This document discusses how to motivate yourself and others. It provides tips on how to be an admired leader rather than a "deadweight." Some key points include: 1) Effective communication and relationships are important for motivation. Listen to others and have dialogues rather than monologues. 2) Inspire others by making them feel they can contribute and make a difference. Avoid being aggressive and know when not to be assertive. 3) You have control over how you shape your own life and motivate yourself. You can choose to innovate rather than just imitate or vegetate.

1. Get the LEAD out…
Be a leader not a deadweight!
Motivating Yourself & Others
by Dr. Michael W. Posey

2. Your status…
 1 – How’s our Professional Life?
 2 – How’s your personal life?
 3 – What makes you happy?
 4 – What don’t you know that you’d like to?
 5 – One thing you want to do professionally
before you die?
 6 – One thing you want to do personally
before you die?

3. Are you admired?
 Admired -vs- Deadweight
– Name 3 people you admire?
 ____________________
 ____________________
 ____________________
Why do you admire them?

4. Or are you a deadweight?
 Admired -vs- Deadweight
– Name 3 deadweights you’ve encountered
in life?
 ____________________
 ____________________
 ____________________
What makes them a deadweight?

5. Admire -vs- Deadweight
 Admired People  Deadweights
– Motivator – Uninspiring
– Colleague – Cling-on
– Passionate – Care Less attitude
– Listener – Talker
– Authority – No Authority
– Controlled – Uncontrolled
– Teacher – Wanderer

6. The Life Puzzle
 Your life is influenced
by those whom you
admire and the
deadweights whom
you encounter
throughout your life...
 …they help to
influence the pieces of
the your puzzle

7. The Life Puzzle
 Remember that
YOU have the
ultimate control
over how YOU
shape YOUR style
and how you build
YOUR puzzle!

8. One cannot not
Motivate!
 Everything we do is because of
motivation
– Humans do not do anything unless they
are motivated to do it.

9. DWI
 Dealing with it means recognition of
your preferences
– Recognize that you like certain things
better than others!
– Know that it is OK to do so!
 Accept this to be the case and strive to
operate within your comfort zone.

10. DWI
 Dealing with it sometimes means
doing things that you don’t like to do.
– Understand that it is only temporary
– Look forward to doing the things you DO
like

11. Relationships
 Everything that we do stems
from a relationship with
someone/thing
– Managing relationships is Key

12. Relationships
 Knowing yourself helps
to balance your life
which helps to balance
relationships which
helps to balance your
work which. . .

13. Relationships
 The key is to find
out what makes
people tick!
– How do they fit?
– What gets their
juices flowing?
– Why do/don’t they
do what they do?

14. Relationship
 Another key to good working
relationships people is effective
communication

15. Communication
 Effective communication does not
mean having a Monologue
– You disconfirm someone when you
don’t listen and have a one sided
conversation
 This makes others lose face and feel
unimportant and less willing to go that extra
mile

16. Communication
 Effective communication means
having a dialogue
– You can confirm someone when you
talk with them
 This will help to validate them and will make
them more willing to go that extra mile

17. You Create it!
 The communication we have with
others creates our environment.
 We choose our communication with
others.
 We ultimately control how
communication affects us.

18. Inspiring Others takes work!
The hard stuff is easy – the soft
stuff is hard. The soft stuff makes
all the difference!

19. Inspire
 What do you want to inspire
within others?
– A good feeling!
– A sense that they can
contributed to the betterment of
others!
– A feeling that they can make a
difference!

20. Quick Tips
 Be assertive NOT aggressive
 Know when NOT to be assertive
 Scope it out and look before crossing
 Remember P.A.C.E.

21. Quick Tips
 Lay your cards down
 Don’t be a rug – Don’t make rugs
 Buy into to being uncomfortable

22. Quick Tips
 Avoid Crap
– When someone throws a bucket of crap
at you, step aside and let the crap hit the
wall…if you don’t then the crap will hit you
and you’ll feel crappy.

23. Three Choices
 You can Vegetate
 You can Imitate
 You can Innovate
It is YOUR choice!

24. Contact information
Michael W. Posey, Ph.D.
drmikeposey@gmail.com
@drmikeposey on Twitter

25. The End
Copyright 2012
Michael W. Posey, Ph.D
All Rights Reserved