This document discusses the evolution of loyalty programs from being transactional to transforming customer relationships. It argues that most current programs are struggling because they focus too much on transactions and rewards rather than enhancing the customer experience. The document provides several examples of more transformational programs that build appreciation, help customers, provide random acts of kindness, and disproportionately reward best customers. It concludes that future successful programs will need to prioritize understanding individual customers better in order to shift from simple transactions to truly transforming the customer relationship.