Parents, learn why saying "don't" to kids doesn't get the results you want and what to say instead. I created this slide show from the very first parenting challenge I sent out to my on-line audience. Now I send out a new parenting challenge each week to help parents learn Positive Discipline strategies for improving their parenting skills. I hope you enjoy the slides - Kelly Pfeiffer, Think It Through Parenting

1. Parenting Challenge #1:
by Kelly Pfeiffer from THINKitTHROUGHparenting.com
Parents, to get better results . . .
Don’t
Say
“Don’t”
Watch my slides to learn why “don’t” is confusing and get strategies to use instead.

2. by Kelly Pfeiffer from THINKitTHROUGHparenting.com
Your
Challenge … Don’t say
“don’t”
“stop” or
“uh uh”
to your kids for a day
Sounds impossible, right?
Wait, I’ve got suggestions for what to say
instead.

3. by Kelly Pfeiffer from THINKitTHROUGHparenting.com
Instead of using the
negatives to tell kids
what not to do,
use the affirmative to
help kids know what
TO DO instead.
Want some
examples?

4. by Kelly Pfeiffer from THINKitTHROUGHparenting.com
Instead of . . . Try . . .
“Don’t
Run!”
“Walking feet”
Or
“Tip toe”
Beginner Level Statements
Want another example?

5. by Kelly Pfeiffer from THINKitTHROUGHparenting.com
Instead of . . . Try . . .
“Don’t
smack
your
food!”
“Please chew
with your
mouth
closed.”
Beginner Level statements
Advance your skills

6. by Kelly Pfeiffer from THINKitTHROUGHparenting.com
Once you’ve learned how to focus your child on
what TO DO instead of what NOT to do,
ask questions that help your child SAY what to do.

7. by Kelly Pfeiffer from THINKitTHROUGHparenting.com
Asking the right questions will help your child’s
brain problem solve and say the answer
`
Saying the words helps your child know what to do
the next time.
“I chew with
my mouth
closed.”
Want to know
how to ask the
right
questions?

8. Parenting Challenge #1:
by Kelly Pfeiffer from THINKitTHROUGHparenting.com
Ask questions that begin
with the words,
“What” or “How”`
Examples 

9. by Kelly Pfeiffer from THINKitTHROUGHparenting.com
Instead of . . . Try . . .
“Don’t
run!”
“How do we
travel safely
in the parking
lot?”
Advanced Level Questions
(Before getting out of the car.)
Get one more
example

10. by Kelly Pfeiffer from THINKitTHROUGHparenting.com
Instead of . . . Try . . .
“Don’t
smack
your
food!”
“How can you
chew so
others can’t
hear you?”
Advanced Level Questions
Want an
extra tip

11. by Kelly Pfeiffer from THINKitTHROUGHparenting.com
Remember that
tone says everything.
Your tone and choice of
words communicate how
you feel about the
person to whom
you’re
speaking.
Why is this tool so important?

12. Parenting Challenge #1:
by Kelly Pfeiffer from THINKitTHROUGHparenting.com
Why is this tool so
important to your
parenting and your
child’s behavioral
success?
On the next slide
is a quick demonstration...

13. by Kelly Pfeiffer from THINKitTHROUGHparenting.com
Don’t think about
PINK
ELEPHANTS!

14. by Kelly Pfeiffer from THINKitTHROUGHparenting.com
Did you picture a pink
elephant in your mind?
Even if it was only for a
split second?
Most people do. Learn why . . .

15. With our
language,
we have the
power to plant
(suggest) ideas
into our kids'
brains.
It’s the power of suggestion

16. by Kelly Pfeiffer from THINKitTHROUGHparenting.com
If you say, "Don't hit" most likely your
child either hears "hit" or sees an
image of someone hitting,
because the brain thinks in pictures.

17. by Kelly Pfeiffer from THINKitTHROUGHparenting.com
What images do you want to plant
in your child’s brain?
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18. by Kelly Pfeiffer from THINKitTHROUGHparenting.com
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