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Time zones
1. Time Zones
The wellness expert I was speaking to after her talk
commented that she had almost been late for the
conference. “I was stuck in traffic,” she lamented, “and
I was really stressed.”
I asked her what she was worried about, given that the
audience was a group of very supportive women who
already knew and liked her. What would they have done
had she been late?
She didn’t know, but insisted it was a stressful experience. Why? There would have been no dire
consequences; someone else might have spoken first, or everyone would have continued to
network and socialize until she appeared.
She had failed to seize that little interlude to experience what I call an “Island of Peace,” a place
and time where you can just breathe and center yourself, free from distractions, knowing that
there is nothing you can do about the current situation, which will adjust itself when it is darned
good and ready.
In the meantime, she had placed undue stress on her body, the very topic on which she was about
to deliver a talk.
In The Time Paradox, Doctors Philip Zimbardo and Jim Boyd explore the psychology of time
and how it shapes our thoughts, feelings, actions, and ultimately our destinies. They describe the
different mental time zones through which we move: The Present, Future, Negative Past, and
Nostalgic Past.
Zimbardo and Boyd explain that it is sometimes appropriate to be mentally in the future, for
example when you are planning and setting goals. And while the Negative Past can solidify
beliefs about the barriers that have held us back, and continue to do so, the Nostalgic Past can be
a support in the present, when pleasant memories can evoke feelings of well-being and high self-
esteem to sustain us during difficult times.
The agitated speaker could have reflected on the group of women with whom she was about to
meet, and the friendliness and support they had shown her in the past. Instead, she leaped into
anxiety about the future – a future in which she was imagining criticism and rejection that was
unlikely to occur. Remember, 10% of stress is due to what happens to us; the other 90% is due to
what we think about what is happening.
This tendency to dwell too much in the future time zone seems to be a national disease in the
United States, forcing us to feel rushed all the time.
What if you could draw on the Nostalgic Past for support, dive into the Future to inspire
yourself, and savor the present – all at will? That’s great stress management, and it’s not
impossible to achieve. It is said that balancing your mental time zones feels like being on a
prolonged vacation.
Want to find out if you have achieved a healthy balance of mental time zones?
Lynette Crane, M.A.(Psychology) and Certified Life Coach, has more than 30 years' experience
in the field of stress management. She currently works to provide stress and time pressure
solutions to harried women, those women who seek "Islands of Peace" in their overly-busy lives.
Visit her website at http://www.creativelifechanges.com/ to see more in-depth articles and to
view her programs.