This document outlines 10 qualities that can help a person achieve their goals: 1. Build confidence through positive self-talk, visualizing success, and accepting challenges. 2. Overcome frustration by maintaining enthusiasm, focusing on one goal at a time, and starting new goals when stuck. 3. Develop compassion and understanding by forgiving yourself and others, understanding different perspectives, and making others feel important. 4. Improve communication and rapport skills by listening first, showing others you care, managing your own thoughts and feelings, and understanding that others see the world differently.

1. 10 QUALITIES TO
ACHIEVE GOALS
Extract from Born to Succeed
Colin Turner

2. BUILD CONFIDENCE
 Practice being happy & begin with
smiling
 Visualize that you are a positive person
 Each time say: “I am confident”
 Accept all your negative feelings as a
challenge
 Believe in yourself actively not passively
(Confidence comes from belief)

3. OVERCOME FRUSTRATION
 Begin everything with enthusiasm – Stop
before it becomes frustration – Return to
it with renewed enthusiasm
 Become involved in a new goal
 Concentration on one thought at a time,
one action at a time, one goal at a time

4. COMPASSION & UNDERSTANDING
 Forgive yourself and others. (don’t be
judgmental)
 Be agreeable with others (don’t argue, try to
understand)
 Compliment others. Express, don’t
impress (express builds a bridge, impress builds a
gulf)
 Make others feel important
 Love your neighbors as yourself

5. COMMUNICTION & RAPPORT SKILS
 Seek first to understand before you
make yourself understood
 Your listeners won’t care what you say
until they know that you care
 How you think and feel determines how
you communicate with others
 The way you perceive and see your
world is not through the same lens that
other people will review world

6. DEVELOP A MAJOR ABSORBING
OBSESSION…& … PERSISTENCE
 If you are totally absorbed with what you
really want to achieve the world will
make a path for you
 Only through persistence will you
become what you want – “There is
always a way – my persistence will find
it”
 Winston Churchill’s success motto
“Never give up, never, never give up”

7. WINNING ATTITUDE
 Do not “expect the worst and hope for
the best” – Always affirm “I expect the
best and get it”
 Always look to create a win-win situation
with others – Project yourself as a
winner who creates other winners too
 Project a positive self-image of you
being an enthusiastic person

8. ACCEPT 100% RESPONSIBILITY
 Always remember “you are the person
responsible for how you feel” (it is not the
circumstances or conditions that is the problem)
 Don’t look to blame someone or something for
whatever has happened or happening (blame
looks backward while responsibility looks
forward
 When negative emotion rises up discard it by
saying “I am responsible for the way I feel”

9. GATHER THE COURAGE TO DO
WHAT IT TAKES
 The best way to build courage is to
encourage your self with “You can do it”
 Do not listen to people who discourage
you (courage is doing what you are
afraid to do and there can be no courage
unless you are scared)
 The willingness to do creates the
courage to do – so “Just do it”

10. DEVELOP A HAPPY STATE OF MIND
 Happiness involves having the courage to live
the life you choose for yourself. So choose
what you want, begin it
 Happiness can be increased simply by sharing
it with others
 Practice smiling in front of the mirror every day
for at least 30 seconds
 Get your internal world how you want it and
your external world will be as you want

11.  THANK YOU