This document provides information about healing brokenheartedness through connecting with one's true heart and releasing trauma. It discusses how early childhood emotional pain can lead to the creation of false beliefs and protective coping strategies. Trauma can cause parts of the heart to disconnect, resulting in brokenheartedness. The document describes a process called "heart sync" to reconcile different parts of a person's identity through validating each part's pain and purpose, and introducing Jesus to help replace false beliefs with truth. A key approach discussed is "presenting Jesus" which involves asking Him to be present during past traumatic events or decisions to provide a new perspective that can be freeing.

1. Healing the Heart
and
Freedom From Addictions
Pastor Susan Fochler
Week 2

2. Healing the Brokenhearted:
Heartsync, Presenting Jesus
and Releasing Trauma
Helping the hurting to connect with
their true hearts

3. Jesus’ Mission
•18 "The Spirit of the Lord is upon Me, Because
He has anointed Me To preach the gospel to the
poor; He has sent Me to heal the
brokenhearted, To proclaim liberty to the
captives And recovery of sight to the blind, To
set at liberty those who
are oppressed...
Luke 4:18-19 NKJV

4. Broken-heartedness has not
been Recogized in the Church
When parts of our heart are “cut off”, the “Good
News” cannot fully transform our “inner man”.
We become “double-souled” and “unstable” in all
our ways. James 1:8.
But we are invited to come close to God, for He
will come close to (us). As we do, we recognize
our sin: being double-souled (mind, will and
emotions). James 4:8

5. A Child’s Response to Emotional
pain:
• They create a belief or perception about
the incident to explain “why” a bad thing
could happen, and to help protect
themselves from it happening again.
• The belief is skewed and egocentric
because the child doesn’t have the ability
to comprehend the truth.

6. Trauma creates Broken-
Heartedness
• Children are naturally ego-centric and
assume that whatever happens is their
fault. So they blame themselves, and
work hard to explain why things happen:
• “I am bad, dirty, shameful”
• “I am stupid, ignorant, incompetent”
• “I am worthless, I have no value”
• “I am alone – not wanted; no one cares”

7. Coping Strategies Work for a
While…
• The child feels the need to self-protect by
making internal decisions:
• Inner vows, bitter root judgments, denial,
avoidance, perfectionism, and vows of
unforgiveness…
• “I will never…”
• “I will always…”

8. God honors our Choices
• “In the most loving and compassionate
tone that you can imagine, He (Jesus) said,
‘Andy, you can continue to scream ‘why’ or
you can enter into the healing provision
that I’ve made for you. The choice is
yours.’”
• (“Open My Heart, Lord” Appendix A pg 130)

9. A Child’s Response to
Emotional pain:
• A Guardian or “Protector” is created:
the intensity of the memory, and the
associated painful emotions are
separated from the child’s daily reality
so they can continue to cope with life.
• God honors our decision to disconnect.

10. Range of Emotional Walls
Memory
Lapse
Detachment
Walls
Complete
Dissociation

11. Dissociation
If the trauma is sufficiently
overwhelming, we will “dissociate” our
functioning minds from that experience
and its memory.
This is why we sometimes don’t easily
remember very painful experiences.
The memory is still there, but to function
– our mind shuts it away.

12. Dissociation
Dissociation is a process whereby the
mind separates one or more aspects of its
function (knowing, feeling, tasting,
hearing, seeing, etc.) away from the
normal stream of consciousness.
Tom Hawkins, PhD.
http://www.rcm-usa.org/What-is-DID.htm

13. Text
Heart Sync: Andy Miller
We are learning to Love the Lord your God with
all your Heart, Mind and Strength. Matt. 22:37
God loves all of you; we are learning to allow
Him to love all of us, first.

14. Heartsync:
We do this through a process of
reconciliation of the core parts of
person’s identity

15. Early Childhood experiences help
mold our decisions to allow our
heart to be known.
Is it safe to ask for help?
Are they going to hate me if I make a
mistake?
Is anyone interested in what I have to say?
Will they love me more if I do better?
Am I loved for who I am or just how
good I can perform?

16. • Shame and insecurity develop:
• I must not be enough
• It must be my fault...
• I need to stay out of the way, stop
causing problems, be perfect, stop
trying, etc., etc.
Is it safe to be me? Or do I have to
pretend to be someone else?

17. Functional:
Strong, Competent,
“Left brain” Low Risk,
Independent: in denial
of internal pain
Practical
Accomplishment
Performance
“Busy-bee”
Productive
Competent
Denial

18. Functional
Practical
Accomplishment
Performance
“Busy-bee”
Productive
Emotional:
Weak, Vulnerable,
High Risk; “Right
Brain”
Pain
Vulnerable
Depression
Joy
Shame
Competent
Denial
Creativity

19. Has many different forms
Goal: To protect “emotion” from
feeling/hurting
Defensive: I’m right
Numb: I don’t care
Opinionated: I have all the answers
Dominating: I’m in control
Distracted:ADD?
Confusion
Guardian:
Anger: Back off!
Self-Punishing
Functional Emotional
Addiction: I don’t want to feel

20. Scene from Night at the Museum

21. Functional Emotional
Guardian
Original Self

22. • Goal is to communicate value and
honor to each “part” of that
person, including dysfunctional
qualities. Recognize the
dysfunction (anger, hatred, denial,
confusion, etc.) is there for a
reason.
We Reconcile these
different “parts” through
synchronization

23. We can leave behind parts of our hearts
holding feelings that are overwhelmingly
painful. We were a child trying hard to
figure out difficult situations. These parts
were needed to help process and handle
things as best as we could.
Internal Reconciliation:

24. • It may take some time to slowly
allow understanding and
acceptance of a new self-concept.
There is a gradual opening of a
new “space” within.
We Reconcile these
different “parts” through
synchronization

25. How to reconcile?
We seek to recognize why the “wall” is
there, and synchronize, i.e. empathize (not
sympathize) by validating the “child’s”
pain. Give permission to feel and name
their pain, and stay present with them as
the Holy Spirit replaces the false beliefs
with the truth that sets us free. Gently,
with patience and acceptance.

26. Its All About Jesus!
We look for opportunities to
introduce Jesus to the “inner being
child” that have been walled-off and
holding the pain.
We help the person and their “inner
being child” to release the trauma
they have been holding – to Jesus

27. We Reconcile these
different “parts” through
synchronization
Now all things are of God, who has reconciled
us to Himself through Jesus Christ, and has
given us the ministry of reconciliation, that
God was in Christ reconciling the world to
Himself, not imputing their trespasses to
them, and has committed to us the word of
reconciliation. 2 Cor. 5:18-19

28. • First Step: As the minister, ask
permission to connect to the presenting
part. We have no agenda, no
pressure. This “part” has never
known acceptance before. Give
language to their purpose, their “job”.
We Reconcile these
different “parts” through
synchronization

29. • Next, Synchronize: empathize and
help that “part” know they are
valued, have purpose, are needed.
Very often they need to know they
aren’t “bad”. Even anger is there for
a reason. Honor with patience.
We Reconcile these
different “parts” through
synchronization

30. • Third, engage a dialogue by finding
out how the “part” feels about Jesus,
feels about the rest of the person.
Utilize open-ended questions and
“Listening Prayer”.
We Reconcile these
different “parts” through
synchronization

31. • We have walled off internally and
unconsciously when we were in
conflicting and uncomfortable
situations that evoked very
uncomfortable emotions that we
didn’t know how to handle.
Internal Reconciliation:
Reconciliation within the
person via Self-
Synchronization

32. Freedom through Jesus
Shocking as it might be, parts of our
heart don’t yet “know” Jesus, and
need a safe environment to experience
Him.

33. Presenting
Jesus

34. Presenting Jesus: You shall
know the truth, and the truth
shall set you free
 A powerful approach
pioneered by Dr. Ed Smith
(Theophostic Prayer Ministry)
 Romans 8:28 promise:
All things work together
for our good.

35. 35
Presenting Jesus
A traumatic event happens... Type A or B
We believe lies about ourselves and
others, such as God, because of it...
We move on with
our life, grow up;
but we continue to
be impacted by that
internal decision.
80

36. 36
Presenting Jesus
We believe a lie, or make a
vow to help protect ourselves
at a vulnerable time.
We can invite Jesus to go back
with us to that event/
decision, and with Him
present with us, everything
looks different.
80

37. 37
We want to go back to the
Root Lie/Misperception
The person asks Jesus to take them back
to a memory, an event where they first
believed a “lie” about themselves, chose
unforgiveness or made a vow
Often a picture or a “movie” will appear –
where a trauma occurred.
86

38. 38
Presenting Jesus
Children work really hard to figure out
their world, but without adult perspective
or life experience generally come up with
an egocentric, skewed understanding.
They tend to assume everything is their
fault, or their responsibility, even in cases
of blatant abuse or neglect.
80

39. 39
Presenting Jesus
We have them ask Jesus to show them
where He was in that situation.
Using Listening Prayer, help them ask
open-ended questions to uncover the lies/
vows, and discover the truth.
Sometimes requires creativity to discover
where He was. After, He has never left us,
but we have often assumed He did
because something bad happened.
80

40. 40
Presenting
Jesus
 He will show you the
truth about your part/
reaction - and that sets
you free from the false
belief you’ve held about
yourself.
83

41. Disney’s “The Kid”

42. 42
Presenting Jesus: Our view of
history is changed forever!
The initial event occurred before we knew
Jesus, or knew that He could protect us.
And that traumatized, wounded belief
system still lives, locked deep within.
Now, we know Who He is, and what He
can do, He enters into the circumstances
out of time and everything can change.
84

43. Replacing Old protection
(lies) with New Truth!
Recognizing that Jesus
was there, and knowing
His presence in a new
way allows perceptions
and belief systems to
start shifting.

44. 44
Presenting Jesus: Let there be
Light!
You number my
wanderings; Put my tears
into Your bottle; Are they
not in Your book? When I
cry out to You, Then my
enemies will turn back;
This I know, because God
is for me.
Psalms 56:8-9 (NKJV)
85

45. 45
Do you have to remember the
event?
You do not have to
remember the
detailed, specific
memory.
You do have to
connect with the
pain/emotion from
the memory.
82

46. Releasing Trauma

47. Releasing Trauma
• Jesus as portrayed in Isaiah 53:3-4
• 3 He is despised and rejected by men,
A Man of sorrows and acquainted with
grief. And we hid, as it were, our faces
from Him; He was despised, and we did
not esteem Him.
4 Surely He has borne our griefs
And carried our sorrows...

48. Jesus on the Cross
• Jesus not only bore our sins once
and for all on the cross; He also bore
our griefs and sorrows. We have
the great gift of being able to release
the trauma and emotional pain that
we are carrying to Jesus.

49. Releasing to Jesus
• We can simply connect with our heart and
look to Jesus – say something like:
• “Jesus I release the pain, trauma, grief,
(or even fear) that I’ve been carrying – to
You.” And then just let it flow out of you to
Jesus. This sometimes can take a while.
• When it feels that it is no longer flowing –
Thank Jesus for taking this for you – and ask
Holy Spirit to fill you with His life, light, peace,
and joy.

50. The Nature of Inner Wounds
Our wounding comes from 2 kinds of
traumas we experience in life.
There is the trauma that comes from not
receiving the good, nurturing experiences
that God intended for us. This is called
“Type A” trauma in the Life Model book*.
There is the trauma of bad things:
violence, abuse, cursing that are done to
us. This is called “Type B” trauma.

51. Examples of Type A
Trauma*
•Not receiving as an infant - the
unconditional love and joy connections
that we needed from someone like our
mother.
•Not being cherished and celebrated by
our parents for just being ourselves.
•Not receiving large amounts of non-
sexual physical nurturing
•* From “The Life Model Book” by Wilder, Friesen, et al, pg 72

52. Examples of Type A
Trauma*
•Not being taught how to do hard things
– to problem solve and develop
persistence
•Not receiving adequate food, shelter,
etc.
•* From “The Life Model Book” by Wilder, Friesen, et al, pg 72

53. Effects of Type A Trauma
 The primary effect is to cripple one’s ability
to feel positive emotions. It is therefore a
form of broken-heartedness.
 Because it is due to an absence instead of
an overt trauma, many find it hard to
acknowledge the significance of the
damage and pain.
 Most of the usual inner-healing approaches
seem to have little effect on issues caused
by Type A trauma.

54. Type B Trauma
Type B trauma is the more familiar kind.
It comes from physical, emotional, and
sexual abuse, from abandonment, from
watching others suffer violence and
abuse.
It can also come from experiencing
traumatic violence from a vehicle
accident or crime or act of war.

55. Renouncing Lies and
Replacing the Truth
A Traumatic event (type A or B) is a
container for lies. Studies in
neurological science support that
these events are locked in neural
pathways in the brain.

56. Renouncing Lies and
Replacing the Truth
For Godly grief and the pain God is
permitted to direct, produce a repentance
that leads and contributes to salvation and
deliverance and it never brings regret; but
worldly grief is deadly.
2 Cor 7:10

57. “Triggering”
•Traumatic memories from the past that
become triggered by events in the present.
Panic attacks, PTSD.
•Healing: Like Presenting Jesus, to help
the person see the trauma of the event
with new eyes.

58. Jesus!
Jesus wants to heal our broken-into-parts
heart. His work on the cross – once for all
time made a place for all the trauma
we’ve carried - to go.
Jesus also made a way for each of us to
release all of our shame, guilt, rejection,
trauma, and fear to Him on the cross.

59. Freedom!
So, both the trauma caused by our sins and
also the effects of the sins of others – the
trauma done to us - both have a place to go.
And thus, we can be Free!

60. Exercise
Releasing Pain and Trauma
From our hearts to Jesus, who
takes ALL our sin, our griefs, our
sorrow, our punishment.
Knowing He is with us in all that
we face, being for us, and taking the
hit, changes everything.