Teamwork in marriage

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TEAMWORK IN
MARRIAGE
There is no competition in the home. A
husband and wife work as a team.
Everybody ought to know that the husband
and wife are to function as a team.

Wednesday, Jan
uary 01, 2014

What is there in Marriage in
2014?
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As we start off the Year 2014, I see a
bright future as regards the
institution of marriage, When we are
in the home, working as a team in
our marriage, we will strengthen our
relationship and commitment to
each other; we will be there for each
other and any attempt by our enemy
will be defeated as we will be
working as a team. There is power in
Wednesday, January 01, 2014

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Ephesians 5:23-33
The husband provides leadership to his wife
the way Christ does to his church, not by
domineering but by cherishing. So just as the
church submits to Christ as he exercises such
leadership, wives should likewise submit to
their husbands. Husbands, go all out in your
love for your wives, exactly as Christ did for
the church--a love marked by giving, not
getting. Christ's love makes the church whole.
His words evoke her beauty. Everything he
does and says is designed to bring the best

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And that is how husbands ought to love their
wives. They're really doing themselves a
favor--since they're already "one" in
marriage. No one abuses his own body, does
he? No, he feeds and pampers it. That's how
Christ treats us, the church, since we are part
of his body. And this is why a man leaves
father and mother and cherishes his wife. No
longer two, they become "one flesh." This is
a huge mystery, and I don't pretend to
understand it all. What is clearest to me is
the way Christ treats the church. And this
provides a good picture of how Wednesday, January 01, 2014
each
husband is to treat his wife, loving himself in

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We are discussing an attitude and
a matter of the heart. We are also
focusing attention on a
relationship. We can say that we
are studying an attitude of heart
that should be demonstrated in a
specific relationship.

What is a team?
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What is a team? The word is not
used in the Bible with reference to
marriage even though the concept
is there as we shall discover. A
team consists of people working
together, yoked
together, coupled, linked and
cooperating for the common good.
Webster defines the word and

Different Yokes
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The word “yoke” can be
understood in terms of a burden or
an unbearable load as Paul used it
in Second Corinthians 6:14, “Be ye
not unequally yoked together with
unbelievers." Or It can be
understood to refer to a beautiful
and intimate relationship of favor
as Jesus used it in His invitation

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In Matthew 11:28-20. “Come unto
me, all ye that labor and are heavy
laden and I will give you rest. Take
my yoke upon you and learn of
me, for I am meek and lowly in
heart, and ye shall find rest unto
your souls. For my yoke is
easy, and my burden is light.”

Being yoked in marriage requires
agreement. Amos stated the great
principle in Amos 3:3, “Can two walk
together except they be
agreed?” Teamwork demands:
 1. Consideration,
 2.Communication,
 3. Consultation,
 4. Cooperation,

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In marriage there must be the
inclusion of Christ. Without these
essentials the team simply cannot
and will not function as its
Originator intended.


Originally
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It was God’s original and present
purpose that the husband and wife
function as a team, not
separately, but as a complement to
each other. Genesis 2:18,“And the
Lord God said, It is not good that
the man should be alone; I will
make him an help meet for him."

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Marriage is a blessing given to
mankind by God. If we could
summarize marriage with one
word, we would choose the word
“companionship.” This is what
God intends in marriage.


Several Biblical Phrases Show
Teamwork
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Gen. 2: 24 Therefore shall a man
leave his father and his
mother, and shall cleave unto
his wife; and they shall be one
flesh.


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This teaching concerning marriage
was repeated by Jesus Christ
when He gave His will concerning
marriage (Matthew 19:1-9). His will
is as God planned and designed it
from the beginning. All men
everywhere are accountable to
God through the teaching of Christ
in this matter as in all others (John

Composition of the Team
Notice the team is composed of a
husband and wife, not merely a man
and a woman, nor a man and
women, nor a woman and men, nor a
man and man, nor woman and
woman.
 Teamwork of husband and wife is
seen in the phrase, “bone of my
bones and flesh of my flesh.”
 Teamwork is seen in the phrase, “one

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God made man and woman of the
same kind. They were two distinct
personalities blended into one
satisfying unit for the physical and
part of the spiritual needs of both.
It is as stated in Proverbs thirtyone, “He trusts her... He praises
her... She will do him
good.” (Verses 11,12,28).


The Closest Relationship
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This team is closer than the tie
between parent and child. They were
to leave and cleave one to the other.
Prime allegiance belongs to each
other above even the close tie of
parent and child.
 We are to love our mates first before
everything except God. The beautiful
truth is that when we love God first
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Husbands and wives are
interdependent on each
other. “For the man is not of the
woman, but the woman of the man.
Neither was the man created for
the woman, but the woman for the
man. Nevertheless neither is the
man without the woman, neither
the woman without the man. in the
Lord. For as the woman is of
man, even so is man also by the


Anti-Marriage
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Some people complain that in
marriage you lose your
individuality. We can never
completely lose our individuality.
We shall stand as individuals
before God in the judgment (2
Corinthians 5:10). But in any
human relationship, including
marriage, there is the sacrifice of


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In marriage each is an individual with
distinctive roles for which each is
especially made to fulfill. We should
assist each other in fulfilling these
God-given roles in life. Neither is the
master of himself or herself, but each
seeks the highest good of the unit.
This is what “agape” or love
embodies and involves.

What Teamwork Requires
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Teamwork in marriage requires :
 1. Compatibility,
 2. Companionship,
 3. Nearness,
 4. Personal involvement,
 5. Cooperation,
 6. Also Christ.
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We need to understand that any
disposition of marriage that omits
God cannot be what marriage is
intended to be.
 There are three involved
in marriage, not just a man and a
woman. There must be the
inclusion of the
Designer, Originator and Giver of
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Marriage is not merely a social
relationship, economic
arrangement, or just a legal
contract. It is a holy, sacred, Godgiven relationship. Without God in
marriage it is lacking in a basic
fundamental ingredient.

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This attitude of teamwork must
manifest itself in a number of
areas. Husbands and wives are
like a lock and key, or two blades
of scissors. They cannot and do
not function properly by
themselves.

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There is teamwork in the conjugal or
sexual relationship. Paul
wrote, “Nevertheless, to avoid
fornication, let every man have his
own wife, and let every woman have
her own husband” (1 Corinthians 7:2).


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There should be teamwork in the
rearing of children. Genesis 1:28 tells
us that God blessed THEM and said to
THEM to be fruitful and replenish the
earth. Both have a duty, not only in
bringing the child into the world, but
also in the upbringing, training and
care of the child. This includes setting
goals, priorities, discipline and
provision. The child is not my child 01, 2014
or
Wednesday, January
your child, but “our child.”

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There should be oneness in handling
the finances of the home. This is a
source of problems among many.
Some talk about “her money and his
money.” This is foolish. You may not
agree, but you need to consider this
point more seriously. Money problems
have caused much strife in marriages.
An understanding that in marriage it is
no longer “me, my, mine,” nor “you
and yours,” but it becomesWednesday, January 01, 2014
“we, us, ours” in everything.

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Teamwork demands loyalty to one
another. This would eliminate many
problems. Nobody from outside the
marriage can intrude into a
marriage where husband and wife
are loyal to each other. This
includes having and showing
respect for each other’s
feelings, refusing to embarrass and

Joined Together For Life
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Teamwork in marriage means you
are together for life, in good times,
bad times, sharing joys, sorrows,
loads, burdens, in sickness or
health, adversity or prosperity, not
pulling apart, not pulling against,
but pulling with each other. It is a
case of “me and you against the
world.”


The Basics in Marriage
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Teamwork in marriage means
being united in THE FAITH. It is not
enough to be united in a faith, but
THE FAITH. Both ought to be
Christians as the Bible teaches.
 The best team is one composed of
a Christian husband and a
Christian wife.
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We need to teach our young, as
many of us have been taught, that
the primary goal in marriage is to
help each other get to heaven. This
is a statement of Peter, “...dwell
with them... as heirs together of the
grace of life” (1 Peter 3:7).
Recognize that you both are
precious souls, precious to each
other and precious to God.


Leadership of the Team
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Every team must have a leader. In
God’s plan the husband is the leader
of the home. This does not please
everyone. But it pleases all who love
God (Ephesians 5:23).
 Unless the God-designed team
functions as God has designed
it, Satan will run in some substitutes
that will destroy everyone involved.
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Value of Experience
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Experience makes the team more
effective. This is true in sports. It is
also true in marriage. You learn to
think alike, work
smoothly, understand each
other, grow together, where one
stands, two stand, and share
together.

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The newlyweds are not so well
suited for each other as they shall
become as they go through life
together.


Finally
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God’s team consists of a husband
and wife, living together, loving
God and each other, in the
oneness of marriage, and in Christ.
 Each being there for the other.
This will indeed bring joy and
stability in that marriage.
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