There is no one best couple counselling technique. The most effective approach for couples depends on the individual couple's needs and preferences. However, some counselling techniques are more commonly used than others. The most popular techniques include communication counselling, behavioral couples therapy, and Gottman couples therapy.

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Contents
What is Couples Counselling?......................................................................................................................1
Here are few of the Best Couple Counselling Techniques ..........................................................................3
• Gottman Technique......................................................................................................................4
• Narrative Therapy ........................................................................................................................5
• Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy........................................................................................6
• Positive Psychology......................................................................................................................7
• Imago Relationship Therapy ........................................................................................................8
• Individual Counselling..................................................................................................................9
So What are the Key Findings of Positive Psychology?.............................................................................10
Conclusion ..................................................................................................................................................11
What is Couples Counselling?
Couples counselling is a form of therapy that is used to
help couples who are experiencing difficulties in their
relationship. It can be used to help couples who are

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experiencing problems such as communication
difficulties, conflict, and anger.
There are a number of different counselling techniques
that can be used in couples counselling. One of the most
popular techniques is the mediation technique. This
technique involves the counselor helping the couple to
communicate effectively and to resolve any conflicts that
they are experiencing.
Another popular technique is the problem-solving
technique. This technique helps couples to identify the

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problems that they are experiencing, and to come up
with solutions to those problems.
Couples counselling can be a very effective way to help
couples who are experiencing difficulties in their
relationship. It can help to improve communication,
resolve conflicts, and improve the overall relationship.
Here are few of the Best Couple Counselling
Techniques

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• Gottman Technique
Gottman Method Couples Therapy is a type of therapy
that is designed to help couples strengthen their
relationship. The Gottman Method is based on 40 years
of research on couples and marriages. The goal of the
Gottman Method is to help couples develop a deeper
understanding of each other and to learn how to repair
and prevent conflicts.
The Gottman Method is a type of couples therapy that is
based on the research of Dr. John Gottman. Dr. Gottman
is a leading marriage researcher who has studied couples
and marriages for over 40 years. He has found that there
are four specific indicators that can predict whether or
not a couple will have a successful marriage. These
indicators are called the “four horsemen of the
apocalypse” and they are criticism, contempt,
defensiveness, and stonewalling.
The Gottman Method is designed to help couples identify
these four horsemen and to learn how to repair and
prevent conflicts. The goal is to help couples develop a
deeper understanding of each other and to learn how to
communicate better.
The Gottman Method has been shown to be effective in
helping couples improve their relationship. In one study,
the Gottman Method was found to be more effective
than traditional couple’s therapy in reducing levels of

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marital conflict.
If you are experiencing problems in your relationship, the
Gottman Method may be a good option for you. Contact
a therapist in your area to find out more.
Gottman Method is an effective tool for helping couples
repair and improve their relationships. The method is
based on scientific research, and has been found to be
successful in helping couples communicate better,
resolve conflicts, and strengthen their bond. If you are
experiencing problems in your relationship, the Gottman
Method may be able to help.
• Narrative Therapy
Narrative Therapy is a form of therapy that helps people
understand their experiences and relationships by
examining the stories they tell themselves and others. It
can be used to help people identify and change harmful
or unhelpful patterns of behavior, thinking, and feeling.
During a narrative therapy session, the therapist will help
you identify the different "scenes" or moments in your
life that have had an impact on your current situation.
You will then create a "storyline" that explains how these
scenes are related to each other and how they have
contributed to your current problem.
The therapist will help you to identify the different
"characters" in your story, including yourself and the

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people who have had an impact on your life. You will
then examine the role that each character has played in
your story and how they have contributed to your
problem.
Once you have analyzed your story, the therapist will
help you to create a new story that reflects the changes
you want to make in your life. This new story will serve as
a guide for how you want to live your life in the future.
• Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy
EFT is a type of couples therapy that is based on the idea
that the problems that couples are experiencing are the
result of the way that they are interacting with each
other. EFT is designed to help couples to understand how
they are interacting with each other and to change the
way that they are interacting so that they can have a
healthy and happy relationship.
One of the things that makes EFT so effective is that it is
based on the idea that the way that we feel is linked to
the way that we interact with others. This means that
when we are feeling negative emotions, we are likely to
interact with our partner in a negative way. EFT helps
couples to understand how their emotions are affecting
their relationship and to learn how to change the way
that they are interacting so that they can have a healthy
and happy relationship.

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EFT has been shown to be effective in helping couples to
resolve conflicts, to improve communication, and to
increase intimacy in their relationship.
• Positive Psychology
Positive psychology is the scientific study of what makes
life worth living. It is the scientific examination of the
strengths that enable individuals and communities to
thrive. While the field of psychology has traditionally
focused on pathology, or the study of mental illness,
positive psychology broadens the scope to include the
study of healthy human functioning.
The roots of positive psychology lie in the humanistic
psychology movement of the 1950s and 1960s. In 1998,
Martin Seligman, then president of the American
Psychological Association, announced the creation of the
Positive Psychology Center at the University of
Pennsylvania. This center served as the world’s first
research center devoted to the study of positive
emotions, character strengths, and optimal human
functioning.
Today, positive psychology is a thriving field of research,
with hundreds of studies published each year. The field
has also spawned several spin-off fields, including
positive education, positive organization studies, and
positive parenting.

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Positive psychology has been applied in a variety of
settings, including the workplace, schools, and prisons.
The goal is to help people lead more meaningful and
fulfilling lives.
• Imago Relationship Therapy
Imago Relationship Therapy is a type of couples
counseling that is designed to help partners understand
each other better and improve their relationship. It is
based on the idea that we all have an unconscious urge
to recreate our childhood relationships in our adult
relationships. Therefore, by understanding our own
childhood experiences and how they have influenced our
current relationships, we can work to change unhealthy
patterns and improve our relationships.
Imago Relationship Therapy is typically a short-term
therapy, typically lasting around 16 sessions. During
these sessions, couples will work to identify and
understand the negative pattern that they keep
repeating in their relationship. They will then learn to
replace these negative patterns with healthy ones.
Imago Relationship Therapy has been shown to be
effective in improving relationships. In a study of 192
couples, those who received Imago Relationship Therapy
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satisfaction, communication, and conflict resolution than
couples who did not receive therapy.
• Individual Counselling
Individual counselling is a form of therapy that is
provided to a single person. It is sometimes also called
one-on-one counselling. This type of therapy can be used
to address a wide variety of issues that a person may be
experiencing in their life.
Some of the reasons that someone might seek out
individual counselling include:
• Feeling overwhelmed or stressed
• Struggling with depression or anxiety
• Experiencing relationship issues
• Coping with a major life change or crisis
• Struggling with addiction or substance abuse
In individual counselling, the therapist works one-on-one
with the client to help them identify and address the
issues that are causing them distress. The therapist will
listen carefully and offer support, guidance, and insight.
They will also help the client develop strategies for
managing their symptoms and improving their wellbeing.
If you are considering individual counselling, it is
important to choose a therapist who is qualified and

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experienced in this type of therapy. It is also important to
feel comfortable with the therapist, and to be sure that
they are a good fit for you.
So What are the Key Findings of Positive
Psychology?
One of the central findings of positive psychology is that
happiness is not simply the absence of negative
emotions. Rather, it is the presence of positive emotions,
such as joy, love, and hope.
Another key finding is that people are not born with fixed
character traits. Rather, our character is constantly
evolving as a result of our experiences. This means that
we have the potential to change for the better, no
matter what our starting point may be.
One of the most important findings of positive
psychology is that happiness is not a mere luxury; it is a
fundamental human need. In fact, people who are
happier tend to be healthier, both physically and
emotionally.
So What are the Key Ingredients of a Happy
Life?

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There are many ingredients of a happy life, but some of
the most important ones include positive emotions,
relationships, meaningful work, and a sense of purpose.
Positive emotions are essential for a happy life, because
they help us to savor the good moments and to weather
the tough times. Relationships are also important,
because they provide us with love, support, and social
connection.
Meaningful work is another key ingredient of a happy
life. Work that is meaningful and fulfilling can help to
give our lives purpose and direction.
Conclusion
There is no one best couple counselling technique. The
most effective approach for couples depends on the
individual couple's needs and preferences. However,
some counselling techniques are more commonly used
than others. The most popular techniques include
communication counselling, behavioral couples therapy,
and Gottman couples therapy.