, and
health issues impacting
theirentirecommunity.
The growing distance
between our larger and
white LGBTQ commu-
nity and these LGBTQ
communities of color
is shown by how, for
an example, a health issue like HIV/AIDS
that was once an entire LGBTQ community
problem is now predominately a challenge
for communities of color.
Also, with advances such as hate crime
laws, the repeal of the military’s “Don’t Ask,
Don’t Tell,” the legalization of same-sex
marriageinmanystates,andwithhomopho-
biaviewedasanationalconcern,theLGBTQ
movement has come a long way since the
first Pride marches four plus decades ago.
ManynotetheperceiveddistancetheLGBTQ
community has traveled in such a short
historictime—fromadisenfranchisedgroup
on the fringe of America’s mainstream to a
community now on the verge of equality.
Butnotallmembersofourcommunityhave
crossed the finish line. Some are waving the
cautionaryfingerthatwithinourcommunity
to note that not all are equal.
Pride events can be public displays of
those disparities.
Mainstream Prides have themes
focused on marriage equality for the larger
community where Prides organized by and
for LGBTQ people of African descent have
focused not only on HIV/AIDS but also
unemployment,housing,gangviolence,and
LGBTQ youth homelessness. After decades
of Pride events where many LGBTQ people
of African descent asked to be included
and weren’t, Boston Black Pride was born.
Boston Black Pride this year will neither be
a formal gathering of folks nor will there be
a display of scheduled festivities. But it will
grooveonasitalwayshasforthecommunity,
withmoreindividualandimpromptuevents.
By1999BlackPrideeventshavegrown
into the International Federation of Black
Prides, Inc. (IFBP). The IFBP is a coalition
of twenty-nine Black Pride organizations
across the country. It formed to promote an
African diasporic multicultural and multi-
national network of LGBTQ/ Same Gender
Loving Pride events and community based
organizationsdedicatedtobuildingsolidar-
ity,health,andwellnessandpromotingunity
throughout our communities.
Also in understanding the need to
network and build coalitions beyond its
immediate communities, IFBP created the
formation of the Black/Brown Coalition.
Black Pride is an invitation for commu-
nity. Like the larger Pride events that go on
during the month of June throughout the
country, Black Pride need not be viewed as
either a political statement or a senseless
non-stop orgy of drinking, drugging and
sex. Such an “either-or” viewpoint creates a
dichotomy,whichlessensourunderstanding
of the integral connection of political action
and celebratory acts of songs and dance for
our fight for our civil rights.
While Pride events are still fraught
with divisions, they, nonetheless, bind us
to a common struggle for LGBTQ equality.
BlackPridecontributestothatstruggle
for equality, demonstrating an African
diasporic aspect of joy and celebration that
symbolizes not only our uniqueness, but it
also affirms our commonality as an expres-
sion of LGBTQ life in America.
Happy Pride!
Rev. Irene Monroe is a graduate from
Wellesley College and Union Theological
Seminary at Columbia University, and
she has served as a pastor at an African-
American church before coming to Harvard
Divinity School for her doctorate as Ford
Fellow. She is a syndicated queer religion
columnist who tries to inform the public
of the role religion plays in discrimination
against lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender
and queer people. Her website is
irenemonroe.com.
BlackPridebyRev.IreneMonroe
Caribbean cuisine,
and the beautiful
display of African art
and clothing…

Chi Chi Larue is best known as an adult
film director, producing films for the past
twenty-five years. In addition to her direct-
ing,thisfamousdragpersonahasbeenDJing
and touring with her video stars since 2005,
performing to sold out clubs around the
world. She will be performing at Club CO2
inCedarRapidsonJuly12thand13th,2013.
Inanticipationofthatevent,ACCESSline
editor Arthur Breur took a moment to chat
with Chi Chi (pronounced “She She”), long
distance, about topics
both serious and light-
hearted, while she was
in London attending the
2013 HotRod British
Porn Awards (at which
she won both Best Director and the Lifetime
Achievement Award).
You’ll be at Club CO2 in Cedar Rapids
on June 12th and 13th. How do your live
appearancesatclubswork,whereyouDJ
and have your guys with you?
Well, we’re going to have three porn
boys—three really great guys. Two that
tied for best performer of the year this
year at the GRABBY awards—which is the
gay adult video awards that are held every
year in Chicago: Jimmy Durano and Trenton
Ducati both won best performer of the year.
And we’ve got a brand new boy that just
starteddoingmovies,namedDamianTaylor,
who’s fabulous, and if there was a “best a**”
category in any award show, he’d definitely
be a contender. He’s got one of those butts
that you can set a drink on!
I’ll be DJing and the boys will be enter-
taining. We’ll all be entertaining, I hope!
Tell us about your DJing.
Well, I’ve always been a music junkie,
every kind of music, and I’m also a control
freak. [Laughs.] So that makes for a good
DJingexperience. Igottiredofgoingtoclubs
and not hearing the music that I wanted to
hear,andasallDJsdo,Ibelievethatthemusic
thatIwanttoheariswhateverybodywantsto
hear. And what it turned out to be was that I
was a little more right than some other DJs.
I play happy gay music, ala Britney Spears,
MileyCyrus,youknow,
whatever is Top 40
dance mixed with a
tinybitofhip-hopand
classics—80s, 90s,
etc. I would consider
“Bootylicious” by Destiny’s Child a classic.
That’swhatpeopleliketohearinmostcases
inclubs. Idon’teverletmyselfgetbookedin
a place that doesn’t want that kind of music.
Like if it’s a place that plays the late-night,
circuity, giant dance venue kind of music, I
don’t book myself in places like that or get
booked in places like that. I don’t know how
to do that kind of music.
What’sbeenyourfavoriteexperience
spinning so far?
ProbablyDJingatthebirthdaypartyfor
Elton John’s husband, David. It was really
fun. It was a surreal experience to have
Victoria Beckham and Lulu dancing to my
music! Yeah!
On a timely topic, what do you think
about the Supreme Court rulings on
marriage?
I’m glad it happened, but I’m really not
Our Picks for July
6/28-7/20, Theatre Cedar Rapids, Cedar Rapids, Iowa,
Spring Awakening, TheatreCR.org
7/6, Club Privileged, Davenport, Iowa, New Show in
Town, Facebook.com/Privilegednightclub
7/11-7/14, Lincoln, Nebraska, Star City Pride
2013: No Labels, StarCityPride.org
7/11-7/14, NIACC Auditorium, Mason City, Iowa,
The Sound of Music, TheMusicManSquare.org
7/12-7/14, Clear Lake, Iowa, Bicycle,
Blues & BBQ, BicycleBluesBBQ.com
7/12, Blazing Saddle, Des Moines, Iowa,
The LBGT hosting Little Miss & Mr. Des
Moines Pageant, TheBlazingSaddle.com
7/12-7/27, Waterloo Community Playhouse, Waterloo,
Iowa, 9 to 5: The Musical, WCPBHCT.org
7/12-8/4, Des Moines Playhouse, Des Moines, Iowa,
Legally Blonde, DMPlayhouse.com
7/13, Fireside Winery, Marengo, Iowa,
Firefly Festival, FireSideWinery.com
7/19, African American Museum of Iowa, Cedar Rapids,
Iowa, Uganda Children’s Choir,BlackIowa.org
7/19-28, Fairfield Arts & Convention Center, Fairfield,
Iowa, Annie Get Your Gun, FairfieldACC.com
7/20, McElroy Auditorium, Waterloo, Iowa,
Brawlers vs. BrewCity, CVDerbyDivas.com
7/21-7/27, Iowa, RAGBRAI XLI, Ragbrai.com
7/24-8/4, Civic Center, Des Moines, Iowa,
Jersey Boys, DesMoinesPerformingArts.org
7/25-7/27, Dowtown, Decorah, Iowa, Nordic Fest,
Nordicfest.com
7/26-7/27, Corning Center for the Fine Arts, Corning,
Iowa, En Plein Air, RetireTheRedRaider.com
7/26-8/3, National Balloon Classic Balloon Field,
Indianola, Iowa, National Balloon Classic,
NationalBalloonClassic.com
7/26-8/4, Grand Opera House, Dubuque, Iowa,
Les Miserables, TheGrandOperaHouse.com
...and August
8/17, McKennan Park, Sioux Falls, South Dakota,
Sioux Falls Pride, Facebook.com/SiouxFallsPride
8/24, Downtown, Waterloo, Iowa, Cedar Valley
Pridefest 2013, CedarValleyPride.com
ACCESSline’s fun guide
TT CHI CHI LARUE cont’d page 31
Chi Chi Larue at Club CO2
interview by Arthur Breur
Chi Chi Larue. Courtesy of Chi Chi Larue
DamianTaylor…He’sgot
one of those butts that you
can set a drink on!

The White Knight
Dear Gentle Readers: my apologies
for again writing about biking—one of my
passions—two columns in a row.
Thanks for your indulgence.
The night before a mid-June morning,
I set the alarm for 4:45. No matter—I was
wide-eyed at four, triggered by panic that
I’d missed an exit ramp in some Sonata-
induced dream. Seconds before, I had
slammed on the imaginary brake in my
imaginary convertible, only for my right
foottohitagainstmybed’ssteelfootboard,
snapping me awake.
My window was
open to murmured city
sounds. At that hour,
the whisper of daylight
pushed against the
heavy grain of night,
setting songbirds on
their morning chorus.
It was a good sign;
maybe it wouldn’t be
another rainy, dreary
day in what has
become the worst of the worst springs.
I laid for twenty minutes, mustering
resolve and energy. You need to ride, I told
myself. Finally, I pulled from the bed and
went to the window. The gray city street
two stories below was dry, a good sign.
The black ink night sky was cloudless,
even better.
At ten to five, I was on The White
Knight, my beautiful eighteen speed
wonder on which I limit myself to just six
variations of fast. I bought The WK—yes, a
white Specialized—last summer at a bike
shop where the manager never seemed
to mind that I’m trans. I had insisted on a
“real woman’s bike” as a new-life, second
chance substitute to a man-Raleigh, which
had been a gift from my ex-wife in 1982.
In case you don’t want to do the math,
1982 was more than a quarter century—
and for me a gender—ago.
I pushed off at the condo front door
with a brilliant pulsating white light on the
front bars and funky red flasher on The
WK’s back frame. A minute later, I was
on the Stone Arch Bridge, a Minneapolis
icon which spans the Mississippi. It’s just
a hairbreadth downstream from the St.
Anthony Falls, which at 5 a.m. makes for
a pretty cool scene.
Menthol cool morning air condensed
on my side view mirror. In no time, my
body felt sparks of heat, which soon
spawned sweat droplets down the small of
my back. Still, I pedaled on and on, along
a trail that back-sided Target Stadium and
led to a field of wildflowers.
By then, the stage was set—dewy
plants, creeping sunlight flickers, and the
fragrance of lilacs (late bloomers with the
late spring) empty-
ing onto the blacktop
trail.
In a word, it was
glorious. And so unex-
pected.
I’m one of those
intermediate bike
riders, good for
twenty or thirty miles
while riding at a nice
clip, but don’t ask me
to race other bikers or
engage in a fund-raising marathon. On the
other hand, I have no patience for people
who plod along. Life is too short to go slow.
Plus there’s always way too much
territory to cover in too little time.
Two years ago, while on a sabbatical,
I vowed that I’d do 54 good rides—each
to be 15 miles or more—to match my age.
I put a big yellow “X” on my calendar for
each ride. By October, I counted 66.
Not bad for an old lady, I thought.
Early one evening last summer, I took
The White Knight on the Greenway (a bike
trail through Minneapolis on what had
been a railroad right of way) and came
upon a woman riding—no, make that
plodding—on a lime green-colored bike.
I’m a courteous rider most of the time,
and I shouted out, “Coming on your left,
Greenie.” When I got next to the woman,
she laughed. I thought it a bit odd, but
kept going.
Five minutes later, I stopped and
parked The White Knight to listen to a
band that was playing along the Greenway.
As I sat on a ledge rocking out to a Van
Morrison cover, a bike-helmeted woman
came up to me. She asked, “Are you Ellie
Krug?”
I had never seen this woman before
and consequently was a bit hesitant to
answer. Still, I nodded and asked, “Do I
know you?”
The woman shook her head. “No,”
she responded. “I follow your columns,”
she explained. “I’ve wanted to meet you
for some time.”
She identified herself as the person
on the lime green bike that I had passed a
half mile back. Because of my writing, she
knew that I presented with a deep voice.
She also knew that I look pretty feminine
with blonde hair. Thus, when she heard a
man’s voice (oh, how I hate to write that!)
announce “Coming on your left,” only to
then see a woman ride past, she concluded
that she’d stumbled upon Ellie Krug.
Frankly, I thought it was pretty bril-
liant deduction on her part.
At that point, we bought a couple
beers and got to know each other. It was
one of my few celebrity moments, so I
soaked it up. Call me a narcissist.
The broader point?
I never know what I’ll encounter on
The White Knight.
Back now on this June morning, I
made my way to the tranquility of Lake
Calhoun, the only rider in sight. Daylight
was taking hold and I paused to flick off
front and back lights. The ride resumed,
I pedaled to the far end of the lake and
slowed for a good look at the glass and
steel of downtown Minneapolis. On the
horizon behind the cityscape, I saw the
first glimpse of Mr. Sun—more brilliance!
I left the lake and made my way to the
Greenway. Three miles later, I rounded a
curve and found sun-soaked sparkly haze,
the kind that lasts for only a few minutes.
I paused just long enough to know that I’ll
remember those sparkles forever—like
death-bed forever.
Soon I was home.
It was just a ride.
And so much more.
Inside Out by Ellen Krug
Ellie Krug is a columnist and the author
of Getting to Ellen: A Memoir about Love,
Honesty and Gender Change. She resides in
Minneapolis and welcomes your comments
at ellenkrugwriter@gmail.com. Visit her
blog at www.gettingtoellen.com.
By then, the stage
was set—dewy plants,
creepingsunlightflickers,
andthefragranceoflilacs
(late bloomers with the
late spring) emptying
onto the blacktop trail.
The Fun Guide

I’ll be less sensitive
when you’re less entitled
Amanda Bynes has recently joined the
unfortunately long list of celebs that have
dropped a homophobic slur on Twitter. The
wholehubbubstartedwithPeoplemagazine
and what she perceived as a misrepresen-
tation of her current situation. Instead of
writing a letter to the editor, like a normal
person might or contacting her agent like a
good celeb probably
should, she tweeted
at them. After an all
caps rant (which is
considered shout-
ing according the
common internet etiquette) she suggested
that they follow her on twitter. Then she
called them F****ts, because nothing gets
you lots of Twitter followers like a gay slur.
TheHubbubendedwithaclassicsmack-
down from gay icon Rupaul. “Derogatory
slurs are ALWAYS an outward projection of
aperson’sownpoisonousself-loathing.”She
later deleted the offensive post.
AmandaBynescannowputtheincident
behind her, along with all the other signs of
an imminent celeb meltdown. Or perhaps
she can’t. Only time will tell.
For the LGBT community it’s another
story. We sigh and move on. We know all too
well that the next slur word scandal is just
around the corner.
In fact it’s already here. Rapper J. Cole’s
new song “Born Sinner” uses f****t as well.
He goes on to say “no disrespect” and “don’t
be sensitive” so it’s okay right? He ends that
particular verse with “just a little joke to
show how homophobic you are.” See, he’s
only joking.
It’s not just gay slurs either. There are
lots of trans related slurs out there as well.
Jenna Elfman got into a minor tiff with a fan
on Twitter after she tweeted about mannish
looking woman at the nail salon who was
“probably a tranny”.
Which is nothing to row that erupted
overSuzanneMoore’sstatementthatbeauty
industry’s ideal body shape was “that of a
Brazilian transsexual.” (I have to say that I
found the original piece more ironic than
offensive. Those “Brazilian transsexual”
she is referring to are just trying to emulate
women after all.)
The real uproar had
less to do with the piece
than how Moore handled
criticismofthepiece,once
again on Twitter. She was
quickly inundated with
angryresponsestohertweetsandhadtoshut
heraccountdownforatimeperiod.Herlong-
timefriendandfellowjournalistJulieBurchill
entered the fray and took it to a whole new
level,writingapiecefortheconservativeUK
paper The Observer that was so laden with
transphobicslursthattheirparentpaper,the
Guardian eventually called for its retraction.
It’smostlydisappearedfromtheinternetnow
but I recall one line where she called trans
people “dicks in chicks’ clothing.”
Don’t be so sensitive
Burchill’sdefensewastwo-fold.Thefirst
wasthetranspeopleneededtostopbeingso
sensitive.Thesecondwasfreedomofspeech.
Shehasarighttoheropinionandthosecriti-
cising her for making use of it are attacking
that fundamental right. Both defenses are
partofalmosteveryconversationsurround-
ing offensive language.
Don’tbesosensitive?Howabout—Don’t
getmestarted.ThescandalsIhavehighlight-
ed are only the tip of the iceberg. That’s the
first thing these people need to understand.
I haven’t talked about MMA fighter Nate
Diaz’sTwitterrantorathousandothersthat
occuralmostdaily.Ihaven’tbroughtupTracy
Morgan’shomophobiconstagerant. Ihaven’t
talked about the hashtag #signsyosonisgay,
and all the stereotyped and homophobic
responses that it got.
Before telling an LGBT person to stop
being so sensitive you need to stop and look
around the internet. Slur words are every-
where.Maybe“youdidn’tmeananything”by
it.Maybe“it’sjustthewaypeopletalkwhere
I am from.” (That was Nate’s lame defense
of his slur.) None of that makes it right and
franklywearetiredofhearingit.Andweare
tired of hearing the same old slurs.
What about freedom of speech. Every-
one is entitled to their own opinion, right?
Here’s my response:
I’ll stop being so sensitive when you
stop being so entitled.
Freedom of speech is a constitutionally
guaranteed right. In fact it’s the first one.
Freedomofspeechandfreedomofthepress
are in the first amendment right along with
freedom of religion and the right to gather
peacefully. So yes, you are entitled to your
opinion.
Butguesswhat?IamnottheU.S.Govern-
ment. I am not breaking in your door and
stealing your printing press. So don’t bother
with the freedom of speech defense.
Julie Burchill is entitled to her opinion
about trans women. What she is not entitled
to is to have her opinions published in The
Observer.Whetheranarticleoropinionpiece
gets published or pulled is up to the editors
of that journal. If the owner or editor thinks
the piece is too controversial they can pull
it. Don’t come crying to me about how I took
away your freedom of speech. I didn’t make
theeditordothat,ImerelycomplainedthatI
didn’t like the piece. It was his or her choice.
Twitter is not in the constitution either.
Maybesomeday,butnotnow.SoyourTwitter
accountisnota right.Twitterallowsanyone
to sign up and create an account as long as
they abide by the terms of service. I know
this might be a hard pill for celebrities like
Amanda Bynes and J. Cole to swallow but
an “ordinary” person like myself has just
as much right to a Twitter account as they
do. I also have just as much right to post my
opinions.
If you want to use your freedom of
speech to post derogatory or offensive slurs
onyourTwitteraccount,goahead.Butdon’t
act surprised when I use my freedom of
speech to call you out on it. If you don’t like
it, that’s too bad. I am done with “not being
so sensitive”.
Wired This Way by Rachel Eliason
I am not breaking in
your door and stealing
your printing press. Rachel Eliason is a forty two year old
Transsexual woman. She was given her
first computer, a Commodore Vic-20 when
she was twelve and she has been fascinated
by technology ever since. In the thirty years
since that first computer she has watched
in awe as the Internet has transformed
the LGBT community. In addition to her
column, Rachel has published a collection
of short stories, Tales the Wind Told Me
and is currently working on her debut
novel, Run, Clarissa, Run. Rachel can
be found all over the web, including on
Facebook, Twitter, Google+ and Goodreads.
Foodsrichinprotein–likethefish–tend
to burn more calories than foods rich in
carbohydrates or fats.
I get a lot of questions asking which
foods burn the most calories. What these
questions are really asking about is the
thermic effect of food and how it can be
manipulated to help achieve fat loss goals.
The thermic effect of food refers to the
amount of energy (i.e. calories) that the
body expends to process, use and store the
foods we eat. In general, it’s estimated that
most people will burn about 10% of their
daily caloric intake through this process. In
otherwords,apersoneating2,000calories
per day will probably burn off about 200
of them through the thermic effect of food.
But, as it turns out, this number can be
manipulated simply by shifting the compo-
sition of the foods we eat.
Forfatsandcarbohydrates,somewhere
between 5% and 15% of the calories are
burnedoffduetothethermiceffectoffood.
For proteins, that number is somewhere
between 20% and 35%. Using this math,
you might expect to burn 25–75 calories
from a hypothetical 500 calorie meal of
pure fat or carbs. But for a pure protein
meal of 500 calories, the number could be
as high as 175.
Simply by shifting to foods richer in
protein, dieters can expect to benefit from
anincreasedcalorieburnduetothethermic
effect of food. Of course, the benefit is still
relatively small–but every calorie counts!
In general, I’d encourage dieters to
spend more time and energy on creating
a calorie deficit (more calories out than
in) through a smarter diet (more plants,
less fatty meats, appropriate portions,
whole grains, etc.) and increased physical
activity…and not getting too caught up in
consuming foods that burn more calories.
Dieters can expect to
benefitfromanincreased
calorie burn due to the
thermic effect of food.
WhichFoodsBurntheMostCalories?byDaveyWavey
Davey Wavey is an AFPA certified
personal trainer shares his passion for
and knowledge of fitness, exercise, health
and nutrition with the world. For more
information go to DaveyWaveyFitness.com.
The Project of the Quad Cities
Founded in 1986, The Project of the Quad Cities is a non-profit HIV/STI/AIDS
Service Organization that provides support to persons living with HIV/STI/AIDS
as well as their families and friends in Iowa and Illinois. www.apqc4life.org
Symptom Management Group—Every Wednesday from 1-2:30 pm
Life Skills Group—Every other Wednesday from 10-11:30 am
Coffee Hour—10-11:30 am on Wednesdays when the Life Skills Group does
not meet; A relaxed and casual atmosphere
Groups meet at our Moline office. We also offer free HIV testing Monday through
Thursday from 9 am to 4 pm.
For more information call Susie or Mollie at 309-762-5433
Transformations meets every
Wednesday at 7 PM, the second Saturday
of each month at 1 PM, One Iowa, 419 SW
8th St, Des Moines, IA 50309. Transfor-
mations Iowa is a Transgender support
group.Itisopentoallrangesofthegender
spectrum,maletofemale,femaletomale,
crossdressers,dragqueens,genderqueer,
questioning,aswellasfriends,significant
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email sophia.transformations@gmail.
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J.T. Amore, Max E. Mum, Julius Fever, Franky D. Lover, and Miss Kitty.
Photo courtesy of Tomeka McGregor
Hugh Jindapants and Max E. Mum. Photo courtesy of Kate Jett.
I.C. Kings Celebrate Pride in Iowa City!
“There are so many things I love about Pride. It’s a time to celebrate being exactly
whoyouare,havefunwithfriendsandfamily,meetnewpeople,supportequalrightsand
diversity.It’sheartwarmingtonotonlyseepeoplefromallpartsoftheLGBTQcommunity,
but to also see so many allies. All Pride events are wonderful, but Iowa City Pride will
always be extra special for me, because of the amazing people and energy”.
- Franky D. Lover
“It’s great to see such a large portion of the community come out to not only support
butalsotocelebrateLGBTQAdiversity.IowaCityPridealwaysfeelslikeasafe,funescape
while we wait for the rest of the population to catch up concerning equality.”
- Hugh Jindapants
“BeingqueerinIowaCitymeansbeingpartofafamilythat’slarge,lovingandaccepting.
The I.C. Kings are grateful for having such a wonderful supportive community!”
- Julius Fever
Max E. Mum. Photo courtesy of Kate Jett.
J.T. Amore. Photo courtesy of Kate Jett.
Franky D. Lover. Photo courtesy of Kate Jett.
Chaz E. Burger, Julius Fever, and Miss Kitty.
Photo courtesy of Kate Jett.
I.C. Kings float with Max E. Mum. Photo courtesy of Tomeka McGregor
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New Kings on the Block show their talent
TheNewKingsontheBlockperformed
three times in June starting with Cedar
Rapids Pridefest on June 1, their monthly
show at home bar Club CO2 on June 14,
and then the group travelled to Dubuque to
perform at 920 Main on June 21.
New Kings on the Block founder Jill
Kennedy said:
“Cedar Rapids Pridefest was an excel-
lentopportunityforunderageperformersto
join the group as well as show the commu-
nity how great of a talent pool Cedar Rapids
has for drag king performers.”
OllyWood,NickJames,andAidenJames
all performed on June 1st at Greene Square
Park in Cedar Rapids in addition to NKOTB
regulars Justin Cider, Tatem Trick, Ryder
Gently, Jayden Knight, Star E. Knight, Brave
Crow, and Landin Laydeez.
Whiletherewerethreatsofrainandbad
weather on June 1st, NKOTB Videographer
Eva Hinrichsen said “We were worried and
prepared for rain but instead we just got
nice temperatures and a rainbow.” Many
peoplestoppedbytocheckoutAlanaHyatt’s
artworkatCedarRapidsPridefestandmany
new friends and fans were gained after the
afternoon in the park. Tatem Trick went on
to perform at Belle’s Basix after the Cedar
RapidsPrideactivitiesendedfortheevening.
The NKOTB show at club CO2 on June
14 featured a merchandise booth with
jewelryhandcraftedbyDoveslandCreations
and custom made wallets and purses by
AmandaJeanComicBookWallets.Heywood
JablowmiandJustinBeaveralsoperformed
at the June 14th show. Justin Beaver hasn’t
performed since Hamburger Mary’s in
Cedar Rapids closed.
The New Kings on the Block can be
seenagainonJuly19thatClubCO2.Starting
in August they will go back to their usual
performance at CO2 on the second Friday
of the month.
For more information go to
www.Facebook.com/NewKingsCR
NKOB June 14th performance. Photo courtesy of Alana Hyatt.
NKOB June 14th performance. Photo
courtesy of Alana Hyatt.
American values really did win. With the erasing of the Proposition 8,
same-sexcouplesinthestateofCaliforniastartedgettingmarriedonFriday.
And now that DOMA has been erased from the books thanks to that historic
decision, those couples across the country who are legally married, their
relationships and their families will be recognized as such.
~Chad Griffin, head of Human Rights Campaign on SCOTUS DOMA ruling.
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“American Savage”
by Dan Savage
c.2013, Dutton, $26.95 / $28.50 Canada,
301 pages
You can’t talk
about it to anyone.
You’ve got this
sticky issue, a little
problem, a thing you
need help with but
you aren’t sure you
cantrustanybody.Your
sister is a big-mouth,
your mom won’t understand, and your BFF,
well… no.
Youneedhelpintheformofadvice.You
need it straight-up, no bull, all honest. And
whenyouread“AmericanSavage,”thenew
memoir-advice book by Dan Savage, that’s
what you get.
As a young boy growing up in Chicago,
Dan Savage was steeped in Catholicism.
His father, a cop by profession, was an
ordained permanent diaconate. His mother
wasalayminister.Savagehimselfwasanaltar
boybutwhenherealizedhewasgayandthat
the Church had a few things to say about it
(none positive), he left the fold.
Still, he says, “… I was never abused by a
priest. I was saved by one” who came out to
Savage’smothertocalmherfearsforherson.
And though the Church “got sex wrong,” and
thoughhe’san“agnosthatheist,”Savagesays
he “aches” for the loss of religious comfort.
But that’s not all he has on his mind in
this book.
AsthecreatorofSavageLove,asex-and-
relationship column, Savage is fierce about
making sure his readers get sensible advice.
He says that cheating, for instance, isn’t
okay except when it is. He advocates being
monogamish, being GGG, and being willing
toatleasttrysomethingbeforecondemning
it as “too kinky.”
Speaking of condemning, Savage takes
on politicians, especially those who are
right-wing, conserva-
tive, and Christian; in
particular, he quotes
evidence to dispute the
anti-gay bigotry that
often comes from that
side of politics. As a
married “different kind
of fag” and the father of
a teen who “came out… a few years ago—as
straight,”Savagehasastakeinquashingthat
kind of hate.
In this book,
Savage also writes
about adoption,
Halloween (the
straight people’s
version of pride
parades), “basic
civil rights protec-
tion,” God, and
respectingoldergay
men. As founder of
the It Gets Better
Project, he goes to
bat for LGBT teens.
Hewritesaboutsex,
acertainpolitician’s
“Google problem,”
andheoffersachal-
lenge to those who
believe being gay is
a “choice.”
Want a book
that’sgoingtomake
yousay,“Heck,yes!”
just about every
third page? Yep, that pretty well describes
“American Savage.”
It’ll be hard to remain seated while
you’re reading, in fact, because author
Dan Savage makes you want to stand and
applaudathiscommon-sensewords.Savage
rants—buthe’shilariouswhilehe’sdoingso,
which will make you want to phone friends
soyoucanshare.He’sprofoundandprofane,
thoughtful and thought-provoking, and his
personalstorieswillbringtearstoyoureyes.
I truly enjoyed this book. I liked it for its
truth, for its snark, and for its not-so-good-
natured poking at politicos—and I think
you’ll like it too, because “American Savage”
is a book worth talking about.
Across
1 Memo start
5 Three-men-in-a-tub event
9 Sex toy for the butt
13 Prince’s purple precipitation
14 Kazan, whose desire was a streetcar
15 Glinda portrayer in The Wiz
16 Help with the heist
17 Trust, with “on”
18 Mournful cry
19 City of the team of 36-Across
22 Vardalos of My Big Fat Greek Wedding
23 R.E.M. frontman Michael
24 Riddler of old
26 Fabric name ending
27 Wet hole
31 McDowall of Planet of the Apes
32 Wolfe or Woolf, e.g. (abbr.)
34 Fiddle around with it
36 The first active openly gay male athlete
to compete in a U.S. professional team
sport
40 Tea or glory hole cry?
41 Himalayan legend
43 Traps for suckers
46 Org. that has never been to Uranus
48 Seminary subject
49 Eton alum
51 Erected
53 Unmannerly man
54 Position of 36-Across
58 “Ta ta!”
60 Marsh material
61 Skirt for Nureyev’s partner
62 Woman’s name embraced by hermaph-
rodites?
63 “She” to Rimbaud
64 Peanuts oath
65 Silence for Bernstein
66 It may be grand, to Glenn Burke
67 Scores
Down
1 Shrinking Asian body
2 One who may screw with your equip-
ment
3 Connects with
4 Coming soon
5 It made people go down on the Titanic
6 On the calm side
7 Cash cache
8 Sean of Will & Grace
9 Try to seduce (with liquor, e.g.)
10 Soviet leader Brezhnev
11 Relax after a hard day
12 Team of 36-Across
20 Just out
21 Shoot off a larger branch
25 Hive product
28 Like some twins
29 Rest atop
30 Doone of fiction
33 Mushroom source?
35 Woody pile
37 It’s a bust
38 Lingering
39 Drag queen’s high heel, perhaps
42 Under guardianship
43 Sport of 36-Across
44 Trisha Todd’s _ __ of the Moon
45 Role played by a man named Julia
47 Follower of Jim Buchanan
50 “Blow me down!”
52 Part of UHF
55 Woody valley
56 Eleanor’s pooch
57 Bit from Michael Musto
59 Granola lesbian’s bit
Q-PUZZLE: Flaming Star in the Galaxy
• SOLUTION ON PAGE 38
The Bookworm Sez by Terri Schlichenmeyer
Want a book that’s
going to make you say,
“Heck, yes!” just about
everythirdpage?
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Iowa City Pride
2013 Iowa City, IA
I.C. Kings booth. Photo courtesy of Tomeka McGregor
Sissy’s Sircus performance. Photo courtesy of Kate Jett
Crystal Belle’s performance. Photo courtesy of Kate Jett
Sissy’s Sircus performance. Photo courtesy of Kate Jett
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Planning a wedding is a scary undertak-
ing, especially when you’re not sure where
to start. Your wedding is one of the biggest
milestones in your life, and it is also one of
themoststressfuleventstoplan. Peoplehire
professionals to do a plethora of tasks every
day, and a wedding planner should be no
exception. The best part is, a good wedding
planner will save you money in the long run
and get you the best people in the business!
One way a great wedding planner can save
you money is through his business relation-
ships. A wedding planner has relationships
with their business partners that can offer
them discounts and special advantages that
would not be open to just anyone. However,
thatdoesn’tmeanyoushouldn’taskquestions.
ThebigquestionIhearfromeveryonegay
orstraightis…howdoyoufindatrustworthy
wedding planner that won’t flake out when
times get tough? I was expecting Jennifer
Lopez in The Wedding Planner… but I ended
upwiththissmoothtalkingguywhothinkshe
is one of the Plastics from Mean Girls.
Justrememberyourweddingdayisabout
you, not your wedding planner.
Here are a few things to keep in mind
when you are interviewing your wedding
planner.
1) You need someone you can trust!
Can you leave $100 bill on the table and walk
away trusting this person won’t take the
money and run?
2) Can you connect with this person?
You will need to work with this person for 6
months to a year.
3) Can your planner see your vision?
You don’t want your wedding to look like the
last 5 weddings this person did.
4) Makesureyourplannercangiveyou
a clear budget and set solid expectations.
5) Interviewweddingplannersuntilyou
find just the right fit!
Hiring a wedding planner by Scott Stevens
Iowa
Cedar Valley
Pridefest
300 block of West 4th Street,
Downtown, Waterloo, Iowa
Saturday, August 24th,
noon-midnight
Minnesota
Rochester
Minnesota Pridefest
Peace Plaza,
Downtown Rochester,
Minnesota
Monday, July 15th-Sunday,
July 21st
Mankato PrideFest
Riverfront Park,
Mankato, Minnesota
Friday, September 6th,
7 p.m.
Saturday, September 7th,
11a.m.-Midnight
St. Cloud Pridefest
St. Cloud, Minnesota
Thursday, September
19th-Sunday, September
22nd
Nebraska
Star City Pride
Lincoln, Nebraska
Thursday, July 11th-Sunday,
July 14th
South Dakota
2013 LGBT Pride
Rapid City, South Dakota
Location TBA
July 12th-13th
Sioux Falls Pride
Covell Lake Park, Sioux Falls,
South Dakota
Saturday, August 17th,
noon-6 p.m.
AIDS Walk
Pasley Park,
Sioux Falls, South Dakota
Saturday, September, 21st
Wisconsin Capitol
Pride
Madison, Wisconsin
Saturday, August
17th-Sunday, August 18th
Midwest Pride Events
Scott Stevens
I grew up in a small town in Wyoming and
in 1998 I moved to Iowa go go to college.
I graduated from Buena Vista University
with a degree in Marketing and a minor in
art and communications. I am have been
an active Member of Metro Arts Alliance
for over 10 years. I am currently the Vise
President and the incoming president in
2014. I was the Director of Development
for One Iowa when marriage was legalized
in Iowa! In 2009 my friend Ben developed
a website to help same sex couples get
married in Iowa. In 2010 I purchased the
website and have had the pleasure with
working with newly weds all over the
country.
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