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Stoicism gives us 2 ways to deal with life:
1. It is not events themselves that affect you. It is your interpretation of those events that upset you.
2. The only things you have control over in your life are your thoughts and your actions. That is all.
They may seem trivial at first, but given some analysis, they can be very powerful allies.
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Regardless of industry, all mergers are complex initiatives. Understandably, all parties are laser-focused on financial and operational matters. While these are all critical issues, the opportunities presented by acquisition can be squandered if leaders lose sight of the human part of the equation. For both sides of the transaction, it is wise to initiate both a human capital and a cultural audit before proceeding too far down the acquisition trail. Learn more about these best practices in this article.
La presentación que utilicé durante mi ponencia en las XVII Jornadas de Estudios de Lingüística: lenguaje y deporte organizadas por la Universitat d'Alacant
The Melding of Cultures during and after a MergerCBIZ, Inc.
Regardless of industry, all mergers are complex initiatives. Understandably, all parties are laser-focused on financial and operational matters. While these are all critical issues, the opportunities presented by acquisition can be squandered if leaders lose sight of the human part of the equation. For both sides of the transaction, it is wise to initiate both a human capital and a cultural audit before proceeding too far down the acquisition trail. Learn more about these best practices in this article.
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How to be more positive (in only 5 seconds)Hugh Culver
Bad stuff happens. How we respond is up to us. Super successful people have mastered one special skill. They can change their mind - whenever they want. Learn the scientifically tested four-step process for changing your mind, being more positive, and getting more of what you like (in only 5 seconds).
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There’s a good chance that we’ve all experienced feelings of
anxiety in response to real or perceived threats at one time or
another. For most people, these feelings are normal as the brain
is hard-wired to caution you at times of danger, change and the
unknown.
In fact, in many situations, experiencing a certain level of anxiety and stress can help boost your performance in specific tasks. For instance, a person might experience a heightened level of anxiety
the days leading up to a public event and that’s a completely
normal reaction.
Psychologists believe that anxiety is your body’s natural response to
stress and that this stress triggers a system in the brain that accentuates your performance. So, a little anxiety now and then is okay and might be your body’s way of preparing for an impending change.
There are, to be sure, a plethora of legitimate and valid responses to this question. But the most important thing to remember is that we all have a habit of putting ourselves at the centre of everything and experiencing every incident, discussion, scenario, etc.
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Positive Thinking is a mental attitude that involves the process of entering the
thoughts, words, and images constructive (building) for the development of your mind.
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I won’t lie: I haven’t found a permanent solution to silencing imposter syndrome but I do have some practical tips on how to deal with it in a way that doesn’t keep you from thriving. Maybe you’ll find them helpful.
How to be more positive (in only 5 seconds)Hugh Culver
Bad stuff happens. How we respond is up to us. Super successful people have mastered one special skill. They can change their mind - whenever they want. Learn the scientifically tested four-step process for changing your mind, being more positive, and getting more of what you like (in only 5 seconds).
7 Ways Anxiety Might Be Slowly Eating Away Your LifeKarthik Karthi
There’s a good chance that we’ve all experienced feelings of
anxiety in response to real or perceived threats at one time or
another. For most people, these feelings are normal as the brain
is hard-wired to caution you at times of danger, change and the
unknown.
In fact, in many situations, experiencing a certain level of anxiety and stress can help boost your performance in specific tasks. For instance, a person might experience a heightened level of anxiety
the days leading up to a public event and that’s a completely
normal reaction.
Psychologists believe that anxiety is your body’s natural response to
stress and that this stress triggers a system in the brain that accentuates your performance. So, a little anxiety now and then is okay and might be your body’s way of preparing for an impending change.
There are, to be sure, a plethora of legitimate and valid responses to this question. But the most important thing to remember is that we all have a habit of putting ourselves at the centre of everything and experiencing every incident, discussion, scenario, etc.
https://www.youthkiawaaz.com/2022/04/how-to-not-take-things-personally
Positive Thinking is a mental attitude that involves the process of entering the
thoughts, words, and images constructive (building) for the development of your mind.
How to overcome imposter syndrome | Codette Celebration Day 2019Andra Zaharia
I won’t lie: I haven’t found a permanent solution to silencing imposter syndrome but I do have some practical tips on how to deal with it in a way that doesn’t keep you from thriving. Maybe you’ll find them helpful.
Welcome to the Program Your Destiny course. In this course, we will be learning the technology of personal transformation, neuroassociative conditioning (NAC) as pioneered by Tony Robbins. NAC is used to deprogram negative neuroassociations that are causing approach avoidance and instead reprogram yourself with positive neuroassociations that lead to being approach automatic. In doing so, you change your destiny, moving towards unlocking the hypersocial self within, the true self free from fear and operating from a place of personal power and love.
1. ‘To live under constraint is a misfortune, but there is no constraint to live
under constraint.’
- Seneca
Listen, bad stuff happens. All. The. Time.
It can really hit home when it happens to us, or our friends, or our family.
Things like:
Losing your job
Finding out your partner has been cheating on you
Being demoted
Finding out your car has broken down
Losing money in an investment
Your start up failing
Your established business failing
Having an accident
Getting an illness
It can sting right?
Conventional wisdom might be to "think positive", or something of the sort.
But I say that can hinder as much as help.
If you "think positive", all your dreams come true. Or "think positive" and
your business will succeed. Or "think positive" and you'll be healthy...well, if
you don't achieve these things, you end up feeling even worse.
Why is it that I was positive and yet my start up failed?
Why is it that I was positive and yet I got ill?
Why is it that I was positive and yet I didn't achieve my goal?
With this approach, you don't see the graveyard of people that did the
same as you and failed. You only see the winners.
And it's a vicious cycle. Is it me? Am I an idiot? I must be! And so on.
So you've got to reconcile yourself with the fact that not all things go your
way. That's not the same thing as not trying. On the contrary, it's trying and
robustifying yourself to any negative outcome, allowing yourself to try again
much quicker.
2. How?
Well at its core, Stoicism teaches us two central tenets:
1. It is not events themselves that affect you. It is your interpretation
of those events that upset you.
2. The only things you have control over in your life are your thoughts
and your actions. That is all.
These statements are not trivial. In fact, with a little analysis, they are
hugely powerful.
It is not events themselves that affect you. It is your interpretation of
those events that upset you.
If someone calls you an asshole, it is not him calling you an asshole that
upsets you, it's your interpretation of it.
"Why would he call me that?" "That's really horrible!" "I'm a good person,
why would he say that?!"
Or if a business venture fails, it is not the failing that upsets you, but your
interpretation of it.
"I'm a failure." "My family are going to think I'm an idiot." "No one is going to
hire me." "I can't believe I couldn't do this when X could."
Put another way: An Event Happens, Then You Interpret it.
Consider this: If someone writes something terrible about you - you're a
terrible boss, an inconsiderate lover, or you've never heard of Hugh Lawrie.
Well, if you never read those words, do you think you'd be angry? Or
upset? Or unsure? Of course not! You've not had a chance to interpret
them yet!
So it's how we interpret things that piss us off! Our stories.
So to create a paradigm shift, we need to change the stories we tell
ourselves.
3. The only things you have control over in your life are your thoughts
and your actions. That is all.
Daniel Kahneman, the nobel prize winning psychologist, noted that we
have two selves. We have the experiencing self - that's you right now,
doing things in the present. And we have the remembering self - that's you
reflecting on and interpreting what happened to you.
Can you guess which self Kahneman found to be far more significant in
determining our happiness? You got it, the remembering self.
That is, how we remember those things that have happened to us.
Which is great news, because the only things you have control over are
your thoughts and your actions. Not other people's judgements, not the
weather, not unfortuntate circumstances that have arrived as a result of a
huge complex web of events and decision making.
And so the truth is, where you are right now is where you are right now.
If someone is hating on you, practice kindness.
If you got demoted, practice humility.
If your start up didn't work, practice creativity and resourcefulness - how
can you make the most of what you have now to take a step forward.
4. And so you see the tidbit of information that Seneca gives us at the start of
this post is hugely empowering.
Events happen. They do. They are largely out of our control. But we don't
have to let them affect us negatively. Instead, we can use them to practice
some virtue, to continue to better ourselves. There is no constraint to live
under constraint. Don't carry that with you. Instead, as Ryan Holiday says,
let the Obstacle become the way.