The document discusses the concept of "flow" or being fully immersed and focused in an activity without concerns of ego or self-consciousness. It provides examples of people experiencing flow in their work as athletes, artists, or drivers who are passionate about their jobs. However, most people are not present in their work and are always wanting to be somewhere else due to a sense of lack and a need to find their identity through external things rather than from within. This constant seeking of fulfillment from outside sources leads to unhappiness and prevents people from achieving success in their current roles.
The document discusses the case of Elizabeth, who initially left college after three years due to poor grades and withdrawal from courses, and did not complete her undergraduate degree until 20 years later. It analyzes factors that may have contributed to Elizabeth's initial lack of college success, such as a lack of emotional maturity, coming from a family without a college-going legacy, and attending a school that did not match her interests and learning style as a driven but independent student. The document also provides advice on how colleges can better support students from disadvantaged backgrounds or those who are the first in their family to attend college.
The author recounts his experience attending a party at the Playboy Mansion after receiving an invitation from a friend. Despite initial doubts, his wife and others encouraged him to go. At the party, most guests were excited to be there and less concerned about appearances than the author. Within a few hours, much of the party had disrobed and was openly intimate, prompting the author to leave, realizing the party represented freedom from social expectations and a chance to have fun without worry over others' perceptions.
Jordan Harbinger founded the Art of Charm after learning about the importance of social skills and networking from a mentor at his law firm job. He realized he could develop indispensable social skills without having to rely solely on technical knowledge. He started practicing various social and networking techniques aggressively with his friend AJ. Their system became popular and profitable enough to formalize into boot camps teaching charm, confidence and communication. While initially focused on meeting women, Jordan found the training benefited diverse groups including entrepreneurs, military personnel and intelligence agents.
Kim’s interview with sean hepburn ferrer2pointsmania
This document is a transcript of an interview between Kim and Sean Hepburn Ferrer about Audrey Hepburn. In three sentences:
Sean discusses Audrey Hepburn's legacy as being about her acting career, style, and humanitarian work with UNICEF. He saw her as a normal, insecure person who used her fame to help others due to her own experiences with hunger as a child. The interview touches on Audrey's commitment to her family, work with UNICEF, goals in life, and what she may think about current efforts to help children in need globally.
Kim’s interview with sean hepburn ferrerpointsmania
Sean Hepburn Ferrer discusses his mother, actress Audrey Hepburn. He talks about her humanitarian work with UNICEF, her insecurities, her commitment to family over fame, and her legacy of being a "real" person. He advises a 14-year-old who is giving a speech about Hepburn to truly get to know her by watching her films and reading about her life, and to focus on connecting with the audience through feeling rather than facts.
This presentation looks at the global issue of sexual street harassment, especially of women and girls in light of the teachings of the Bahá'í Faith on the equality of women and men and the necessity of women sharing equally in public arenas and having access to public spaces—something harassment significantly impacts
There is nothing more important you can do in your interviews than allow the people who are interviewing you to know you will appreciate them if they hire you. It is equally important to appreciate those who hire you and to make them feel like good people.
The document contains a collection of short quotes on various topics ranging from love and relationships to life lessons. Some of the quotes discuss the beauty in imperfect things, measuring love, and finding home in someone's arms. Others address topics like kindness, approval, memories, and living one's best life. The quotes provide insights into human experiences and perspectives.
The document discusses the case of Elizabeth, who initially left college after three years due to poor grades and withdrawal from courses, and did not complete her undergraduate degree until 20 years later. It analyzes factors that may have contributed to Elizabeth's initial lack of college success, such as a lack of emotional maturity, coming from a family without a college-going legacy, and attending a school that did not match her interests and learning style as a driven but independent student. The document also provides advice on how colleges can better support students from disadvantaged backgrounds or those who are the first in their family to attend college.
The author recounts his experience attending a party at the Playboy Mansion after receiving an invitation from a friend. Despite initial doubts, his wife and others encouraged him to go. At the party, most guests were excited to be there and less concerned about appearances than the author. Within a few hours, much of the party had disrobed and was openly intimate, prompting the author to leave, realizing the party represented freedom from social expectations and a chance to have fun without worry over others' perceptions.
Jordan Harbinger founded the Art of Charm after learning about the importance of social skills and networking from a mentor at his law firm job. He realized he could develop indispensable social skills without having to rely solely on technical knowledge. He started practicing various social and networking techniques aggressively with his friend AJ. Their system became popular and profitable enough to formalize into boot camps teaching charm, confidence and communication. While initially focused on meeting women, Jordan found the training benefited diverse groups including entrepreneurs, military personnel and intelligence agents.
Kim’s interview with sean hepburn ferrer2pointsmania
This document is a transcript of an interview between Kim and Sean Hepburn Ferrer about Audrey Hepburn. In three sentences:
Sean discusses Audrey Hepburn's legacy as being about her acting career, style, and humanitarian work with UNICEF. He saw her as a normal, insecure person who used her fame to help others due to her own experiences with hunger as a child. The interview touches on Audrey's commitment to her family, work with UNICEF, goals in life, and what she may think about current efforts to help children in need globally.
Kim’s interview with sean hepburn ferrerpointsmania
Sean Hepburn Ferrer discusses his mother, actress Audrey Hepburn. He talks about her humanitarian work with UNICEF, her insecurities, her commitment to family over fame, and her legacy of being a "real" person. He advises a 14-year-old who is giving a speech about Hepburn to truly get to know her by watching her films and reading about her life, and to focus on connecting with the audience through feeling rather than facts.
This presentation looks at the global issue of sexual street harassment, especially of women and girls in light of the teachings of the Bahá'í Faith on the equality of women and men and the necessity of women sharing equally in public arenas and having access to public spaces—something harassment significantly impacts
There is nothing more important you can do in your interviews than allow the people who are interviewing you to know you will appreciate them if they hire you. It is equally important to appreciate those who hire you and to make them feel like good people.
The document contains a collection of short quotes on various topics ranging from love and relationships to life lessons. Some of the quotes discuss the beauty in imperfect things, measuring love, and finding home in someone's arms. Others address topics like kindness, approval, memories, and living one's best life. The quotes provide insights into human experiences and perspectives.
Self identity and existential development in ya genreHifza Kiyani
This document discusses self-identity and existential development in young adult (YA) literature and how it is portrayed in the Riyria series. It poses research questions about how these themes are catered to in YA genre and explored in the characters of the Riyria series. The document analyzes several characters from the Riyria series, examining how their identities and senses of purpose evolve throughout the story in response to major life events.
Sarah Lian is a Malaysian-Canadian actress and host who has lived in both countries. After achieving success in Malaysia, she moved back to Canada in 2011 to challenge herself as an unknown newcomer and take acting classes to improve. She later returned to Malaysia to start her own talent agency and mentor young creatives. Throughout her career, she has pushed herself constantly by taking on new opportunities and roles around the world despite facing rejections and struggles with dating as a busy working woman.
The band Invincible Alaska has partnered with the Hot Topic Foundation to raise funds for music programs in Washington county schools through their "Music Makes You Smarter" campaign. Band members Hayley Williams and Caleb York believe strongly in the positive impact of music. They are holding a concert called "Save Rock and Roll" where all proceeds will benefit the Hot Topic Foundation. The band asks fans to support their fundraising efforts by attending concerts and buying merchandise.
be yourself so then you dont have to be forced to act like someone you arnt. choose to be who you are and not have it be chosen for you. dont let people control you just for the way you act or the way you do things... choose if someone can control you... dont let it be that they choose for you.
This secret obsession is the key to winning a man's love (2)VctorjamesGilCastao
In just 90 seconds from now, I'm going to let you in on something every man is secretly obsessed with.,It's Something He CRAVES...
More than love, more than money, even more than sex.
And the craziest part is this one secret obsession holds the key to winning a man's love, attention, and total devotion for LIFE but not one woman in a thousand even knows it exists!
This document provides an introduction to the author's experience getting started in real estate investing. It describes how the author quit his job to pursue real estate full-time without any experience or money, which led him to becoming homeless. Through attending church, he found renewed motivation. He then connected with a mentor who showed him his first successful real estate deal, flipping a property using a short sale and rent-to-own strategy. This introduced the author to real estate investing techniques and marked a turning point in his career.
This document discusses the benefits of friendship and argues for embracing friendship between all people. It notes that people with friends are healthier, live longer, and are happier. Several studies and experts are cited showing friendship has a bigger impact on well-being than family relationships. The document advocates cultivating friendships between women and refusing to see other women as competition. It also encourages men to express themselves and befriend other men, while struggling against dismissing women. Overall, it promotes embracing friendship between all people.
The document describes a senior project aimed at raising awareness of the dangers of texting while driving. The student created posters with statistics, organized a pledge campaign at local stores, and worked with police to educate youth. While fundraising for reminder rings proved difficult, the project highlighted the risks of distracted driving and helped the student learn persistence in pursuing an important cause.
I was honored to be a key note speaker at the Senior NCO Leadership Conference for the HIANG 154th Wing in Hawaii on September 12, 2008. The contents of this manifesto is the script from the second part of a two-part speech I delivered to these amazing men and women in service for our country. “Wonder and Belief” was also inspired by and dedicated to the authentic leaders, past and present, who touch my life everyday: Robert S.K. Lee Jr., Robert E. Rinker, Ira Vanterpool, Richard Dooley . - - Lorraine Rinker
Real Facts and True Stories about Hookup Culturelisawadephd
The media both celebrates and condemns “hook up culture,” a mythical environment in which college students have an endless string of casual sexual partners. In fact, students are having a lot less sex than these stories suggest. More, they report that the sex they are having is disappointing, to say the least. In this talk, I show that the problem on college campuses isn’t too much sex, it’s bad sex: unpleasurable, unwanted, uncaring, and competitive. The solution? Not to abandon the casual hook up (it has some interesting advantages), but to multiply the sexual discourses on campus in ways that give students the cognitive freedom and cultural support to make the sexual choices that are best for each of them.
American Hookup: The New Culture of Sex on Campuslisawadephd
The media both celebrates and condemns “hookup culture,” a mythical environment in which college students have an endless string of casual sexual partners. In fact, students are having a lot less sex than these stories suggest. More, they report that the sex they are having is disappointing, to say the least. In this talk, I discuss the difference between hooking up as a behavior, a script, and a culture; what it means to live in a hookup culture; and why students report distress, disappointment, and trauma. The solution? Not to abandon the casual hookup (it has some interesting advantages), but to even the playing field on college campuses by taking power away from privileged students, giving everyone the information they need to make informed decisions, and then let students themselves nurture and innovate new sexual cultures, thus diversifying sexual options on campus.
This document discusses patterns related to attraction and relationships. It begins by describing the author's experience failing to help a client with relationship advice and learning from a mentor. It then discusses three key patterns:
1) The happiness pattern - people are happiest when making progress towards goals, not after achieving them. This taps into men's drive to pursue achievement.
2) Man on a mission - men want to make their partner happy but find it vague and frustrating without clear goals, hindering their happiness.
3) Compassion collapse - empathy declines as the ability to help declines, and this effect is stronger for men who are naturally less empathetic. A man will lose interest unless he has a clear mission.
The document discusses a man who attended a wedding rehearsal dinner and sat next to a wealthy businessman. The businessman revealed that he prefers using prostitutes to relationships because it is cheaper and less troublesome. The narrator was shocked by this viewpoint, which treats people as commodities that can be bought and sold. The document argues that to succeed in business and career, one must form emotional connections with others and understand their goals and dreams, in order to be seen as more than just a replaceable commodity.
The document discusses using contrasts to motivate self-improvement. It describes the author's father driving him past wealthy neighborhoods as a child to emphasize the importance of education. Later experiences, such as not getting into Harvard and seeing inequality in admissions, challenged his beliefs. Visiting expensive homes and comparing luxury cars revealed contrasts that impacted his perceptions. The author advocates seeking out role models who have achieved more to understand one's potential and stay motivated to grow.
One of the largest challenges of our lives is making sure that we do not meet our need to feel significant in a way that is destructive. For example, many people in their need to feel significant will try and be critical of others.
Harrison believes that one of the most important things to any human being is to feel important. We all have the need to feel significant and this need is something that really controls and governs many of our lives. Being focused on the work is incredibly important. Being focused on your own significance is attachment, and all attachments eventually result in disappointment.
Social Psychology Essay Titles. Online assignment writing service.Lisa Taylor
This document provides instructions for completing a gradient nail art manicure using two metallic nail polishes - Kleancolor Metallics orange and yellow. The polishes apply smoothly and opaquely in two coats. To create the gradient effect, one coat of the yellow polish is applied and gradually blended into the orange polish. Copper Penny nail polish by Sally Hansen is sponged on the tips to add sparkle. Instructions are given for the gradient technique, starting with the lighter polish as the base coat and blending colors. A picture shows the base coat step. Applying a protective barrier to the skin is recommended before starting the manicure.
How, as a 34 year old “burnt out” professional performer, I discovered the 3 key elements of a great opportunity, with no hype, only the hard hitting truth, that allowed me to generate up to 4 figures in a single day when I applied this…
Tony Robbins discusses the "invisible forces" that make us do what we do -- and high-fives Al Gore in the front row.
What is your motive for action? What is it that drives you in your life today? Not 10 years ago. Are you running the same pattern? Because I believe that the invisible force of internal drive, activated, is the most important thing. I'm here because I believe emotion is the force of life. All of us have great minds. Most of us here have great minds, right? We all know how to think. With our minds we can rationalize anything. We can make anything happen.
My Personal Identity Essay
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Personality Reflection Essay
Personal Change Essay
My Personal Values Essay
Personal Self Assessment Essay
Essay about My Core Values
Personal Project Sample
My Personal Goals Essay
Personal History Essay
Where you end up is not where you start. The choices you make and the thinking you have are incredibly important to your success. As are the actions you take.
Self identity and existential development in ya genreHifza Kiyani
This document discusses self-identity and existential development in young adult (YA) literature and how it is portrayed in the Riyria series. It poses research questions about how these themes are catered to in YA genre and explored in the characters of the Riyria series. The document analyzes several characters from the Riyria series, examining how their identities and senses of purpose evolve throughout the story in response to major life events.
Sarah Lian is a Malaysian-Canadian actress and host who has lived in both countries. After achieving success in Malaysia, she moved back to Canada in 2011 to challenge herself as an unknown newcomer and take acting classes to improve. She later returned to Malaysia to start her own talent agency and mentor young creatives. Throughout her career, she has pushed herself constantly by taking on new opportunities and roles around the world despite facing rejections and struggles with dating as a busy working woman.
The band Invincible Alaska has partnered with the Hot Topic Foundation to raise funds for music programs in Washington county schools through their "Music Makes You Smarter" campaign. Band members Hayley Williams and Caleb York believe strongly in the positive impact of music. They are holding a concert called "Save Rock and Roll" where all proceeds will benefit the Hot Topic Foundation. The band asks fans to support their fundraising efforts by attending concerts and buying merchandise.
be yourself so then you dont have to be forced to act like someone you arnt. choose to be who you are and not have it be chosen for you. dont let people control you just for the way you act or the way you do things... choose if someone can control you... dont let it be that they choose for you.
This secret obsession is the key to winning a man's love (2)VctorjamesGilCastao
In just 90 seconds from now, I'm going to let you in on something every man is secretly obsessed with.,It's Something He CRAVES...
More than love, more than money, even more than sex.
And the craziest part is this one secret obsession holds the key to winning a man's love, attention, and total devotion for LIFE but not one woman in a thousand even knows it exists!
This document provides an introduction to the author's experience getting started in real estate investing. It describes how the author quit his job to pursue real estate full-time without any experience or money, which led him to becoming homeless. Through attending church, he found renewed motivation. He then connected with a mentor who showed him his first successful real estate deal, flipping a property using a short sale and rent-to-own strategy. This introduced the author to real estate investing techniques and marked a turning point in his career.
This document discusses the benefits of friendship and argues for embracing friendship between all people. It notes that people with friends are healthier, live longer, and are happier. Several studies and experts are cited showing friendship has a bigger impact on well-being than family relationships. The document advocates cultivating friendships between women and refusing to see other women as competition. It also encourages men to express themselves and befriend other men, while struggling against dismissing women. Overall, it promotes embracing friendship between all people.
The document describes a senior project aimed at raising awareness of the dangers of texting while driving. The student created posters with statistics, organized a pledge campaign at local stores, and worked with police to educate youth. While fundraising for reminder rings proved difficult, the project highlighted the risks of distracted driving and helped the student learn persistence in pursuing an important cause.
I was honored to be a key note speaker at the Senior NCO Leadership Conference for the HIANG 154th Wing in Hawaii on September 12, 2008. The contents of this manifesto is the script from the second part of a two-part speech I delivered to these amazing men and women in service for our country. “Wonder and Belief” was also inspired by and dedicated to the authentic leaders, past and present, who touch my life everyday: Robert S.K. Lee Jr., Robert E. Rinker, Ira Vanterpool, Richard Dooley . - - Lorraine Rinker
Real Facts and True Stories about Hookup Culturelisawadephd
The media both celebrates and condemns “hook up culture,” a mythical environment in which college students have an endless string of casual sexual partners. In fact, students are having a lot less sex than these stories suggest. More, they report that the sex they are having is disappointing, to say the least. In this talk, I show that the problem on college campuses isn’t too much sex, it’s bad sex: unpleasurable, unwanted, uncaring, and competitive. The solution? Not to abandon the casual hook up (it has some interesting advantages), but to multiply the sexual discourses on campus in ways that give students the cognitive freedom and cultural support to make the sexual choices that are best for each of them.
American Hookup: The New Culture of Sex on Campuslisawadephd
The media both celebrates and condemns “hookup culture,” a mythical environment in which college students have an endless string of casual sexual partners. In fact, students are having a lot less sex than these stories suggest. More, they report that the sex they are having is disappointing, to say the least. In this talk, I discuss the difference between hooking up as a behavior, a script, and a culture; what it means to live in a hookup culture; and why students report distress, disappointment, and trauma. The solution? Not to abandon the casual hookup (it has some interesting advantages), but to even the playing field on college campuses by taking power away from privileged students, giving everyone the information they need to make informed decisions, and then let students themselves nurture and innovate new sexual cultures, thus diversifying sexual options on campus.
This document discusses patterns related to attraction and relationships. It begins by describing the author's experience failing to help a client with relationship advice and learning from a mentor. It then discusses three key patterns:
1) The happiness pattern - people are happiest when making progress towards goals, not after achieving them. This taps into men's drive to pursue achievement.
2) Man on a mission - men want to make their partner happy but find it vague and frustrating without clear goals, hindering their happiness.
3) Compassion collapse - empathy declines as the ability to help declines, and this effect is stronger for men who are naturally less empathetic. A man will lose interest unless he has a clear mission.
The document discusses a man who attended a wedding rehearsal dinner and sat next to a wealthy businessman. The businessman revealed that he prefers using prostitutes to relationships because it is cheaper and less troublesome. The narrator was shocked by this viewpoint, which treats people as commodities that can be bought and sold. The document argues that to succeed in business and career, one must form emotional connections with others and understand their goals and dreams, in order to be seen as more than just a replaceable commodity.
The document discusses using contrasts to motivate self-improvement. It describes the author's father driving him past wealthy neighborhoods as a child to emphasize the importance of education. Later experiences, such as not getting into Harvard and seeing inequality in admissions, challenged his beliefs. Visiting expensive homes and comparing luxury cars revealed contrasts that impacted his perceptions. The author advocates seeking out role models who have achieved more to understand one's potential and stay motivated to grow.
One of the largest challenges of our lives is making sure that we do not meet our need to feel significant in a way that is destructive. For example, many people in their need to feel significant will try and be critical of others.
Harrison believes that one of the most important things to any human being is to feel important. We all have the need to feel significant and this need is something that really controls and governs many of our lives. Being focused on the work is incredibly important. Being focused on your own significance is attachment, and all attachments eventually result in disappointment.
Social Psychology Essay Titles. Online assignment writing service.Lisa Taylor
This document provides instructions for completing a gradient nail art manicure using two metallic nail polishes - Kleancolor Metallics orange and yellow. The polishes apply smoothly and opaquely in two coats. To create the gradient effect, one coat of the yellow polish is applied and gradually blended into the orange polish. Copper Penny nail polish by Sally Hansen is sponged on the tips to add sparkle. Instructions are given for the gradient technique, starting with the lighter polish as the base coat and blending colors. A picture shows the base coat step. Applying a protective barrier to the skin is recommended before starting the manicure.
How, as a 34 year old “burnt out” professional performer, I discovered the 3 key elements of a great opportunity, with no hype, only the hard hitting truth, that allowed me to generate up to 4 figures in a single day when I applied this…
Tony Robbins discusses the "invisible forces" that make us do what we do -- and high-fives Al Gore in the front row.
What is your motive for action? What is it that drives you in your life today? Not 10 years ago. Are you running the same pattern? Because I believe that the invisible force of internal drive, activated, is the most important thing. I'm here because I believe emotion is the force of life. All of us have great minds. Most of us here have great minds, right? We all know how to think. With our minds we can rationalize anything. We can make anything happen.
My Personal Identity Essay
Personal Characteristics Essay
Personal Interview Essay
Personality Reflection Essay
Personal Change Essay
My Personal Values Essay
Personal Self Assessment Essay
Essay about My Core Values
Personal Project Sample
My Personal Goals Essay
Personal History Essay
Where you end up is not where you start. The choices you make and the thinking you have are incredibly important to your success. As are the actions you take.
Managing how you feel about yourself and your life is probably the greatest skill you can have. Refusing to be negative is a skill that really can help you accomplish a great deal in your life and career.
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The neighbor would see the man of the house drink beers quickly behind his garage when his daughter and son-in-law visited. This happened every few weeks and was the man's way of dealing with the stress of their visits. The passage discusses common ways people cope with stress, such as distraction, avoidance, isolation, or dissipating energy, but argues these don't resolve the underlying issues. It introduces the concept of "focusing" from Dr. Gendlin's research - accepting feelings instead of resisting stress, in order to remain conscious of problems and deal with them directly.
Are You Motivated by Power, Relationships, or Achievement?Employment Crossing
The document discusses three different personality types that may emerge when someone sits in the restored classic cars that the author has spent decades restoring: power-oriented, relationship-oriented, and achievement-oriented. It provides examples of how each type would react and what questions they would ask when viewing the cars, noting their different motivations - power, relationships, and achievement respectively. The author stresses the importance of understanding one's own personality type and being in a career that allows one to thrive using their natural motivations.
To succeed in the terms you have set for yourself, you need to look out for, and operate in, an environment that is strong and very demanding from you in terms of work.
In life and in career, most people seek to improve, get traction and stay in the game. No one wishes to slip and fall and yet all, at some point or another do.
Be Someone Who is Engaged with Work, Not Someone Who Avoids WorkEmployment Crossing
The document discusses several instances the author witnessed of people avoiding work or being disengaged from their jobs, including:
1) Two airline stewardesses who spent their time during the flight clipping coupons and complaining about their jobs instead of serving passengers.
2) An airline executive who was upset about being expected to work during a flight instead of sleeping.
3) Pilots who were more interested in surfing the internet than flying the plane.
4) An airport shuttle driver who was not actually picking passengers up from the airport on schedule.
The author concludes that being engaged with and finding meaning in one's work is important for career satisfaction and success.
Garlic Olive Oil, Craigslist Massages-and Doing Your HomeworkEmployment Crossing
Do not plunge into something as important as a new job before investing enough time in researching and learning more about the work required, the people you will work with, and the environment.
You need to decide for yourself which method works best for you. An alternate to this exists as well; you can choose to let things remain the way they are.
It is important for every individual to realize that nobody else is going to be as concerned for your career as you yourself. Because of this reason, it becomes much more important to protect your ability to earn your living.
Paying attention to details is one of the most important things for success. Successful people have an extraordinary ability to focus on even small details and are often obsessed with intricate knowledge about details. Details are important in every profession from law and teaching to business and athletics. Those who focus on details like remembering customer preferences, following up after a job application, or working to improve small weaknesses will achieve better results than those who do not pay attention to the small things.
You need to defend yourself against bullies and make sure they are not successful in their efforts. You are a valuable individual with special talents.
LinkedIn Strategic Guidelines for June 2024Bruce Bennett
LinkedIn is a powerful tool for networking, researching, and marketing yourself to clients and employers. This session teaches strategic practices for building your LinkedIn internet presence and marketing yourself. The use of # and @ symbols is covered as well as going mobile with the LinkedIn app.
5 key differences between Hard skill and Soft skillsRuchiRathor2
𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐏𝐞𝐫𝐟𝐞𝐜𝐭 𝐁𝐥𝐞𝐧𝐝:
𝐖𝐡𝐲 𝐘𝐨𝐮 𝐍𝐞𝐞𝐝 𝐁𝐨𝐭𝐡 𝐇𝐚𝐫𝐝 & 𝐒𝐨𝐟𝐭 𝐒𝐤𝐢𝐥𝐥𝐬 𝐭𝐨 𝐓𝐡𝐫𝐢𝐯𝐞 💯
In today's dynamic and competitive market, a well-rounded skillset is no longer a luxury - it's a necessity.
While technical expertise (hard skills) is crucial for getting your foot in the door, it's the combination of hard and soft skills that propels you towards long-term success and career advancement. ✨
Think of it like this: Imagine a highly skilled carpenter with a masterful understanding of woodworking (hard skills). But if they struggle to communicate effectively with clients, collaborate with builders, or adapt to project changes (soft skills), their true potential remains untapped. 😐
The synergy between hard and soft skills is what creates true value in the workplace. Strong communication allows you to clearly articulate your technical expertise, while problem-solving skills help you navigate complex challenges alongside your team. 💫
By actively developing both sets of skills, you position yourself as a well-rounded professional who can not only perform tasks efficiently but also contribute meaningfully to a collaborative and dynamic work environment.
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Joyce M Sullivan, Founder & CEO of SocMediaFin, Inc. shares her "Five Questions - The Story of You", "Reflections - What Matters to You?" and "The Three Circle Exercise" to guide those evaluating what their next move may be in their careers.
Learnings from Successful Jobs SearchersBruce Bennett
Are you interested to know what actions help in a job search? This webinar is the summary of several individuals who discussed their job search journey for others to follow. You will learn there are common actions that helped them succeed in their quest for gainful employment.
2. Aristotle Believed That More Than Anything… There are some individuals who do their work and continually find happiness in this work, and for whom work takes on a meaning that transcends what most of us experience in work. These people feel completely involved in the work they are doing and are completely focused. They do not experience emotional turmoil when they are doing their work. we seek to be happy.
3. In Mihaly Czikszentmihalyi’s Book… “ Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience” (1990), he described a state of “flow” where people involved in an activity “forget themselves, the time, their problems.” Flow is something that athletes experience when they are at their best, artists experience when they are at their best and we all are capable of experiencing when we are doing something that we love.
4. According To The Great Soccer Star Pele… During his best games he felt a strange calmness he hadn’t experienced in any of the other games. “It was a type of euphoria; I felt I could run all day without tiring, that I could dribble through any of their teams or all of them, that I could almost pass through them physically. I felt I could not be hurt.”
5. Flow Involves A State Where… We are able to concentrate with little effort, and where we are able to complete a certain task with very little effort. Another important component of flow, and I would argue the most significant, is that when some people are in flow they lose self consciousness. Instead of being conscious of themselves in relation to others, they move into another sort of state. This state Csikszentmihalyi also seems to believe, is “a loss of ego” (p. 122). According to Csikszentmihalyi , loss of ego is a rare transcendent experience.
6. What Is This State Of “Loss Of Ego” In Our Work? I know of numerous people whose careers are defined by this state of flow. They do their work in a manner that seems to not involve their ego and, instead, seems to transcend individual and self-seeking types of behavior. They are able to do their work in a way that is similar to the way many people worship. Their work is not calculated, and people around them feel good by their presence. They are extraordinarily good at whatever they do. Their ego is not involved in their work–their work is not about them, but about the work itself. How does loss of ego translate into our professions and lives?
7. People Who Are Able To Enter A State Of Flow In Their Work… and do their work unconcerned with: -Power or titles -Personal recognition -Profit -Their identity -Competition This may sound like an incredible state to be in; however, this is a state that numerous people are able to enter into when they truly love something, and can get into a state of flow. Paradoxically, it is the people who do not care about power and money and other things, and are able to enter into this state of flow, who most often end up achieving the most, financially and otherwise. become “egoless,”
8. These Same People Often Then Become…. Controlled by their egos and quickly lose whatever it is they achieved, and subsequently lose flow. It is the ability to remain in flow and egoless that I believe is one of the greatest determinants of being successful. Since so few people are able to do this, and since this is so relevant to your career, I believe understanding flow and the ego is something that can change your career and life.
9. One Of My First Memories As A Child Was When… I was playing outside our apartment in Lansing, Michigan, and my mother called me inside for a few moments. My mother had recently purchased me a yellow Tonka Bulldozer toy, and I had been playing in the bushes of the apartment complex with the toy. Across the way, I noticed there was a boy perhaps a few years older than me also playing with some toys. I went inside for a few moments and when I came back outside my truck was missing. I could not have been more than three years old at the time; however, I can remember to this day how upset I was. I cried and cried, and I remember my mother comforting me about this. I am sure the boy across the way stole my truck.
10. The Fact That… I would argue that this is something that was one of my first true introductions to my “ego” and the idea that I, like almost everyone on this planet, was getting a piece of my identity from forms, objects, titles and other things that are not part of me at all. Indeed, my pain related to this little truck being stolen was there because of the fact that I identified the truck as an extension of myself. this is one of my first memories is quite striking to me.
11. As I Grew Older And Older… I came to identify with more toys and other objects that I was given by my parents. Then, I would start to see friends with better toys and objects, and start feeling a profound sense of lack because I did not have toys and other objects that were as nice. As my life progressed, I would start to admire people who had better houses than I had, more important parents than I had, went to better schools than I did, and so on.
12. When I Was Old Enough To Understand Advertisements… in magazines and on television, I would start to want things there, too. I remember when I was no more than 12 years old I saw a picture of the most expensive car ever manufactured at that time, an Aston Martin Lagonda, and I dreamed of my parents owning this car and driving me around in it. I thought this car was something that would be really meaningful. Several years ago, I purchased one of these used cars for not more than thirty thousand dollars, and spent another thirty thousand dollars restoring the car.
13. I Did This, I Am Sure, Because There Was… When you see old men driving around in old cars they have restored, this is what they are most often doing–it is related to their ego and a sense of lack they are trying to fill from the past with a material object. part of me that really wanted something for my ego from this car.
14. My Stepfather Ran A Small Boating Business And… Around our small two bedroom house he always had scattered magazines with pictures of bigger and better boats that he could buy if he ever made enough money. One day my stepfather came home with a 1977 Chrysler New Yorker, which was the biggest and worst car I had ever seen. Within a few months I remember a Rolls Royce dealer in Palm Beach, Florida kept calling our house because my stepfather had indicated he might want to trade the new car in for a Rolls Royce. We never could afford any of this stuff, but my stepfather always dreamed of these things and wanted them. He was never ever satisfied. Was he any different from any of us?
15. When I Got Older, I Started… Comparing my bicycles with other kids’ and always wanted the best bike. I never felt like my bike was good enough. I wanted to have the very best bike. In fourth grade or so, when people started having girlfriends in school, it was very, very important to me to have the most desirable girlfriend in the school. I would get into fights on the playground with kids over girls. I would continue fighting men in one form or another over women for the next 20+ years until I settled down. When video games came into vogue, I started competing with other kids as to who could have more video games
16. I Always Wanted To Have… Soon, designer jeans came into vogue, when I got into seventh grade or so, and I wanted the most pairs of designer jeans–Jordache, Calvin Klein, Sergio Vallente jeans. I wanted nothing more than for my mother to take me shopping each weekend to get more clothes. Soon I wanted a moped as well. I dreamed about getting a moped incessantly. More and better video games than other kids
17. As I Got Older… And progressed through my life, there was one thing after another that I wanted, and there was always something else. It never ended. -The friends I had. -The people I associated with. -It soon became titles like “President” of my class. -It became recognition for various achievements. -It became where I went to school. -Then it became what I did for a living. -How much money I made when I started as an attorney. -What sort of car I drove. -Where I lived. -How prestigious my employer was. -How big my company is. -What school my child goes to. -On and on and on …
18. Do You See The Madness In This? It is all around us and we are all part of this madness. There is a huge problem with this, and it is related to the drive that all of us have on both a conscious and subconscious level to somehow add to who we are by possessing or associating with something outside ourselves, such as an object, person, place or title. Most of this drive is due to our persistent identification with people, things and other forms outside of ourselves.
19. We Subconsciously Or Consciously Believe That… Our self worth comes from outside of ourselves and not inside of ourselves. We are persistently trying to find ourselves and our identities in things that are outside of ourselves, and the struggle seemingly never, ever ends. It is a sickness, and it is something that almost all of us suffer from. We continually want more and more.
20. I Have Been Around The World… And visited shrines, monasteries and other sorts of places. Even in the places that seem the most enlightened, people are constantly wanting more and more. Throughout the years I have become involved with various spiritual organizations in my quest to improve my mind. I have gone to groups that preach that we need to be in here and now and not look outside ourselves for value.
21. However, It Almost Always Happens That… Within weeks of attending one of these seminars or events my phone starts ringing. People learn I am the CEO of a company and assume I must be rich. They call and write wanting money and donations. They talk about how they need a new this or a new that. People visit me at home unannounced, seeking donations and constantly come looking for alms. These are the same people whose message often is “everything is within you.”
22. It Is Almost Impossible To Find Anyone Or Any Group Of People… There is something missing in almost all of us and in almost all of our groups. You can be part of one religion or another and they may preach to you about how Jesus preached that we are complete with God, for example. The message is comforting, and our image of Jesus is someone who walked around in sandals and a robe, and was not concerned with wealth. However, regardless of what church you are a part of, they almost all expect you to give them money. Who is not constantly striving for more and more, and striving to fill some void.
23. There Is Nothing Wrong With This In Substance; However… They often use the money to build giant and incredible monuments that boggle the mind with their size and ornateness. You wonder why these same organizations do not use their resources to support the poor. No matter how much they are given, most religious groups will continue to ask for more and more. It never stops. They will soon want a new building, a new wing to a building and more. Their hunger will never, ever end.
24. This is no different from us. We soon want new cars, new televisions, the latest fashions and more … we too are never satisfied. As long as we seek to be complete in objects and forms outside of ourselves, we will never be complete.
25. People And Groups Are Continually Trying To… Complete themselves by acquiring things, titles and more. The problem with this line of thinking, though, is that it simply never works. Whatever rewards we receive through possessing one thing, or getting one title, quickly go away and we find something else that we are interested in and “need.” We are living in a society that is dominated by consumerism and the need to possess things. Our measure of progress in our society is almost always related to possessing more and more. We simply spend most of our lives trying to fill a gap that we perceive we have between ourselves and people who we think are better than us.
26. For The past Few Years I Have Employed A Driver For the past few years I have employed a driver. I live about an hour or two from my office, depending upon the level of traffic that there is each day. For me, being productive in the car (i.e., my time) is worth more than spending three to four hours sitting behind the wheel each day. I am in Los Angeles and throughout the years I have had a variety of drivers. I have had professional drivers, who were committed to being drivers, and I have had people who did not really seem to have any interest in driving. This never comes out in the interviews, as much as I would like it to, but it always comes out.
27. When I First Started Interviewing People To Be Drivers… I started seeing a lot of guys show up that really deep down wanted to be actors. You could see this from their resume. I did not hire these guys, and their interest in being a driver was to make money and then, hopefully, also make some connections through the driving that would lead to future acting work. I was smart enough for the most part to avoid this. Then I hired one guy I did not think would be interested in other things, and within about a month of hiring him, I discovered that he was in a band. He started giving me CDs of his band playing, asking for days off to go play various gigs, and his work just got shoddier and shoddier in so many respects. It became clear to me that he had no interest in what he was doing.
28. When He Would Not Show Up For Work I Would… Call a car service I have been using for some time. The drivers of the car service were all guys who did this sort of work for their careers, and they were incredibly enthusiastic. They would have Internet inside their cars so they could check traffic. They would know all sorts of special routes they could take. Their cars would always be spic and span. They would wear dark suits and always hold open the doors for me. Their service was fantastic and many of these guys had been doing the work for 20 years or more.
29. These Guys Were Also Very Happy They had interests and could talk about a lot of things. They loved their jobs. They had an almost “instinctual” relationship with the road and understood how to avoid various traffic in certain locations. In a word, they were passionate about their work and in a state of “flow” as far as I could tell. When you were with them, you could tell they were “in the zone” and the drives with them seemed to go faster, and the entire experience was just better.
30. I contrasted this with the guy I hired from the band whose interest lied in being somewhere else. Most people in most jobs are interested in being somewhere else …
31. Then I Hired A Guy Who Was From El Salvador He told the person who interviewed him for me that he wanted nothing more than to be a driver and was incredibly enthusiastic to be working in the United States. A few weeks into me hiring him, however, he started asking me the “secret” to my success and all sorts of other questions. He started telling me that this was the last thing he wanted to do. He wanted to be someone else, and one day, he was going to have a driver like I have one. He showed up and had complete enthusiasm for his work.
32. All He Spoke About Was… How he was capable of so much more than simply being a driver. I noticed that he started getting really shoddy about his work, and making a bunch of stupid mistakes. He too did not really care what he was doing. Then I noticed this same pattern in the next person I hired. This person too wanted to be somewhere else, and be doing something else. I heard them on their cell phone talking about starting businesses, doing other things and more.
33. None Of This Is To Say… But the point is that most people go through life not present in their jobs and always feeling a profound sense of lack, and wanting to be and do something else. As a consequence, they never succeed in what they are doing. This sense of lack and a need to be something different ends up permeating their entire lives and controlling them as long as they are alive. There is always something else they need to feel good about themselves–whether it is a job, title, person, place or thing. There is just a continual sense of lack. That the people who are drivers are wrong in wanting to do whatever it is they wanted to do.
34. This Is Their Ego Talking To Them and I do not think it is productive, and I do not think it helps them. We are not just attached to things. I know people who spend their days and nights driving around from place to place, because they feel like they need a ton of friends in order to be happy. This struggle to meet new people and be popular almost never ends. Others work all the time so they can accumulate material possessions. Others have a cadre of different lovers, hopping from a sense of completeness from each one.
35. People Need Something Outside Of Themselves… And chase after this throughout their lives in order to get a sense of completeness they feel is missing inside of them. It is good to have a lot of friends, but there is something wrong when all of your time is consumed by the need to have more and more friends.
36. One Of The Most Persistent Things Among Most People Is… Our identification of self worth with objects outside of ourselves. This includes not only the material things we possess, such as cars, houses and other things, but also things like our job, our titles, the awards we have received and where we went to school. We endow things with a sense of self and our importance and feelings of self worth come from objects outside of ourselves.
37. In Movies, Television Shows And Others There Is Always… A character it seems who is a sex addict, drug addict, gambling addict, or alcoholic or has some other disorder. Our culture is obsessed with the addictions of stars and others. One of the most interesting shows to come along in years is the show called “Intervention,” which follows people with various addictions. What is so interesting about all of these cases of addiction is that what most people are doing with their lives with drugs, sex, gambling, or liquor is the exact same thing that most of us are doing with our lives: Seeking a sense of fulfillment in something outside of ourselves.
38. We Watch People On Shows Like “Intervention” Who… Come close to killing themselves with substances and other addictions, and we cannot help but recognize part of ourselves in them: No matter how much they get of whatever it is they are addicted to, they are never going to be complete and happy. No matter how many titles, wealth, friends–or whatever it is we are seeking–we too will never be happy. We will always be seeking more and more to make us feel complete as well.
39. Most Of Us Are No Different Than A Skid Row Heroin Addict… The heroin addict does some heroin and for a time feels good. But then he eventually needs to go and find some more. The only difference is that what the heroin addict is seeking causes visible damage to them, whereas what we are seeking is a psychological disorder. Who needs one fix after another.
40. I Am Continually Witnessing… Society’s desire to find fault with others. My wife subscribes to various magazines such as “Us Weekly,” “People” and others. Each week these magazines contain all sorts of incredible gossip stories about this celebrity or that celebrity. The majority of these stories are unflattering. We read about horrible break ups, public spats and more. Consider, for example, the public’s fascination with Brittany Spears and the things that have happened with her. There are, of course, more such stories.
41. Why Are We So Fascinated With These Things? I think this has to do with the fact that when we hear bad information about others it makes us feel superior to them. Our self identities are so fragile that just as we are seeking things outside of ourselves to complete ourselves, we are also obsessed with those we believe have more, or are more than us, being weaker than us on some level. We all do this. We are obsessed as a culture with people who we perceive are above us, suddenly having less.
42. Several Years Ago… When my company began to get quite large, I started hearing all sorts of rumors about myself from various employees. There would be rumors of affairs, rumors that I was involved in something illegal, rumors that I had done this or that. The larger my company grew, the more I started hearing rumors like this. When certain employees would get fired they would persist in these rumors. For a long time I used to be incredibly upset by these rumors because they seemed to be malicious. I realized, though, after some time what was going on.
43. Most Of The People Who Were Involved In Spreading The Rumors… Had been fired, or were people who I considered poor employees and let them know I thought this. When I confronted these people, I wounded their ego and how they perceived themselves. Their revenge and way of feeling “complete” again was to find some level of superiority to me in whatever way possible. This meant an interest in rumors and whatever weaknesses I might have. Our interest in others’ weaknesses often adds something to our need to feel complete. We love hearing negative stories about our enemies and people whom have made us feel inferior.
44. When You Are In Conflict With Anyone… It is usually due to the fact that you have somehow wounded their sense of self of vice versa. On its crudest level, you could injure this person or kill them so you can feel better about yourself and be “complete” (and people do). On another level, you will turn against them and attack them verbally, or undermine them in order to establish your ego and how you feel about yourself. This is something that we all do in one sense or another, and it is something that characterizes most of our lives.
45. We Want To Be Right About Various Conflicts Because… If we are right, we somehow feel validated as people. Deep down we want to feel better than others, and we get this through being right. When we are right and the other person is wrong, who we are is validated as a person.
46. When I Was Growing Up… My mother used to sit at the kitchen table or on the couch smoking cigarettes and talking on the phone to her friends for hours at a time. All of the conversations would almost invariably revolve around some perceived insult my mother had received, or given, or something that had happened–or vice versa with one of her friends. The entire conversation would go on for hours at a time, and she would either be supporting her friend, or her friend would support her. They would talk and talk, back and forth, until some sort of consensus was reached that my mother was right about something, or her friend was right about something. My mother would then feel better.
47. If It Was My Mother’s Ego That Was Involved… she would then call a few other friends after the conversation to see if they too thought she was in the right. She would always get their agreement, and then would move on. Other conversations I heard my mother having growing up involved rumors about other friends, or bad things that had happened to people they knew. These sorts of conversations I think dominate our consciousness and what we are doing, because they make us feel better in relation to others and make up for this sense of lack that we are constantly seeking to fill inside of us.
48. “ Sure she is beautiful, but she is not very intelligent.” “ I would not want to have the responsibility he does. It would be horrible to be scrutinized all the time.” “ They may appear to be a happy family, but she is really a pill popper and addicted to prescription medications.” “ That was a good performance, but she is also anorexic.” “ They cheat on each other.” “ Oh, he is rich, but he has to work all the time and is really very unhappy.”
49. On And On And On… I have certainly heard a lot of them. Why is it that we need to denigrate others around us? Why is it that our self worth is often tied up in what others are doing? How can this be explained? We do this because there is a profound sense of emptiness and need for us to feel better than others. This is a collective disease. Religions do this, and are well known for this. Orthodox Jews, for example, feel superior to Jews who are not as observant and do not cover their heads. Extremely Orthodox Jews feel superior to other sorts of Jews who are not as observant. The same can be said for people of most religions. how many statements like this have you heard?
50. It Is Important That In Our Lives… We get into a state of “flow” where our ego is not involved in what we are doing. We need to be detached from the ego and, instead, just concentrate on what is before us. I think this is the highest state of being in both our lives and careers. The idea that we are complete and do not need outside verification in any form in order to feel successful. We do not need to feel in competition with others.
51. The People Who Experience The Most Problems In Their Careers... Are those who are more concerned with being recognized, paid and getting more and more–rather than the work they do. The fact of the matter is that once you start down this road, enough will never be enough. An executive who asks for a raise once due to having done something well, will likely ask for a raise a short time later if he does something right. Pretty soon, this executive will start concentrating on how much others at similar companies are making and feeling a sense of lack. He will ask for more and more raises, and then will start looking for another job. He will find a new employer who pays him a better salary, and then the same process will repeat itself over and over and over again.
52. The Executive May Settle Down At Some Point… Because of this executive’s continual focus on what he lacks, he wastes his energy and never is able to get in a state of “flow” in his job where he could truly reach his potential. His work is shallow and nothing more than something that simply leads to immediate paychecks, raises and bonuses. The work cannot possibly ever be the quality that it would be if the executive’s ego were not involved. or he may not.
53. The Executive Never Learns To Truly Appreciate… The work he is doing. Others in the workplace are viewed as competitors, and not people to cooperate with unless there is a secondary motive. The ego seeks out only immediate rewards and views others as people to compete with, and not work with, unless they can appear as if they can lead to rewards that will enhance the ego. If the employer is not viewed as prestigious in the market, the person will feel personally hurt deep down because their ego is tied up in the employer. Their identity is in their employer and they are not necessarily one with their work.
54. I Would Encourage You In Your Career To Release… and get in a state of flow. You need to step back from your ego and realize that no employer and no job can even fulfill your ego. Your greatest satisfaction in your career and life will come when you are able to be one with your job and what you are doing. Be in the here and now.