This document discusses fear and how it is learned from childhood experiences. It defines healthy and unhealthy fears, and notes that fear is the root of negative emotions and can rob us of happiness. Children are born without fear except of loud noises and falling. The document outlines how children learn through imitation, love, and striving to be loved. It also discusses overcoming fear through confrontation and managing expectations. Finally, it shares an allegory about frogs climbing a tower to overcome fear of failure and negative opinions of others.

1. Presented by:
Situ Sainju
MSc. ENR
Kathmandu University
17 October 2016
FEAR

2. FEAR
• Fear is a natural response to recognize
and respond to danger
• “Healthy Fear” -- a fear that has a
protective function
• “Unhealthy Fear” -- a fear that leads to
exaggerated and violent behavior

3. Life greatest problem = fear
• It robs us of happiness
• It causes us to settle for less than we
are capable of
• It is the root cause of negative emotions

4. Qualities of children
• Born unafraid
–except for the
fear of loud
noises and fear
of falling.

5. Qualities of children contd…
• Completely
uninhibited
–Say and do exactly
what they feel with
no concern for
others opinions

6. Qualities of children contd…
• Completely spontaneous

7. Qualities of children contd…
• Unconditional love for everyone

8. How Children Learn:
• By imitation
• By moving away from discomfort to comfort
• By striving to be loved
– Most of what we do is to get love or
compensate for lack of love
– They become fear driven rather than
desire driven

9. Fear of failure:
• Is a conditioned response learned in
childhood
DECIDE EXACTLY WHAT YOU WANT TO DO
THEN ACT AS IF IT WERE IMPOSSIBLE TO FAIL

10. BECAUSE FEAR IS LEARNED
FEAR CAN BE
UNLEARNED!

11. The Anatomy of Fear
The Colors (Manifestations) of Fear
Doubt Anxiety
Suspicion Agitation
Worry Paranoia
Embarrassment
Others?

12. The Anatomy of Fear
(Basic Human Fears)
• Fear of failure
• Fear of rejection
• Fear of the unknown
• Fear of death
• Fear of isolation
• Fear of the loss of self-dominance

13. Strategies to Overcome Fear
Fear must be confronted (diplomatically) to be
resolved!
– Systematic desensitization (break fear into small
manageable parts)
– Fine tune expectations to meet the reality of the
situation
– Learn to stop making excuses and stop beating
yourself up
– Plan for the future, rather than worry about it—
be proactive!

14. Depression:
A By-Product of Anger/Fear
• High use of anti-depressants in America (33%)
• Depression—Anger turned inward?
• Symptoms:
- Overwhelming sadness - Perpetual blues
- Prolonged grieving - Feeling melancholy
– Others ______________________________

15. The story about the
tiny frogs….
Life’s lesson
There once was a bunch of tiny frogs,...
… who arranged a running competition.

16. The goal was to reach the top of a very high tower.
A big crowd had gathered around the tower to see the race and cheer on the
contestants...
The race began...

17. Honestly:
No one in the crowd really believed
that the tiny frogs would reach the
top of the tower.
You heard statements such as:
"Oh, WAY too difficult!!
They will NEVER make it to the
top."
or:
"Not a chance that they will
succeed. The tower is too high!"

18. The tiny frogs began collapsing.
One by one...
... Except for those who in a fresh
tempo were climbing higher and
higher...

19. The crowd continued to yell
"It is too difficult!!! No one will make it!"
More tiny frogs got tired and gave up...
...But ONE continued higher and higher
and higher...
This one wouldn’t give up!

20. At the end everyone else had given up
climbing the tower. Except for the one
tiny frog who after a big effort was the
only one who reached the top!
THEN all of the other tiny frogs
naturally wanted to know how this one
frog managed to do it?

21. A contestant asked the tiny frog how
the one who succeeded had found the
strength to reach the goal?
It turned out...
That the winner was DEAF!!!!

22. The wisdom of this story is:
Never listen to other people’s tendencies to be
negative or pessimistic...
…cause they take your most wonderful
dreams and wishes away from you. The ones
you have in your heart!
Always think of the power words have.
Because everything you hear and read will
affect your actions!
Therefore:

23. ALWAYS be…
POSITIVE!
And above all:
Be DEAF when people tell YOU that YOU can not
fulfill YOUR dreams!