This document discusses unhealthy versus healthy emotional control. It explains that past traumatic events can trigger negative emotional reactions to current situations if the past event is not resolved, leading to flight or fight responses and repeating the original unhealthy pattern. However, resolving past events allows one to react to current situations from a place of positive emotions, establish positive behavior patterns, and aim for positive outcomes through assertive functioning.

1. Emote Control

2. Past Event Trigger Emotional reaction to current event Flight Fight Repeat of original pattern Negative Outcome Repeat of pattern Unhealthy Emote Control

3. Perception of Past Event e.g. Parent abandons Triggers loss of control, low self-esteem, Emotional reaction to current event in any situation where there is a sense of not being in control e.g. In School

4. Emotional reaction to current event Any situation where there is a sense of not being in control e.g. In School Withdrawal – passive aggressive flight response e.g. School refusers Aggressive – fight response to establish control in the environment e.g. persistent behaviour issues

5. Repeat of original pattern – because behaviour is based on feelings triggered from original event of loss of control, low self-esteem Negative outcome will result because the behaviour is routed in negative emotions. Reversed outcome e.g. I will seek to reject you before you reject me to protect myself from original feelings. Identical outcome e.g. I will seek to get you to reject me and re-affirm original feelings. or

6. Resolved Past Event Reaction to current event based on positive emotions Positive participation in the process aware that outcome cannot be controlled. Positive Behaviour Pattern is established Function assertively aiming for a positive outcome Healthy Emote Control