The document is a lengthy matrimonial profile seeking marriage. It includes the sender's biographical information, educational and professional background, family details, and photos. It expresses a desire to find a suitable match through honest communication and getting to know one another over multiple meetings between families. Contact information is provided to initiate correspondence.
This document is a lengthy profile and biography submitted by an individual seeking a marital match. It includes 30 attachments of certificates, letters of recommendation, health reports, and photos. The individual provides extensive details about their educational background, current job, family situation, interests, and expectations for a partner. They emphasize honesty, compatibility, and taking time for both families to understand each other before making a decision.
Raj K Pandey is seeking a life partner and sends a lengthy letter detailing his background and qualifications. He is a development professional who has worked for several international organizations. He owns property and lives in Lalitpur but is seeking a wife who would be willing to initially live in a rental home. He provides photos and links to learn more about him. He is looking for an educated, career-oriented woman and is willing to introduce suitors to his family and provide references to learn about him. He hopes the recipient will seriously consider his proposal and contact him to further discuss a potential relationship.
A true life story that can touch anybody that will be patient enough to read it. It entails the story of a great man that left the legacy of education to his family. His family could not be on that particular path he carved for them due to some social, intellectual and financial reasons.
The document provides guidance from Dae Mo Nim on preparing for Foundation Day and living according to Heavenly Parent's principles after Foundation Day. It emphasizes resolving all sins through the Holy Wine Ceremony to remove stains from our spirit selves. Members are encouraged to write a confession letter detailing any sins and submit it to be burned in May. Living a life of absolute faith, love and living for the sake of others after Foundation Day is stressed. Immorality, misusing funds, disrespecting elders are identified as actions to avoid. Ancestor liberation and living by Heavenly Parent's principles are keys to receiving blessings and good fortune.
For this assignment, I interviewed a friend of mine who grew up in a family who does not speak English as their first language. Her parents are both immigrants from Mexico, and I was able to learn about the ways that her background is different from mine.
1. Maintaining understanding, honesty, patience and positivity help ensure long and happy marriages by overcoming challenges together.
2. Partners should make each other feel appreciated by listening to opinions, respecting freedom and fulfilling psychological needs.
3. Tips for both husbands and wives include expressing care through affection, respecting each other's families, appreciating appearances, and spending quality time together.
This document contains the Buddha's teachings on living a prosperous and happy life according to Buddhism. It summarizes four suttas from the Sutta Pitaka:
1. The Sigalovada Sutta teaches basic morality, protecting and building wealth, managing relationships, and qualities for success.
2. The Vyagghapajja Sutta instructs on accumulating material and spiritual wealth as a layperson.
3. The Parabhava Sutta explains reasons for downfall including material, moral, and spiritual downfall if one does not behave mindfully.
4. The Mangala Sutta groups the 38 blessings into essential, supporting, personal, higher, and supreme blessings for a life
This document is a lengthy profile and biography submitted by an individual seeking a marital match. It includes 30 attachments of certificates, letters of recommendation, health reports, and photos. The individual provides extensive details about their educational background, current job, family situation, interests, and expectations for a partner. They emphasize honesty, compatibility, and taking time for both families to understand each other before making a decision.
Raj K Pandey is seeking a life partner and sends a lengthy letter detailing his background and qualifications. He is a development professional who has worked for several international organizations. He owns property and lives in Lalitpur but is seeking a wife who would be willing to initially live in a rental home. He provides photos and links to learn more about him. He is looking for an educated, career-oriented woman and is willing to introduce suitors to his family and provide references to learn about him. He hopes the recipient will seriously consider his proposal and contact him to further discuss a potential relationship.
A true life story that can touch anybody that will be patient enough to read it. It entails the story of a great man that left the legacy of education to his family. His family could not be on that particular path he carved for them due to some social, intellectual and financial reasons.
The document provides guidance from Dae Mo Nim on preparing for Foundation Day and living according to Heavenly Parent's principles after Foundation Day. It emphasizes resolving all sins through the Holy Wine Ceremony to remove stains from our spirit selves. Members are encouraged to write a confession letter detailing any sins and submit it to be burned in May. Living a life of absolute faith, love and living for the sake of others after Foundation Day is stressed. Immorality, misusing funds, disrespecting elders are identified as actions to avoid. Ancestor liberation and living by Heavenly Parent's principles are keys to receiving blessings and good fortune.
For this assignment, I interviewed a friend of mine who grew up in a family who does not speak English as their first language. Her parents are both immigrants from Mexico, and I was able to learn about the ways that her background is different from mine.
1. Maintaining understanding, honesty, patience and positivity help ensure long and happy marriages by overcoming challenges together.
2. Partners should make each other feel appreciated by listening to opinions, respecting freedom and fulfilling psychological needs.
3. Tips for both husbands and wives include expressing care through affection, respecting each other's families, appreciating appearances, and spending quality time together.
This document contains the Buddha's teachings on living a prosperous and happy life according to Buddhism. It summarizes four suttas from the Sutta Pitaka:
1. The Sigalovada Sutta teaches basic morality, protecting and building wealth, managing relationships, and qualities for success.
2. The Vyagghapajja Sutta instructs on accumulating material and spiritual wealth as a layperson.
3. The Parabhava Sutta explains reasons for downfall including material, moral, and spiritual downfall if one does not behave mindfully.
4. The Mangala Sutta groups the 38 blessings into essential, supporting, personal, higher, and supreme blessings for a life
This document is a matrimonial profile from Raj K Pandey seeking a marriage partner. It provides extensive details about Raj's professional background working for organizations like UNFPA, ADB, and Save the Children. It mentions his educational qualifications including multiple master's degrees. It describes his social background as a never married Chhetri man from Nepal. It outlines his current economic situation including property he owns and seeks a "university graduate, pretty and well cultured" woman to settle down with for a long-term marriage and family.
This document is a matrimonial profile from Raj K Pandey seeking a life partner. It provides extensive details about Raj's professional background working with development organizations, education qualifications including multiple masters degrees, family background, and ideal qualifications for a partner. Raj is seeking a university educated, career-oriented woman around his age to settle down with and create a family, but wants the woman's interests and values to align with his own before deciding on an arranged marriage.
84 behaviour therapy for would be bridegroomspandane
This document provides tips and advice for developing healthy relationships in marriage and with in-laws. It discusses establishing expectations before marriage, giving respect to get respect, accepting that no one is perfect, and focusing on behaviors rather than criticizing people. Tips include spending quality time together, discussing problems freely, viewing each other as a team, and making one's spouse their best friend. The document emphasizes the importance of standing by in-laws, sharing feelings with them, and forgiving their shortcomings, as with one's own parents.
1. Behaviour therapy was developed to help cultivate equal and cordial relationships between spouses and in-laws. Every person should try to forget their status when interacting with family to build understanding.
2. When a girl gets married, she leaves her family and joins her husband's unknown family, trusting him completely. If her expectations of the relationship are not met, she can become mentally depressed.
3. Developing strong relationships takes a long time, as seen in one's changing relationship with parents over the years. Principles alone may not be enough, as relationships are complex and depend on individual circumstances. Behaviour therapy aims to provide practical guidance to build healthy marriage relationships.
This document discusses the rationale for developing behaviour therapy for would-be bridegrooms. It notes that (1) relationships are complex and born at birth, requiring equality and forgetting of status differences; (2) we are all temporary guests and should aim to develop good relationships; (3) marriage requires compromises from girls who leave their homes and families to join their husband's, trusting him the most; and (4) developing relationships is a long process, and principles may fail because people are unique and building good relationships requires effort. The document aims to provide therapy to help would-be husbands develop relationships skills to support their new wives.
06 my tips - behaviour therapy for would be brides.spandane
This document provides tips for developing positive relationships with one's spouse and in-laws. It discusses how marriage involves joining two families and maintaining cordial relationships is important. Specific tips include spending quality time together, communicating openly, being understanding of each other's needs and shortcomings, and showing gratitude for what family members have done. Forgiveness and resolving conflicts respectfully are also emphasized. The document stresses developing relationships through mutual understanding and respect rather than relying on mood or expectations.
05 my tips - behaviour therapy for would be bridegroomspandane
This document provides tips and advice for developing healthy relationships in marriage and family life. It discusses developing a relationship with one's wife by communicating expectations, spending quality time together as friends, and viewing each other as a team. It also recommends standing by one's in-laws, being understanding of them, and visiting them regularly. The document advocates carrying an equality complex in relationships and believing in individuality, while also practicing self-control.
This document discusses developing healthy relationships and avoiding conflicts in relationships. It notes that relationships are complex and take a long time to develop. It provides tips for brides on how to cultivate relationships with in-laws, such as forgetting status and focusing on equality. It emphasizes treating others, including in-laws, with respect and formality, as in a work environment. The document also points out anomalies in social customs regarding marriage and family matters that can contribute to conflicts, and suggests the need to understand different perspectives.
The document discusses various anomalies observed in human behavior across different domains of life. Some key observations include:
1) Family behaviors like mother-in-laws having different standards for daughters and daughters-in-law, and men not helping with household chores despite expecting equality.
2) Educational behaviors like prioritizing English medium schools and coaching classes for prestige rather than learning.
3) Social status being judged by superficial factors like guests at functions, car ownership, and branded clothes rather than character.
4) Medical field relying heavily on tests rather than diagnosis, and doctors not properly communicating with patients.
5) Organizational behaviors like valuing "yes men" over experience and qualifications.
The document provides observations on anomalies in human behavior from the author's life experiences. Some key points include:
1) Family behaviors like mother-in-laws having different expectations of daughters-in-law than daughters, and men not helping with household chores despite expecting wives to adjust to their families.
2) Educational behaviors like prioritizing English medium schools, the growing prestige of coaching classes, and girls pursuing careers only to leave them after marriage.
3) Other behaviors around wasting resources like water and electricity despite shortages, spending lavishly on kids' birthdays but not donating to the needy, and focusing prayer on temples rather than finding God within.
The author notes exceptions to
7 Pages due by 8 DECEMBER 8 AM TORONTO TIME.docxwrite12
This document provides notes and an outline for a midterm paper on happiness and cultural identity. It includes:
- An assignment to write a 7-page paper due on December 8th at 8am Toronto time.
- An outline breaking down locations, relationships, and life experiences to discuss in the paper.
- Suggested readings and course materials to incorporate including books on citizenship, culture, and migration.
- Potential topics and paragraphs to include about the author's childhood, independence, coping strategies, cultural identity evolution, and goal to help others find happiness through psychology.
- Notes on applying concepts from readings to social work clients.
This document discusses how early childhood trauma can impact adolescent development and provides strategies for caregivers. Key points:
- Trauma alters the nervous system and can make independence and relationships difficult later in life if left unaddressed.
- Trauma may manifest in teens as angry outbursts, risk-taking behaviors, self-harm, or physical health issues.
- Caregivers should take a trauma-informed perspective to understand behaviors, have open conversations, and implement a care plan including nutrition, activity, connections, and therapy tailored to the individual child's needs. The goal is to help strengthen resilience and facilitate healing.
2016 03 12th BDA ‘Twice Exceptional’ Individuals - Safeguarding against Re-vi...Rainer Kurz
The individual follows up with more details about their situation. They disclose that they witnessed abuse of their son by a family member. They decided not to immediately go to the police for protection out of concern for their child being used as evidence. However, after later reporting the abuse, authorities instead accused the individual of being delus
The document outlines the four pillars for a healthy and happy marriage: knowing yourself, effective communication, trust, and having fun together. It provides details on each pillar, such as the importance of understanding where you come from and your goals as a married person for knowing yourself. For communication, it notes that men and women communicate differently and the importance of open communication. Trust involves being able to trust your partner in various ways. And having fun together means scheduling fun activities and date nights to nurture intimacy and relish time together.
This document discusses reasons why many married women are frustrated and provides a model of different levels of life. It suggests that individuals must satisfy needs at the self level before moving to higher levels like family. Many women are frustrated because they have an undefined or unbalanced self-state, not having clearly defined individual goals and ambitions. They see marriage as the goal rather than a means to an end, and live according to societal expectations rather than their true selves. Establishing harmony first at the individual self level is important for balanced relationships.
Response for classmate 1 and 2. 200 words for eachWorking in.docxwilfredoa1
Response for classmate 1 and 2. 200 words for each
Working in the healthcare settings, we come across many different people from different backgrounds, races, and living situation. The philosophy of any public space is the equality and standard way of thinking and feeling about others, but in reality, these differences could often cause tension and/or stress during the interaction of two people. When I come across a patient around my age group, I find that I speak to them as if they were a friend, often using slang and other gestures as I would with friends outside of the workplace. In contrast, with older adults I tend to speak a bit slower and professional due to the age difference. Being a 27-year-old Intensive Care RN, often times older patients initially feel as if my age will affect their care in a negative way because they relate young with inexperienced, therefore the tone and word choice are changed in order to instill confidence thru proper communication. The difference in gender can also have its changes of personality during a patient interaction. Being a male, I tend to talk to the guys a bit more straight forward and not so much emphasis on emotion, while with females, I tend to be more compassionate and understanding of their situation. As for the other factors that make a difference in people, race, sextual preference, living situation, that does not play a factor during patient communication as those are not important to me, instead I may feel the urge to ask more questions to get to know them and their culture or preferences if their difference interest me.
While growing up, the Latin culture has great respect for older adults. A young family member is always expected to take care of their older family members, especially the older females. Grandma’s, Aunt’s, and Mom are always the first to have priority in any situation, starting with the eldest one. The older males in the Latin culture are not left out behind, but typically are carefree to many situations, just wanting everyone to be happy regardless of where they stand. When I was about 5 years old in 1997, the respect for adults was already instilled in me. Always making sure that adults are respected and listened to what they asked of me. In 2007 I was 16, and things started changing, I would be able to challenge adults’ questions and figure out why things are the way that they are; this was a rebellious stage, but I was just trying to figure out why. Fast forward from the rebellious stage, 2011 I was 20 years old, and now had the knowledge as to why adults did what they did, and I understood the meaning behind it. The older adults in the family would now see me as an adult, and although the respect continued as such, I was now an adult as well with my own opinion and choice, regardless of their input.
The way we act and treat others is highly influenced by the upbringing that we have experienced as children, in my opinion, and therefore .
This document provides information and guidelines for pre-marriage orientation and counseling. It includes details about attendance such as requiring the names, ages, and addresses of both partners. The document discusses the importance of marriage preparation and the duties and responsibilities of married couples. It provides topics that will be covered in the counseling sessions such as marriage and relationships, roles and relationships, and responsible parenthood. The document emphasizes the importance of communication, respect, commitment, and other elements for a successful marriage.
This document summarizes an issue of a magazine called UpLyfted. It introduces the founder and staff of the magazine. It also previews some of the articles in the first issue, including one about Pope Francis' acceptance of LGBT people and same-sex unions, one about being an overseas Filipino worker, and one about beauty products for dates. The document promotes a message of acceptance, diversity and inspiration.
The document shares the story of a flight attendant who balances her career with motherhood. While some criticize working mothers for not focusing solely on their families, she finds ways to prioritize both her daughter and her job through scheduling, communication, and relying on family support. The author believes that a mother's love, whether she works or not, remains pure and devoted to her child.
I started my professional career in 1990 at the age of exactly 16 with: (i) Save the Children Norway (Redd Barna); (ii) Japan Medical Association (JMA)/School and Community Health Project (SCHP); (iii) UK Government's Department for International Development (DFID)/Rural Access Program (RAP); (iv) United Nations Population Fund, Country Technical Services Team for South and West Asia (UNFPA CST for SAWA Countries); (v) Himalaya Broadcasting Company (HBC) Radio Station; (vi) Office of the Prime Minister and Council of Ministers through Strengthening the Office of the Prime Minister and Council of Ministers Project funded by DFID under the UK Aid; (vii) DFID/Enabling State Program-Nepal; (viii) United Nations Children Fund/Regional Office for South Asia (UNICEF/ROSA); (ix) United States Agency for International Development (USAID)/International Federation of Electoral System (IFES); (x) USAID/National Democratic Institute (NDI); (xi) Japan International Cooperation Agency (JICA); and (xii) Asian Development Bank (ADB)/Nepal Residence Mission.
1 my bio-data - raj k pandey as of march 2011rajkpandey2000
This document is Raj K Pandey's curriculum vitae. It outlines his educational qualifications which include a Masters in Business Studies and Rural Development. It also provides a detailed career summary highlighting his 20+ years of experience working for organizations such as the UN, Save the Children, and JICA in roles including administrative assistant, project officer, and radio producer. The CV concludes with descriptions of his responsibilities, skills, and training.
This document is a matrimonial profile from Raj K Pandey seeking a marriage partner. It provides extensive details about Raj's professional background working for organizations like UNFPA, ADB, and Save the Children. It mentions his educational qualifications including multiple master's degrees. It describes his social background as a never married Chhetri man from Nepal. It outlines his current economic situation including property he owns and seeks a "university graduate, pretty and well cultured" woman to settle down with for a long-term marriage and family.
This document is a matrimonial profile from Raj K Pandey seeking a life partner. It provides extensive details about Raj's professional background working with development organizations, education qualifications including multiple masters degrees, family background, and ideal qualifications for a partner. Raj is seeking a university educated, career-oriented woman around his age to settle down with and create a family, but wants the woman's interests and values to align with his own before deciding on an arranged marriage.
84 behaviour therapy for would be bridegroomspandane
This document provides tips and advice for developing healthy relationships in marriage and with in-laws. It discusses establishing expectations before marriage, giving respect to get respect, accepting that no one is perfect, and focusing on behaviors rather than criticizing people. Tips include spending quality time together, discussing problems freely, viewing each other as a team, and making one's spouse their best friend. The document emphasizes the importance of standing by in-laws, sharing feelings with them, and forgiving their shortcomings, as with one's own parents.
1. Behaviour therapy was developed to help cultivate equal and cordial relationships between spouses and in-laws. Every person should try to forget their status when interacting with family to build understanding.
2. When a girl gets married, she leaves her family and joins her husband's unknown family, trusting him completely. If her expectations of the relationship are not met, she can become mentally depressed.
3. Developing strong relationships takes a long time, as seen in one's changing relationship with parents over the years. Principles alone may not be enough, as relationships are complex and depend on individual circumstances. Behaviour therapy aims to provide practical guidance to build healthy marriage relationships.
This document discusses the rationale for developing behaviour therapy for would-be bridegrooms. It notes that (1) relationships are complex and born at birth, requiring equality and forgetting of status differences; (2) we are all temporary guests and should aim to develop good relationships; (3) marriage requires compromises from girls who leave their homes and families to join their husband's, trusting him the most; and (4) developing relationships is a long process, and principles may fail because people are unique and building good relationships requires effort. The document aims to provide therapy to help would-be husbands develop relationships skills to support their new wives.
06 my tips - behaviour therapy for would be brides.spandane
This document provides tips for developing positive relationships with one's spouse and in-laws. It discusses how marriage involves joining two families and maintaining cordial relationships is important. Specific tips include spending quality time together, communicating openly, being understanding of each other's needs and shortcomings, and showing gratitude for what family members have done. Forgiveness and resolving conflicts respectfully are also emphasized. The document stresses developing relationships through mutual understanding and respect rather than relying on mood or expectations.
05 my tips - behaviour therapy for would be bridegroomspandane
This document provides tips and advice for developing healthy relationships in marriage and family life. It discusses developing a relationship with one's wife by communicating expectations, spending quality time together as friends, and viewing each other as a team. It also recommends standing by one's in-laws, being understanding of them, and visiting them regularly. The document advocates carrying an equality complex in relationships and believing in individuality, while also practicing self-control.
This document discusses developing healthy relationships and avoiding conflicts in relationships. It notes that relationships are complex and take a long time to develop. It provides tips for brides on how to cultivate relationships with in-laws, such as forgetting status and focusing on equality. It emphasizes treating others, including in-laws, with respect and formality, as in a work environment. The document also points out anomalies in social customs regarding marriage and family matters that can contribute to conflicts, and suggests the need to understand different perspectives.
The document discusses various anomalies observed in human behavior across different domains of life. Some key observations include:
1) Family behaviors like mother-in-laws having different standards for daughters and daughters-in-law, and men not helping with household chores despite expecting equality.
2) Educational behaviors like prioritizing English medium schools and coaching classes for prestige rather than learning.
3) Social status being judged by superficial factors like guests at functions, car ownership, and branded clothes rather than character.
4) Medical field relying heavily on tests rather than diagnosis, and doctors not properly communicating with patients.
5) Organizational behaviors like valuing "yes men" over experience and qualifications.
The document provides observations on anomalies in human behavior from the author's life experiences. Some key points include:
1) Family behaviors like mother-in-laws having different expectations of daughters-in-law than daughters, and men not helping with household chores despite expecting wives to adjust to their families.
2) Educational behaviors like prioritizing English medium schools, the growing prestige of coaching classes, and girls pursuing careers only to leave them after marriage.
3) Other behaviors around wasting resources like water and electricity despite shortages, spending lavishly on kids' birthdays but not donating to the needy, and focusing prayer on temples rather than finding God within.
The author notes exceptions to
7 Pages due by 8 DECEMBER 8 AM TORONTO TIME.docxwrite12
This document provides notes and an outline for a midterm paper on happiness and cultural identity. It includes:
- An assignment to write a 7-page paper due on December 8th at 8am Toronto time.
- An outline breaking down locations, relationships, and life experiences to discuss in the paper.
- Suggested readings and course materials to incorporate including books on citizenship, culture, and migration.
- Potential topics and paragraphs to include about the author's childhood, independence, coping strategies, cultural identity evolution, and goal to help others find happiness through psychology.
- Notes on applying concepts from readings to social work clients.
This document discusses how early childhood trauma can impact adolescent development and provides strategies for caregivers. Key points:
- Trauma alters the nervous system and can make independence and relationships difficult later in life if left unaddressed.
- Trauma may manifest in teens as angry outbursts, risk-taking behaviors, self-harm, or physical health issues.
- Caregivers should take a trauma-informed perspective to understand behaviors, have open conversations, and implement a care plan including nutrition, activity, connections, and therapy tailored to the individual child's needs. The goal is to help strengthen resilience and facilitate healing.
2016 03 12th BDA ‘Twice Exceptional’ Individuals - Safeguarding against Re-vi...Rainer Kurz
The individual follows up with more details about their situation. They disclose that they witnessed abuse of their son by a family member. They decided not to immediately go to the police for protection out of concern for their child being used as evidence. However, after later reporting the abuse, authorities instead accused the individual of being delus
The document outlines the four pillars for a healthy and happy marriage: knowing yourself, effective communication, trust, and having fun together. It provides details on each pillar, such as the importance of understanding where you come from and your goals as a married person for knowing yourself. For communication, it notes that men and women communicate differently and the importance of open communication. Trust involves being able to trust your partner in various ways. And having fun together means scheduling fun activities and date nights to nurture intimacy and relish time together.
This document discusses reasons why many married women are frustrated and provides a model of different levels of life. It suggests that individuals must satisfy needs at the self level before moving to higher levels like family. Many women are frustrated because they have an undefined or unbalanced self-state, not having clearly defined individual goals and ambitions. They see marriage as the goal rather than a means to an end, and live according to societal expectations rather than their true selves. Establishing harmony first at the individual self level is important for balanced relationships.
Response for classmate 1 and 2. 200 words for eachWorking in.docxwilfredoa1
Response for classmate 1 and 2. 200 words for each
Working in the healthcare settings, we come across many different people from different backgrounds, races, and living situation. The philosophy of any public space is the equality and standard way of thinking and feeling about others, but in reality, these differences could often cause tension and/or stress during the interaction of two people. When I come across a patient around my age group, I find that I speak to them as if they were a friend, often using slang and other gestures as I would with friends outside of the workplace. In contrast, with older adults I tend to speak a bit slower and professional due to the age difference. Being a 27-year-old Intensive Care RN, often times older patients initially feel as if my age will affect their care in a negative way because they relate young with inexperienced, therefore the tone and word choice are changed in order to instill confidence thru proper communication. The difference in gender can also have its changes of personality during a patient interaction. Being a male, I tend to talk to the guys a bit more straight forward and not so much emphasis on emotion, while with females, I tend to be more compassionate and understanding of their situation. As for the other factors that make a difference in people, race, sextual preference, living situation, that does not play a factor during patient communication as those are not important to me, instead I may feel the urge to ask more questions to get to know them and their culture or preferences if their difference interest me.
While growing up, the Latin culture has great respect for older adults. A young family member is always expected to take care of their older family members, especially the older females. Grandma’s, Aunt’s, and Mom are always the first to have priority in any situation, starting with the eldest one. The older males in the Latin culture are not left out behind, but typically are carefree to many situations, just wanting everyone to be happy regardless of where they stand. When I was about 5 years old in 1997, the respect for adults was already instilled in me. Always making sure that adults are respected and listened to what they asked of me. In 2007 I was 16, and things started changing, I would be able to challenge adults’ questions and figure out why things are the way that they are; this was a rebellious stage, but I was just trying to figure out why. Fast forward from the rebellious stage, 2011 I was 20 years old, and now had the knowledge as to why adults did what they did, and I understood the meaning behind it. The older adults in the family would now see me as an adult, and although the respect continued as such, I was now an adult as well with my own opinion and choice, regardless of their input.
The way we act and treat others is highly influenced by the upbringing that we have experienced as children, in my opinion, and therefore .
This document provides information and guidelines for pre-marriage orientation and counseling. It includes details about attendance such as requiring the names, ages, and addresses of both partners. The document discusses the importance of marriage preparation and the duties and responsibilities of married couples. It provides topics that will be covered in the counseling sessions such as marriage and relationships, roles and relationships, and responsible parenthood. The document emphasizes the importance of communication, respect, commitment, and other elements for a successful marriage.
This document summarizes an issue of a magazine called UpLyfted. It introduces the founder and staff of the magazine. It also previews some of the articles in the first issue, including one about Pope Francis' acceptance of LGBT people and same-sex unions, one about being an overseas Filipino worker, and one about beauty products for dates. The document promotes a message of acceptance, diversity and inspiration.
The document shares the story of a flight attendant who balances her career with motherhood. While some criticize working mothers for not focusing solely on their families, she finds ways to prioritize both her daughter and her job through scheduling, communication, and relying on family support. The author believes that a mother's love, whether she works or not, remains pure and devoted to her child.
I started my professional career in 1990 at the age of exactly 16 with: (i) Save the Children Norway (Redd Barna); (ii) Japan Medical Association (JMA)/School and Community Health Project (SCHP); (iii) UK Government's Department for International Development (DFID)/Rural Access Program (RAP); (iv) United Nations Population Fund, Country Technical Services Team for South and West Asia (UNFPA CST for SAWA Countries); (v) Himalaya Broadcasting Company (HBC) Radio Station; (vi) Office of the Prime Minister and Council of Ministers through Strengthening the Office of the Prime Minister and Council of Ministers Project funded by DFID under the UK Aid; (vii) DFID/Enabling State Program-Nepal; (viii) United Nations Children Fund/Regional Office for South Asia (UNICEF/ROSA); (ix) United States Agency for International Development (USAID)/International Federation of Electoral System (IFES); (x) USAID/National Democratic Institute (NDI); (xi) Japan International Cooperation Agency (JICA); and (xii) Asian Development Bank (ADB)/Nepal Residence Mission.
1 my bio-data - raj k pandey as of march 2011rajkpandey2000
This document is Raj K Pandey's curriculum vitae. It outlines his educational qualifications which include a Masters in Business Studies and Rural Development. It also provides a detailed career summary highlighting his 20+ years of experience working for organizations such as the UN, Save the Children, and JICA in roles including administrative assistant, project officer, and radio producer. The CV concludes with descriptions of his responsibilities, skills, and training.
1 my bio-data - raj k pandey as of march 2011rajkpandey2000
Raj K Pandey has over 30 years of experience working for international organizations in Nepal. He has a background in administration, project management, and community development. Pandey holds two master's degrees and has worked for organizations such as Save the Children, JICA, DFID, the UN, and USAID. He has extensive training and experience in areas like project management, leadership, evaluation, and computer skills. Currently, Pandey works as an Operations Assistant for a UN specialized agency in Nepal.
The document contains a collection of motivational sayings and phrases encouraging the reader to accept challenges, take action, explore opportunities, be honest with oneself, express oneself, communicate clearly, and continue moving forward despite discouragement or failure. The quotes emphasize determining one's purpose and vision, setting goals, venturing beyond one's limits, and recognizing that overcoming difficulties begins from within.
The document discusses poverty and its causes in developing nations. It notes that poor agricultural economies often result in hunger and malnutrition despite food production. It questions why agricultural societies remain poor and if issues stem from production or distribution of food. The document also compares calorie intake between Americans consuming fast food and Nepalis consuming traditional foods. It argues that poverty should not be seen as a source of shame but faced with confidence and determination to progress.
The document compares characteristics of poor and rich countries to determine the key difference between them. It argues that the difference is not related to a country's age, natural resources, or intellectual capacity, but rather the attitudes and principles followed by its people. The principles of ethics, integrity, responsibility, respect for laws and others, work ethic, savings, punctuality that are widely followed in rich countries are lacking in most people's daily lives in poor countries. Therefore, the document concludes that countries are poor not due to lack of resources or nature, but because of lack of the right attitudes.
The document compares characteristics of poor and rich countries to determine the key difference between them. It argues that the difference is not related to a country's age, natural resources, or intellectual capacity, but rather the attitudes and principles followed by its people. The principles of ethics, integrity, responsibility, respect for laws and others, work ethic, savings, punctuality that are widely followed in rich countries are lacking in most people in poor countries. Adopting these attitudes and teaching them can help poor countries develop like rich ones have.
This document discusses governance issues in Nepal based on a presentation by Dr. M Rijal. It provides common definitions of governance from various organizations and outlines World Bank indicators used to measure governance. While Nepal saw some improvements from 1990-2000, its World Bank governance scores declined from 1996-2002. The document also discusses positives and negatives of global governance trends and outlines both improvements and issues in Nepal's governance, including political instability, corruption, and failure to benefit all regions and populations equally.
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The document is a curriculum vitae for Raj K Pandey. It outlines his personal and contact information, career history working for organizations like Save the Children, JICA, DFID, UNICEF, and the UN, educational background including degrees in business studies and rural development, training experiences, and responsibilities in roles like administrative assistant, project coordinator, and program officer.
Raj K Pandey has had a long career working for various international development organizations since 1990. He has earned multiple masters degrees and is currently pursuing another. He enjoys spending leisure time with family and engaging in hobbies like reading, movies, and travel. Raj considers himself self-disciplined and hard-working, often working 18-19 hours daily to pursue both career and education. He has liberal views and prefers simple living with honest people, though finds maintaining social relationships difficult due to prioritizing work and goals.
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My Profile, Bio-Data, Certificates and Photos: Please Kindly Refer 30 Attachments!
This is a Matrimonial Enquary sent to you via http://cid-da2a266bdca7065f.office.live.com/browse.aspx/rajkpandey2000.
We both are totally stranger to each-other so far although I am humbly and very gently sending
this profile including attached my Bio-Data, Recommendation Letters, Health Report, Security
Clearance, World Bank Reorganization and my Latest Photographs to an unknown e-mail ID for
a general enquiry and information dissemination motive, with an expectation that it may be
relevant to someone interested.
I am not sure yet, whether the marriage is matter of chance or choice. If this is a matter of chance
and luck, I am curious to find my luck soon! I have used different approach and looking forward
to see the anticipated result. Let's see what will be the consequences in the future as unknown in
life is both challenge as well as opportunity which is a part of our life.
I am extremely sorry for bothering you! You may simply ignore and delete enclosed profile, CV
and working certificates and/or kindly forward this information among your relatives, female
colleagues, lady friend circles and their parents, if someone is also seriously interested for this
and has made her mind for the same purpose. Thank you very much for your kind cooperation in
advance. The following section is only for the concerned one and her related family members,
where I have honestly described my realistic background as marital relationship must be based
on the bond of trust and honesty.
Dear Friend:
Please accept warm regards! I am humbly corresponding with reference to the matrimonial
enquiry for your kind rational assessment purpose for a closed but healthy friendship at the
beginning and then possible match in the near future, if both of us are made for each-other upon
our compatibility and comfort! I am a Developmental and Management Practitioner by training
and profession. This year, probably after few months, I am thinking and planning for my
marriage with at least a University Graduate, but preferred Masters Degree and Job Holder or
Self-employed Girl.
If the lady is unemployed at present, she should have career-oriented mind after marriage to use
her education as well as in enhancing for balanced marital life. The main reason for setting all
these minimum practical criteria is to thoroughly empower the prospective life partner and
acquire a reciprocal synergy for our lifelong personal growth and development. For this
rationale, I wish to emotionally, morally and psychologically encourage and motivate my ideal
life partner for her professionalism, edification and overall personality development.
But, what I only expect on her intrinsic lady persona is: natural compassion in the heart of a
well-cultured lady as well as positive attitude and optimistic mind since she will be the source of
an inspiration for a man during difficult circumstances as well as for a positive transformation in
our lives. However, the reality talks lauder than dreams! At present, I represent the working class
economy: we both must work for our livelihood. Currently, I have some hundreds of books in the
name of property in my own name with a four-roomed cemented home and some pieces of land
in Tarai-Sunaul Bazaar, Nawalparashi, which is an outcome of purely my personal income!
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But, I was grown up and educated around Jawalakhel from the age of 10. Consequently, at any
cost, we cannot settle in Terai and must dwell in the metropolitan urban areas. Our sisters and all
relatives have already established their own homes in this valley and I/we also must construct a
permanent residence in Kathmandu soon, although for at least few years, we have to happily live
in a rental flat on temporary basis, especially around Lalitpur Municipality.
As far as my core profession is concerned, I am actively involving with the international
developmental organizations since 1990. When I was exactly 16 years in ninety, I started a
career with the UK Government's DFID/Enabling State Programme Nepal; Office of the Prime
Minister and Council of Ministers; Himalaya Broadcasting Company (HBC) Radio Station;
United Nations Population Fund, Country Technical Services Team for South and West Asia
(UNFPA, CST for SAWA Countries); DFID/Rural Access Program (RAP); Japan International
Cooperation Agency/Japan Medical Association (JICA/JMA) funded School and Community
Health Project (SCHP) and Save the Children-Norway (previously Redd Barna, Norwegian
semi-government international humanitarian organization). (Please see enclosed resume,
working certificates, recommendation letters, health report, security clearance, World Bank
recognization, etc.).
Moreover, I was also temporarily implicated as an independent Freelancer Consultant for
UNICEF/ROSA, USAID/IFES and USAID/NDI for two years. Lately, I was working with the
Japan International Cooperation Agency (JICA)/Nepal Office in the capacity of an AS Officer
until I shifted to an UN Agency in 2008.
At present, I am working with one of the Specialized Agencies of the United Nations (UN)
System, based in Nepal, at Harihar Bhawan, Pulchowk, Lalitpur, in the Administrative Capacity,
which is a long-term permanent fixed job.
As far as my pedagogical background is concerned, I have completed Double Masters Degree
i.e. Masters in Business Studies (MBS) and MA Rural Development, both in first divisions.
Moreover, at the same time, I am also pursuing third masters degree in Public Administration
(MPA) course. I have simultaneously made my mind to enroll for MPhil course as well to
upgrade myself for PhD in a long run of my life, which is one of the most pertinent future
dreams for me.
Regarding my social background, I am Single (Never Married), Chhetri, 1974 Birth, Aries, 60 kg
weight, height 5'3' with fair complexion. (Please see attached photos and/or click
ttp://www.flickr.com/photos/52116698@N04 for my latest 200 snaps). I am none-alcoholic but
occasional smoker, extroverted and determined laborious person for a set-goal. I am only son
with two married and one single sister. Our father used to be local level politician in Triveni-
Susta VDC during his youth up to 1970, which is nostalgia for us in these days. On the other
hand, he is also an Indian retired army with the pension from India (70) and mother is housewife
(67). They both live in hometown to look after home and land and quarterly visit us for a week as
well as collecting their pension from Indian embassy.
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Finally, if you feel comfortable to happily live in a rental house for few years; if you are also
seriously searching an ideal life partner; if your inner soul considers that we both might be like
minded friends for lifelong and our matching will be the perfect one; if you trust me as a
gentleman by the hub of your heart and curious for a matrimonial relationship, we can meet as a
very goodfriend at first and should try to sincerely understand each-other thoroughly. When our
inner chemistry, feeling, manner, interest and ethos are compatible and comfortable for both of
us, we will spontaneously and unknowingly feel emotional attachment based on heart-to-heart
relationship, then we can rationally decide for our marriage-life as soon as possible, basically
after obtaining mutual consent and concurrence from our family members and parents.
At a very fine and lucky moment, a meeting even with a stranger sometimes may bring major
transformation in our lives! Optimistically speaking, who knows future: we both may prove to be
the ideal lifelong friends and exact dream partner of each-others! For this purpose, you may
contact me without any hesitations at (977-01) 98510-86884. Then, if you feel comfort and
secure, I will invite you along with your best friends and parents for a courtesy coffee meeting at
Jawalakhel for our formal introduction that will be the best way to initiate our long lasting
cordial relationship. Beside this, you can assign your reliable relatives and parents as your
representative for an initial discussion with our guardians or me. Furthermore, alternatively, you
may forward your latest snaps and accurate information to us in making a logical family decision
for the possibility of amicable relationship, which is based on the bond of trust and honesty.
By the way, being an only brother of three my most respectable and loving sisters, I can easily
understand that it is extremely difficult in approaching to an unknown person, particularly for the
lady. I, therefore, would like to ensure you that: 1) Names of several referees will be provided at
any time in exploring the facts about me and my family background; 2) Several meetings among
parents/family members will be organized to properly familiarize both the family members; 3)
Medical health reports will be submitted; 4) Academic credentials and working certificates will
be presented; 5) Your parents can independently inquiry and research to verify my background;
6) I/we will certainly facilitate for the acclimatization process to easily adopt our new role and
responsibility in the totally new environments; and 7) Sufficient time will be allocated to closely
recognize and understand each-other from insight but the final decision is yours: madam!
If your family members wish to meet my parents/guardians to seriously discuss on this issue
more broadly, please let me know so that I can provide you their direct contact address for
further detailed discussions. I can also arrange a series of meetings among our parents/guardians
to materialize our lifelong visualized dreams into the reality. Finally, please refer all the
attachments with this e-mail and looking forward to hear from you a positive response soon!
With Warm Regards!
Raj K Pandey Chhetri, (MBS, MA)
Jawalakhel, Lalitpur
GPO Box: 19862, Kathmandu (Nepal)
Mobile: (977-01) 98510 86884/9841 813529
rajkpandey2000@yahoo.com, rajkpandey2000@hotmail.com,rajkpandey2000@gmail.com
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MY SUPPLEMENTARY PROFILE
Profession: Raj K Pandey started his career in 1990, at the age of 16 with: 1) Save the Children
Norway (Redd Barna); 2) Japan Medical Association (JMA)/School and Community Health
Project (SCHP); 3) UK Government's Department for International Development (DFID)/Rural
Access Program (RAP); 4) United Nations Population Fund, Country Technical Services Team
for South and West Asia (UNFPA CST for SAWA Countries); 5) Himalaya Broadcasting
Company (HBC) Radio Station; 6) Office of the Prime Minister and Council of Ministers
through Strengthening the Office of the Prime Minister and Council of Ministers Project funded
by DFID; 7) DFID/Enabling State Program-Nepal.
Moreover, he was also implicated as a short-term Consultant with: i) UNICEF/Regional Office
for South Asia (ROSA); ii) USAID/International Federation of Electoral System (IFES); and iii)
USAID/National Democratic Institute (NDI). Prior joining one of the Specialized Agencies of
the United Nations (UN) System in 2008, where he is working as an administrative staff in these
days, he was involved with the Japan International Cooperation Agency (JICA) Nepal Office in
the capacity of an AS Officer.
Education: He has completed his Double Masters Degree i.e. Masters in Business Studies (MBS)
and MA (Rural Development), both in the first division. Simultaneously, he is also perusing his
third Masters Degree in Public Administration (MPA) Course in the early morning in these days.
Moreover, he has strongly made his mind to enroll for MPhil Course as well sometimes in the
future to upgrade himself for PhD in a long-run of his life, which is one of the significant long-
term dreams of his life.
Attributes: He is a self-disciplined, self-made, self-developed and self-directed person without
guidance from anybody. He dreamed, visualized and worked hard to materialize his vision, goal
and aim, which made him active, laborious and confident to cope the difficult challenges and
circumstances. On the other hand, when he was in his early teenage and younger age, he used to
work exceptionally hard both for his professional career as well as education.
He was able to work for up to 18-19 hours daily in that struggle period and used to sleep merely
4-5 hours. Consequently, he successfully continued his full time job and education
simultaneously. However, when he gets leisure time in these days, particularly during Saturday
and Sunday, he simply enjoys for — laying on bed, traveling around countryside, reading
newspapers, listening music, working in a computer for writing something, dine delicious meals,
chatting, sharing and joking on generic issues with all the family members, especially two
sisters, who are living very closed to his house, reviewing literatures/reports, watching latest
movies/TV and sleeping for very late hours.
Personality: He is liberal minded, independent, honest, talkative and extroverted person. He often
trusts people easily but they exploit his gentleness, soberness and softness for their own vested
interests, which makes him sad. He prefers simple life with the better human capital for own
inner satisfaction purpose.
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Ideal: He respects women and men who are simple, gentle and liberal, although he likes straight
forward nature and speak of mind. However, he disgusts and immediately discontinues even the
humanitarian relationship with the liar, hypocrite, arrogant and sadist persons as they are good
for nothing for others.
Strength: He is strongly determined person for his goals and visions, which makes him
exhausted and burnt-out. Consequently, he can hardly smile, laugh and get pleasure in his life!
Moreover, he mostly feels loneliness as he can hardly sacrifice his time for an unproductive
purpose and social relationship.
Weakness: a) He is, however, not a perfect household manager particularly for cooking, laundry,
ironing and other domestic work as he never practiced such activities in his entire life due to
sufficient love and take care rendered by his mother/sisters. b) When someone behaves
dishonest, sadist and egoistic way, he completely ignores him/her and never attempts to
reestablish any further humanitarian relationship.
With Best Regards!
Raj K Pandey Chhetri, (MBS, MA)
Jawalakhel, Lalitpur
GPO Box: 19862, Kathmandu (Nepal)
Mobile: (977-01) 98510 86884
Mobile: (977-01) 9841 813529
rajkpandey2000@yahoo.com
rajkpandey2000@hotmail.com
rajkpandey2000@gmail.com
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ANNEX: WHY E-MARRIES PROPOSAL?
Dear Friend:
This justification and all attachments will logically explain, analyze and convince you not only
about the e-marriage proposal, but also on the humanitarian relationship in general, and male and
female marital relationship in specific from different prospective. The following section will be
useful for all of us to clearly understand the practical difficulties during match making process in
our life. This is sent via http://cid-da2a266bdca7065f.office.live.com/browse.aspx/rajkpandey2000 on
behalf of its originator, especially for the interested single lady - University Graduate, Job
Holder/Self-Employed and Nice Looking Girl.
The primary cause for using the webmail based information technology (IT) system for a general
matrimonial related enquiry is due to the distance induced bravery. I am directly and personally
approaching for the life's most sensitive, difficult and challenging issue on a supposition that the
marriage is the most natural, psychological, emotional and social dire need of both — male and
female, sometimes once in a life. Moreover, each family may have an eligible bachelor — family
members, relatives, social networks, colleagues and friend circles — who might have informally
searching a suitable match for their grown-up children through existing traditional social network
approach due to the push/pull factors, but they might also have not been completely able to find
out the right candidate for their fully grown-up children in consideration of several other issues.
We are aware that all unmarried persons, including us, have an imaginative image for an ideal
life partner on our subconscious minds/dreams from the very early teenage of our lives. To find
our lifelong envisioned ideal/dream person into the reality, our minds/souls unknowingly keep
on searching/exploring around with an expectation that s/he, who is imaginarily living with us in
our subconscious minds from the very early age, will come soon even in the reality of life. We
hope that s/he will be the right friend to spend rest of our lives together for the better aesthetic
values, which will permanently end the bitter loneliness feeling and inner vacuum within
ourselves. But, very few people are lucky enough for such unconditional true love, which all can
not find in their life. However, unfortunately, our age keeps on running out rapidly for waiting
that especial friend in real life, albeit we are not sure yet, when we will meet her/him in the
reality. Consequently, when we do not meet our lifelong expected dreams into the reality, it
creates enough anxiety, stress, frustration, personality and psychological disorders among us and
we feel extremely sad.
Likewise, both arranged and love marriage have certain pros and cons but 'like minded values
and ethos based' marries, where both will have total freedom of choice for the rational selection
of an appropriate life partner, is the best approach since decision of social-knot directly affects
both. Moreover, we have limited social networks, family ties and relatives, where we can hardly
find the dreamed and qualified partner due to lack of an easy and direct access with her/him. On
the other hand, our extremely busy mechanical routine life from early morning to late evening
for our other daily priorities, has limited us for the better option to expand the social network. As
a result, the tremendously competitive world, especially in the fast metropolitan life, has made us
extremely lonely even among the huge mob of the people, as we can hardly mix-up with them
due to their varied nature as well as lack of sufficient spare time with us.
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Similarly, we are totally option and voiceless to select a suitable right partner, when marries
proposal is put forward from our closed relatives since we can hardly say 'no' to them despite our
several reservations. The marries facilitators also unnecessarily exaggerate on the qualities of the
possible grooms/brides, which may not be realistic in the practical life. But, marries decision that
we make only once in a life is for the sake of entirely ourselves, not to make others happy since
it determines our future. Moreover, even a self-chosen love marries and/or arranged marriage can
hardly be guaranteed for lifelong success, durable and happy relationship until our death.
Subsequently, it is always a creative tension as well as hidden mental stress to make a marriage
related single decision with a totally unseen person, which is exactly like a gambling, either we
will be winner or looser!
However, we have to ultimately trust an unfamiliar opposite gender and select a totally unseen
person as a lifelong partner out of six billion plus population on this earth. Although, we are not
sure yet, who s/he will be, where s/he is now, what s/he is doing, how s/he will approach to us
and when s/he will be our real friend as well as how our future relationship will go with her/him.
We, ultimately, need to focus merely for his/her comfort/happiness until we die as soon as s/he
enters into our life as change maker, who will impart significantly differences throughout our
life.
Beside this, what we are mainly lacking to find out our lifelong visualized opposite ideal partner
is — easy access, effective negotiation, two-way communication, sufficient time for interactions
and most importantly inner courage and self-confidence to approach her and directly propose for
marriage due to fear of rejection. However, the sky is unlimited and six billion-plus populated
world is beyond our horizon, although we don't have an easy access to directly contact her. It is
not a wrong idea to creatively but gently approach her and exchange our mutual information for
an enquiry since s/he might also have been waiting for the entry of a right person into her life for
her marriage purpose — who knows we may be the hero by mistake as we both may have been
made as an ideal life partner for each-others! As marries is one time great event in our life and
we can try our level best to invite proposal from the most eligible, well-cultured family
background as far as possible.
But, we should never enforce/persuade the second party to make a decision favorable to us since
the marriage relationship must be based on independent personal decision of both — without
external influence, pressure, threat, hanky-panky and so on — even from family members. Let's
continue our dream till we get the best one, when dream is over and shattered, we will really
suffer for loosing hope in life. We should not easily accept the cowardice defeat, without waging
another effective war to achieve the lifelong visualized person as we can find exactly the same -
whom we dream, if marries is truly made in heaven.
I, therefore, have used atypical modus-operandi in exploring ideal life partner and it is expected
that s/he will be the exact lady, whom I have imagined and retained in my subconscious mind
from early teenage. Let's see how general people in our conservative society will perceive such a
different method as individual interpretations/judgments are the outcomes of our backgrounds.
But, I am certain that she will be the lady with exact attributes, who will positively accept not
only such a unique process, but also other several social transformations as mediocre narrow
mind can never welcome any changes in the new environments since they are totally happy to
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live in the traditional status-qua situation due to fear of unwanted criticism and likely risk in life.
The most essential pre-requirement for possible happy marital life is that both male and female,
first of all, should have natural attraction from heart, without external influence, at a preliminary
face-to-face meeting — both should feel 'click' in their minds to see each-others at the first sight.
The first meeting and its overall impressions generally determine whether the further contacts
will be strengthened/interrupted. If both feel compatible and comfortable with each-other during
introductory conversation process, their minds and hearts will spontaneously but unknowingly
admit as like-minded prospective friends despite other several men-made gaps and obstacles —
economical, social, educational, psychological and professional — as both have emotionally,
mentally as well as psychologically accepted without any pre-occupied minds and persuasions.
If both are honest, respectable, loveable and acceptable, a kind of special feeling, thought and
emotional rapport will be developed within ourselves, which will further enhance for the deep-
rooted love, affection, interdependency and psycho-socio belongingness to reinforce the post-
marital life. Subsequently, both will heartily accept not only the roses but also the thrones since
couple has strong emotional and sentimental heart-to-heart bonds based on natural attraction,
trust and self-commitment for the life-long association until death, which nobody can easily
alter. As the human relationship is related with the meeting of like-minded minds and the
common wave-length can further enhance for the retention of long-term marital relationship in
our life.
Moreover, if we find exact dreamed partner, all our senses might be positively persuaded and
heartbeat might be amplified due to an unique feeling within us — exactly the same natural
process that we can closely observe among animal kingdom — where inner natural chemistry
between them determines attraction/repulsion for further relationship at first meeting of both.
We can also boost pleasure of mind, inner happiness and satisfaction through natural process, if
couple has liking minds and web length for each other via — reciprocal unconditional love,
caring, sharing, mutual understanding and respect for feeling and emotion of the husband and
wife, which should based on the ground of mutual trust and honesty. It is a general human
tendency that whatever we perform, we simply act upon in order to avoid the pain and gain the
pleasure. We, therefore, generally worry and fear with the likely change process and reluctant to
renounce the comfort zones, but we have to eventually accept new roles and responsibilities
despite uncertain results in our life.
If spouse have certain common grounds, particularly in terms of their socio-cultural values,
ethos, interests, likings, disliking as well as shared dreams and visions, the post-marital life will
enhance better synergy, positive energy, creativity and prosperity for both. However, if marriage
is completely based on compromises, conditionality, baseless commitments and dishonesty, it
may prove counterproductive at any time in a long run since the relationship must be based on
the bond of trust and honesty as it is simply the beginning of relationship not the end.
Moreover, if we establish a marital relationship on the ground of untruth, dishonesty,
exaggeration and hanky-panky, it will mentally hurt your partner due to a betrayed deal, which
will make her/him lifelong regretful that will never keep your partner happy. If your partner is
not happy at all due to your dishonesty, it is obvious s/he can never keep you/your family
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members happy as well.
Moreover, approached person might not have made her mind for her marriage at this particular
juncture and/or she might have settled. Similarly, both might not have met their pre-occupied
basic expectations and criteria as well as both may have differences in terms of their so-called
socio-economy, socio-cultural and family-based values, which may indirectly affect post-marital
life, particularly during elderly age because of the likely cultural socks. Consequently, everybody
has freedom of choice for the rational decision for her/his marriage without external pressure and
persuasion since being self-master we should not feel regrets for our self-decision.
Finally, if your eligible unmarried lady family members, friend circles, relatives and female
colleagues — at least an university graduate, job holder/self-employed and well-cultured pretty
looking lady — is thinking for her marriage within this year, please convey and forward this
information. As a result, she/her family members can rationally assess our suitability from
different prospective for the perfect matching as far as we can make it, if marries is a matter of
choice! Your tiny efforts will directly support us to reduce the 'information poverty' and search
of an ideal life-partner of two persons will be permanently over. If your interested lady
friends/their family members wish to contact me/my parents/sisters to discuss more seriously,
please feel free to contact us.
Please refer all the attachments and looking forward for a positive response soon.
Warm Regards!
Raj K Pandey Chhetri, (MBS, MA)
Jawalakhel, Lalitpur, GPO Box: 19862, Kathmandu (Nepal)
Mobile: (977-01) 98510 86884
Mobile: (977-01) 9841 813529
rajkpandey2000@yahoo.com
rajkpandey2000@hotmail.com
rajkpandey2000@gmail.com
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