This document discusses considerations for entering into a new romantic relationship after a previous failed relationship. It emphasizes that people often make uninformed decisions in new relationships based on emotions without properly assessing compatibility and red flags. To optimize chances of success in a second relationship, it recommends understanding common delusions in the romantic stage, distinguishing perception from reality by asking insightful questions, learning interview techniques, and minimizing risk by addressing what you need to know rather than overlooking obvious issues. Key statistics noted are that 50% of first marriages and 57% of second marriages end in divorce, highlighting the importance of a thoughtful assessment process.

1. In Love?
What
you
need
to
know
and
ask:
Second
Time
Around

2. Why?
You’re
in
love
aren’t
you?
But
how
do
you
know
it
will
be
be>er
than
the
last
?me?

3. Been
there
before?
How
oBen
have
you
said
“I
should
have
known”
Hindsight
is
always
20/20
Repackaging
the
facts
We
don’t
know
what
we
don’t
know
Not
predic?ng
your
chances
of
success

4. How
to
ask
the
right
ques?ons
Not
overlooking
the
obvious
Developing
an
assessment
plan
Prac?cing
asking
ques?ons
Predic?ng
chances
of
success
Right
Partner
this
-me?

5. Op?mize
your
chances
of
success
second
?me
around
by:
Understanding
the
common
pi5alls
(delusions)
in
the
roman-c
stage,
Dis-nguishing
between
percep-on
and
reality
by
asking
insigh5ul
ques-ons,
Learning
how
to
use
and
prac-ce
Insigh5ul
Interviewing
techniques
,
Minimizing
your
risk
of
making
your
first
or
another
mistake
by
“not
knowing
what
you
should
know”

6. 50%
of
first
?me
marriages
fail.
57%
of
second
marriages
do
too!
Why?
We
make
uninformed
decisions
based
on
emo?ons
without
asking
the
ques?ons
on
what
we
need
to
know

7. During your courtship, does she/he
describe themselves:
I m really easy to live with.
I gave my ex everything.
I tried so hard to make my ex happy.
“I did everything for my ex”

8. Warning!!!!!
These are opinions,
not facts nor real evidence

9. What are the real facts,
distinguishable from opinions,
that will help you gain insight
into the person
you’re contemplating going
Second time around?
“Don’t repackage to suit what you want”

10. Second time around
Part 2
To Follow…

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