Never allow others to define you or make you a victim. Define yourself instead of borrowing definitions from others. Those who don't understand your silence likely won't understand your words. Judge yourself based on who you are for yourself rather than who others say you are. Before judging others, make sure your own hands are clean. If you can't change a situation, change your attitude rather than complaining. To truly understand someone, consider things from their perspective by figuratively walking in their shoes. While getting hurt is out of your control, you do choose who is allowed to hurt you.

1. )Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept
no one's definition of your life; define yourself.
Harvey Fierstein
2)
He who does not understand your silence will probably not understand your words.
Elbert Hubbard
3)
I care not so much what I am to others as what I am to myself.
by myself, and not by borrowing.
I will be rich
4)Who are you to judge the life I live?
I know I'm not perfect
-and I don't live to bebut before you start pointing fingers...
make sure you hands are clean!”? Bob Marley
5)”If you don't like something, change it. If you can't change it, change your
attitude. Don't complain.”
You never really understand a person until you consider things from his point of
view... Until you climb inside of his skin and walk around in it.”
”You don't get to choose if you get hurt in this world...but you do have some
say in who hurts you. I like my choices.”
? John Green, The Fault in Our Stars