Codependent connections cause heartache, but learning to stand on our own two fee while still having a healthy interdependence with others can free us from the chance of codependency.

1. The Puzzle of Codepency

2. Some people are like puzzle pieces, always
looking to connect with others.

3. Nothing feels better than a perfect fit.

4. But unlike puzzle pieces, people grow and change.
What once fit may no longer connect. This leads to
anger, frustration and sadness.

5. Sometimes we may pretend something is a
perfect fit when it really isn’t.

6. Sometimes we may look for another puzzle
piece.

7. Sometimes we may end up alone.

8. Puzzle pieces need other puzzle pieces, but
circles are complete on their own.

9. Circles can be with puzzle pieces and still be
content.

10. Circles can be with other circles and still be
content.

11. Circles can be alone and still be content.

12. The process of changing from a puzzle piece into a circle
can be difficult and painful, but the results can be
amazing. One way to become a circle is to create good
boundaries. When a puzzle piece asks you to meet its
unmet needs, you can say no.

13. You don’t have to be mean. Just be honest. You
don’t want or need unhealthy connections.

14. Another way to become a circle is to recognize
that all you need is within you. Give yourself the
love and friendship you desire from others. Treat
yourself with kindness.
Love
Joy
Peace
Strength
Wisdom

15. When you find another circle, you can roll
together.

16. A good relationship isn’t two halves that make a
whole; it’s two wholes that make a better whole.

17. Codependency hurts,

18. but wholeness heals.