This document summarizes and critiques the current public debate around free speech, which has become polarized between defenders of unfettered free speech and promoters of civility. The author argues that the debate has lost sight of the important ideal of positive free speech as meaningful civic participation. While powerful institutions setting speech rules is problematic, civility, respect and inclusion are essential for rational discourse. The public debate also wrongly focuses only on rules rather than whether open debate and consideration of diverse views actually occurs.