Raj K Pandey is seeking a life partner and sends a lengthy letter detailing his background and qualifications. He is a development professional who has worked for several international organizations. He owns property and lives in Lalitpur but is seeking a wife who would be willing to initially live in a rental home. He provides photos and links to learn more about him. He is looking for an educated, career-oriented woman and is willing to introduce suitors to his family and provide references to learn about him. He hopes the recipient will seriously consider his proposal and contact him to further discuss a potential relationship.

1. Dear Friend:
Please accept warm regards! I am humbly corresponding with reference to the
matrimonial enquiry for your kind rational assessment purpose for a closed but healthy
friendship at the beginning and then possible match in the near future, if both of us are
made for each-other upon our compatibility and comfort! I am a Developmental and
Management Practitioner by training and profession. This year, probably after few
months, I am thinking and planning for my marriage with at least a "University Graduate,
but preferred Masters Degree and Job Holder or Self-employed, Pretty Looking, Well
Cultured Girl."
If the lady is unemployed at present, she should have career-oriented mind after marriage
to use her education as well as in enhancing for balanced marital life. The main reason
for setting all these minimum practical criteria is to thoroughly empower the prospective
life partner and acquire a reciprocal synergy for our lifelong personal growth and
development. For this rationale, I wish to emotionally, morally and psychologically
encourage and motivate my ideal life partner for her professionalism, edification and
overall personality development. But, what I only expect on her intrinsic lady persona is:
natural compassion in the heart of a well-cultured lady as well as positive attitude and
optimistic mind since she will be the source of an inspiration for a man during difficult
circumstances as well as for a positive transformation in our lives.
However, the reality talks lauder than dreams! At present, I represent the working class
economy: we both must work for our livelihood. Currently, I have some hundreds of
books in the name of property in my own name with a four-roomed cemented home and
some pieces of land in Tarai-Sunaul Bazaar, Nawalparashi, which is an outcome of
purely my personal income! But, I was grown up and educated around Jawalakhel from
the age of 10. Consequently, at any cost, we cannot settle in Terai and must dwell in the
metropolitan urban areas. Our sisters and all relatives have already established their own
homes in this valley and I/we also must construct a permanent residence in Kathmandu
soon, although for at least few years, we have to happily live in a rental flat on temporary
basis, especially around Lalitpur Municipality.
As far as my core profession is concerned, I am actively involving with the international
developmental organizations since 1990. When I was exactly 16 years in ninety, I started
a career with the UK Government's DFID/Enabling State Programme Nepal; Office of
the Prime Minister and Council of Ministers; Himalaya Broadcasting Company (HBC)
Radio Station; United Nations Population Fund, Country Technical Services Team for
South and West Asia (UNFPA, CST for SAWA Countries); DFID/Rural Access Program
(RAP); Japan International Cooperation Agency/Japan Medical Association (JICA/JMA)
funded School and Community Health Project (SCHP) and Save the Children-Norway
(previously Redd Barna, Norwegian semi-government international humanitarian
organization). (Please refer the enclosed resume, working certificates, recommendation
letters, health report, security clearance, World Bank recognization, etc. and/or click the
ink http://cid-da2a266bdca7065f.office.live.com/browse.aspx/rajkpandey2000).

2. Moreover, I was also temporarily implicated as an independent Freelancer Consultant for
UNICEF/ROSA, USAID/IFES and USAID/NDI for two years. Lately, I was working
with the Japan International Cooperation Agency (JICA)/Nepal Office in the capacity of
an AS Officer until I shifted to an UN Agency in 2008.
At present, I am working with one of the Specialized Agencies of the United Nations
(UN) System, based in Nepal, at Harihar Bhawan, Pulchowk, Lalitpur, in the
Administrative Capacity, which is a long-term permanent fixed job.
As far as my pedagogical background is concerned, I have completed Double Masters
Degree i.e. Masters in Business Studies (MBS) and MA Rural Development, both in first
divisions. Moreover, at the same time, I am also pursuing third masters degree in Public
Administration (MPA) course. I have simultaneously made my mind to enroll for MPhil
course as well to upgrade myself for PhD in a long run of my life, which is one of the
most pertinent future dreams for me.
Regarding my social background, I am Single (Never Married), Chhetri, 1974 Birth,
Aries, 60 kg weight, height 5'3' with fair complexion. (Please see attached photos and/or
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but occasional smoker, extroverted and determined laborious person for a set-goal. I am
only son with two married and one single sister. Our father used to be local level
politician in Triveni-Susta VDC during his youth up to 1970, which is nostalgia for us in
these days. On the other hand, he is also an Indian retired army with the pension from
India (70) and mother is housewife (67). They both live in hometown to look after home
and land and quarterly visit us for a week as well as collecting their pension from Indian
embassy.
Finally, if you feel comfortable to happily live in a rental house for few years; if you are
also seriously searching an ideal life partner; if your inner soul considers that we both
might be like minded friends for lifelong and our matching will be the perfect one; if you
trust me as a gentleman by the hub of your heart and curious for a matrimonial
relationship, we can meet as a very goodfriend at first and should try to sincerely
understand each-other thoroughly. When our inner chemistry, feeling, manner, interest
and ethos are compatible and comfortable for both of us, we will spontaneously and
unknowingly feel emotional attachment based on heart-to-heart relationship, then we can
rationally decide for our marriage-life as soon as possible, basically after obtaining
mutual consent and concurrence from our family members and parents.
At a very fine and lucky moment, a meeting even with a stranger sometimes may bring
major transformation in our lives! Optimistically speaking, who knows future: we both
may prove to be the ideal lifelong friends and exact dream partner of each-others! For
this purpose, you may contact me without any hesitations at (977-01) 98510-86884/9841
813529. Then, if you feel comfort and secure, I will invite you along with your best
friends and parents for a courtesy coffee meeting at Jawalakhel for our formal

3. introduction that will be the best way to initiate our long lasting cordial relationship.
Beside this, you can assign your reliable relatives and parents as your representative for
an initial discussion with our guardians or myself. Furthermore, alternatively, you may
forward your latest snaps and accurate information to us in making a logical family
decision for the possibility of amicable relationship, which is based on the bond of trust
and honesty.
By the way, being an only brother of three my most respectable and loving sisters, I can
easily understand that it is extremely difficult in approaching to an unknown person,
particularly for the lady. I, therefore, would like to ensure you that: 1) Names of several
referees will be provided at any time in exploring the facts about me and my family
background; 2) Several meetings among parents/family members will be organized to
properly familiarize both the family members; 3) Medical health reports will be
submitted; 4) Academic credentials and working certificates will be presented; 5) Your
parents/guardians can independently inquiry and research to verify my background; 6) I/
we will certainly facilitate for the acclimatization process to easily adopt our new role
and responsibility in the totally new environments; and 7) Sufficient time will be
allocated to closely recognize and understand each-other from insight but the final
decision is yours: madam!
If your family members wish to meet my parents/guardians to seriously discuss on this
issue more broadly, please let me know so that I can provide you their direct contact
address for further detailed discussions. I can also arrange a series of meetings among our
parents/guardians to materialize our lifelong visualized dreams into the reality. Finally,
please refer all the attachments with this e-mail and looking forward to hear from you a
very positive response soon!
With Warm Regards!
Raj K Pandey Chhetri, (MBS, MA)
Jawalakhel, Lalitpur
GPO Box: 19862, Kathmandu (Nepal)
Mobile: (977-01) 98510 86884
Mobile: (977-01) 9841 813529
rajkpandey2000@yahoo.com
rajkpandey2000@hotmail.com
rajkpandey2000@gmail.com
MY SUPPLEMENTARY PROFILE
Profession: Raj K Pandey started his career in 1990, at the age of 16 with: 1) Save the
Children Norway (Redd Barna); 2) Japan Medical Association (JMA)/School and
Community Health Project (SCHP); 3) UK Government's Department for International
Development (DFID)/Rural Access Program (RAP); 4) United Nations Population Fund,
Country Technical Services Team for South and West Asia (UNFPA CST for SAWA
Countries); 5) Himalaya Broadcasting Company (HBC) Radio Station; 6) Office of the

4. Prime Minister and Council of Ministers through Strengthening the Office of the Prime
Minister and Council of Ministers Project funded by DFID; 7) DFID/Enabling State
Program-Nepal.
Moreover, he was also implicated as a short-term Consultant with: i) UNICEF/Regional
Office for South Asia (ROSA); ii) USAID/International Federation of Electoral System
(IFES); and iii) USAID/National Democratic Institute (NDI). Prior joining one of the
Specialized Agencies of the United Nations (UN) System in 2008, where he is working
as an administrative staff in these days, he was involved with the Japan International
Cooperation Agency (JICA) Nepal Office in the capacity of an AS Officer.
Education: He has completed his Double Masters Degree i.e. Masters in Business Studies
(MBS) and MA (Rural Development), both in the first division. Simultaneously, he is
also perusing his third Masters Degree in Public Administration (MPA) Course in the
early morning in these days. Moreover, he has strongly made his mind to enroll for MPhil
Course as well sometimes in the future to upgrade himself for PhD in a long-run of his
life, which is one of the significant long-term dreams of his life.
Personality: He is liberal minded, independent, honest, talkative and extroverted person.
He often trusts people easily but they exploit his gentleness, soberness and softness for
their own vested interests, which makes him sad. He prefers simple life with the better
human capital for own inner satisfaction purpose.
Ideal: He respects women and men who are simple, gentle and liberal, although he likes
straight forward nature and speak of mind. However, he disgusts and immediately
discontinues even the humanitarian relationship with the liar, hypocrite, arrogant and
sadist persons as they are good for nothing for others.
Weakness: a) He is, however, not a perfect household manager particularly for cooking,
laundry, ironing and other domestic work as he never practiced such activities in his
entire life due to sufficient love and take care rendered by his mother/sisters. b) When
someone behaves dishonest, sadist and egoistic way, he completely ignores him/her and
never attempts to reestablish any further humanitarian relationship.
ANNEX: WHY E-MARRIES PROPOSAL?
Dear Friend:
The primary cause for using the webmail based information technology (IT) system for a
general matrimonial related enquiry is due to the distance induced bravery. I am directly
and personally approaching for the life's most sensitive, difficult and challenging issue on
a supposition that the marriage is the most natural, psychological, emotional and social
dire need of both — male and female, sometimes once in a life. Moreover, each family
may have an eligible bachelor — family members, relatives, social networks, colleagues
and friend circles — who might have informally searching a suitable match for their
grown-up children through existing traditional social network approach due to the

5. push/pull factors, but they might also have not been completely able to find out the right
candidate for their fully grown-up children in consideration of several other issues.
We are aware that all unmarried persons, including us, have an imaginative image for an
ideal life partner on our subconscious minds/dreams from the very early teenage of our
lives. To find our lifelong envisioned ideal/dream person into the reality, our minds/souls
unknowingly keep on searching/exploring around with an expectation that s/he, who is
imaginarily living with us in our subconscious minds from the very early age, will come
soon even in the reality of life. We hope that s/he will be the right friend to spend rest of
our lives together for the better aesthetic values, which will permanently end the bitter
loneliness feeling and inner vacuum within ourselves.
Likewise, both arranged and love marriage have certain pros and cons but 'like minded
values and ethos based' marries, where both will have total freedom of choice for the
rational selection of an appropriate life partner, is the best approach since decision of
social-knot directly affects both. Moreover, we have limited social networks, family ties
and relatives, where we can hardly find the dreamed and qualified partner due to lack of
an easy and direct access with her/him. On the other hand, our extremely busy
mechanical routine life from early morning to late evening for our other daily priorities,
has limited us for the better option to expand the social network. As a result, the
tremendously competitive world, especially in the fast metropolitan life, has made us
extremely lonely even among the huge mob of the people, as we can hardly mix-up with
them due to their varied nature as well as lack of sufficient spare time with us.
Similarly, we are totally option and voiceless to select a suitable right partner, when
marries proposal is put forward from our closed relatives since we can hardly say 'no' to
them despite our several reservations. The marries facilitators also unnecessarily
exaggerate on the qualities of the possible grooms/brides, which may not be realistic in
the practical life. But, marries decision that we make only once in a life is for the sake of
entirely ourselves, not to make others happy since it determines our future. Moreover,
even a self-chosen love marries and/or arranged marriage can hardly be guaranteed for
lifelong success, durable and happy relationship until our death. Subsequently, it is
always a creative tension as well as hidden mental stress to make a marriage related
single decision with a totally unseen person, which is exactly like a gambling, either we
will be winner or looser!
However, we have to ultimately trust an unfamiliar opposite gender and select a totally
unseen person as a lifelong partner out of six billion plus population on this earth.
Although, we are not sure yet, who s/he will be, where s/he is now, what s/he is doing,
how s/he will approach to us and when s/he will be our real friend as well as how our
future relationship will go with her/him. We, ultimately, need to focus merely for his/her
comfort/happiness until we die as soon as s/he enters into our life as change maker, who
will impart significantly differences throughout our life.
Beside this, what we are mainly lacking to find out our lifelong visualized opposite ideal
partner is — easy access, effective negotiation, two-way communication, sufficient time

6. for interactions and most importantly inner courage and self-confidence to approach her
and directly propose for marriage due to fear of rejection. However, the sky is unlimited
and six billion-plus populated world is beyond our horizon, although we don't have an
easy access to directly contact her. It is not a wrong idea to creatively but gently approach
her and exchange our mutual information for an enquiry since s/he might also have been
waiting for the entry of a right person into her life for her marriage purpose — who
knows we may be the hero by mistake as we both may have been made as an ideal life
partner for each-others! As marries is one time great event in our life and we can try our
level best to invite the proposal from the most eligible, well-cultured person/family
background as far as possible.
But, we should never enforce/persuade the second party to make a decision favorable to
us since the marriage relationship must be based on independent personal decision of
both — without external influence, pressure, threat, hanky-panky and so on — even from
family members. Let's continue our dream till we get the best one, when dream is over
and shattered, we will really suffer for loosing hope in life. We should not easily accept
the cowardice defeat, without waging another effective war to achieve the lifelong
visualized person as we can find exactly the same what and whom we dream, if marries is
truly made in heaven.
I, therefore, have used atypical modus-operandi in exploring ideal life partner and it is
expected that s/he will be the exact lady, whom I have imagined and retained in my
subconscious mind from early teenage. Let's see how general people in our conservative
society will perceive such a different method as individual interpretations/judgments are
the outcomes of our backgrounds. But, I am certain that she will be the lady with exact
attributes, who will positively accept not only such a unique process, but also other
several social transformations as mediocre narrow mind can never welcome any changes
in the new environments since they are totally happy to live in the traditional status-qua
situation due to fear of unwanted social criticism and likely risk in life.
The most essential pre-requirement for possible happy marital life is that both male and
female, first of all, should have natural attraction from heart, without external influence,
at a preliminary face-to-face meeting — both should feel 'click' in their minds to see
each-others at the first sight. The first meeting and its overall impressions generally
determine whether the further contacts will be strengthened/interrupted. If both feel
compatible and comfortable with each-other during introductory conversation process,
their minds and hearts will spontaneously but unknowingly admit as like-minded
prospective friends despite other several men-made gaps and obstacles — economical,
social, educational, psychological and professional — as both have emotionally, mentally
as well as psychologically accepted without any pre-occupied minds and persuasions.
If both are honest, respectable, loveable and acceptable, a kind of special feeling, thought
and emotional rapport will be developed within ourselves, which will further enhance for
the deep-rooted love, affection, interdependency and psycho-socio belongingness to
reinforce the post-marital life. Subsequently, both will heartily accept not only the roses
but also the thrones since couple has strong emotional and sentimental heart-to-heart

7. bonds based on natural attraction, trust and self-commitment for the life-long association
until death, which nobody can easily alter. As the human relationship is related with the
meeting of like-minded minds and the common wave-length can further enhance for the
retention of long-term marital relationship in our life.
Moreover, if we find exact dreamed partner, all our senses might be positively persuaded
and heartbeat might be amplified due to an unique feeling within us — exactly the same
natural process that we can closely observe among animal kingdom — where inner
natural chemistry between them determines their attraction/repulsion for further
relationship at a very first meeting of both.
We can also boost pleasure of mind, inner happiness and satisfaction through natural
process, if couple has liking minds and web length for each other via — reciprocal
unconditional love, caring, sharing, mutual understanding and respect for feeling and
emotion of the husband and wife, which should based on the ground of mutual trust and
honesty. It is a general human tendency that whatever we perform, we simply act upon in
order to avoid the pain and gain the pleasure. We, therefore, generally worry and fear
with the likely change process and reluctant to renounce the comfort zones, but we have
to eventually accept new roles and responsibilities despite uncertain results in our life.
If spouse have certain common grounds, particularly in terms of their socio-cultural
values, ethos, interests, likings, disliking as well as shared dreams and visions, the post-
marital life will enhance better synergy, positive energy, creativity and prosperity for
both. However, if marriage is completely based on compromises, conditionality, baseless
commitments and dishonesty, it may prove counterproductive at any time in a long run
since the relationship must be based on the bond of trust and honesty as it is simply the
beginning of relationship not the end. Moreover, if we establish a marital relationship on
the ground of untruth, dishonesty, exaggeration and hanky-panky, it will mentally hurt
your partner due to a betrayed deal, which will make her/him lifelong regretful that will
never keep your partner happy. If your partner is not happy at all due to your dishonesty,
it is obvious s/he can never keep you/your family members happy as well.
Moreover, approached person might not have made her mind for her marriage at this
particular juncture and/or she might have settled. Similarly, both might not have met their
pre-occupied basic expectations and criteria as well as both may have differences in
terms of their so-called socio-economy, socio-cultural and family-based values, which
may indirectly affect post-marital life, particularly during elderly age because of the
likely cultural socks. Consequently, everybody has freedom of choice for the rational
decision for her/his marriage without external pressure and persuasion since being self-
master we should not feel regrets for our self-decision.
Finally, if your eligible unmarried lady family members, friend circles, relatives and
female colleagues — at least an university graduate, job holder/self-employed and well-
cultured pretty looking lady — is thinking for her marriage within this year, please
convey and forward this information. As a result, she/her family members can rationally
assess our suitability from different prospective for the perfect matching as far as we can

8. make it, if marries is a matter of choice! Your tiny efforts will directly support us to
reduce the 'information poverty' and search of an ideal life-partner of two persons will be
permanently over. If your interested lady friends/their family members wish to contact
me/my parents/sisters to discuss more seriously, please feel free to contact us.
Please refer all the attachments and looking forward for a positive response soon.
Warm Regards!
Raj K Pandey Chhetri, (MBS, MA)
Jawalakhel, Lalitpur
GPO Box: 19862, Kathmandu (Nepal)
Mobile: (977-01) 98510 86884
Mobile: (977-01) 9841 813529
rajkpandey2000@yahoo.com
rajkpandey2000@hotmail.com
rajkpandey2000@gmail.com
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