Shame-based self care is crap. There is a better way!

1. ! HI, I’M LIZA!

2. BUT DON’T TAKE
MY WORD FOR IT. . .

3. DIRECT
EXPERIENCE
IS THE ONLY
CONFIRMATION

4. the first part
WE HAVE A
SELF CARE
PROBLEM

5. CAN YOU RELATE
TO THIS?

6. Live
Laugh
Love

7. Dress Stylishly
Live
Laugh
Love
Pay Taxes
Keep a Clean House
Be Sexy
But Not Too Sexy
Get Regular Manis
Make Healthy Meals
Be a Good Wife
Cleanse
Have White Teeth
Meditate
Work Out
Post to Insta
Have a Flat Stomach
Do Yoga
Use Essential Oils

8. Dress Stylishly
Live
Laugh
Love
Pay Taxes
Keep a Clean House
Be Sexy
But Not Too Sexy
Get Regular Manis
Make Healthy Meals
Be a Good Wife
Cleanse
Have White Teeth
Meditate
Work Out
Post to Insta
Have a Flat Stomach
Do Yoga
Use Essential OilsKEEP EVERYONE
HAPPY
BE GRATEFUL
ABOUT IT "#

9. 50%
INCREASE IN PEOPLE
DOING YOGA IN JUST
FOUR YEARS

10. 40%
OF ADULTS IN THE US
MEDITATE AT LEAST
ONCE A WEEK

11. 264 MILLION
PEOPLE WORLDWIDE
HAVE ANXIETY
DISORDERS

12. 100%MORE LIKELY THAN
MEN TO HAVE
DIAGNOSED ANXIETY
WOMEN ARE

13. 80%
OF PEOPLE
WITH CHRONIC ILLNESS
ARE WOMEN

14. IT IS NO MEASURE
OF HEALTH TO BE
WELL ADJUSTED TO A
PROFOUNDLY SICK SOCIETY
Jiddu Krishnamurti

15. the second part
HOW DID THIS
HAPPEN?

16. HOW DID THIS HAPPEN?
IT’S ABOUT FIXING
IT’S BIG BUSINESS
IT’S SYSTEMIC
BUT SOME OF THIS IS ON US

17. SADNESS AND OTHER
DIFFICULT EMOTIONS
ARE THINGS TO BE
SOLVED
We are told…

18. ANXIETY IS A FLAW
We are told…

19. GRIEF IS TO BE FIXED
OR MOVED ON FROM
We are told…

20. GRIEF IS NOT
A PROBLEM
TO BE SOLVED
Megan Devine, It’s OK That You’re Not OK

21. WE ARE A PROJECT:
WE SHOULD “WORK
ON OURSELVES”
We are told…

22. THIS IS SHAME-BASED
SELF CARE

24. WHO WE ARE AND
WHAT WE HAVE IS
NEVER ENOUGH
In this kind of “self care”:

25. WE ALWAYS SEEK
SOMETHING
DIFFERENT
In this kind of “self care”:

26. WE FOCUS ON WHAT
WE WANT TO CHANGE
In this kind of “self care”:

27. WE WORK OUT TO
CHANGE OUR BODIES
In this kind of “self care”:

28. SELF AGGRESSION
MASQUERADES AS SELF
ACCEPTANCE
In this kind of “self care”:

29. “THEY” HAVE THE
ANSWERS
In this kind of “self care”:

30. SHAME-BASED SELF
CARE IS CRAP
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31. SHAME-BASED SELF
CARE IS CRAP
BETTERING YOURSELF
IS A TRAP
&
$

32. The truth is:
EVERY PART OF YOU
IS VALID

33. YOU ARE DOING THE
BEST YOU CAN WITH
YOUR AVAILABLE
RESOURCES
The truth is:

34. YOU ARE COMPLETE,
WHOLE, AND WORTHY
OF LOVE JUST AS YOU
ARE RIGHT NOW
The truth is:

35. THERE IS NO THERE,
THERE IS NO THEN;
THERE IS ONLY NOW
The truth is:

36. ANYONE WHO WANTS
TO FIX YOU,
THINKS THAT YOU ARE
BROKEN
The truth is:

37. YOU DON’T NEED
TO BE FIXED
BECAUSE YOU
ARE NOT BROKEN

38. HOW DID THIS HAPPEN?
IT’S ABOUT FIXING
IT’S BIG BUSINESS
IT’S SYSTEMIC
BUT SOME OF THIS IS ON US

39. HOW DID THIS HAPPEN?
IT’S ABOUT FIXING
IT’S BIG BUSINESS
IT’S SYSTEMIC
BUT SOME OF THIS IS ON US

40. “WELLNESS” IS NOW A
$4.2 TRILLION
INDUSTRY

41. THE WELLNESS
INDUSTRIAL COMPLEX
%

42. CONSTANT STRIVING IS
BUILT IN

43. CONSTANT STRIVING IS BUILT IN
THE PLANNED
OBSOLESCENCE OF THE
WELLNESS WORLD

44. GOOD ENOUGH IS
NEVER GOOD ENOUGH
CONSTANT STRIVING IS BUILT IN

45. “MADE FOR MORE” IS A
SLAM MASQUERADING
AS A PEP TALK
CONSTANT STRIVING IS BUILT IN

46. NO OFF-RAMPS,
NO END
CONSTANT STRIVING IS BUILT IN

47. YOU HAVE BEEN CRITICIZING YOURSELF
FOR YEARS AND IT HASN’T WORKED.
TRY APPROVING OF YOURSELF
AND SEE WHAT HAPPENS.
Louise L. Hay

48. YOU CAN’T HATE
YOURSELF
INTO SOMEONE
YOU CAN LOVE

49. PEOPLE ARE FULL OF
GOOD INTENTIONS
CRAP

50. HUGE, UNREGULATED
BUSINESS BRINGS
EVERYONE TO THE
WELL
People are full of crap:

51. HIGHLY GENERALIZED
FORMULAS FOR
INDIVIDUAL BODIES
AND SOULS
People are full of crap:

52. THE CULT OF
“IT WORKED FOR ME
SO IT WILL WORK FOR
YOU”
People are full of crap:
&

53. SELF-APPOINTED
GURU CULTURE
People are full of crap:

54. SPIRITUAL
BYPASSING
%

55. HOW DID THIS HAPPEN?
IT’S ABOUT FIXING
IT’S BIG BUSINESS
IT’S SYSTEMIC
BUT SOME OF THIS IS ON US

56. HOW DID THIS HAPPEN?
IT’S ABOUT FIXING
IT’S BIG BUSINESS
IT’S SYSTEMIC
BUT SOME OF THIS IS ON US

57. REAL SYSTEMIC
PROBLEMS ARE
MASKED AS PERSONAL
PROBLEMS TO BE
SOLVED

58. MAKE 78¢
FOR A MAN’S DOLLAR?
OR 53¢?
Hustle harder!

59. LITERALLY AN
IMPOSSIBLE AMOUNT
TO DO IN A DAY?
Optimize your morning routine!

60. THERE ARE DARK
IMPLICATIONS IN MAKING
EVERYTHING A MATTER OF
PERSONAL RESPONSIBILITY
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61. IS THIS PERSONAL?
OR IS IT CULTURAL?
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62. BALANCE
IS BULLSH*T

63. HOW DID THIS HAPPEN?
IT’S ABOUT FIXING
IT’S BIG BUSINESS
IT’S SYSTEMIC
BUT SOME OF THIS IS ON US

64. HOW DID THIS HAPPEN?
IT’S ABOUT FIXING
IT’S BIG BUSINESS
IT’S SYSTEMIC
BUT SOME OF THIS IS ON US

65. THE SECOND ARROW
%

67. HOW DID THIS HAPPEN?
IT’S ABOUT FIXING
IT’S BIG BUSINESS
IT’S SYSTEMIC
BUT SOME OF THIS IS ON US

68. YOU ARE
COMPLETE,
JUST NOT FINISHED

70. the third part
THERE IS A
BETTER WAY

71. TRUE SELF CARE
IS NOT ABOUT
CHANGING,
IT’S ABOUT LOVING.

72. ACCEPT > CHANGE
LOVE > FIX
PAUSE > EFFORT

73. IS GROUNDING
IS CENTERING
IS SPACIOUS
WELCOMES WHAT IS WITH KINDNESS
True self care…

74. YOUR WISDOM
LIVES IN
YOUR BODY

76. ANXIETY
CAN BE A FRIEND
%

77. THE SEVEN PATHS
TO SELF CARE
&

78. THE SEVEN PATHS TO SELF CARE
1. MINDFUL
MOVEMENT
2. MEDITATION
3. BREATHING
4. TIME SPENT IN
NATURE
5. BALANCING CREATION
WITH CONSUMPTION
6. CREATING SPACE
7. USING TECHNOLOGY
MINDFULLY

79. LET’S START
RIGHT NOW

80. BREATHING

81. OUT BREATH >
IN BREATH

82. 5-7-8 BREATHS

83. MEDITATION
&

84. 2 MINUTE MEDITATION

85. EAR WARMTH

86. FEEL OUR FEET

87. HEART ❤ CENTER

88. TRUE SELF CARE
IS NOT ABOUT
CHANGING,
IT’S ABOUT LOVING.

89. IT’S ABOUT COMING TO
SOMETHING WHOLLY VERSUS
THINKING IT WILL MAKE YOU
WHOLE
April Kling Meyer

90. ) good rule of thumb
LOVE YOURSELF
THE WAY YOU WOULD
LOVE SOMEONE YOU
LOVE *

91. LOVE YOURSELF
THE WAY YOU WOULD
LOVE SOMEONE YOU
LOVE
*

92. the last part
CONCLUSION

93. THE MOST
IMPORTANT THING
AT ANY TIME
IS TO BE GENTLE
WITH YOURSELF

94. YOU ARE
COMPLETE,
JUST NOT FINISHED

95. FREE RESOURCES
EFFThisMeditation.com/DSDN
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