2. Men withdraw from the relationship; they pull away. It’s what
happens.
Women do it sometimes, too – but with men; usually, they are
only either going deeper in to the relationship with you; or they’re
moving away; to do things that make them feel like men.
And, when he pulls away; to you – it hurts. You get angry. Sad. You
feel unloved. You no longer feel like that princess or that goddess
that perhaps he once treated you as.

3. So, why do men pull away in relationships and what
to do when men pull away?
What is intuitive to a man in a
relationship is not what is
intuitive to a woman

4. The problem here is that men and women are hardwired
completely differently. As women, we tend to think, value and
believe certain things that are different to what a man would tend
to think, value and believe.
See, what’s intuitive to us women, can be completely foreign to
men. I was speaking to my fiancee David the other week, and he
brought something up that was like an absolute “Ah-HAH” or a
breakthrough for him, but to me as a woman, that breakthrough
that he had was …almost commonsense. It was something that
was obviously intuitive for me, but it wasn’t for him.

5. I was all like ‘have you been living under a rock?’ and he was like:
‘what are you talking about?’
Yet, if I was to go to my girlfriends and bring that particular thing
up; they’d get it. in a heartbeat.
And the reverse is also true, what is intuitive to a man, can be
completely foreign to us as women.

6. How to get a man to commit more
of his time, attention and
exclusivity and marriage
So if you want a man to commit more of his time, presence,
attention and love, or even exclusivity and marriage, then make
sure you tune in to the knowledge and action steps I’m about to
give you.

7. If you don’t learn the concepts and ideas that I will share with you,
then your man may just take you for granted even more, you won’t
feel very special in your relationship if you have one, and you’ll
really struggle to get his attention.
I know that most of us women have wondered:
‘why does a man withdraw?!’
‘Why does he just seem to disappear like that?!’
‘Why hasn’t he called for so long?’
‘What, am I invisible now?’
‘What’s going on?’
‘Is it me? Is it my body? Have I done something to upset him?’

8. And most women have struggled with this problem. In fact, it’s
most likely ALL women. And it seems like a phenomenon that is
impossible to understand, and it may be causing you a lot of
suffering, but here’s the key: It doesn’t have to.
A man withdrawing from the relationship doesn’t have to cause
you suffering.
From my experience working with women, I have discovered that
most women really fail to have the deep connection, passion and
love they really want with their man because of the lack of

9. understanding about why men withdraw, and the meaning they
give it when their man withdraws.
But all of your problems really come from a lack of understanding
of men.
So today, I’m going to give you the understanding to be able to
deal with a man withdrawing. If you don’t understand it, and you
DON’T know how to deal with it, it could lead to your man
withdrawing even more, it could lead to your man resenting you,
and of course, in the worst case scenario, it could lead to break up
or divorce.

10. If you know how to deal with it, your relationship will run much
more smoothly for you, and even better – you’ll be able to inspire
your man to commit even more of his attention and time to you.
You’ll be able to achieve true happiness in your relationship, and
have your man adore you at a level most women only dream of.

11. So, Why do Men Pull Away from
the Relationship?
To help you understand why, let me ask you a few questions:
How would you feel if you were around a man who was highly
emotional? For example: he was able to cry at the drop of a hat,
and feel all “lovey-dovey” with you almost every day? He is so
emotional that he melts like butter. Imagine him being incredibly
relaxed and wanting to talk and connect with you all the time.

12. How would you feel around a man like this?
You may think ‘oh my goodness – I would LOVE if my man would
do this!’
Yes, you may – for a couple of days at best. But eventually,
whether you like it or not – you would start to feel a little uneasy,
a little uncomfortable, and you’ll start to lose attraction for him.
And sometimes you may even be a bit confused or disgusted by
him.
You don’t want a man who’s more emotional than you, now do
you?

13. He’s Not a Woman!!!
Why do you think you lose attraction for him?
It’s because you no longer feel polarized by him…
It’s because you won’t be feeling his masculine energy. So as a
result, you may feel like you’re in a relationship with one of your
girlfriends! You don’t want your man to be like one of your
girlfriends!

14. In fact, the reason you were attracted to a man in the first place
was largely to do with the masculine energy he gave out. His
presence, his strength, intelligence, his sense of humor, his
potential to be a good provider, etc….this is all happening naturally,
sometimes without you being aware of it.
What we women really want deep down is to be in a relationship
with a MAN – but because of the society we live in – none of us are
taught how to understand the opposite sex! We want to be in a
relationship with a man, but when a man acts differently than we
do, we get all hurt, confused and worried.

15. But here’s the truth of why men withdraw: It’s because they want
to feel like, and be a man.
How interesting!
When a man is engaged with you emotionally, he may truly enjoy it
and see it as a beautiful gift, but after some time (usually a shorter
period than us women would like), he has to withdraw back in to
his own space.
The reason men seem to pull away is because the emotional
attachment feels like a burden to them. At least when that

16. attachment is consuming energy that he could otherwise put
towards his purpose and his mission or to feeling the freedom that
makes him feel like a man.
By all means – most men are happy to be in a loved-up world with
us for a time, but they have to get out of it also, in order to
accomplish their mission.
A lot of women assume that men feel the same kind of feelings
that we do – men do have emotions too of course, and they feel
emotions in the same intensity as women, but they don’t feel
them in the same exact way that we do.

17. Us women drawing men in to the world of emotionality can
sometimes cause them to feel like they’re losing their freedom,
making a man unable to work, to focus, and to experience his
masculine energy.
As women, we are used to the chaos that is life – we have
emotional roller-coasters, mood swings, and we get down or
overly happy for periods of time.
This kind of emotionality, I mean the kind of emotions that us
women feel on a day-today basis just feel very unnatural to a
man.

18. The Science Behind why a Man
Withdraws…
In fact there’s a lot of research and a lot of scientific evidence
behind this idea that when men get too attached, they feel
uncomfortable and uneasy.
You see as men bond with women, this increases a hormone
called Oxytocin. Oxytocin is a hormone that lowers a woman’s
stress levels, but in men, it actually has the effect of lowering his
testosterone, which can actually RAISE his stress levels. So, too

19. much bonding causes men to start feeling uncomfortable.
Think about when you’re in a relationship and you feel kind of
suffocated…That’s the stress levels going up from too much
closeness.
This too much closeness happens much sooner for men than for
women when it comes to emotional bonding.
What happens is, as men get closer, things are going well, the
Oxytocin levels go up, they start bonding…. Then men will tend to
want to pull away in order to rebuild their testosterone levels.

20. At that point this creates a lot of confusion for women, where they
often will say things like, “why are you pulling away? Why didn’t
you call? What’s going on?”
“Do you not LOVE me anymore?”

21. What Men Really Want from You
See what men want to experience most is freedom. Often, if a man
is telling you that he’s not ready to commit, what he’s really saying
is that he’s afraid of being drawn in to you – he’s attracted by you
– but he feels like it’s going to put restraints on his freedom or
make him feel like he’s not able to have his own life.
So, with this understanding now, I want you to go away, and the
next time you feel him withdrawing, just stop. Instead of feeling
like his withdrawal from you is something to fear, think of his need

22. for freedom as a gift to you. Because he is being a man. And that
is one of the reasons you were attracted to him in the first place.
It’s time you realized (as counter-intuitive as it is to us women)
that a man’s need for freedom is only a threat to us IF we don’t
WANT him to have his freedom.
The more you fear his need for freedom, the more I want you to
remember that this is your chance to bring you and your man
closer, to make your man more attracted to you, and more
committed to you.

23. Next time he withdraws, here’s what you can do.
1) Leave him alone. Let him be. Don’t question him. However,
before you do this, I want you to remember that the point is not to
just leave him and let him be. The point is to give him his freedom
whilst still loving him and being open to him. He still needs your
care and love, but give him the space of being a man. After all you
wouldn’t like it very much if he wasn’t much of a man!
2) And when he does comes back to the relationship, receive him
openly with love. This doesn’t make you a loser, it doesn’t make
you’re a woman who is being used by her man. It means you care

24. about him enough to give him his freedom, and at the same time,
not withdraw your love.
Disclaimer: receiving a man openly with love doesn’t mean you
have to pretend to be happy or pretend that you are NOT hurt. It
just means that you aren’t ‘closed off’ to him, punishing him for his
pulling away. You can tell him you feel hurt, and this could still be
loving him because you are open to him.
On the other hand – there are men who are simply selfish. Most
men, when they are in a relationship, DO care – they just don’t
understand how their actions hurt YOU. And if you simply

25. PUNISH him rather than at least remain open to him; he’s not
going to get the “hint” even thought you’re trying to give him the
hint.
So, whether a man is selfish or simply being a male is a whole
other topic, which is perhaps for a separate article in itself.
3) Part 2 (above) is going to prove to be the hardest of all. It’s not
in a woman’s DNA to form a connection and then go empty from
that connection for days…..we tend to feel hurt, mistrustful and
insecure.

26. So IF step 2 is stressing you out, remember this important step
(no.3). ask yourself:
“do I really want to be in a relationship with another woman? Or
do I want to be in a relationship with a MAN?”
Because as much as him withdrawing drives you crazy – he simply
doesn’t feel and interpret the withdrawal the way YOU do. To him,
he’s just doing his thing. It’s no different than him grabbing a drink
of water when he’s thirsty. And would you stop loving him if he
was to grab a drink of water? I think not.

27. So when he withdraws, and then comes back, and you act all
snooty and withdraw your love, he’ll be thinking: ‘what?! What
have I done?! I did nothing!’ – and it’s not because he doesn’t
care. It’s because he’s a man. And what’s intuitive to him is not
what’s intuitive to you as a woman. Remember that.
Disclaimer:
Most Women Out there Simply
Don’t Give Freedom to Their Men.

28. In fact, not only that, most women don’t understand what
mistakes the are making on a daily basis that are actually pushing
a man further and further away.
Look, here’s the thing. If you want your man to fully commit his
attention and time to you, whether that’s in the form of love,
time presence, resources or even exclusivity and marriage, you
must help him feel like a man rather than constantly stripping
that feeling and freedom away from him.
You see, once a man has the gift of feeling like a man, then he’s
going to truly come back to the relationship stronger with more
to offer you.