This document discusses how people can be easily triggered, bringing up negative memories and reactions from their past. It notes that while the author has learned not to be triggered himself through his public speaking, it can still be challenging to avoid triggering or being triggered by close friends and loved ones. It advocates practicing meditation, detaching from hurtful memories, and interacting with others through compassion as ways to deal with negative triggering in relationships and support spiritual growth.

1. Triggering the Fragile
January, 9, 2020
There are millions of people who live on the borderline of happiness but
also on the fragility of negative reaction. Just a little push or pull will
send them into a dark space they have little control over. It’s simply a
situation of the heart being touched to bring up attached to bad
memories. Just someones face, voice, gesture or name mentioned can
trigger negative reactions. They are protective of their boundaries or
space that they ‘think’ must be protected.
How to deal with negative triggering is a vital part of the spiritual, conscious
development. Doing my public free speech ‘displays’ over time in front of
millions I obviously encounter things that would 'trigger' anyone's ego. Over the
years, and slowly, I would say that almost no one can trigger me, and of course I do many who are
‘triggered’ on my 'sign titles’, but with commentary below to ‘un-trigger'. Many ‘reactors’ of course don't
read down that far.
The real tests come when you have close contact and knowing someone. It's a complex dilemma at
times especially when engaging with someone (particularly a close friend or someone you're in a love
space with). I write on relationships as a spiritual path because of wonderful
experiences beyond what can be imagined, however it’s usually having
been with those who are not the 'triggered' type, usually not
carrying unresolved experiences from childhood.
It’s not uncommon with others, particularly if you have a close
involvement with them, that they can be types who are triggered by
things that 'the un-triggered type' are not. Perception of word
meanings are a big triggering thing for some people. Some people
can’t even see or feel the heart of another and realize that their self
hatred is what they are really seeing is ‘self reflecting’. Deep down of
course, everyone is loving and pure.
What you always need to be working on is to not be triggered by someone who's
triggered especially those who you have a close relationship with. It can be a knee jerk
happening to cast a reaction to another (who might be someone you have a close
connection with) who is 'triggered' by something said or even a gesture that many
wouldn't be triggered by. The spiritual expression of using 'skillful means' to interact is
a big asset. Of course, accessing the deep love of self within is as if an angel is helping
( or call it god's help?). Know that meditation is a great devise to help in detaching from hurtful
memories. Always one's choice of control is a tool, but it can still be like climbing a mountain when
you're not prepared to in all ways. Being totally open in the heart with the highest discernments of
interaction is a blessing. Everything comes with an ‘opportunity’ to gain from it, even if it’s a great sorrow
as it can open your heart to living more in it.
Arhata~