3. “Facebook
has
created
a
whole
new
slew
of
obstacles
and
awkward
conversa4ons
that
previously
didn’t
exist
for
people
in
the
dreadful
world
of
da4ng.”
-‐
Gretchen
Kelmer
Photo
by
FindYourSearch
(Flickr)
4. “There’s
less
structure
for
people
today
as
rela?onships
develop.
A
leJerman’s
jacket
or
a
class
ring
—
those
kinds
of
social
courtship
scripts
don’t
exist
on
Facebook.”
-‐Gretchen
Kelmer
Photo
by
Shilo
Bradley
(Flickr)
5. Facebook
is
one
of
the
primary
tools
for
interac?on
early
in
the
experimen?ng
stage
of
roman?c
rela?onship
development.
Photo
by
stephenjohnbryde
(Flickr)
6.
7. “Deciding
to
go
FBO
means
laying
your
emo?onal
cards
on
the
table,
face
up.”
-‐
Tom
Jacobs
Photo
by
facebook
Poker
Chips
(Flickr)
8. It
represents
a
“new
?er
in
the
rela?onal
hierarchy,
an
announcement
that
two
people
are
in
an
exclusive,
long-‐
term,
and
public
commitment.”
Jesse
Fox
Photo
by
Tadgh
O
Maoildearg
(Flickr)
10. “Those
that
displayed
their
significant
other
in
their
profile
picture
and
were
listed
as
“in
a
rela?onship”
were
more
likely
to
stay
together
and
less
likely
to
have
cheated.
They
also
showed
lower
levels
of
alterna?ve
partner
monitoring,”
-‐Gretchen
Kelmer
11. You
have
to
break
online
hearts
too
Photo
by
Yoshiko314
(Flickr)
12. Studies
show
“
People
feel
more
pressure
from
friends
and
family
to
stay
together
when
they
have
their
partner
in
profile
picture
and
rela?onship
status.”
Kelmer
Photo
by
55His.com
(Flickr)
13.
14. Not
to
men4on
your
exes
can
follow
you
everywhere
Photo
by
Oregon
State
University
(Flickr)
15. Studies
show,
“Remaining
Facebook
friends
with
an
ex
delayed
emo?onal
recovery
and
led
to
greater
distress
over
the
breakup,
nega?ve
feelings,
sexual
desire
and
longing
for
the
ex-‐partner.”
Tara
Marshall
Photo
by
reverie
103
(Flickr)
16. “This
has
created
a
situa?on
where
we
are
trea?ng
each
other
as
though
we
were
stalkers.'"
Dr.
Turkle
This
is
creepy!
Photo
by
empowerment
blogger
(Flickr)
17. “Always-‐on-‐your
devices
provide
three
powerful
fantasies:
that
we
will
always
be
heard;
that
we
can
put
our
aJen?on
wherever
we
want
it
to
be;
and
that
we
never
have
to
be
alone.”
Sherry
Turkle
Photo
by
thebarrowboy
(Flickr)
18. “Facebook
is
preJy
much
real
life
now
so
don’t
treat
it
any
differently
than
you
do
da?ng
OUT
THERE.
Be
normal,
be
cool,
be
nice.”
Allison
McCann
Photo
by
scipio164
(Flickr)
19. “But
now,
thanks
to
our
smartphones,
it
is
never
OK
to
be
unavailable.
Ever.
Not
for
a
minute.”
Elizabeth
Bernstein
Photo
by
paisley
yasmine
(Flickr)
