This document discusses using social science principles to help people navigate dating and attraction. It summarizes that: 1) Dating involves many unknown social scenarios that can be intimidating, but taking an objective, evidence-based approach can help separate facts from fictional beliefs. 2) As social scientists, examining human behavior methodically can provide insights into flirting and attraction, which often makes confident people feel insecure. 3) Some key methodologies include considering evidence over many examples to identify accurate patterns, getting perspective on one's experiences, and reframing rejection as a useful screening process rather than a personal failure.

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with them, but also how do you act in all these different scenarios that the dating world throws out. What do you even
wear? You know what to wear to work. All of these unknowns, understandably, can be scary for people. That’s a lot of
unknowns! Therefore, using objectivity and different anthropological methodologies can help us separate fact from
fiction, it can help us to see the real story of what is going on and not just one that our minds have made up.
As you might know. I am a social and cultural anthropologist which is a very long way of saying that I
study human behavior. So, I am firm believer that using reason and logic, based in social science, is
important. Especially in realm of flirting and attraction because what I have noticed over the last decade
of helping people in this area, is that the idea of expressing interest in someone you like, turns the most
confident and savvy person, into a pile of mush. People who, in their jobs, are capable and confident, all
of a sudden when it comes to expressing interest in someone, they don’t know up from down.
I’ve deduced it’s You know what your boss is going to say. You
know what your capacity in your job is, how people will receive you, if fact, you probably already know
most of the people in your work life, and what is expected of you, you know everything about this facet
of your life. And if you didn’t at first, you have every day, 8 hours a day to get familiar in this role, with
this side of your personality.
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6. • In order for you to learn how to your mind as your friend, rather than foe, let’s start with a
I will now share with you three of the methodologies that
anthropologists use in their field work, to ensure objectivity.
• This means that something must happen enough times, before we can make an
accurate judgement as to whether it’s true or not. For example, you say. ‘I’ve tried everything,
there’s no one out there’. or ‘I’ve been on so many dates’. But if we were to really deconstruct this,
‘trying everything’ means signing up for a dating site and going to one singles event. And going on
‘so many dates’ was actually 2 dates. So while in your head it might seem true that you are being
so proactive, when you look at reality, through sample size, it might not actually be the case. You
can’t be sure of anything without enough numbers to justify your conclusion.

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19. This is the final area affecting your partner search, and where I’d love to offer you a
different path than the one you probably usually take about rejection. The one we’ve
been schooled in since we were young. It’s the way society teaches rejections, and that
is as a soul-destroying exercise, one that you avoid at all costs. And this probably means
that you have missed out on many great opportunities, and many times haven’t done
something that you really wanted to do, due to fear of what the rejection will feel like.
So I want to offer you an alternate viewpoint of rejection. And that is that it can be pretty
useful as an efficient weeding out mechanism.
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