Finding something for everyone is the key to a happy holiday. 
When you space your three ba...

1. Thailand: Travelling with teens - Travel
Finding something for everyone is the key to a happy holiday.
When you space your three babies four years apart, you (rightly) don't consider family holidays down
the track, but those gaps mean finding a holiday to suit everyone is a bit of a trick. With our oldest,
Ella, overseas shortly I wanted one last holiday for "the tight five".
James,
Ella and Graeme on the shores of James Bond Island. Photo / SuppliedFinding a destination
When your brood are sub 10, find a pool with kids' club activities and you're there. However,
servicing the needs of the 'rents (parents, for those of you without teens), as well as the 20, 16 and
12-year-olds is more challenging, but it's a family holiday so it's the familiar art of compromise. Our
agreed wish list: warm, about 10 hours flying, a good pool, a different culture to explore, shopping
and free WiFi. Answer this time around? Bangkok and Phuket. I once heard the holiday is only about
20 per cent of the enjoyment - the rest is planning and memories. I think there's merit there. It was
fun looking at options together - the smallest one liked the slides, the biggest one the shopping.
Then it comes down to maths - our family of five means two rooms and five adult airfares.
Ahh!
Costing it and finding the right property
I got a package-deal quote then compared things myself to make sure we got best value for money,
plus a good experience. I trawled Expedia, Booking.com and the hotel and airline sites, as well as my
old fave - Sky scanner. I left the international flights with the travel agent - not going on a direct
flight saved a few bob as long as the connections were quick. I went on Seatguru (another favourite)
to search seating, then booked the seats.
I couldn't replicate the deals at the two Bangkok hotels from the agent, but I sourced cheaper
domestic flights, paying $140 a person for a Bangkok/Phuket return versus $271, and put the
savings towards Phuket accommodation. The busy Patong properties have the beach across the
road, but Karon and Kata properties are a little quieter and beachfront. I booked direct through the

2. hotel as it was more economical.
We chose a property that had adult and child pools. The oldest one lived at the adult pool, enjoying
the infinity aspect and serenity of her book, the youngest liked the thought of the kids' pool and Mr
in-between opted for the adult pool. We found the generic hotel buffet with a family this age not
worth the money on the night we tried it (we had to stay in with an ill child) and I imagine that's true
of most hotels.
A newly
braided Rosie Dobson surveys Bangkok. Photo / Supplied
Our best dinner in Phuket was local and family-run - yummy and inexpensive. It was four doors down
from the "beauty" salon we girls found where a 60-minute massage was $15 each and the youngest
got her hair braided.
You need to explore to grasp the reality of a destination, plus it's cheaper than resort life - though I
suspect some families never leave, which does nothing for a youngster's education. Even the chaotic
power wires are an education.
Things to do
With the smallest one unwell for much of the time, my husband took the teens exploring. They drove
as far south as they could to see the end of the island one day - hoofing off up tracks to windswept
lookouts.
They drove north to Phang Nga National Park then hired a longtail boat just for them ($150 for four
hours) to see "James Bond Island" - the site of The Man with the Golden Gun movie (we watched bits
of it that night to see where they'd been).
Horrified by the number of tourists, daughter insisted they move out far enough for a photo with her
trusty Go Pro that made it look like they were lonelier. Next stop was Panyee stilt village where they
reckon they had the best Pad See Ew on the trip, albeit feeling very aware of the inhabitants'
subsistence existence.
Big Buddha is also worth a visit. It's some 20 minutes south of Karon and is just that - a Big Buddha
on top of a hill. Views are magnificent and if you need any confirmation that Buddism is alive and

3. well in Thailand this will do it for you. That and all the signs giving priority seating, toilets and
special areas just for monks in many places.
Khao
Phing Kan island is known 'James Bond Island' for its starring role in The Man with the Golden Gun.
Photo / iStock.
We intentionally did not stop on the drive up to visit the elephants you could ride on or the monkeys
you could have a photo with. That's just wrong, all wrong.
We did however find a great restaurant where you felt like you were eating in the treetops.
The Gibbon Rehabilitation Project in the tropical rainforest at Bang Pae waterfall is also worth a visit
to open your eyes to the baseness of human behaviour.
We chose to go here to see a monkey and hear their sad, but enlightening stories. For every baby
gibbon ripped away from its mother, usually at least three gibbon families die - older ones trying to
protect them, other babies falling from high trees. On average, Thailand loses 3000 a year to hunters
who sell them as pets (once mature they're often not wanted) or they become tourist photo fodder.
Many come in with hepatitis, as owners use dirty needles to sedate them, even though they are
chained up. Spend your money in the rehabilitation centre's gift shop to help rather than have your
photo taken with a gibbon and adding to the obscenity.
A Bangkok river ferry and tuk tuk ride (sort the price first for the tuk tuk) is a tick-the-box
experience for all ages. The river affords all sorts of experiences - a walk up the steep Wat Arun, the
night markets (our older two became great bargainers there and at the MBK shopping mall) and a
connection to the MRT (rail) system, which is clean and efficient, but crowded.
If you're visiting any temples make sure you're dressed appropriately - we were fine for all but The
Grand Palace, where rules are strict. They're okay with men's long pants and shoes and socks, but
both genders' shoulders should be covered (a sarong is not good enough) and women should wear
long skirts. Our 12-year-old daughter was problematic. While a child in all other places, she was a
woman here. We got through the first check and bought tickets, but she was taller than the arbitrary
line on the stick at the main entry (I'd say about 8-year-old height). We went outside and bought a $5
skirt rather than wait 90 minutes in the heat to borrow clothes as others were.

4. Jude
Dobson and her daughter Ella on holiday in Thailand. Photo / Supplied
All in all a good trip for the tight five, but to satisfy all ages on a trip I reckon you've all got to
compromise a bit, split up sometimes and have a story to remember with your photos and videos.
Make sure you download offline maps to get around. I must write to Bangkok Airport and ask it to
rectify the upside down New Zealand on its world map.
Jude Dobson is a long-standing television presenter and the producer of the Raising Children video
parenting resource at raisingchildren.org.nz. Download the free Raising Children app.
- Herald on Sunday