Lesson 1.Personal development
- 1. ESSENTIAL LESSON 1:KNOWING ONESELF ESSENTIAL LEARNING OUTCOME: Afterthislesson,youare expectedtocome up with a script,whichwill be the basisfora write- up on explainingthatknowingoneselfcanmake a personaccepthis/herstrengthsandlimitations that wouldhelptohave a successful andhappylife. LECTURE NOTES: Are you aware onhow youare goingtoimprove yourself?Whatare the reasonwhydo youneed to improve yourself? Instead of spending your time thinking about what you should improve about yourself see yourself from someone else's perspective and gain a little extra insight into yourself. Beingaware of your needsandacting on themcan helpyou improve.Youmightnot realize how often what you're doing doesn't correlate to what you want. Knowingyourstrengthsandweaknessesmayseemlike adifficultexercise butit’s aseasyas openingup, thinking about it a little, and (most importantly) listening to those around you. Who Am I?
- 2. In class, you’veprobablygottengoodgradesinsome,andbecause of that,have chosento pursue more classes in that area and maybe even select a major based on those strengths. The absolute best thing you can do with your strengths once you’ve identified them: 1. Acknowledge them and truly believe in them – Have confidence in the positives and know how great you really are. The ability to identify your special and unique qualities will serve you well throughout your life. 2. Putall yourenergyintothem–Whattypesof rolesandactivitiesare conducivetoyourstrengths? Findthemand stick to them.Spendingyourcareerdoingsomethingthatcomesnaturallyto you is goingto make you an incredible resource toa company – and you’ll alsogenuinely enjoywhat you do! 3. Keepdevelopingthem–Findawaytobecome evenbetter.The more youdosomethingthe more confident and proficient you will become. The sky is really the limit. “Weakness”means“the thingsyouare not naturallyasgreat at. ” Noone isperfect,sothere is no sense in holding yourself to that unrealistic standard. Just knowing your weaker areas, will make you more successful. 1. Take themintoaccount whenmakingcareerdecisions –Because there will alwaysbe thingsyou are notnaturally asgoodat, recognize those areas,andchoose acareerpaththatdoesn’theavily relyon beingstrongin that area. Forcing a “square pegintoa round hole”isgoingto make your career an uphill battle. 2. Lookat “the otherside”–Believe itornot,every“weakness”canbe turnedaroundintoastrength (and vice-versa).Perhapsthere wasatime whenyou hurt someone’sfeelingsbecause youwere too blunt with them. However, that can be seen as the great quality of “honesty” – something people appreciate and value in the right context. 3. Don’t be too hard on yourself – Everyone has weaker areas. Don’t beat yourself up about it. Spending time rehashing whyyou’re not perfect is not productive and puts out negative energy to those around you. Acknowledge mistakes, constantly seek to improve, but don’t dwell. With both your strengths and your weaknesses, it is important to always evolve. Be open to new experiencesandthingsthatwill change you.As yougrow in your career,you will change.Yourstrengths and weaknesseswillchange.Yourskillswill change, embrace thatconstantchange,anddon’tbe afraidof what’s to come. Self-Awarenessisastate of havingthe knowledgeaboutourexistence asuniqueindividualswhoare able torecognize ourvalues,beliefs,traits,behaviors andfeelings.The momentwe are awareaboutourselves, our strengthsand weaknesses,only thenwe canexperience ourselvesasunique andseparate individual beings.Ifwe manage tobecome aware of whowe are,we willbecomeempoweredto makingchanges by building our areas of strengths and at the same time by acknowledging areas of weaknesses where we would like to make improvements.Furthermore, Self-awareness is being significantly conscious of what we are good at while recognizing our flaws, limitations and imperfections. The Johari WindowSelf-awarenessisanever-endingjourneyasthere are still thingsthatwe donotknow much about ourselves.Ourawarenessof ourselvescanbe improvedbyconsideringhow othersviewus, theiropinionsaboutusand how theydescribe usas a person.Itis true that sometimes,we don’trealize our behavior,goodqualitiesandpotentialitiesunlesssomeonetellsus.Johari Window isatechnique that helps people improve self-awareness, interpersonal relationships and opportunity for personal developmentbygivingorreceivingfeedbacksoneachother’sstrengths,weaknessesandblindspots.This
- 3. was developed byAmerican Psychologists Joseph Luft and Harry Ingham in 1955. The name “Johari” is formed from combining their first names. Johari Window Open Self.Thisform of the self is whatyou and otherssee in you.Things we know about ourselves,and others know about us, like that of the talents and skills or even our weaknesses that we know about ourselves, and others know about us. BlindSelf.These are ouractionsandbehaviorsothersknow aboutusthatwe are notaware of.These can be positive ornegative andmayinclude hidden strengths and potentialities or areas for improvement. Hidden Self. In this form of self, we hide things that are private about ourselves. These may include feelings, ambitions and opinions that we choose to hide due to fear of negative reactions from others. Reasons for hiding may be because we do not want our weaknesses to be exposed. Unknown Self. This form of self is not known to others and not known to self. This includes skills, behaviors,undiscoveredtalents,etc.thatare unknowntousandtoothers.If weexploreand getourselves involve in new activities with new groups of people will help us increase our self-awareness. Self-Concept AccordingtoCarl Rogers,ahumanistpsychologist.Self-conceptisourgeneral awarenessaboutourselves, the image that we have of ourselves. This image is influenced by our interactions with other people specificallythose whoare importanttous.Carl Rogersbelievedthatourself-conceptismade upof three differentparts,the actual self,the ideal selfandthe self-esteem.The momentwe gotoschool,tothe mall or to a birthdayparty,we try lookingourselvesinthe mirrorto check our appearance.What do you see as youlookat yourself inthe mirror?Doyousee youractual self?Oryourideal self?OurActual Self isour self-image,the one we actuallyseeincludingattributeslikeourphysical characteristics,personalitytraits andsocial roles.Itishowwe thinkandfeel,behave oract.Ouractual self isbuiltonself-knowledge,which is the actual genuine information that we have about our motivations, strengths or weaknesses.On the otherhand,ourIdeal Self isthe selfthatwe aspire tobe. The one we hope will possessthe characteristics that we really want to have, like that of the image above. Now, what about self-esteem? Self-esteemis our overall subjective sense of value or personal worth. That is how we feel about our strengths and weaknesses. If we have healthy self-esteem, we feel good about ourselves.If we have low self-esteem, we have the tendencytoputalittle value onourideasandopinions.Likewise,if we have lowself-esteem, we might constantly worry about being not good enough.
- 4. ESSENTIAL QUESTIONS 1. Howrealisticisyourself-image asyouassessyourstrengthsandweaknesses? ________________________________________________________________________ ________________________________________________________________________ ________________________________________________________________________ 2. Do youhave qualitiesthatyouconsiderasyour weakness, butotherpeople considerasyour strength?Canyou share some? ________________________________________________________________________ ________________________________________________________________________ ________________________________________________________________________ 3.How well do you know yourself? _____________________________________________________________________________________ _____________________________________________________________________________________ _____________________________________________________________________________________ _______________ 4.How do you recognize the feedback of others about yourself? _____________________________________________________________________________________ _____________________________________________________________________________________ _____________________________________________________________________________________ _______________. FORMATIVE TEST A. Write Correct if the statementiscorrect. If itis not correct write the wordor wordsthat make/s the statements correct. _________ 1. Self-esteem is a state of having the knowledge about our existence as unique individuals who are able to recognize our values, beliefs, traits, behaviors and feelings. _________ 2.. Self-concept is a technique that helps people improve self-awareness, interpersonal relationshipsandopportunityforpersonaldevelopmentbygivingorreceivingfeedbacksoneachother’s strengths, weaknesses and blind spots _________ 3. Carl Rogers believed that our self-concept is made up of three different parts, the actual self, the ideal self and the self-esteem. _________ 4.. Self-knowledge isouroverall subjective sense of value or personal worth.That is howwe feel aboutour strengthsand weaknesses.If we have healthyself-esteem, we feel goodaboutourselves. _________ 5. Façade isa formof self thathidesthingsthatare privateaboutourselves. Thesemayinclude feelings, ambitions and opinions that we choose to hide due to fear of negative reactions from others. _________ 6.. BlindSpotsare our actions and behaviorsothersknow aboutusthat we are not aware of. These can be positive or negative and may include our hidden strengths and potentialities or areas for improvement. . _________ 7 The Known Self is our general awareness about ourselves, the image that we have of ourselves. B. Essay. Why do we need to be open to change? Explain your answer in 15 sentences.
- 5. CONTEXTUALIZING ACTIVITY Direction: Writea script about how you want your life to be. Think of a title. Choose a character that describe yourattributes,talentsandskillsthatyouwantto improve forthe career,goalsanddreamsthat youwant to experience and achieve. Provide the best ending that inspire the readers. (3 paragraphs). RELATED WATCHING and READINGS https://essayrx.com/article/traditional-literary-criticism-vs- formalism-and-new-criticism https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2uSpVR3Z660 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZKmrsxyhWmY https://jsginc.com/2019/09/how-to-discuss-your-strengths- weaknesses-in-an-interview/