We All Have a Past Chances are, your guy has an ex. He may have any number of exes. He had feelings for all those women once. What does that mean for your relationship with him now? When women come to me with worries about their partner’s romantic past, I ask them to think about their own past. Was there anyone you were deeply in love with? Do you still have feelings for him, after all this time? Many women report that there was at least one man they thought they’d be with forever. They remember how in love they were. Some of those old feelings are still there. And yet those old feelings don’t interfere with their current relationship. They’re able to separate the past from the present. They can see their past relationship for what it was: a valuable step in their journey to become the woman they are today. This is why it’s a good sign if a man has loved before. It shows that he’s capable of committed love. He knows what it feels like to want a future with the woman of his dreams. He’s worked on holding a relationship together. His heart has been opened, and he wants a love like that again.