Lifesmart

New beginnings
ALL THINGS ARE
DIFFICULT BEFORE THEY
ARE EASY.
THOMAS FULLE

It is never too late to be
what you might have been.
George Elliot
• FUTURE PLANNING
• EMPLOYMENT
• ACCOMMODATION
• BUDGETING
• COOKING
The koru, which is often used in
Māori art as a symbol of creation, is
based on the shape of an unfurling
fern frond. Its circular shape conveys
the idea of perpetual movement, and
its inward coil suggests a return to
the point of origin.

The koru therefore symbolises the
way in which life both changes
and stays the same.

It is also symbolic for new life,
new beginnings, hope,
perfection, rebirth, a new start,
awakening, personal growth,
purity, nurturing, a new phase
(in life), the spirit of
rejuvenation, and peace.
What better symbol
to identify with
when looking at life
beyond NRCF.
New beginnings —
a new start.
TRAVEL SAFE ON
YOUR JOURNEY
Practical TOOLS for life outside the gate
LifeSMART
KIA
KAHA

Look in a mirror and ask yourself
What do your dreams
Who are you?
• What do you look like?

• What will you look like in 10 years?

• What do you do? What do you want to do?

• Who do you see?

• What do you look like when you are
successful?
What is a vision?
When you have a vision, you know where you want to go and you can see
your next steps – but you won’t be able to see the entire path.

Vision is not about the path, it’s about the destination. As you
take each step, the next step becomes clear as long as
you stay focused on your vision.
You don’t have to see the whole staircase, just take
the first step. Martin Luther King Jr
Life, as we know it, is not simply mapped out. We need to set GOALS.
GOAL ONE
social; spiritual; physical health; family and
relationships; career, job, business; finance;
personal development:
GOAL TWO
GOAL THREE
GOALS CAN BE: social; spiritual; physical health; family and relationships;
career, job, business; finance; personal development ……………….

Your personal vision statement
“It takes no more time to see
the good side of life than it
takes to see the bad.”
Jimmy Buffet
“What you get out of life is
what you put into it.”
Clint Eastwood
Why do you need one?
Your personal vision statement guides your life and
provides the direction necessary to chart the course of
your days and the choices you make about your career.
Your personal vision statement is the light shining in the
darkness toward which you turn to find your way. It
illuminates your way!
A guide for your thoughts:
• What are the 10 things you most enjoy doing? Be honest.
• What three things must you do every single day to feel
fulfilled in your work?
• What are your five most important values?
• If you never had to work another day in your life, how would
you spend your time instead of working?
• When your life is ending, what will you regret not doing,
seeing, or achieving?
• What strengths have other people commented on about you
and your accomplishments? What strengths do you see in
yourself?
• What weaknesses have other people commented on about
you and what do you believe are your weaknesses?
Draw or write your vision

Did you know: that children who have a parent in prison are
very likely to follow in the footsteps of their parents to
prison without something happening to stop this?
Your children
“When a parent goes to prison it can be a traumatic and distressing
time. To help deal with the confusion and provide you the support
you may need we have put together some useful information that will
help you to answer some of the commonly asked questions we have
heard over time.” PILLARS, NZ

PILLARS has been providing services for children and families of
prisoners in New Zealand for over 20 years. PILLARS provides home
based support for parent / caregivers and a mentoring programme for
children of prisoners if you live in Christchurch or South Auckland.
Get in touch with us if you want this free, confidential and non-
judgmental support at this time. If you do not live in Christchurch or
South Auckland, unfortunately you are not eligible for this service at
this time.
Goals quantify and define the steps you
must take. They are the signposts that
let you know you are moving in the right
direction. They are measurable and
answer questions like When? and How
much? (rather than Why? which is
addressed by your vision)
A goal can have a picture of the end result
and still not be a vision.

A vision is enduring and provides clarity
for the next step. A goal ends.

One way to distinguish between a vision
and a goal is to ask, “What’s next?” A
vision provides clear ongoing direction
—it is clear what you should do next. As
you take each step, the next one becomes
clear. A vision continues to act as a
beacon, guiding you in setting new goals
once current ones have been achieved.

Once you have reached your goal, it is
finished. Future direction is unclear
because the goal was an end unto itself.
Goals are important
CHECK OUT: justus.org.nz

6 DEC | 2015

Kumara has been helping some newly released prisoners
get their lives back on track in Northland.
The Salvation Army Education and Employment (E&E)
Corrections Employment Services programme has been
placing released prisoners into work in Northland and
helping change their lives.
Their latest project is a pilot programme working
with the Department of Corrections, the Ministry of
Social Development and a Dargaville kumara farmer
with a commitment to helping released prisoners.
Employment navigator Lee Colvin, who helps the
clients find work, says they placed a team of 10
clients on two kumara farms in September, supported
by two foremen, with fantastic results. The men and
have been supporting each other to stay on track, and
have stood out as the hardest working group on the
farms, Lee says.
SOME USEFUL WWW SITES
seek.co.nz - NZ's Biggest job site.
trademe.co.nz - NZ's most visited jobs site.
www.workandincome.govt.nz - “We’ll work with
you to identify your needs, match you to
appropriate vacancies.”
www.careers.govt.nz - A list of NZ job vacancy
and recruitment agency websites.
nz.indeed.com - Search jobs from lots of diﬀerent
job boards, newspapers, classiﬁeds and company
websites
myjobspace.co.nz - NZ's largest 100% Kiwi
owned job site
nz.jora.com -Thousands of jobs, all on one job
search site.
jobs.govt.nz - An employment site for vacancies in
public sector organisations
job.co.nz
salvationarmy.org.nz
opportunitycanterbury.org.nz/job-seekers
www.workhere.co.nz/jobs
Got to get a job! READ ALL ABOUT IT!

ENGAGE IN VISION AND GOAL SETTING
CREATE A VISION BOARD
EXPLORE PERSONAL DECISIONS
MAP OUT THE NEXT STEPS OF YOUR
JOURNEY
Imagine your future self
Key outcomes and beneﬁts include:
An opportunity to explore your desired future.
Increased clarity and understanding around
your next steps.
Increased energy to move in your desired direction.
Visual documentation of your desired change.
where are
you
heading?

Achieving your GOALS
These five techniques significantly increased the likelihood of
people successfully achieving their aim/goals:
1 - Have a plan
Put your big goals into a series of sub-goals which are concrete,
measurable and time-based (or SMART).
If you don’t have any idea of where you’re going, you’re just going
to wander around lost. A dead-line is also important as it helps
create some urgency to take some action.
2 – Go public
You are more likely to be successful if you tell your friends and
family about your goals. Apparently people are more likely to stick
to their views and promises if they have gone public.
3 – Remind yourself of the benefits
Those who ended up making and maintaining permanent changes
to their lives tended to frequently remind themselves of the benefits
associated with achieving those goals.
4 – Have rewards in place
Make sure that your sub-goals have a reward attached to it. It will
give you something to look forward to and provide a sense of
achievement.
5 – Put them in writing
Make your plans, progress, benefits and rewards as concrete as
possible by expressing them in writing. Keep a hand-written journal,
use a computer, cover your fridge or noticeboard with graphs or
pictures.
By recording your dreams and goals on paper, you set in
motion the process of becoming the person you most
want to be. Put your future in good hands — your own!
Now you know all about YOU
It’s time to write that PERFECT CV
Find the focus
Before you start refreshing your old CV, or creating a new one, clarify your job
target. Without a clear vision of your career direction, your resume won't do a
good job of selling you to potential employers. If you have more than one
career interest, you'll be much better off developing different versions of your
resume rather than trying to construct a one-size-fits-all document.
Research Your Target Job
Thoroughly research your job target before writing the first draft of your
resume, especially if it's been a while since you've been in the job market.
Talk to people in your target industry, and look at job postings to get a good
idea of the qualifications employers are looking for. If you are changing
careers, your research may prompt you to enrol in continuing-education
classes to gain new skills.
Develop Your Career Profile/Objective
Now you're ready to begin writing. You'll need a clearly stated objective to
open your CV. Don’t expect busy hiring managers to figure out what you want
to do, especially if you are changing direction. Use this section to explain key
skills you can use from your prior career/situation into your new job target.
Emphasise how you can help, rather than what you want in a job.
Zero in on Your Achievements
Your resume must have an accomplishments-driven focus to compete in
today's job market and maximise calls for interviews. Avoid simply rehashing
boring job descriptions. Instead, detail the results and outcomes of your
efforts.
Design Your Resume
To stand out from the crowd, use your word-processing program's advanced
formatting features, such as bold, italics, line draw, industry icons, attractive
fonts, etc. - without going overboard - to give your resume a distinctive look.
Proofread and Test-Drive
Your resume must be perfect. Carefully proofread your resume to ensure
proper grammar, punctuation and word use. If you are changing careers, ask
for feedback from hiring managers in your targeted field for valuable input on
how your resume stands up to the competition.

Learn from the best - sample questions from Lord Alan Sugar
The interview
Q: What makes you better than the 100 other CVs on my desk?
Q: Give me an elevator pitch of why we should work together.
Q: Where do you see yourself in five years?
Q: What do you think we should be doing differently or better?
Q: How quickly do you think you will be bored with this role?
Q: How soon do you think you would want to be promoted?
Q: Have you ever put yourself up for a promotion?
Q: What is your greatest professional achievement to date?
Q: Why is this significant to the job you are applying for?
Q: Give me an example of a project / deadline that you have
failed on before? Why did this fail and how would you
prevent failure again?
Q: Your CV says in the past 4 years you've had 6 jobs...What
does that tell me about you?
Q: How do you think you’ve done today?
Having left school in Hackney aged 16, Lord Alan Sugar started
selling car aerials and electric goods out of a van he bought for £50.
In 1968, he founded the British Amstrad electronics company and
now, nearly 45 years later, he has an estimated worth of £800 million
with a portfolio include Amscreen, Amsprop and Viglen.
In 2000, he was knighted for his services to business and in 2009 he
was appointed to the House of Lords as Baron Sugar of Clapton in
the London Borough of Hackney.
Lord Sugar appears in BBC’s The Apprentice, where aspiring young
businessmen and women compete for the chance to work with him.
His most recent venture is Hyper Recruitment Solutions with Ricky
Martin, who won the show in 2012.
Lord Sugar's style
When Lord Sugar is asking questions
to potential employees or new
business partners he's looking for
their answers to be precise and to
the point. So think carefully about
your answers to make sure you get
your point across, without
‘waffling'.? jobsite.co.uk/bemyinterviewer
Sometimes you will be turned
down for the job you want.
Find out how to use this experience to help you prepare for your
job application.
REVIEW YOUR JOB APPLICATION PROCESS
Ask yourself why you
missed out. Try to find
out from the employer
or recruitment agency
you deal with,
particularly if you have
reached the interview
stage.
DO NOT BE AFRAID TO
ASK FOR
CONSTRUCTIVE FEEDBACK - IT COULD REALLY HELP YOU
WITH YOUR NEXT APPLICATION.
careers.govt.nz/job-hunting/interviews/if-you-dont-get-the-job/
Second time lucky?

Most people have had the unnerving "Interview" -
facing off across a table with people who can make or
break your hiring experience.

Whether you are a new graduate, a top executive,
returning to the workforce or are taking an abrupt
change in career direction, the Interview is as much a
certainty as life itself!

Daunting? The process need not be with a small
amount of planning.

ROCK THAT INTERVIEW! Do your homework
There is nothing that screams "hire me" more than taking an
interest in your prospective organisation. Research the
company and culture; know exactly why you want to be a part
of this group.
Know yourself - think about how exactly you match the role
and why exactly they have to hire you. Be specific and honest.
Avoid the curve balls- think through those "worst case
scenario" questions as well as being geared for the stock in
trade, easy ones.
The more prepared you are, the more comfortable and
confident you are likely to come across.

SURVIVE THAT INTERVIEW
Be flexible. Adapt to the style of the interviewer and reflect their
wording if appropriate.

Be prepared, but be equally ready to cope with unexpected
approaches.
Sharpen your professional edge by avoiding slang and clumsy
speech - a thoughtful silence is often less off-putting than a
string of "umms". Try to be concise.

Do not be afraid to ask for clarification if required - it is
better to ask than head off on the wrong tangent.
Listen, rather than having an agenda - there is no better way of
conveying interest.

There are not always right or wrong answers to questions.
Back up your answers with real life examples. Nothing is a
better sales tool than your past successes - use them to
justify your point of view.
Be positive! Use assertive and affirmative language. Never fall
into the trap of being overtly negative about an ex-employer - it
never looks good.

Enthusiasm sells - both in the content of your
answers and in the delivery tone.
MAKE AN IMPRESSION
As much of a cliche as it sounds, those first few seconds
can form a memorable impression, and not necessarily a
favourable one!

Think about how you dress. While there are less
"absolutes" now in interview clothing, you should be
aware of what dress codes are like in your target
employer. Err on the conservative and formal side; make
sure you are comfortable and pay attention to detail.

Arriving radically early can be almost as annoying as
being late - a few minutes prior to the scheduled time is
usually safest.

Set the tone for the
interview right
from the start.
Greet people
by name; offer a firm
handshake and eye contact. Don't
forget anyone you encounter can make a
difference - flashing all your attention at the interviewer,
but being off-hand with the receptionist can be deadly.

September 2009. To print or download your own copies of this document visit http://www.skillsworkshop.org/
This resource was kindly contributed by Sheila Greenman, Abingdon & Witney College sgreenman@abingdon-witney.ac.uk
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The WRITE way to present yourself! Pick a job that you would like to do.
FOCUS ON HOW YOU ARE
SUITED TO THE ROLE ………………
qualities, experience and
skill.
OR CREATE YOUR OWN BUSINESS CARD
LOOKING FOR WORK
Name: Ph no:
Name
Skills, experience, qualities,
Ph no:
email:
years of experience, kind of jobs looking for,
references supplied

SKILLS QUALITIES EXPERIENCES COMPETENCIES ATTRIBUTES STRENGTHS
Which of these do you feel you have? How have you shown them?

The very first request an interviewer may make is, "Tell
me about yourself." In order to answer this interview
question quickly and succinctly, you need an ELEVATOR
PITCH ready in case they want a brief overview of you!
SO WHAT IS AN ELEVATOR PITCH?
It is a brief, persuasive speech that you use to spark interest
in what you or your organisation does. You can use one to
talk up a project, idea, or product – or in yourself. A good
elevator pitch should last no longer than a short elevator ride
of 20 to 30 seconds, hence the name.

They should be interesting, memorable, and succinct. They
also need to explain what makes you – or your organisation,
product, or idea – unique.

To create a great pitch, follow these steps:
IDENTIFY YOUR GOAL
EXPLAIN WHAT YOU DO
COMMUNICATE YOUR USP
ENGAGE WITH A QUESTION
PUT IT ALL TOGETHER
PRACTICE!
CHECK OUT THESE SITES:
mindtools.com
yourpersonalbrandname.com
WHAT DO YOU SEE?
Just a reminder that we all see things differently. For example
how many colours you see in this picture will differ to
someone else’s view.
This is important to remember - that we are all different and
we need to respect each other’s views and perceptions.

Improve self-esteem and conﬁdence.
Gain a sense of achievement and satisfaction.
Gain a sense of inclusion within the community.
Establish new friendships with people of similar interests.
Explore new challenges and interests.
Use personal skills in a new setting, gain recognition for your
abilities.
Learn new skills and get experience.
Work for a cause that affects you personally.
Develop patience and compassion.
Increase knowledge of current issues faced in your
community.
Learn new skills, reﬁne existing ones.
Gain new referees for your CV.
Gain up-to-date, relevant work experience for your CV.
Establish a network of contacts.
Demonstrate motivation and enthusiasm.
Prepare for employment after unemployment.
Benefits to becoming a volunteer
You are a good sort!

If you've created a budget, you know exactly how much
money you have coming in, and how much is going out. But if
you don't have a budget plan, you probably don't have a very
good picture of your finances, and you may be tempted to
borrow more money rather than squeezing all you can from
your income.
It's definitely better in the long run - for you and for your
money - to have a budget.
Creating a budget can be a frustrating task. Staying on
budget can be even harder. Once you've created your budget,
it's important to stick to it.
It's easy to understand how careful budgeting can improve a
financial situation. And we all know that fewer financial
problems mean less stress. But here's one of the best benefits:
Working together on a budget can help your marriage. With
money arguments being one of the largest causes of divorce,
managing your budget can relieve financial stress on your
marriage and make your life better all around.
It’s time to:
BUDGET
For more help, go online.
personalbudgeting.com
www.sorted.org.nz
moneycrashers.com/envelope-budgeting-
system
familybudgeting.org.nz
pigtitsandparsley
sauce.co.nz
grownups.co.nz/frank-and-
muriel-newman

Eat healthy on a budget
AMBROSIA
INGREDIENTS
1 litre yogurt
500 ml cream
1 can raspberries (mostly drained) or fresh
1 bag marshmallows (whole or chopped)
2 or 3 small bars chocolate (suggestions are crumbled Flake or chopped
up Moro)
METHOD
Put yogurt in a large bowl.
In a separate bowl, whip cream until it forms soft peaks.
Stir cream into yogurt.
Stir raspberries, marshmallows and chocolate into yogurt/cream mix 5.
Chill for 2-4 hours.
Serve.
Sweet taste of success
paknsave.co.nz/saving-ideas
theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2016/
feb/02/cook-on-a-budget-cut-down-
food-waste-save-money-tom-hunt
bbcgoodfood.com/howto/guide/how-
make-christmas-cheaper
familybudgeting.org.nz/wp-content/uploads/
2014/01/Cookbook.pdf
foodtolove.co.nz/recipes/collections/budget-family-
favourites
myfamily.kiwi/foodswisebread.com
bite.co.nz/collections/1140/Affordable-meals
heartfoundation.org.nz/uploads/
HF_CheapEats_cookbook_Web_Jan15.pdf

Summer CHEAP treats
To make a cheap and very filling pudding, try a plum cobbler (this has
nothing to do with holes in your shoes!).
A cobbler in the kitchen is a deep-dish pie with a thick crust. Any
type of fruit can be used, but this is what you need for a plum
cobbler.
Preheat the oven to 200 C. Take 650g of any type of plums (red ones
look very good), 300ml water, 100g sugar and 25g chopped almonds
(optional).
Place plums and water in saucepan and simmer until soft.
Remove and place in a greased baking dish with half the cooking liquid,
plus the sugar and almonds.
Rub 75g butter or margarine into 175g self-raising flour and add 25g
sugar and enough milk to mix into a soft dough.
Roll dough out to 10ml thick, cut into rounds. Place rounds on top of
the plums.
Brush the rounds with a little milk and sprinkle with sugar.
Bake for 15 to 20 minutes until the top is golden.
Serve hot with cream, custard, or yoghurt.
Banana treats – bananas are cheap to buy and versatile. They can be
used in lots of tasty b-a-n-a-n-a-l-i-c-i-o-u-s ways. Slice a banana and
spread over a piece of toast. Sprinkle brown sugar over the top of the
banana and grill.
Check out this easy super
cheap ice cream recipe.
“Freeze left over ripe
bananas in slices or chunks.
Blend in a food processor
until ice cream consistency.
Add flavouring ideas – like
shredded coconut, a splash
of cream or coconut milk, a
spoonful of Milo or cocoa,
nuts, peanut butter,
chocolate chips. Give it one
more blast and you are
good to go. Easy, cheap,
healthy and yummy.
JUST AS SUPERMARKETS HAVE A SCIENCE TO THE WAY THEY
SET UP THEIR DISPLAYS (IN FACT, PEOPLE STUDY IT AT UNI) AND
JUST AS BRANDS PAY BIG DOLLARS TO GET THEIR PRODUCT ON
THE SHELF THAT’S AT EYE LEVEL - THERE IS A SCIENCE AND A
STRATEGY YOU CAN PUT INTO PLAY TO SAVE MONEY SHOPPING.
We all know the two golden rules of supermarket
shopping:
1. Never shop on an
empty stomach.
2. Never go without
a list.
And, here are a few
more tips to the list:
3. Always take just
enough cash as
you’ve calculated
you’ll need for what’s on your list and leave your credit card
at home, so you can’t act on temptation.

4. If you’re looking for fresh meat and vegetables, shop just
before the supermarket or market closes. They can’t/don’t
want it on their shelves tomorrow, so that’s when the
markdowns come out.

5. Don’t just put your hand out and grab what’s in front of
you – look at the shelf above and all those below. There are
plenty of bargains to be found if you just use your eye
muscles.

Remember, supermarkets spend millions on
shopping science because it makes them
money. Why not spend a little more time and
save some of your own?

ACCOMMODATION CHECKLIST
Does the property have good door locks?
Yes No
Does the property have both a mortise lock and Yale lock?
Yes No
Does the property have a door security chain?
Yes No
Does the property have window locks?
Yes No
Security and access to the property (how safe is it?)
…………………………………………….
How many keys will you be given? …………………………………
If you lose your keys how much will it cost to obtain another key?
………………………………………………………………………………..
Are you allowed to get spare keys cut?
Yes NO
whare home house home sweet home
Does the property have smoke detectors and carbon monoxide
detectors?
Yes No
Does the hot water work?
Yes No
Does the heating work?
Yes No
Does the toilet ﬂush?
Yes No
How many electric sockets does the property have? Do they
work?
Yes No
What type of heating does the property have, gas or electric?
………………………………………………………………………
What type of gas, electric and water meters/payment systems
does the property have?
………………………………………………………………………
What utilities does the property have?……………………………
………………………………………………………………………….
Is the property in good decorative order?
Yes No
If it is private accommodation will the landlord let it to people on
beneﬁts?
Yes No
What furnishings and equipment (cooker, fridge etc) does the
accommodation have?
………………………………………………………………………
…………………………………………………………………………
………………………………………………………………………….

Is there an inventory of all the items and equipment in the
accommodation?

Yes No
Would you be permitted to decorate and/or hang pictures on the walls?

Yes No
When does the tenancy begin?
…………………………………….............................................

If the accommodation requires work to be undertaken and/or decorating
who will do

this work?

……………………………………………………………………………

Useful housing contacts, addresses and information:
Landlord/letting agent………………………………………………………..

Housing maintenance worker………………………………….………….

Benefit/housing benefit office…………………………….……………….

Gas supplier………………………………………………….……………..

Electricity supplier…………………………………………
Water supplier…………………………………………
Phone company…………………………………………
Locksmith…………………………………………………
……………..…………
Location of stop cock (water valve)…
………………………………………….
Who has a spare key?
……………………………………………………
Inventory…………………………………………………
………………………………………………………………
………………………………………………………………
REMEMBER!
When you move into your new home, take some
photographs of the condition of the property and
the furniture and furnishings.

Housing links
housing.msd.govt.nz/forms/factsheets/who-can-
get-social-housing.html
hnzc.co.nz/renting-a-house
propertymanagerwhangarei.co.nz/
trademe.co.nz/property/residential-property-to-rent/
northland/whangarei
The Government has made changes to how social housing
operates. Here’s how these changes aﬀect state housing tenants.

The government wants to increase the number of groups able to
provide ‘social housing’ - that is housing provided by Community
Housing Providers and Housing New Zealand. To make it easier for
these groups to provide housing, they will be able to oﬀer income-
related rents.

As there will be more social housing providers receiving the subsidy
it is important to have an independent assessment of eligibility for
housing and income-related rent. This is why responsibility for
assessing housing need and administering income-related rents has
been transferred to MSD. This sits well alongside MSD’s other
functions, which include assessing people’s needs for income and
employment support.
Housing

We hope the following links to support
on the outside will help you on your new
positive journey.
We wish you all the best and take
care.

Kia kaha. Stay strong.

New Zealand imprisons a higher
percentage of its population than any
advanced nation, except America.
On average, more than 21 prisoners a day are
where to
from here?

PERSONAL WELLBEING
thelowdown.co.nz
depression.org.nz
engagenz.co.nz
aa.org.nz
cads.org.nz
mentalhealth.org.nz
skylight.org.nz
health.govt.nz/your-health/services-and-support/
health-care-services/visiting-doctor
COMMUNITY NETWORKS
livingwage.org.nz
familybudgeting.org.nz
community.net.nz
socialdevelopment.org.nz
VOLUNTEERING
volunteeringnz.org.nz
seekvolunteer.co.nz/
redcross.org.nz/get-involved/volunteer-
opportunities
wwf.org.nz
cancernz.org.nz/en/how-to-get-involved/
volunteer/
volunteeringauckland.org.nz
conservationvolunteers.co.nz
HOUSING
housing.msd.govt.nz/forms/factsheets/who-can-get-
social-housing.html
propertymanagerwhangarei.co.nz/
trademe.co.nz/property/residential-property-to-rent/
northland/whangarei
Support
nzhowardleague.org.nz
friendshiphouse.org.nz
pars.co.nz
pfnz.org.nz
2shine.org.nz
nzfvc.org.nz
salvationarmy.org.nz
choicenotchance.org.nz
foundationnorth.org.nz
General Information
familyservices.govt.nz
2cu.co.nz
cab.org.nz
localist.co.nz
webhealth.co.nz
Caring for others
www.habitat.org.nz
alzheimers.org.nz
ageconcern.org.nz
hospice.org.nz
beaccessible.org.nz
carers.net.nz
youthlaw.co.nz
Parenting
superu.govt.nz
familyservices.govt.nz
theparentingplace.com
plunket.org.nz
parenttoolkit.com
tekohaohealth.co.nz/
incredible-years-
parenting-program

health and wellbeing
intellectual
emotional
spiritual
physical
mental
social
Your wellness wheel
INVEST IN YOURSELF
What are you waiting for?

Relationship Conflict Resolution
Focus on the problem, not the person.
When a disagreement turns to personal insults, raised voices, or
mocking tones, the
conversation is no longer productive. Be careful to focus on the
problem without
placing blame on your partner. If a disagreement becomes
personal, you should
pause the conversation.
Use reflective listening.
Oftentimes during arguments we focus on getting our own point
across rather than
listening to our partner. Before responding to your partner,
restate what they have
said to you in your own words. Continue this process until your
partner agrees that
you understand. Next, share your side. Your partner should
reflect back your ideas in
their own words until they too understand. Using this technique
will help both
individuals feel listened to and understood, even if you disagree.
unaddressed.
Work toward a resolution.
Disagreement is a normal part of a relationship. If it becomes
clear that you and your
partner will not agree, focus on a resolution instead. Try to find a
compromise that
benefits both individuals. Ask yourself if this disagreement really
matters to your
relationship, and let yourself move on if not.
Relationship building
my partner’s qualities
The qualities that initially attracted me to my partner were:
1
2
3
My favourite memories with my partner have been:
1
2
3
My partner shows me appreciation by:
1
2
3
I value my partner because:
1
2
3

What you might need
help with?
anger management
information gathering
assertiveness
job hunting
Budgeting
Literacy and numeracy
Communication
Problem solving
Conflict resolution
Cooking
Sewing
Decision making
Shopping on a budget
Household hazards for kids
Parenting ?
Use Istatements.
When sharing a concern, begin your sentence with
“I”. For example: “I feel hurt when you don’t tell me
you’ll be late”.
With this sentence format we show that we are taking
responsibility for our own emotion rather than
blaming our partner.
The alternative sentence—“You never tell me when
you’re going to be late”—will often cause a partner to
become defensive.
Know when to take a time-out.
When you and your partner are becoming
argumentative, insulting, or aggressive, it’s a good
idea to take a time-out.
Have a plan in place so you or your partner can call
for a break when needed.
Spend some time doing something alone that you
find relaxing. When you’ve both calmed down, you
and your partner can return to solving the problem.
Be sure that you do return—it isn’t a good idea to
leave these issues

MACMILLAN
LIFE SKILLS
For each of the following statements, rate your responses as outlined below.
Rating: 0 = strongly agree 1 = agree 2 = slightly agree 3 = disagree 4 = strongly disagree
1 I am certain that I can keep myself motivated towards achieving my next goal 0 1 2 3 4
2 I am confident that I have planned sufficiently to enable me to achieve my goals 0 1 2 3 4
3 I am very clear how my academic achievements fit into my life plans 0 1 2 3 4
4
I am confident that I can demonstrate the skills, values and behaviours that employers
are looking for
0 1 2 3 4
5 I am confident in undertaking structured reflection without guidelines 0 1 2 3 4
6 I am confident that I can develop an effective strategy to meet most circumstances 0 1 2 3 4
7 I have a clear understanding of how to evaluate my own performance 0 1 2 3 4
8 I am confident that I know how to improve my performance in most circumstances 0 1 2 3 4
9 I know how to apply and transfer my expertise from one area to a different field 0 1 2 3 4
10 I am confident that I can see myself as others see me 0 1 2 3 4
11 I am confident that I have effective listening skills 0 1 2 3 4
12 I am an assertive person 0 1 2 3 4
13 I am a good self-starter 0 1 2 3 4
14 I am aware of the best roles for me to fill for team work 0 1 2 3 4
15 I am confident at problem-solving 0 1 2 3 4
16 I am confident that I know how to make best use of my mind 0 1 2 3 4
17 I am confident that I will take a creative approach to most problems 0 1 2 3 4
18 I am always very clear about which skills I am developing 0 1 2 3 4
Look at your score. How many items did you circle as 0 = strongly agree?
Look back over the points you gave a score of 1-4: How can you improve your score
over the coming year?
“I have been impressed with the urgency of doing. Knowing is not
enough; we must apply. Being willing is not enough; we must do.”
Leonardo da Vinci
Self-evaluation Quiz
This quiz is adapted from Palgrave, Skills for Success 3rd edition, by Stella Cottrell.
Are you ready for your journey?
Are you LifeSMART?

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