2. You have been in deep grief and depression;
you are going through many trials, you say that
you are losing hope, and you admit that you re
close to losing your Iman also. What you believe
is that your trials are the most severe from all,
and none is suffering like you. But is this true?
3. I will reveal to you three secrets which not many
have discovered; and those who do know these
secrets are the ones that truly suffered in life, but
they gained Wisdom from Allah (the Exalted) in
return for their patience; and now you see them
practicing the knowledge they gained with true and
sincere Iman/Faith in Allah. I pray to Allah, that he
bless us with the best of Wisdom and Iman, and may
Allah make us one of those who are most patient.
4. First secret: is that, there is always
someone suffering much more than you,
going through much bigger trials than you;
and that person s pain is much more
severe than yours.
“Look at those who stand at a
lower level than you but don’t look
at those who stand at a higher level
than you, for this would make the
favours (bestowed upon you by
Allah) insignificant (in your eyes)."
[Sahih Muslim, Book 42, Number
7070]
5. What is meant with this is that whenever you are
sad because of someone having better looks than
you, being wealthier, or healthier, you should rather
look at those who are given less such favours than
you, because this is the way that will grant you a
better understanding of your situation and you will
appreciate Allah s favours more. Greed comes out
of envy, and they are both very dangerous selfish
desires that will destroy you completely if you give
up into them; therefore do not wish to be better
than someone except in two cases:
6. First: A man whom Allah has given wealth and he
spends it righteously.
And second: A man whom Allah has given wisdom/
knowledge (of the Qur an and Sunnah), and he acts
according to it and teaches it to others.
[Bukhari: Volume 9 Book 89 #255]
This does not mean to envy, but to wish to be
great as these two types of people.
7. Second secret: is that, whatever is meant for
you will come to occur, but whatever is not
then it will never occur.
“The best of faith is
patience and magnanimity.”
[Ahmad, Sahih]
8. You must accept Allah s decree, whatever it is; but
if you don t, then prepare yourself for depression,
anxiety, and sickness. You will never have peace in
mind unless you accept whatever Allah has
destined for you that happened in the past and
whatever to happen in the future. Know that the
more you accept Allah s Will, the more peace He
will send in your heart.
If you accept the trial that Allah sent you, while
knowing that it is a test for your patience; then you
should struggle to be one of the best of those who
are patient.
9. Third secret: is that, Allah (the Exalted)
is testing you with this trial to prove
what you really deserve.
" And Allah has created the
heavens and the earth with
truth, in order that every soul
may be rewarded for what it
has earned; and they shall not
be wronged."
[The Glorious Qur’an, 45:22]
10. This life is a big test; everything was
planned before we even came to existence.
Therefore your trial is also a part of Allah s
Master Plan, so you should not oppose it.
Only Allah knows all the reasons why the
trials which afflicted you had to be part of
His Plan, but what you must know is that
this trial will be a great evidence for you
against shaytan in the Hereafter, however
you must show patience. That s the only
way to pass this test.
11. Tips
• Let Allah fill your heart with His Love and
Light; let the Qur’an be in your right hand,
and the Sunnah in your left; let Allah bless
you with the Hikmah/Wisdom; and let Allah
guide you on this path of Islam. Know your
purpose in life, and do not rush in judging
something. Only Allah can judge, you can
only assume. If you have to judge then make
sure it’s based upon firm and authentic
evidences.
12. • Never wish to have more than what Allah wills
to give you; never be unsatisfied with what
Allah gave you; and never be ungrateful,
because Allah might take away even the little
that you have, and then it will be a time of
depression and anxiety for you. You will wish
at that time to have what you have now, but
Allah (the Exalted) will act according to His
Perfect Wisdom, He may return that to you, or
He may leave you as you are.
13. • Remember to always seek authentic
knowledge. Dive deep in the ocean of
knowledge, and collect every pearl that you
come across. Strive to not be a hypocrite, by
acting upon the knowledge you gain.
14. • Be truthful when you speak, and do not speak
ignorantly about something or someone
without knowledge. Know that whoever judges
you, Allah will judge him; whoever speaks
without knowing you is assuring his place in
hell. You should forgive those who hurt you in
the past, but if you can’t forgive; then do not
bother yourself with them, and let Allah (the
Exalted) judge them.
15. • Put your complete trust in Allah (the Exalted),
and depend upon Allah and rely upon Him
only, not upon people. Do your best, and Allah
will guide you; worship Allah alone, and He will
forgive you; stay away from sins, and Allah will
raise your rank; and fear and remember Allah
wherever you go, because if you forget that
Allah is watching you constantly, then you will
end up being ignorant and sinning.
16. • Learn from mistakes, and don’t hate people;
but hate their actions. If you are sick, know
that with every hardship there is ease; Allah
(the Exalted) says: So verily, with the
hardship, there is relief, Verily, with the
hardship, there is relief. [Qur’an, 94:5]
17. The happiness of the son of Adam
depends on his being content with what
Allah has decreed for him, and the
misery of the son of Adam results from
his failure to pray Istikhara, and the
misery of the son of Adam results from in
his discontent with what Allah has
decreed for him.
[Tirmidhi]
