EXPECTATION MANAGEMENT
‘for Future Brides’
Agenda
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Definition
Why is it a challenge?
Benefits of E.M.
Double edged sword
Components of E.M.
Assessing present situation
Conclusion –Cross check
Q and A
Expectation: Eager anticipation ( dictionary)

EXPECTATION MANAGEMENT :
“A FORMAL PROCESS TO CONTINUOUSLY
CAPTURE, DOCUMENT AND MAINTAIN, THE DEPENDENCIES AND
SURENESS OF EXPECTATIONS ,FOR PERSONS PARTICIPATING
IN, THE INTERACTION, AND TO APPLY THE INFORMATION , TO

MAKE THE INTERACTION SUCCESSFUL”
Why is it a challenge ???
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People don’t know what to expect

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Expectations can be unreasonable

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Expectations not clearly
understood

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Each person in the family has
his/her own objectives(lack of a
common objective )

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Constantly changing

circumstances
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Lack of communication
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Benefits of Expectation Mgmt

TRUST
HAPPINESS
BETTER COMMUNICATIO

PERSONAL GROWTH
CONFIDENCE
RECOGNITION
RELATION CLARITY
STATUS IN NEW HOME
STATUS

SECURITY

RELATION WITH IN-LAWS

RELATION WITH PEERS

RELATION WITH PARENTS
SIDE

RELATION WITH BOSS
AND COLLEAGUES

FRIENDS

PERSONAL LIFE

CAREER PATH
Double edged Sword

TH?

• Expectations cut in two
ways:• They are a primary
measure of your
success.
• Expectations drive all of
your in-laws actions
and decisions
3 components of managing expectations
1. SETTING Expectations
2. MONITORING Expectations
3. INFLUENCING Expectations

Setting

Monitoring

Influencing
Setting expectations….
• Something you said/ someone
else said
• Something you did/ someone
else did
• The way you said it
• The clients ( your in laws in this
case)picked from somewhere
else
Monitoring
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By listening
Hearing
Understanding
Listen more and talk less
Heeding to non verbal
conversation also
• Spending time with them
Influencing Expectations
• Address the root cause
• Be ready to change your approach
and style
• Establish trust
• Educate , educate , educate
• Explain ‘why’
• Pick arguments in private
• Balance the give and take
• Addressing an expectation sooner
than later
Recipe for success
Cross check
Measure of success
Happy
Healthy
Secure
Friends
Peace of mind
Good relationships

Reasonably prosperous
Hope

Pluses (+)

Minuses(-)

Expectation Management for would-be brides

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  • 2.
    Agenda • • • • • • • • Definition Why is ita challenge? Benefits of E.M. Double edged sword Components of E.M. Assessing present situation Conclusion –Cross check Q and A
  • 3.
    Expectation: Eager anticipation( dictionary) EXPECTATION MANAGEMENT : “A FORMAL PROCESS TO CONTINUOUSLY CAPTURE, DOCUMENT AND MAINTAIN, THE DEPENDENCIES AND SURENESS OF EXPECTATIONS ,FOR PERSONS PARTICIPATING IN, THE INTERACTION, AND TO APPLY THE INFORMATION , TO MAKE THE INTERACTION SUCCESSFUL”
  • 4.
    Why is ita challenge ??? • People don’t know what to expect • Expectations can be unreasonable • Expectations not clearly understood • Each person in the family has his/her own objectives(lack of a common objective ) • Constantly changing circumstances • Lack of communication
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    Benefits of ExpectationMgmt TRUST HAPPINESS BETTER COMMUNICATIO PERSONAL GROWTH CONFIDENCE RECOGNITION RELATION CLARITY STATUS IN NEW HOME STATUS SECURITY RELATION WITH IN-LAWS RELATION WITH PEERS RELATION WITH PARENTS SIDE RELATION WITH BOSS AND COLLEAGUES FRIENDS PERSONAL LIFE CAREER PATH
  • 7.
    Double edged Sword TH? •Expectations cut in two ways:• They are a primary measure of your success. • Expectations drive all of your in-laws actions and decisions
  • 8.
    3 components ofmanaging expectations 1. SETTING Expectations 2. MONITORING Expectations 3. INFLUENCING Expectations Setting Monitoring Influencing
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    Setting expectations…. • Somethingyou said/ someone else said • Something you did/ someone else did • The way you said it • The clients ( your in laws in this case)picked from somewhere else
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    Monitoring • • • • • By listening Hearing Understanding Listen moreand talk less Heeding to non verbal conversation also • Spending time with them
  • 11.
    Influencing Expectations • Addressthe root cause • Be ready to change your approach and style • Establish trust • Educate , educate , educate • Explain ‘why’ • Pick arguments in private • Balance the give and take • Addressing an expectation sooner than later
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    Cross check Measure ofsuccess Happy Healthy Secure Friends Peace of mind Good relationships Reasonably prosperous Hope Pluses (+) Minuses(-)

Editor's Notes

  • #4 Expectation: Eager anticipation ( dictionary)EXPECTATION MANAGEMENT : A FORMAL PROCESS TO CONTINUOUSLY CAPTURE, DOCUMENT AND MAINTAIN THE DEPENDENCIES AND SURENESS OF EXPECTATIONS FOR PERSONS PARTICIPATING IN THE INTERACTION AND TO APPLY THE INFORMATION TO MAKE THE INTERACTION SUCCESSFUL