This document provides advice on choosing a marriage partner and discusses important factors to consider. It emphasizes looking beyond physical attraction or infatuation to evaluate a potential partner's character, values, treatment of family, goals, and ability to be a supportive companion. Key questions are raised about an individual's integrity, industriousness, respect for spiritual things, and capacity for an enduring loving relationship. The document stresses choosing a partner who will help one's spiritual growth and enlarge their sphere of positive influence.

1. Pop Quiz

2. 1. Love at first sight is possible between
some people.
2. Premarital sex is acceptable when a
couple cares a lot about each other.
3. When real love hits you will know it.
4. When a couple truly love each other,
they will not fight.
5. It is easy to tell the difference between
real love and infatuation.

3. 5. It is easy to tell the difference between
real love and infatuation.
6. It is quite normal for someone to be in
love with several persons at the same
time.
7. When you are really in love, you lose
interest in other people, things, and
activities.

4. 8. When you fall head-over-heels-in-love
with someone, you will know by your
feelings if it is the real thing.
9. Once a couple find true love they should
marry as soon as possible.
10.The average young person, before
becoming a mature adult, will have been in
love several times with several different
persons.

5. 11.Love is something you cannot study or
prepare for, since it is an emotional
response.
12.When you are really in love, you will see
only the good in the other person.
13.It isn’t very important whether family
and friends approve of your love
relationship – it is of concern only to the
two of you.

6. 14.Absence makes the heart grow fonder.
15.Frequent quarrels, arguments and
misunderstandings will not be present
when you are really in love.
16.It is better to marry the wrong person
than to remain single.
17.When you are in love, you can
overcome all obstacles regardless of the
differences between you.

7. 18.When you are in love, you will spend a
good bit of time daydreaming.
19.When you are in love, you will work
harder, produce more, plan better, and
function at a higher level than eve before.
20.God has created and chosen one
special person for me, and through prayer
and searching I will be guided to this
person.

8. If those who are contemplating marriage would
not have miserable, unhappy reflections after
marriage, they must make it a subject of
serious, earnest reflection now.

9. No one can so effectually ruin a woman’s
happiness and usefulness, and make life a
heartsickening burden, as her own husband;
and no one can do one hundredth part as much
to chill the hopes and aspirations of a man, to
paralyze his energies and ruin his influence and
prospects, as his own wife.

10. The step you are about to take
is one of the most important
in your life, and should not be
taken hastily. While you may
love, do not love blindly.

11. Let the questions be raised,
1.Will this union help me heavenward?
2.Will it increase my love for God?
3.And will it enlarge my sphere of usefulness
in this life?
If these reflections present no drawback, then
in the fear of God move forward. {AH 45.2}

12. Being unequally yoked.

13. On choosing a wife…

14. Let a young man seek one to stand by his side
who is fitted to bear her share of life’s
burdens, one whose influence will ennoble
and refine him, and who will make him
happy in her love.
Proverbs 31:10…

15. Will the one you marry bring happiness to your
home?
1. Is [she] an economist, or will she, if
married, not only use all her own earnings,
but all of yours to gratify a vanity, a love of
appearance? Are her principles correct in
this direction? Has she anything now to

16. depend upon? . . .
2. In your choice of a wife study her
character. Will she be one who will be
patient and painstaking? Or will she cease
to care for your parents… And will she
withdraw him from their society to carry out
her plans and to suit her own pleasure,

17. and leave the father and mother who,
instead of gaining an affectionate daughter,
will have lost a son?
3. Is she trustworthy both in the home
chores and of your love?

18. On choosing a husband…

19. Every woman should inquire whether he with
whom she is about to unite her destiny is
worthy.
1. What has been his past record? Is his life
pure? Is the love which he expresses of a
noble, elevated character, or is it a
mere emotional fondness? Has he the
traits of character that will make her

20. happy? Can she find true peace and joy in
his affection?
2. Will she be allowed to preserve her
individuality, or must her judgment and
conscience be surrendered to the control
of her husband? . . . Can she honor the
Savior’s claims as supreme? Will body and
soul, thoughts and purposes, be preserved

21. pure and holy?
3. Has my lover a mother? What is the stamp
of her character? Does he recognize his
obligations to her? Is he mindful of her
wishes and happiness? If he does not
respect and honor his mother, will he

22. wishes and happiness? If he does not
respect and honor his mother, will he
manifest respect and love, kindness and
attention, toward his wife?
4. When the novelty of marriage is over, will
he love me still? Will he be patient with

23. Accept Only Pure, Manly Traits.--Let a young woman accept
as a life companion only one who possesses pure, manly traits
of character, one who is diligent, aspiring, and honest, one who
loves and fears God. {AH 47.3}
Shun those who are irreverent. Shun one who is a lover of
idleness; shun the one who is a scoffer of hallowed things.
Avoid the society of one who uses profane language, or is
addicted to the use of even one glass of liquor. Listen not to the
proposals of a man who has no realization of his responsibility
to God.