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mvB‡Kv mvBevi‡bwUKm| mvB‡Kv A_© n‡”Q gb Avi mvBevi‡bwUKm A_© n‡”Q wb‡R‡K A_©vr gb‡K
wewfbœ ai‡bi wdWe¨vK w`‡q wbqš¿b Kivi cÖwµqv| Avgv‡ì gb me mgq wewfbœ welq wb‡q wPšÍv K‡i|
c‡RwUf Ges †b‡MwUf wPšÍvi †K›`ªwe›`y n‡”Q Avgv‡ì gb| Avgiv me mgq †hfv‡e wPšÍv Kwi †mB wPšÍvB
Avgv‡ì‡K cv_©K¨ m„wó K‡i †`q| GKRb gvbyl mdj - KviY †m wb‡R‡K mdjfv‡e wPšÍv K‡i‡Q; Aci
c‡ÿ GKRb gvbyl e¨_© KviY †m wb‡R‡K mdjfv‡e wPšÍv Ki‡Z cv‡iwb| gvbyl me mgq `yÕai‡Yi wPšÍv
K‡i|
1. BwZevPK wPšÍv
2. †bwZevPK wPšÍv
wKQz gvbyl Av‡Q mewKQz‡ZB †bwZevPK wPšÍv K‡i| †bwZevPK wPšÍvi gvbyl‡ì Rxe‡b mdjZvi
†Quvqv †g‡j bv| wKQz gvbyl Av‡Q me mgq BwZevPK wPšÍv K‡i, †mRb¨ Zviv A‡bK †ÿ‡ÎB mdjZv
AR©b Ki‡Z cv‡i| Kxfv‡e c‡RwUf †mjd B‡gR m„wó K‡i mdjZv AR©b Kiv hvq †m m¤úwK©Z
Z_¨ e¨vL¨v Kiv nq mvB‡Kv mvBevi‡bwUKm cÖwµqvi gva¨‡g|
cÖ‡Z¨K gvby‡li Rxe‡bi me‡P‡q ¸iæZ¡c~Y© welq¸‡jvi GKwU n‡”Q - Avcwb wb‡R‡K Kxfv‡e †`‡Lb wKsev
†Kvb `„wó‡Z †`‡Lb? cÖ‡Z¨K gvby‡li Rxe‡b mdjZv AR©‡bi Rb¨ †gŠwjK Ges kw³kvjx c‡RwUf †mjd
B‡gR LyeB ìKvi| gvbyl Lye ¯^vfvweK fv‡eB wb‡Ri †mjd B‡gR cwieZ©b Ki‡Z cv‡i|
†mjd B‡gR cwieZ©‡bi Rb¨ ìKvi BwZevPK wPšÍvfvebv| BwZevPK wPšÍvfvebv _vK‡j Aek¨B
†b‡MwUf †mjd B‡gR‡K cwieZ©b K‡i c‡RwUf †mjd B‡g‡R cwieZ©b Kiv m¤¢e| gb‡K ˆZwi
Ki‡Z n‡e BwZevPK wPšÍvi †K›`ªwe›`y wn‡m‡e| gb hLb BwZevPK wPšÍvi †K›`ªwe›`y n‡q DV‡e gb

ZLb mdjZv AR©‡bi Rb¨ Avgv‡ì‡K wPšÍvfvebv, Kvh©µg‡K DÏxwcZ Ki‡e| c‡RwUf †mjd
B‡gR‡K ejv nq mdjZvi Ab¨Zg cÖavb PvweKvwV|
†mjd Kb‡mÞ `ywU welq wb‡q m„wó nq|
(1) †mjd B‡gR ev wbR¯^ fveg~wZ©
(2) †mjd GmwUg ev AvZœgh©v`v
hwÌ wewfbœ Kvi‡Y gvby‡li †mjd Kb‡m‡Þi g‡a¨ cwieZ©b Avm‡Z cv‡i|
c„w_exi mKj mdj gvbyl‡ì mdjZvi g~jwfwË n‡”Q Zv‡ì wb‡R‡ì †gŠwjK fveg~wZ© ev c‡RwUf †mjd
B‡gR| A‡b‡Ki g‡a¨B †mjd B‡gR ev wbR¯^ fveg~wZ© wb‡q wKQy A¯úó avibv Av‡Q|
Z‡e, GKRb mdj gvby‡li wbR¯^ fveg~wZ© me©`v fvj wKsev DËg _vKvB DwPZ| Kxfv‡e GKRb gvby‡li
†mjd B‡gR me mgq fv‡jv ivLv hvq wKsev e„w× Kiv hvq? G cÖ‡kœi DËi †Ìqvi Rb¨ cÖ_‡gB Av‡jvPbv
Ki‡Z n‡e, †mjd B‡gR ej‡Z Avgiv wK eywS?
†mjd B‡gR n‡”Q -
# Avcwb wb‡R‡K Kxfv‡e wKsev †Kvb `„wó‡Z †`‡Lb?
# Avcwb wb‡R‡K KZUzKz wek¦vm K‡ib?
# Avcwb wb‡R‡K Kv‡iv mv‡_ Kxfv‡e Zzjbv K‡ib?
# Avcwb wb‡Ri m¤ú‡K© wK eb©bv K‡ib?
# Avcwb wb‡Ri m¤ú‡K© wK avibv iv‡Lb?
# Avcwb wb‡Ri m¤ú‡K© Kxfv‡e gZvgZ cÖKvk K‡ib?

Ab¨fv‡e ej‡Z †M‡j, †mjd B‡gR n‡”Q mewKQz -
# hv Avcwb me mgq wb‡Ri m¤ú‡K© wPšÍv K‡ib
# hv Avcwb me mgq wb‡Ri m¤ú‡K© wek¦vm K‡ib
# hv Avcwb me mgq wb‡Ri Rb¨ K‡ib
# hv Avcwb me mgq wb‡Ri m¤ú‡K© e‡jb
# hv Avcwb wb‡Ri m¤ú‡K© †`Lv‡Z cQ›` K‡ib
†mjd B‡gR wel‡q avibv _vKzK ev bvB _vKzK cÖ‡Z¨K gvbylB Pvq mgv‡R Zvi MÖnY‡hvM¨Zv e„w× cvK|
cÖ‡Z¨K gvbyl my¯’-mejfv‡e Rxeb AwZevwnZ Ki‡Z Pvq| cÖ‡Z¨K gvbyl Rxe‡b DbœwZ Pvq, mdj n‡Z Pvq,
DcK…Z n‡Z Pvq Ges fv‡jvevmv ‡c‡Z Pvq|
†mjd B‡gR ev wbR¯^ fveg~wZ© m¤ú‡K© wKQz cÖ‡kœi DËi †LvuRvi †Póv Kwi|
(1) evivK Ievgv wKsev wej †MUm Gi Qwe †`L‡j Avcwb Zuvi m¤ú‡K© wK fv‡eb?
(2) evivK Ievgv wKsev wej †MUm wb‡Ri m¤ú‡K© †Kvb ai‡bi avibv iv‡Lb?
(3) evivK Ievgv wKsev wej †MUmÕi Qwe †`L‡j gvbyl Zvi m¤ú‡K© wK ai‡bi cÖwZwµqv †`Lvq?
Dc‡ii wZbwU cÖ‡kœ DËi †_‡KB evivK Ievgv wKsev wej †MUmÕi †mjd B‡gR ev fveg~wZ© †ei n‡q
Avm‡e| †h‡Kv‡bv gvby‡li †mjd B‡gR ev fveg~wZ© †LvuRvi Rb¨ Dc‡ii wZbwU cÖ‡kœi DËi h‡_ô f~wgKv
ivL‡e|
cÖ‡Z¨K gvby‡li wbR¯^ AvZœ-m¤§vb‡eva wKsev AvZœgh©v`vi Kvi‡Y †mjd B‡gR e„w× cvq|
†mjd B‡g‡Ri cÖKvi‡f`t
1. cÖK„Z ev †gŠwjK †mjd B‡gR
- Avcwb wb‡R‡K Kxfv‡e †`‡Lb ev g~j¨qY K‡ib|
2. Av`k© †mjd B‡gR
- Avcwb wK iKg ev Kxfv‡e wb‡R‡K †`L‡Z Pvb

3. mvgvwRK †mjd B‡gR
- Abïv Avcbv‡K Kxfv‡e †`‡Lb †m m¤ú‡K© Avcwb wK fv‡eb?
4. Av`k© mvgvwRK †mjd B‡gR
- Avcbvi `„wó‡Z Abïv Avcbv‡K Kxfv‡e †`Lv DwPZ, †m m¤ú‡K© Avcwb wK fv‡eb?
5. cÖZ¨vwkZ †mjd B‡gR
- fwel¨‡Z Avcwb Avcbv‡K Kxfv‡e †`L‡Z Pvb
fwel¨‡Z Avcwb Avcbv‡K †hfv‡e †`L‡Z Pvb †mRb¨ Avcwb Avcbvi cÖwZ ¸YMZ wKQz `vwqZ¡-KZ©e¨
cvjb Kiv DwPZ| †hgb, wb‡R‡K Ggb GKRb gvbyl wn‡m‡e ˆZwi Ki‡Z n‡e hv‡Z Avcwb wb‡Ri
¸Y ev KvR m¤ú‡K© fve‡Z Avcbvi fvj jv‡M| Avgv‡ì †mjd B‡gR me mgq Avgv‡ì Kv‡R
Ges Avgv‡ì AvPvi- eënv‡i, wkóvPv‡i cÖfve we¯Ívi K‡i|
Avgv‡ì mgv‡R `yBai‡bi †mjd B‡gR-m¤úbœ gvbyl Av‡Q|
(1) c‡RwUf †mjd B‡gR
(2) †b‡MwUf †mjd B‡gR

Avmyb, wb‡R‡K 3wU cÖkœ Kwi|
(1) Avwg †`L‡Z †Kgb?
G cÖ‡kœi gva¨‡g Avcwb Avcbvi evwn¨K iæc ev †Pnviv, Avcbvi wb‡Ri evwn¨K Dc¯’vcbv, Avwef©ve
BZ¨vwì DËi LyuR‡Z cv‡ib| hviv c‡RwUf †mjd B‡gR-mg„× gvbyl Zviv †`L‡Z †h iKgB †nvK, me
mgq GKwU welq g‡b ivLv DwPZ| cÖ‡Z¨K gvbyl †`L‡Z A‡bï g‡Zv my›ì bq, wKš‘ cÖ‡Z¨K gvbyl
wb‡Ri g‡Zv my›ì|
(2)Avcwb †Kgb KvR Ki‡Qb?
G cÖ‡kœi gva¨‡g Avcwb Avcbvi Kg©-ÿgZv, Kg©-`ÿZv Ges †hvM¨Zv hvPvB Ki‡Z cv‡ib|
(3)Avcbvi ¸iæZ¡ KZUzKz?
G cÖ‡kœi gva¨‡g Avcwb Avcbvi cÖ‡qvRb wKsev Kxfv‡e mgv‡R, Kg©-‡ÿ‡Î Ae`vb ivL‡Qb mewKQzi DËi
hvPvB Ki‡Z cv‡ib|
mwVKfv‡e me¸‡jv cÖ‡kœi DËi hw` c‡RwUf nq Z‡e Avcwb c‡RwUf †mjd B‡gR mg„× gvbyl; wKš‘
cÖ‡kœi DËi¸‡jv hw` †b‡MwUf nq Z‡e Avcwb †b‡MwUf †mjd B‡gR mg„× gvbyl|
Avmyb, GLb Avgiv cÖ_g cÖ‡kœi DËi wb‡q GKUz Av‡jvPbv Kwi| cÖkœwU wQj - Avwg †`L‡Z †Kgb?
¯^vfvweK fv‡eB G cÖkœwUi DËi †Ìqvi Rb¨ Avcbvi evwn¨K iæc ev †Pnviv, Avcbvi wb‡Ri evwn¨K
Dc¯’vcbv, Avwef©ve, cQ‡›ì †cvkvK cwi”Q` BZ¨vw` welq P‡j Avm‡e| Ab¨ gvby‡li †Pv‡L Avcwb †`L‡Z
†Kgb? gvbyl cÖwZw`b Avgv‡ì †hfv‡e †`‡L (evwn¨K iæc, †Pnviv, †cvkvK cwi”Q` BZ¨vw`) †mfv‡eB
gvby‡li g‡b Avgv‡ì m¤ú‡K© wewfbœ gZvgZ m„wó nq| †mRb¨ gvbyl m‡PZbfv‡e gvby‡li mvg‡b wb‡R‡K
my›ìfv‡e Dc¯’vc‡bi Rb¨ wKsev Avwef©v‡ei Rb¨ UvKv cqmv LiP K‡i fv‡jv †cvkvK, Km‡gwUKm, my›ì

_vKvi DcKiY BZ¨vw` µq K‡i _v‡Kb| GQvovI kix‡ii wdU‡bm my›ì ivLvi Rb¨ wbqwgZ e¨vqvg Kiv,
Lv`¨vfv‡m cwieZ©b Avbv, ewWwewìs Kiv, Km‡gwUK mvRv©wii g‡Zv wm×všÍ †bq|
Avgv‡ì Rxe‡bi AwaKvsk mgq Avgiv e¨q Kwi ïaygvÎ Avgiv †`L‡Z †Kgb wKsev wb‡R‡K
†Kgb †`Lv‡Z PvB †m Kv‡Ri Rb¨| gvby‡li mvg‡b wb‡R‡K fv‡jvfv‡e Dc¯’vc‡bi Rb¨,
Avwef©v‡ei Rb¨ Avgiv A‡bK †ewk cY¨-wbf©i n‡q hvw”Q| mewKQzi cÖ‡qvRb Av‡Q, wKš‘
Rxe‡bi †Kvi f¨vjyR ev` w`‡q mdjZvi Pvwe cvIqv m¤¢e bq|
wb‡Ri cÖwZ Avgv‡ì wØZxq cÖkœwU wQj - Avcwb †Kgb KvR K‡ib ev Ki‡Qb ? G cÖ‡kœi gva¨‡g Avcwb
Avcbvi Kg©-ÿgZv, Kg-©`ÿZv Ges †hvM¨Zv hvPvB Ki‡Z cv‡ib| cÖwZw`b gvby‡li g‡b Avgiv Avgv‡ì
m¤ú‡K© ÿz`ª ÿz`ª avibv ˆZwi Kwi Avgv‡ì Kv‡Ri gva¨‡g, mdjZv AR©‡bi gva¨‡g wKsev e¨_©Zvi gva¨‡g|
wb‡Ri mv‡_ Ab¨ gvby‡li Zzjbv w`‡q Avgiv A‡bK †ÿ‡ÎB Avgv‡ì m¤ú‡K© fv‡jv wKsev Lvivc avibv
ˆZwi Ki‡Z cvwi| wKš‘ mvwe©Kfv‡e Avgiv Avgv‡ì Kg©-ÿgZv I Kg©-`ÿZvi gva¨‡g Ges mdjZv
AR©‡bi gva¨‡g mevi Kv‡Q ¸iæZ¡c~Y© n‡q DV‡Z cvwi|
wb‡Ri cÖwZ Avgv‡ì Z…Zxq cÖkœwU wQj - Avgv‡ì ¸iæZ¡ KZUzKz? G cÖ‡kœi gva¨‡g Avgiv Avgv‡ì ¸iæZ¡
wKsev Kxfv‡e mgv‡R, Kg©‡ÿ‡Î Ae`vb ivLwQ mewKQzi DËi hvPvB Ki‡Z cvwi|
- fve‡Z n‡e Avgiv mevi Rb¨ KZUzKz ¸iæZ¡c~Y© ?
- Avwg Avgvi wb‡Ri Rb¨ KZUzKz ¸iæZ¡c~Y© ?
- Avwg Avjøvni cÖwZ KZUzKz AbyMZ, `vwqZ¡kxj Ges ¸iæZ¡c~Y© ?
Gme wKQz wg‡jB Avgv‡ì mvgvwRK †mjd B‡g‡Ri m„wó nq| Avgiv Avgv‡ì mvgvwRK Ae¯’v ev †mjd
B‡gR‡K Kv‡R jvwM‡q A‡bK mgq ÿgZvevb n‡Z PvB| mgv‡R L¨vwZ, c‡RwUf †mjd B‡gR m„wói gva¨‡g
mgv‡R Avgv‡ì MÖnY‡hvM¨Zv m„wó nq| mgv‡R Avgiv Ae`vb ivL‡Z cvwi Ges Avgv‡ì MÖnY‡hvM¨
Ae`v‡bi Kvi‡Y gvbyl DcK…Z nq| Avgv‡ì K‡g©i gva¨‡gB Avgiv c‡RwUf †mjd B‡gR ev wb‡Ri
m¤ú‡K© fv‡jv fveg~wZ© m„wó Ki‡Z cvwi| cÖ‡Z¨K gvby‡li wPšÍv fvebv, Kvh©Kjvc, AvPvi eënvi, wkôvPvi,
b¨vqbxwZ, †hvM¨Zv, `ÿZv BZ¨vw` mewKQzi ewn©tcÖKvk †mjd B‡g‡Ri gva¨‡g cÖKvwkZ nq| †mRb¨ ejv
nq gvby‡li e¨w³Z¡ Ges AvPvi eënv‡ii me‡P‡q ¸iæZ¡c~Y© welq n‡”Q †mjd B‡gR| gvby‡li e¨w³Z¡ Ges
AvPvi eënv‡ii g‡a¨ fv‡jv cwieZ©b Avb‡Z n‡j †mjd B‡g‡Ri cwieZ©b Aek¨B Ki‡Z n‡e|
†mjd B‡gR n‡”Q GKRb gvby‡li fv‡jv wKsev g›` KvR m¤úv`‡bi mÿgZv| GKRb gvbyl
hZ †ewk fvj KvR m¤úv`b Ki‡Z cvi‡e Zvi †mjd B‡gR Z‡Zv †ewk weKwkZ n‡e| myZivs
c‡RwUf †mjd B‡gR weKwkZ Ki‡Z n‡j fvj fvj KvR¸‡jv m¤úv`b Kivi ÿgZv e„w×

Ki‡Z n‡e| fve‡Z n‡e mewKQzB Kiv m¤¢e Ges Avwg Ki‡Z cvwi Ges cvie| †mjd
c‡RwUf B‡gR e„w×i Rb¨ me mgq bZzb wKQz †kLvi Rb¨ AvMÖnx n‡Z n‡e hv‡Z Avgiv me
mgm¨vi mgvavb K‡i e¨_©Zv‡K `~‡i †V‡j mdjZv AR©b Ki‡Z cvwi| hv‡ì †mjd B‡gR
c‡RwUf Zv‡ì mdjZv AR©b Kivi m¤¢vebv A‡bK †ewk, wKš‘ hv‡ì †mjd B‡gR †b‡MwUf
Zv‡ì e¨_© nIqvi cÖeYZv A‡bK †ewk|
c‡RwUf †mjd B‡gR †ewkifvM †ÿ‡Î ˆZix nq Avgv‡ì wb‡Ri m¤ú‡K© Mfxi wek¦vm †_‡K| Ae‡PZb
g‡b Avgv‡ì wb‡Ri m¤ú‡K© A‡bK wek¦vm ˆZwi nq hv mvaviYZ AZxZ AwfÁZv Av‡m| AZx‡Z Avcwb
†Kv‡bv Kv‡R e¨_© n‡q‡Qb e‡j Avcwb a‡iB wb‡q‡Qb fwel¨‡Z †mB KvRwU Ki‡Z †M‡j Avcwb nq‡Zv
AveviI e¨_© n‡eb Ggb A‡bK ai‡bi AZxZ AwfÁZv †_‡K gvby‡li g‡b †mjd wewjd ev wek¦vm ˆZwi
nq hv A‡bK mgq Rxe‡bi Rb¨ A‡bK eo ÿwZi KviY n‡q ùvovq| A‡bK gvbyl c~‡e© †Kv‡bv Kv‡R wedj
nIqvi Kvi‡Y mevB Zv‡K e¨_© e‡jB Rv‡b †mRb¨ †m wek¦vm K‡i Zv‡K w`‡q †Kv‡bv KvR n‡e bv| G
ai‡bi †jvK‡ì `~e©j AvZœwek¦v‡mi Kvi‡Y †b‡MwUf †mjd B‡gR ˆZwi nq| c‡RwUf wKsev †b‡MwUf
†mjd B‡gR m¤ú~bœfv‡e GKRb gvbyl wb‡R wbqš¿Y Ki‡Z cv‡i|
c‡RwUf †mjd B‡g‡Ri mv‡_ myLvbyf‡ei GKwU my›ì m¤úK© Av‡Q| Aveªvnvg wj¼‡bi GKwU Dw³ n‡”Q -
†ewkifvM †ÿ‡Î ZvivB †ewk myLx hviv wb‡Ri gb‡K me‡P‡q †ewk myLx ivL‡Z cv‡i| c‡RwUf †mjd
B‡gR-mg„× †jvKRb mevi †P‡q GKUy †ewkB myLx nq| c‡RwUf †mjd B‡g‡Ri mv‡_ mdjZvi Av‡iKwU

Mfxi m¤úK© Av‡Q| G m¤ú‡K© wRM wRMjv‡ii GKwU Dw³ n‡”Q - mdjZv n‡”Q Avgv‡ì hv wKQz Av‡Q, hv
Avgiv fv‡jvfv‡e Ki‡Z cvwi Zv w`‡q me‡P‡q †miv KvRwU Kiv| mdjZv n‡”Q wb‡Ri m‡e©v”P ÿgZv,
†hvM¨Zv Kv‡R jvwM‡q †Kv‡bv wKQz AR©b Kivi m‡e©v”P gvb`Û hv Avgiv Ki‡Z PvB wKsev n‡Z PvB| mdj
nIqvi kZ©B n‡”Q †Kv‡bv †miv wKQz AR©b Kiv Rb¨ wb‡R we‡kl wKQz Kiv | ‡Kv‡bv KvR bv K‡i †Kv‡bv
we‡kl wKQz AR©b Kiv, KviI KvQ †_‡K †P‡q we‡kl wKQz cvIqv A_ev mvaviY †Kv‡bv Rq AR©b Kivi
g‡a¨ mdjZv †bB|
Avgv‡ì Rxe‡b mdjZv AR©‡bi Rb¨ 100% Øvq-`vwqZ¡ Avgv‡ì‡KB wb‡Z n‡e Ges Avgv‡ì‡KB
j‡ÿ¨ †cŠQuv‡bvi Rb¨ KvR Ki‡Z n‡e| c‡RwUf †mjd B‡gR Ges mdjZv AR©‡bi Rb¨
Avgv‡ì‡K me mgq mdj Ges myLx c‡RwUf †mjd B‡gR Av‡Q Ggb gvbyl‡ì ms¯ú‡k© _vK‡Z
n‡e| †mRb¨B †b‡MwUf B‡g‡Ri †jvK‡ì KvQ †_‡K `~‡i _vK‡Z n‡e| Avcwb hw` AviI cvuPRb
c‡RwUf †mjd B‡gR-mg„× †jvK‡ì mv‡_ Pjv‡div K‡ib, Z‡e Avcbvi †mjd B‡gRI c‡RwUf
nIqvi m¤¢vebv A‡bK †ewk| †mRb¨ ejv nq AviI cvuPRb mvaviY gvby‡li g‡ZvB Avcbvi ‡mjd
B‡gR KviY Avcwb cvuPRb mvaviY gvby‡li mv‡_ Pjv‡div K‡ib|
c‡RwUf †mjd B‡gR †W‡fjc‡g‡›Ui Rb¨ gwU‡fkb cÖ‡qvRb Av‡Q hwÌ A‡b‡Ki avibv gwU‡fkb
`xN©‡gqv‡` ¯’vqx nq bv eis †eªBb †_‡K nvwi‡q hvq | †mRb¨ wRM wRMjvi e‡j‡Qb, cÖ‡qvR‡b Avcbv‡K
cÖwZw`bB gwU‡f‡UW _vK‡Z n‡e|
†h d¨v±i¸‡jv Avcbvi †mjd B‡gR‡K cÖfvweZ K‡i -
1. eÜz evÜe
2. wkÿK
3. evev-gv
4. mncvVx
5. msev` gva¨g
6. †Uwjwfkb
7. Pjw”PÎ
8. wgwWqv
9. g¨vMvwRb
10.mdjZv
cÖ‡Z¨K gvby‡li h_vh_ AvZœgh©v`v Ges kvixwiK my›ì B‡g‡Ri Kvi‡Y †mjd B‡gR e„w× cvq|
†mjd B‡gR e„w× gv‡b wb‡Ri gvb m¤§vb e„w×i gva¨‡g wb‡R‡K my‡hvM¨ Ae¯’v‡b wb‡q hvIqv|
cÖ‡Z¨K gvby‡li ¯^fve PwiÎ, †hvM¨Zv-`ÿZvi gva¨‡g wb‡R‡K mevi mvg‡b Dc¯’vc‡bi cÖwµqvi
gva¨‡g gvby‡li µgvMZ †mjd B‡gR e„w× cvq|
†mjd B‡g‡Ri mv‡_ †mjd GmwU‡gi GKwU m¤úK© Av‡Q|

†mjd GmwUg gv‡b n‡”Q AvZœm¤§vb‡eva| cÖ‡Z¨K gvby‡li AvZœ-m¤§vb‡eva Av‡Q| Avgiv Avgv‡ì gvb-
m¤§vb m¤ú‡K© hv fvwe wKsev g‡b Kwi †mUvB n‡”Q Avgv‡ì †mjd GmwUg ev AvZœm¤§vb‡eva|
†mjd Kbwd‡WÝt †Kv‡bv we‡kl wKQz Kivi Rb¨ Avgv‡ì †h AvZœwek¦vm Zv‡KB Avgiv †mjd Kbwd‡WÝ
e‡j _vwK|
†mjd Kbwd‡WÝ, †mjd B‡gR Ges †mjd GmwUg e„w×i Rb¨ wKQz c`‡ÿc †bqv †h‡Z cv‡i †hgb,
1. †R‡M I‡Vv t
c‡RwUf †mjd B‡gR e„w×i Rb¨ c`‡ÿc †QvU‡ejv †_‡KB wb‡Z n‡e| †h‡Kv‡bv w`‡bi ïiæ n‡Z
cv‡i c‡RwUf †mjd B‡gR ˆZwii DrK…ó mgq| †h MvbwU ïb‡Z Avcbvi fv‡jv jv‡M, †h MvbwU
MvB‡j Avcbvi gb Avb‡›` f‡i I‡V wKsev hvi mvwbœ‡a¨ Avcwb me‡P‡q †ewk gwU‡f‡UW nb
mewKQzi mgš^‡q wb‡Ri †mjd e„w×i Rb¨ gb‡K cÖ¯‘Z Ki‡Z n‡e| †h eBwU co‡j Avcwb mKj
Kv‡R Drmvn Lyu‡R cvb †m eBwU cÖwZw`b mKv‡j covi †Póv Ki‡Z n‡e hv‡Z mviv w`b Avcwb
†gvwU‡f‡UW _v‡Kb, Avcbvi mKj KvR fv‡jvfv‡e m¤úvw`Z nq| Pviw`‡K Avcbvi c‡RwUf
†mjd B‡gR ˆZwi n‡Z _v‡K|
2. mvivw`b c‡RwUf K_vevZv© ej‡Z n‡et
AvR‡Ki w`bwU n‡e me‡P‡q †miv w`b| AvR‡K me‡P‡q †miv KvR¸‡jv m¤úbœ n‡e| cieZx©‡Z
Avgiv AviI †miv KvR Ki‡ev| KvRwU A‡bK PgrKvi| AvR‡K iv‡Z Avwg me‡P‡q Aviv‡g Ges
kvwšÍ‡Z Nygv‡ev|

3. memgq mwVK KvRwU Kiæbt
wb‡Ri Lywk g‡Zv wKsev †¯^”Qvq fzj KvR K‡i mwVK fvev †gv‡UB DwPZ bq| Lvivc KvR bv K‡i
wKsev fv‡jv KvR fv‡jv fv‡e Kiv DwPZ| †h‡Kv‡bv cwiw¯’wZ‡Z fv‡jv KvR Kivi Rb¨ mevi cÖ¯‘Z
_vKv DwPZ| fv‡jv KvR Kivi Rb¨ mwVK c_ †e‡uP wb‡Z n‡e Ges mwVK KvRwU Ki‡Z n‡e|
†Kv‡bv wKQzB c‡RwUf †mjd B‡gR m„wó Ki‡Z cvi‡e bv ïaygvÎ fv‡jv KvR Qvov|
4. ÷¨vÛvW© wVK Ki‡Z n‡et
cÖ‡Z¨‡K gvby‡li DwPZ wb‡Ri Rb¨ ÷¨vÛvW© wVK Kiv| KviY Avgv‡ì wbR¯^ welq gvby‡li mv‡_
wb‡R‡K Zzjbv K‡i nZvk bv n‡q eis wb‡Ri Rxe‡bi ev¯Íe Ae¯’v we‡ePbv K‡i wb‡Ri ÷¨vÛvW©
wb‡R‡K wVK Ki‡Z n‡e| cÖwZwbqZ wewfbœ wel‡q wb‡Ri c~e© wba©vwiZ ÷¨vÛvW© AwZµg Kivi jÿ¨
wb‡q KvR Ki‡Z n‡e Ges †ckv ‡ÿ‡Î, eëmvq, AvPvi-eënv‡i, ‡bUIqvwK©s Gi bZzb bZzb
÷¨vÛvW© wVK K‡i KvR Ki‡Z n‡e|
5. gb Ly‡j nvm‡Z n‡et
nvwm A‡bKUv †Qvuqv‡P| Avgiv c„w_exi w`‡K ZvwK‡q nvm‡j c„w_ex Avgv‡ì w`‡K ZvwK‡q nvm‡e|
gb Ljv nvwmi g‡a¨ jywK‡q _v‡K Avgv‡ì g‡bi Avb›`, Av‡eM Ges Abyf~wZ| nvwmi gva¨‡g
Avgiv Avgv‡ì‡K evwn¨Kfv‡e cÖKvk Ki‡jI g‡bi Mfx‡ii Av‡eM Abyf~wZi cÖKvkI nvwmi
gva¨‡g cÖKvwkZ nq|
6. Avcwb wK n‡Z Pvb Avcbvi g‡bi Avqbvq ZvwK‡q †`Lybt
Avcwb Rxe‡b hv n‡Z Pvb Avcbvi g‡bi Avqbvq/Kíbvq wb‡R‡K †m Ae¯’vq †`Lvi †Póv Ki‡Z
n‡e| Avcwb †h j‡ÿ¨ †cŠuQv‡Z Pvb †m j‡ÿ¨ †cŠuQv‡bvi Rb¨ †h †hvM¨Zv, `ÿZv AR©b Ki‡Z n‡e
†m welq¸‡jv Kíbvq wfRy¨qvjvBR Kivi †Póv Ki‡Z n‡e| Avcwb cwRwUfwj wb‡R‡K h‡Zv †ewk
mdj gvbyl wn‡m‡e wfRy¨qvjvBR Ki‡Z cvi‡eb Avcbvi gb, gvbwmKZv Z‡Zv †ewx †m j‡ÿ¨
†cŠuQv‡bvi Rb¨ cÖ¯‘wZ MÖnY Ki‡e|
7. wb‡R‡K mevi mvg‡b PgrKvifv‡e Dc¯’vcb Kiæbt
†h mKj Dcv`vb/e¯‘ wKsev welq¸‡jv wb‡R‡K Dc¯’vc‡bi Rb¨ me‡P‡q ‡ewk cÖ‡qvRbxq Ges
¸iæZ¡c~Y© †mme e¯‘, Dcv`vb eënvi K‡i PgrKvifv‡e wb‡R‡K mevi mvg‡b Dc¯’vcb Ki‡Z n‡e|
Avgiv Avgv‡ì‡K mevi mvg‡b wfbœfv‡e wKsev AvKl©Yxqfv‡e Dc¯’vc‡bi Rb¨ Rvgv-Kvco,
cQ‡›ì Nwo, AvaywbK g‡W‡ji Mvwo, jv·vwi evwo BZ¨vw` mewKQzB †mjd B‡gR e„w×i mv‡_

RwoZ| iæwPkxj gvwR©Z †cvkvK, cwi¯‹vi-cwiQbœ Pjv‡div, my›ì evPbfw½, †hvMv‡hv‡Mi `ÿZv
cÖf…wZ cwRwUf B‡gR e„w×i Rb¨ LyeB Kvh©Ki|
8. †hvM¨Zv I `ÿZv e„w×i Rb¨ wbqwgZ cov‡kvbv t
wb‡R‡K cÖwZwbqZ cwieZ©‡bi Rb¨ eB cov, ¸iæZ¡c~Y© e¨w³‡ì e³e¨ †kvbv, †UªBwbs Kiv Ges
†mwgbv‡i Ask MÖnY K‡i †hvM¨Zv I `ÿZv e„w× Kiv Lye cÖ‡qvRb| †mjd B‡gR e„w×i Rb¨
†hvM¨Zv Ges `ÿZv Kv‡R jvwM‡q gvby‡li Rxe‡b Ae`vb ivL‡Z n‡e| gvby‡li DcKvi n‡e Ggb
Kv‡Ri gva¨‡g me‡P‡q †ewk †mjd B‡gR m„wó nq| A‡bK gvbyl Av‡Qb hviv A‡bK †hvM¨Zv
m¤úbœ wKsev A‡bK `ÿ wKš‘ mewKQz‡ZB AvZœ‡Kw›`ªK †m ai‡Yi gvbyliv mgv‡R c‡RwUf †mjd
B‡gR m„wó Ki‡Z cv‡ib bv| mgv‡R c‡RwUf †mjd B‡gR m„wó Ki‡Z n‡j wb‡Ri †hvM¨Zv Ges
`ÿZv Kv‡R jvwM‡q gvby‡li Rxe‡b Ae`vb ivL‡Z n‡e|
9. kix‡ii Rb¨ wbqgKvbyb †g‡b Pjvt
†mjd Bg‡R‡i mv‡_ ewW B‡g‡Ri A‡bK m¤úK© i‡q‡Q| GKRb gvby‡li †mjd B‡gR Ges ewW
B‡gR me mgq c‡RwUf ivL‡Z n‡j kixi my¯’ ivLv Lye Riæwi| wbqwgZ e¨vqvg Kiv, muvZvi KvUv,
mvB‡Kj Pvjv‡bv, RwMs BZ¨vw` Kivi gva¨‡g kixi‡K my¯’ ivLv hvq| ewW B‡gR wVK ivL‡Z n‡j
mwVK wbq‡g Lvevi †L‡Z n‡e| AcÖ‡qvRbxq Lvevi †hgb, Rv¼ dzW LvIqv eÜ Ki‡Z n‡e|
10.wb‡Ri mdjZv AR©‡bi Rb¨ wPšÍv Ki‡Z n‡et
cÖwZw`b Kgc‡ÿ 10 †_‡K 20 wgwbU Kíbv Ki‡Z n‡e wb‡Ri mdjZv AR©b wb‡q| Avcwb †h
Kv‡R mdjZv AR©b Ki‡Z Pvb cÖwZw`b fve‡Z _vKzb Avcwb mdjZv AR©b Ki‡Qb wKsev Avcwb
mdj n‡eb| Avcwb †h Ae¯’v‡b †h‡Z Pvb †m Ae¯’v‡b hvIqvi Rb¨ wb‡R‡K cÖ¯‘Z Ki‡Z n‡e
Ges mdjZv AR©‡bi Rb¨ g‡b AvZœwek¦vm ˆZwi Ki‡Z n‡e| fve‡Z n‡e Avcwb mdj n‡eb Ges
mdjZv AR©b Ki‡eb|
11. †Póv Kie, †Póvq AvwQ GB ai‡bi kã¸‡jv Avcbvi cÖwZw`‡bi K_v-evZv© †_‡K ev` w`‡Z n‡e|
Avwg †Póv KieÕ KvD‡K GB ai‡bi KwgU‡g›U bv w`‡q eis ejv DwPZ Avwg KvRwU Aek¨B
Ki‡ev| KvRwU Kivi †Póv Kie wKsev KvRwU Kivi cwiKíbv Av‡Q †`Lv hvK, GB ai‡bi K_v bv
e‡j ejv DwPZ KvRwU Kiv Avgvi `vwqZ¡ Avwg KvRwU mwVKfv‡e †kl Kie| c‡RwUf †mjd B‡gR
m„wói Rb¨ K_v-evZ©vq wfbœagx© kã¸‡jv eënvi Ki‡Z n‡e|
12.mdj‡ì Rxebx co‡Z n‡e t

cÖwZgv‡m AšÍZ GKRb mdj gvby‡li Rxebx c‡o wb‡R‡K mdj Kivi Aby‡cÖiYv wb‡Ri g‡bi
g‡a¨ m„wó Ki‡Z n‡e| Ab¨ gvby‡li Rxe‡bi ¸iæZ¡c~Y© fv‡jv¸b, fv‡jv Af¨vm wb‡Ri g‡a¨ m„wó
Ki‡Z n‡e|
13.mdj Ges ¯^cœevR‡ì mv‡_ eÜyZ¡ Ki‡Z n‡e t
wb‡Ri †mjd B‡gR c‡RwUf ivL‡Z n‡j me mgq c‡RwUf, mdj Ges ¯^cœevR‡ì mv‡_ eÜzZ¡
Ki‡Z n‡e| KviY mdj Ges c‡RwUfiv me mgq Avcbv‡K c‡RwUfwj AbycÖvwbZ Ki‡e, mvg‡bi
w`‡K GwM‡q hvIqvi c_ †`wL‡q w`‡e| wKš‘ †b‡MwUfiv Avcbvi mgv‡jvPbv Ki‡e, Avcbv‡K
nZvkvi Mí †kvbv‡e wKsev mvg‡b GwM‡q hvIqvi Rb¨ cÖwZeÜKZv ˆZwi Ki‡e| †mRb¨ Aemi
mgq KvUv‡Z n‡e mdj‡ì mv‡_| GKBfv‡e †bwZevPK avibvi †jvK‡ì KvQ †_‡K `~‡i _vK‡Z
n‡e|
14.gvby‡li Rb¨ `qv, fv‡jvevmv, mngwg©Zv cÖKvk Kiæb t
gvbyl gvÎB gvby‡li KvQ †_‡K `qv, fv‡jvevmv Ges mngwg©Zv cÖZ¨vkv K‡i| gvby‡li KvQ †_‡K
`qv, fv‡jvevmv, mngwg©Zv, mg‡e`bv †c‡Z n‡j me©cÖ_g gvby‡li cÖwZ `qv, fv‡jvevmv, mngwg©Zv,
mg‡e`bv cÖKvk Ki‡Z nq| gvby‡li fv‡jv Kv‡R cÖksmv Ki‡j Avgv‡ì fv‡jv Kv‡R †mB cÖksmv
Avevi wd‡i Av‡m| KviI fv‡jvevmv †c‡Z PvB‡j me©cÖ_g wb‡Ri fv‡jvevmv A‡bï cÖwZ cÖKvk
Ki‡Z nq| eÜzZ¡ Avkv Ki‡j me©cÖ_g wb‡Ri eÜzZ¡c~Y© m¤úK© cÖKvk Ki‡Z nq| KviI mvnvh¨
Avkv Ki‡j cÖ_‡g wb‡Ri mvnv‡hï nvZ evwo‡q w`‡Z nq|

15. wb‡R‡K D¾xweZ ivLvi Rb¨ me mgq c‡RwUfwj wPšÍv Ki‡Z n‡e Ges K_v-evZ©vq Zv cÖKvk
Ki‡Z n‡e| †hgb, AvR‡Ki w`bwU Avgvi Rb¨ me‡P‡q ¸iæZ¡c~Y© w`b KviY Avwg AvR‡K me‡P‡q
fv‡jv KvRwU m¤úbœ Kie| AvR‡K bZzb Av‡iKwU cÖ‡R± ïiæ Ki‡ev hv Avgv‡K mvd‡jï wkL‡i
wb‡q hv‡e| AvR‡Ki w`bwU MZKvj‡Ki †P‡qI fv‡jv KvU‡e KviY AvR‡K AviI A‡bK fv‡jv
KvR m¤úbœ Kie|
†mjd B‡gR e„w× K‡i mdjZv AR©b Kiæb t mvK‡mm A_© n‡”Q mdjZv|
Success
Sense of Direction or your goals
Avcwb Rxe‡bi †Kvb †ÿ‡Î mdjZv AR©b Ki‡Z Pvb wKsev Avcbvi Rxe‡bi D‡Ïk¨ Ges jÿ¨ wVK K‡i
†m m¤ú‡K© Ávb AR©b Ki‡Z n‡e| †h †ÿ‡Î Avcwb mdjZv AR©b Ki‡Z Pvb †m wel‡q cwic~Y© Ávb
e¨wZZ mdjZv AR©b m¤¢e bq| Rxe‡bi jÿ¨ w¯’i K‡i †m wel‡q mdj nIqvi Rb¨ Ávb AR©b Ki‡Z n‡e
Ges mdj nIqvi Rb¨ K‡Vvi cwikÖg K‡i †j‡M _vK‡Z n‡e| mdjZv Avm‡eB| mdjZv AwR©Z n‡e G
iKg c‡RwUf wPšÍv fvebv Ges c‡RwUf †mjd B‡gR Avcbv‡K mdjZvi Kv‡Q wb‡q hv‡e| GKRb gvbyl
†b‡MwUf wPšÍv K‡i c‡RwUf †iRvë AR©b Ki‡Z cvi‡e bv|
Understanding of your needs and others
G K_v mZ¨, GKRb gvby‡li GKK cÖ‡Póvq mdjZv AR©b me mgq m¤¢e bq| wKš‘ GKwU `‡ji `je×
†Póvq (wUg IqvK©) mdjZv AR©b Lye mnR Ges `ªæZ nq| Avgiv hLb `je× n‡q KvR Kwi ZLb Avgv‡ì
mdjZv wbf©i K‡i `‡ji Ab¨vb¨ m`m¨‡ì Dci| †mRb¨ `jMZ mdjZv AR©b Ki‡Z n‡j `‡ji mKj
m`m¨‡ì cÖ‡qvRb, g‡bvfve‡K ¸iæZ¡ w`‡q we‡ePbv Ki‡Z n‡e| GKBfv‡e wb‡Ri cÖ‡qvRb‡K ¸iæZ¡ w`‡Z
n‡e| GKwU `‡j me mgq hv‡Z c‡RwUf wPšÍv, c‡RwUf †mjd B‡gR mevi g‡a¨ _v‡K †m iKg cwi‡ek
‰Zwi Ki‡Z n‡e; Zvn‡j mdjZv AwR©Z n‡eB|
Courage
mdjZv AR©b Kivi Rb¨ mevi Av‡M cÖ‡qvRb mvnm| Am¤¢e‡K m¤¢e Kivi Rb¨ cÖ‡qvRb mvnm| mvnmx
gvbyl †h‡Kv‡bv wKQz AR©b Kivi Rb¨ SzuwK wb‡Z cv‡i|
Compession
mdjZv AR©‡bi Rb¨ Ges †mjd B‡gR e„w×i Rb¨ mngwg©Zv, mnvbyf~wZ Ges mg‡e`bv A‡bK cÖ‡qvRb|

Esteem, self respect
mdjZv AR©‡bi Rb¨ Ges †mjd B‡gR e„w×i Rb¨ AvZœgh©v`v, AvZœm¤§vb Lye cÖ‡qvRb| †h gvbyl wb‡R‡K
m¤§vb K‡i bv †m wb‡Ri †mjd B‡gR e„w× Ki‡Z cvi‡e bv|
Self-Acceptence
‡mjd B‡gR e„w×i Rb¨ mgv‡R wKsev Kg©‡ÿ‡Î wb‡Ri MÖnY‡hvM¨Zv cÖwZôv Ki‡Z n‡e| gvby‡li DcKv‡i
Av‡m Ggb †Kv‡bv KvR †Kv‡bv wKQz bv cvIqvi wewbg‡q Ki‡j gvby‡li fv‡jvevmv cvIqv hvq| nvRvi
nvRvi gvby‡li g‡a¨ GKRb gvby‡li †mjd B‡gR Gfv‡e m„wó nq|
Self-Confidence
wb‡Ri AvZœwek¦vm wb‡R‡K ˆZwi Ki‡Z n‡e| †Kv‡bv wKQz AR©‡bi Rb¨ mevi Av‡M cÖ‡qvRb AvZœ-wek¦vm|
AvZœ-wek¦vm Qvov mdjZv KíbvB Kiv hvq bv| AvZœ-wek¦vm n‡”Q gvby‡li ¸iæZ¡c~Y© †Kvi f¨vjy‡Ri g‡a¨
GKwU| GKRb gvby‡li mZZv, †hvM¨Zv, `ÿZv _vKvi ciI hw` AvZœ-wek¦vm bv _v‡K Z‡e †m gvbyl
mdjZvi †`Lv cv‡e bv| mdj gvbyliv me mgq AvZœ-wek¦vmx|

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