The document discusses differences in communication between men and women. It suggests biological and cultural reasons for these differences, including that girls' vocabulary advances faster than boys' at a young age. Men are motivated to communicate to assert power and independence, while women communicate to connect with others, especially other women. There are differences in speech patterns between men and women, with men using more competitive and independent speech while women encourage others to talk and build intimacy. The document provides tips to improve communication between men and women such as becoming bilingual in communication styles and practicing understanding each other better.

1. You Just Don't Understand
Communication Between Men and
Women
Jenna Cassinat

2. Possible Reasons For Differences
●Biological
oWhen children, girl's
vocabulary advances
faster than boys
●Cultural Differences
oDifferent social-
emotional climates
oDifferent expectations
and values
oYoung children don't
play with members of
the opposite sex

3. Why we communicate
Men's Motivation:
●To assert power and
authority
●Establish independence
Women's Motivation:
● To connect with others
oEspecially other women

4. Difference in Speech Patterns
●Men
●To assert power
●To establish independence
Talking Patterns:
●Competitive talking
●Recount exploits
●Compare knowledge
●Respectful of space
●Women
●To establish intimacy
oEspecially with other
women
Talking Patterns:
●Encourage others to talk
●Build on each others
stories and utterances
●Talk about feelings,
themselves
●Ask probing questions

5. Storytelling
●Women provide more details
than men
●Men tell stories in a linear
fashion
●Women tell details to help
others connect with the story
●Men aren't as interested in
details

6. Showing Support
Men:
●Minimize the problem
o"Don't feel bad"
●Offer advice
What they want:
●Advice
●To not be belittled
Women:
●Listening noises
●Tell a story to empathize
●Ask probing questions
What they want:
●A sympathetic listener
●Support
●To not be belittled

7. What to do about it:
●Become bilingual
oLearn how to communicate effectivly
oBe more understanding
●Practice