9 pricless lessons I've learned in my journey to survive my husband's affair

1. 9 Priceless Lessons I’ve
Learned in MY Journey to Heal
from HIS Affair

2. #1 – Don’t Act on an Impulse
 If you’ve just found out
about his affair, resist the
immediate urge to “throw
him out to the curb”.
Especially if you have
children.
 Facing the pain, taking time
to gain perspective and
drafting a relief plan are
some of the emergency
first steps to take right now.

3. If you’ve JUST found out about your
spouse’s cheating, there are a few
critical steps you have to take.
See my post “
Husband Cheated? Here’s What to Do
” (link)– Right Now.

4. #2 – “Once a Cheater Always a
Cheater” is NOT True
 Once a cheater is NOT
always a cheater. Many
times an affair is a result
of a serious
communication
breakdown.
 This CAN be fixed if
you have the right tools
and the right kind of
help.

5. #3 – Get Rid of the Haunting Images
 Nothing will hurt your
healing process more than
the obsessive thoughts
about him and her
together and other
negative thoughts taking
control of you.
 There are effective ways to
get rid of these negative
and destructive images and
thoughts.

6. To be able to function through this crisis
you have to get the negativity and
obsessive images out of your way.
To learn how to do that, see my post “
How Do I Deal With The Obsessive Imag
?” (link)

7. #4 – Learn how to Deal With Your
Painful Emotions
 A crazy cocktail of
denial, anger, grief,
disappointment and
complete loss of self
esteem. How can you
get through another
day feeling like this?
 Learn effective ways to
DEAL with the painful
emotions right now.

8. Letting these painful emotions take over you
and become WHO you ARE is very
dangerous.
You have to open the door for the healing of
yourself and (possibly) your relationship.
To see how to do that see my post “How Do
I Live With the Painful Emotions?” (link)

9. #5 – Find Out if You Can EVER
Trust Him Again
 Your mind tells you that
you can never trust him
again (or anyone else).
But your heart doesn’t
want to believe it.
 There are simple signs
you can look for to see
if you can ever trust him
again.

10. You can find out these 5 important signs
in my article – “5 Signs That You Can
Start to Trust Your Cheating Spouse
Again” (link)
They will help you see where exactly
you stand and clear your head
immediately.

11. #6 – A Simple Trick to Find Out if
He Still Loves You
 How can a man that
claims he loves you –
And do this to you?
Does he love you at all?
 If this question bothers
you, I can share a
simple trick to help
you find out if your
husband still loves
you.

12. You may find it hard to believe, but your
husband’s infidelity does NOT mean that he
doesn’t love you.
To find out about the “Magic Pill” question
you have to ask him to find out – See my
article “Cheating Man – Does Your
Husband Still Love You?” (link)

13. #7 – Decide if You Really Want to
Know EVERYTHING
 Every cheated woman
wants to know
everything about the
infidelity; Where, why,
how, when and who.
 Sometimes discovering
everything about the
affair can be a very bad
move.

14. You have to discover the possible outcome
of knowing every gory detail of his
infidelity, and how exactly you can deal
with it – Before you ask for it.
To learn these important facts – See my
article “How to Deal With the Gory
Details of his Affair? (link)

15. #8 – Do NOT Tell Your Friends and
Family
 Though it’s natural to
seek help and comfort
from your loved ones,
telling your friends
and family about his
cheating can destroy
the chances of your
marriage to survive.

16. I urge you to WAIT and think twice before
telling anyone that knows your spouse about
what he did. That is if you still haven’t decided
that your marriage is over.
First, learn why this could ruin your chances of
saving your marriage and who else can you
safely confide in, In my post “What NOT to
Do When Your Husband Cheats” (link)

17. #9 – One “Little” Book Can Save
Your Marriage
 The most important
thing to understand is
that you CAN’T
survive this ALONE.
 Finding the right kind
of help will determine
the rest of your
relationship and the
rest of your life.

18. After realizing that marriage counseling
sessions are not what I want, I found a
marriage help program that changed
everything from that moment on.
I’ve shared my experience and my results
in my post “How Dr. Gunzburg’s “Survive
an Affair” Book Saved My 11 Year
Marriage”