Based on Book :Dawae Shafi by Imam Qayyam Ibn Al jawzi

1. Dawae Shafi
Dr. Kanwal Kaisser
Chapter 89-99

2. 114 chapters

3. Steps to Healing Hearts
Dua
Concept of
Tauba
Understands
Sins &
Disobedience
Traps of Nafs
and shaitaan
Islamic
punishments
Shirk
Sanctity of
Human Life
Gateways to
Sins
Zina

4. Treatment of
Broken Hearts
Is there any cure???

5. Get rid of Killing thoughts?
Any traceable path to
recovery?
Detox for obsessive
desires?
Any spiritual cardiologist?
Can broken heart be
revived?
On every provoke, incites
pleasure
On each naseeha, more
inclination & defensive

7. The Prophet ‫ﷺ‬ said: ”Whatever disease
Allah has sent down, He has (also)
appointed a cure for it.” (Tirmidhi:377)

8. Two Solutions
1. Stop it’s cause before it becomes
established as a habit
2. Removing the problem, before it
dominates one’s mind

9. Support of Allah

10. Lowering of Gaze; arrow of
Iblis
• It is in compliance with commandments of Allah
• It prevents the effect of the poisonous arrow of
shataan from reaching its target
• It keeps the heart in the harmonious company of
Allah by giving the opportunity to see the
unlawful as it is
• It strengthens one's heart and lightens it, so gives
strength against worship of desires

11. Tell the believing men to reduce [some] of their vision and guard their private parts.
That is purer for them. Indeed, Allah is Acquainted with what they do.(Nur:30)
Allah is the Light of the heavens and the earth. The example of His light is like a
niche within which is a lamp, (Nur:35)

12. • It inherits a truthful insight to distinguish between
truth and falsehood.
• One's heart would develop firmness, strength and
power.
• It is said: "Whoever opposes his low desires,
Satan fears (approaching) his shadow.”
• It blocks the way for Satan to enter into the heart.
Starts to beautify an image before the gazer, heart
inflamed in passion.

13. By your life, [O Muhammad], indeed they were, in their
intoxication, wandering blindly (Al Hajr:72)

14. Whoever desires honor [through power] - then to Allah belongs all honor. To
Him ascends good speech, and righteous work raises it. But they who plot evil
deeds will have a severe punishment, and the plotting of those - it will perish.
(Fatir:10)

15. So do not weaken and do not grieve, and you will be superior
if you are [true] believers. (Ale Imran:139)

16. • It helps the heart focus on its benefits,
because letting the gaze loose would no doubt
make the heart forget its duty, and would also
give one's base self the chance to follow its
own desires, away from the remembrance of
its Lord.
• When one's heart is corrupted, it is no longer
suitable to accommodate the Love and the
Company of Allah.

17. Love and
Remembrance of
Allah
Engage heart in Halal passion

18. Use Power of…..
Fear
Love

19. Good Judgment on Beloved
• Select the highest of the beloved levels from
the lowest,
• To bear the lowest of the reprehensible, in
order to save oneself from its highest.
• This is an intellectual duty

20. Strong Determination
• To enable one to make the good choice and
give up the bad one.
And we made from among them leaders guiding
by Our command when they were patient and
[when] they were certain of Our signs (As-Sajidah:24)

21. Categories of People
1. Guided and guide others
2. Misguided and pull others in same darkness
3. Use guidance for own self only

22. Love of Allah
&
Love of Haram
Not a combo for heart

23. One would Expel other
• Unseen vs seen images
• The power of love should be devoted to Allah
alone; any other love should only exist for the
sake of Allah
• Any other love, which is devoted to others besides
Allah would become a torment for its possessor
• He punishes him/her with the love of idols, or the
love of the cross, or the love of women/men, or
the love of relatives, or the love of what is
disgraceful

24. Degree of Love
Starts with worship and submission

25. Torture from love of:
• Others
• Idols
• Materialism
• Status
• Social media/circle
• Infidelity
• Perversions

26. Have you seen he who has taken as his god his [own] desire, and Allah
has sent him astray due to knowledge and has set a seal upon his
hearing and his heart and put over his vision a veil? So who will guide
him after Allah ? Then will you not be reminded? (Al-Jathiya:23)

27. Levels of Love
Tied to beloved

28. 1. Bond of love: Initial connection
2. Ardent love: Total focus
3. Infatuation: Badly hooked
4. Passion: Ishq, as deep rooted love
5. Longing: Journey of heart to beloved
The Prophet ‫ﷺ‬ : "O Allah! I ask You, with the
longing and desire to meet you, . ..

29. The Prophet ‫ﷺ‬ mentioned in the Hadith:
"Whoever loves meeting Allah, Allah loves
to meet him. (Muslim:14)

30. Whoever should hope for the meeting with Allah - indeed,
the term decreed by Allah is coming. And He is the Hearing,
the Knowing. (Al- Ankaboot:5)

31. Whoever does righteousness, whether male or female, while
he is a believer - We will surely cause him to live a good life,
and We will surely give them their reward [in the Hereafter]
according to the best of what they used to do. (An Nahl: 97)

32. The Prophet ‫ﷺ‬ reported that Allah said: "Whosoever shows enmity
to someone devoted to Me, I shall be at war with him. My servant
draws not near to Me with anything more loved by Me than the
religious duties I have enjoined upon him, and My servant continues
to draw near to Me with nawafil ( extra optional duties), so that I
shall love him. When I love him I am his hearing with which he hears,
his seeing with which he sees, his hand with which he strikes and his
foot with which he walks. Were he to ask something of Me, I would
surely give it to him, and were he to ask Me for refuge, I would
surely grant him it. I do not hesitate about anything as much as I
hesitate about seizing the soul of My Faithful Servant: he hates
death and I hate hurting him, but it is necessary for him. ”
(Bukhari:6502)

33. Indeed, Allah is with those who fear Him and those
who are doers of good. (An Nahl:128)

35. Diagnose Your Issue
Dua
Concept of
Tauba
Understands
Sins &
Disobedience
Traps of Nafs
and shaitaan
Islamic
punishments
Shirk
Sanctity of
Human Life
Gateways to
Sins
Zina

36. Understanding Love
New
Mindset
Lowering
Gaze
Halal
Passion
Degrees
of Love
Levels of
Love

37. Extreme State of
Love
At Tatayam, Fan, Fanatic

39. "Yet when the Devotee of Allah stands forth to invoke
Him, they just make round him a dense crowd.”
(Al-Jinn:19)

40. Glory to (Allah) Who did take His servant for a Journey by night from the
Sacred Mosque to the farthest Mosque, whose precincts We did bless,- in
order that We might show him some of Our Signs: for He is the One Who
heareth and seeth (all things). (Al Israa:1)

41. Yet there are men who take (for worship) others besides Allah, as equal
(with Allah): They love them as they should love Allah. But those of
Faith are overflowing in their love for Allah. If only the unrighteous
could see, behold, they would see the penalty: that to Allah belongs all
power, and Allah will strongly enforce the penalty.(Al Baqarah:165)

43. What You Ready to Give up?
• Lifestyle
• Sleep
• Eating
• Desires
• Self Focus

44. Not Acceptable
Wali Helper
Guardian Intercessor

45. The Prophet ‫ﷺ‬said: "Whoever possesses the (following) three
qualities will have the sweetness of faith ( 1 ): The one for whom
Allah and His Messenger become dearer than anything else; (2)
Whoever loves a person and he loves him only for Allah's Sake; (3)
whoever hates to revert to atheism ( disbelief) as he would hate to
be thrown into the Fire.” (Bukhari:66)

46. The Prophet‫ﷺ‬ said: "If anyone loves for Allah's
Sake, hates for Allah's Sake, gives for Allah's
Sake, and withholds for Allah's Sake, he would
have perfect faith.’(Abi Dawud:4681)

47. Types of Love
Distinguish and Differentiate

48. 1. Love for Allah; this alone is not enough to save man from the Punishment of
Allah, and to receive His Reward, for the polytheists and those who worship the
Cross (the Christians) and the Jews claim to love Allah.
2. To love what Allah loves. It is this type which enters a person into Islam and
removes him from polytheism. The dearest of people to Allah are those who
observe this kind of love well.
3. To love for Allah's Sake, which is one of the prerequisites of loving what He
loves.
4. To direct one's love to others besides Allah; loving Allah and other idols at the
same time. This is the love of polytheists. Whoever loves others along with
Allah, not for the Sake of Allah, then he has taken them as other gods besides
Allah.
5. Man's natural love for things which are suitable to his nature; such as the love
of the thirsty person for water, and the hungry one for food; the love of sleep,
one's wife and children.

49. O ye who believe! Let not your riches or your children divert
you from the remembrance of Allah. If any act thus, the loss is
their own. (Al Munaafiqoon:9)

50. By men whom neither traffic nor merchandise can divert from
the Remembrance of Allah, nor from regular Prayer, nor from the
practice of regular Charity: Their (only) fear is for the Day when
hearts and eyes will be transformed (in a world wholly new),-
(An Noor:37)

51. Al-Khullah
The perfect love in friendship

52. Intimate Friendship
• Characterized by perfect love,
• belonging to a heart which has no place for
others besides his/her beloved one
• It is a position which does not accept sharing,
of any kind.

53. Prophet ‫ﷺ‬ said: "Allah has taken me as a khalil, just
as he had taken Ibrahim as a khalil.”
(Muslim:532)

54. Ibraheim and Ismaeel test

55. Acting or
Abandoning
It’s matter of choice

56. Khoob se Khoob tar ki Talash

57. Choice Preference
• Benefit from it
• Relief it produces
• Reasonable person prefers a lasting peaceful
state of mind
• Foolish person exchanges eternal blessings for
brief and fading satisfaction

58. Short Sighted People
• Only think of satisfaction
• Live in present
• Ignore any bad consequences in future

59. Tools to help in Choice
Intuition and
perceptions
Strong
willed heart

62. Motivation for Love
Intention behind Love

64. Our Problem: To do or not to do?
• Self Centered
• Worst enemy of self
• Opt for harm with open choice
• Enjoy High
• Later regrets
• Repeat cycle again and again

66. Our Struggles against sorrow
• Parties
• Business and Career
• Wedding events
• Music and dance
• Time wasters

67. Be short to long sighted

70. To get in touch…..
Dr. Kanwal Kaisser/ Hamaray Bachchay
Dr. Kanwal Kaisser @ HamarayBachchay
hbheadoffice@gmail.com

71. To get in touch…..
Dr. Kanwal Kaisser/ Hamaray Bachchay
Dr. Kanwal Kaisser @ HamarayBachchay
hbheadoffice@gmail.com