The document discusses how stress from aging can diminish romance in our lives. It notes that as we approach our 40s, 50s and 60s, the feeling that there is much left to enjoy and achieve while time runs out can make us feel like losers and unromantic. However, taking a holistic approach to health, fitness, diet and engaging in philanthropic activities through middle and old age can help us age in a more romantic way. The document suggests that failing to see the importance of a holistic perspective and instead thinking in a narrow or sectarian way may prevent us from rejuvenating ourselves and finding romance in aging. It posits that allowing ego or relationship prejudices to cloud our view can inhibit

1. STRESS
AND
AGING
ROMANTIC
DR.
SHRINIWAS
KASHALIKAR

2. Stress of aging is usually associated with dwindling of
efficiency of all the body systems and organs including
reproductive system and gonads; and debility,
dependence, disease, despondence, despair, decreased
income, and dejection; which are frightening. Most
importantly this stress makes us indifferent and listless.
The romance in our life gets dissipated.
The scenario of aging appears almost unavoidable and
insurmountable; to many of us bordering the 40s, 50s
and 60s; if we have not yet “enjoyed” or “accomplished”
to our satisfaction. This feeling of “much to be enjoyed
and achieved; while time is running out” makes us losers
and unromantic.
The guides in print and electronic media on fitness, home
remedies, diet, exercise, yogasanas, entertainment,
hobbies and charitable activities are in plenty. The
guidance in all these is valuable for us to improve health,
avoid disease, preserve independence, develop fitness,
enhance performance, stamina, flexibility, power, speed,
coordination, physical form, looks etc. and also engage in
philanthropy so as to age romantic. We take regular
bath, eat green leafy vegetables and sprouted beans and
other nutritionally rich foods, drink cow milk with halad

3. [turmeric] and sunth [dried ginger], practice pranayama,
exercises, yogasanas, joyously entertain themselves and
others through our hobbies, and do lot of philanthropic
work so as to age romantic.
But we have to introspect and find out why we fail to age
romantic!
Is it because do not se the relevance; of the holistic
perspective, policy making and its implementation; in
romance?
Do majority of us tend to think in a sectarian and
fragmented manner, (especially when they are not
criminals, vicious or bad as such) and lose romance?
Is it because the holistic perspective; is not being studied,
understood, assimilated, promoted and propagated
adequately; thereby keeping our souls dry and devoid of
the ambrosia of romance? If yes; why is this so?
Is this because the holistic perspective is not recognized
as the urgent necessity for but our own hearts, souls and
conscience; besides the basic needs of billions?

4. Do we not feel that holistic perspective, policies,
programs, plans and their implementation; can quench
our innate cores and are equally or even more important
than many of our needs?
What is the reason for such unawareness about the dire
need of understanding, practice and propagation of
holistic perspective, policies, plans, programs and their
implementation in revitalizing the sublime romance in
us?
What is the reason for the dearth of motivation amongst
us; who are apparently intelligent, kind hearted and well
meaning; in rejuvenating ourselves with this cosmic
romance of holistic perspective?
Is the reason of aging pathetically hidden in our ego, our
passionate involvement in our subjective self identity, our
strong and selective sentiments about our own bodily,
emotional, intellectual and other considerations?
Does our ego prevent us from zealously acquiring and
sharing the objective romance?

5. Do we choose to remain content or unhappy in our
subjective “achievements” or “failures” respectively and
tend to ignore the sap of the romance of being objectively
benevolent?
Are we unable to see the benevolence of objective
romance because of undue egoistic apprehension and
judgmental attitude; about the “shortcomings or
drawbacks” of our partners?
Are we unable to rise above our relationship/s and
prejudices, centered on ego and reach out to the
romantic core of the other persons?
Do we; more often than not; ridicule and oppose such
efforts of sharing objective or holistic romance; actively
or passively and overtly or covertly; and knowingly or
unknowingly; and boost the ego centered sectarian and
retrogressive forces? Do we infect the others also; with
our cynicism?
Is it true that frequently our ego is associated with; not
merely our material success in terms of popularity,
power or prosperity; but even our egalitarianism, and

6. righteousness, thereby rendering us obnoxiously
unromantic and repulsive?
Are we unable to penetrate and rise above the “clouds of
our ego” and enjoy the “romantic sky of universal
unity”?
Is it because we are unable “see” and even strive for the
magnanimity of the romance beyond our ego?
Is it because we do not try to realize; the role of holistic
and objective wisdom born out of NAMASMARAN; in
rejuvenating, revitalizing and reorienting us to our true
self which is in continuity with the cosmic romance?
Can we not appreciate the super romance involved in
realization of true self and its expression for individual
and global blossoming; and thus age romantic?
Don’t we realize that the eternal romance called
RUHANI ISHK keeps on blossoming like the unending
ambrosia permanently engrained in our brain, and is
beyond ego and body capacity?

7. Don’t we realize that NAMASMARAN and the Total
Stress Management (the holistic perspective, policies,
programs, planning and their implementation) are vital
in aging sublimely and immortally romantic; even if sex
hormones, genitals, muscles, which are preliminary and
peripheral means or tools of reproduction and initiation
of the romance, reduced?