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   Creating Influence On Demand

   RAPID RAPPORT


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What you get:

   INCREASE COMMUNICATION
   EFFECTIVENESS UP TO 5X

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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YcTgjR5iV1Y

   WOULD IT BE OK TO SEE A DEMO?


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Bernie Maloney, CSP
PE, CSM, CSPO
Strategic Product Management


matrix management
= Influence without Authority




Neuro Linguistic Programming Practitioner
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I’VE GOT GOOD NEWS & BAD NEWS


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Outcome: Recognize and Practice
   Verbal Technology to Build Rapport                                Fast

    •    Why: Significance and Basis
    •    How: Applications in Technology Teams
    •    What’s Behind This: Get the Abstraction
    •    Summary & Resources




   OUTLINE


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WHY = FIRST IMPRESSIONS MATTER
                   Before Confirmation Bias




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Does the 1st 60 seconds really matter?




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Ever had a telemarketer call?




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& you asked to hear more?




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Even socially




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Confirmation Bias




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HOW: APPLICATIONS IN TECHNOLOGY TEAMS




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7%



                       Physiology
                       Tonality           38%
                       Words                                              55%




                   Communication Goes (way, way, way) Beyond Words
                   e.g. Ray Birdwhistle, University of Pennsylvania
                   Verbal vectors:   Tone, Pitch
                                     Tempo: Speed & Cadence
                                     Timbre
                                     Volume
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Translating into (Agile) Practice




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7%




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35+%




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55%




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What if teams increase communication effectiveness by even half this?

   5X?                                                               OR 10X?


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THE TIP? LOWER UNCONSCIOUS BARRIERS




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The Principle




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Build Rapport: Offer similar patterns
                   Tonality (35+%!)
                  --------------------- how people represent information – another talk
                   Words (7%): keys to
                  ---------------------
                   Physiological (55%!)


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Pair off: Verbal Mirroring & Matching
                   Keep statements short (get multiple practice exchanges)               Tone, Pitch
                   Person A: Start with a Question                                       Tempo: Speed & Cadence
                   Person B: Short response, using similar verbal behaviors > Question   Timbre
                   Switch roles at signal                                                Volume
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Insights: Verbal Mirroring & Matching




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Get the Abstraction

   WHAT’S BEHIND THIS?


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It began in the Santa Cruz Mountains…




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Virginia Satir’s Change Model




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Principle: Success Leaves Footprints




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2B bps info




   NLP MODEL OF COMMUNICATION


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2MB (~16Mb)
                                      (HD 1920x1080)




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Conscious Mind processes
                                                               ~134 bps
                                                               in groups of
     2B bps info                                               7 +/- 2 “chunks”




   NLP MODEL OF COMMUNICATION


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132 b
                                     (12 px by 11 px)




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Conscious Mind processes
                                                               ~134 bps
                                                               in groups of
     2B bps info                                               7 +/- 2 “chunks”




                                                                                          Delete
                                                                                          Distort
                                                                                          Generalize



   Unconscious Programming = Barrier: Friend or Foe? Fight or Flight?

   NLP MODEL OF COMMUNICATION


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SUMMARY


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TWO TYPES OF STUDENTS


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DECIDE: WHICH TYPE ARE YOU?


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7%



                       Physiology
                       Tonality           38%
                       Words                                              55%




                   Communication Goes (way, way, way) Beyond Words

                   Tonality (35+%!)
                   Words (7%): keys to how people represent information
                   Physiological (55%!)


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Building Rapport Lowers Unconscious Barriers




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35+%: Observe & Signal Rapport by Verbal Matching
                   Tone, Pitch
                   Tempo: Speed & Cadence
                   Timbre
                   Volume
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Seminal Work:
   Richard Bandler & John Grinder,
   Frogs into Princes




   For a far easier Introduction:
   Michael Brooks,
   Instant Rapport
   (available in libraries)

   RESOURCES


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Bernie Maloney, CSP
PE, CSM, CSPO
Turning Strategies into Results
From Startup to Beyond $100M




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Ut Prosim. Namaste.

   FIN


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