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Affirming Your Current Life
You are what you are and where you are because of the countless choices that you have
made during this life time. Each choice has an influence, however slight, upon your path
in life. Understand that every choice you make has an end result, thus, it is you who
place yourself in a position to either become successful in life or not.
To enhance comprehension of your current life and of how your mental abilities are able
to facilitate the way you achieve success today, start by taking inventory of all that you
have. You are where you are right now because of the choices you have already made,
so taking at look at the past helps you understand the true impact that choices you have
made have on your life. You should take inventory of everything you have and
everything you have done that has any significance. These things happened because of a
series of choices that were made for you as a child and by you as you matured.
Next, ask yourself a question: What do you really want out of life? Reflecting on that
question can save you an enormous amount of time and heartache. Many people
pursue goals that are set or influenced by someone else, but pursuing those goals that
are not yours, it does not necessarily produce maximum satisfaction or significant
accomplishments for you.
The beginning point for the momentous undertaking of figuring out what you want from
life is a note pad, a quiet spot, and time to ponder the question at length. Think along
the lines of "If I were absolutely certain that I would not fail, and if I had all the
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There are several courses of actions that you can take to become aware of and
overcome your sabotaging beliefs and self‐defeating emotions:
1. Recognize that you are at the crossroads where your decisions and choices are yours
and yours alone.
2. Realize that you are the one making the conscious decision to change your damaging
self talk and undermining beliefs and behaviors. No one else can do it for you.
3. Change "I can't" or "I won't" to "I Can, I Will" on a consistent basis. Pay attention to
the emotional changes going on within you. Be prepared to physically describe your
changes and write them down. Repeat the process of writing down your changing
feelings and behaviors and compare your notes every day.
Measure your progress by the visible reoccurrences of positive self‐talk and healthy
behaviors. Recognize that continual negative self‐talk will create resentments and
disempowering beliefs. Self‐resentment is the seed that grows into self‐sabotaging
behaviors, and it is what you need to avoid.
4. Plant the seeds that produce positive, empowering beliefs and actions instead. Ask
yourself, "Are my actions linked to pleasure‐producing situations or to pain‐producing
situations?'' Take the road that gives you pleasure, not grief. The personal growth
experienced from facing a fearful or painful event, or adversity, is important for self‐
improvement. However, do not make a steady diet of it. You can grow and change by
cultivating positive emotions such as joy, excitement, and happiness.
Eliminating self‐sabotaging behaviors and adopting a more positive mind frame,
enhances the confidence that you have for yourself. It also builds a stronger and wider
foundation for you when developing your journey to success. This is so as having a
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greater belief in yourself better prepares you for the future. Therefore, you need to
recognize this fact and empower yourself with more positive thoughts and emotions.
3.2 Accepting The Circumstances
Accepting your current circumstances is an important indication that you are at peace
with yourself. The things that you have gone through and the experiences that have
made you who you are need to be recognized and accepted by you fully.
When an individual has an attitude of partial approval or partial acceptance of himself,
an attitude of conditional acceptance develops. Statements such as, "I'll accept myself
when..." This could create hurt, anger, fear, and distrust within the individual. When you
attach unreasonable conditions, your opportunities for accomplishment and enjoyment
will naturally diminish if you are not able to meet the demands set out. As such, an
attitude of conditional acceptance creates resistance to a healthy personal development
for you. Settling for being partially accepted as a person is not enough because it does
not provide enough emotional and physical nourishment.
Conditional acceptance hinders your self‐respect and creates resistance toward growth
and change. Start accepting and confirming yourself as a total person ‐ physically,
emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. Start behaving and believing that you are
unique, a "crown of creation." When you expect more of yourself you will get more.
When you communicate through a negative self‐image, your message lacks confidence
and determination. Conditional acceptance breeds mistrust, fear, and rejection by
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yourself and others around. This condition also creates damaging self‐talk, decreasing
self esteem and producing non harmonious relationships.
Overcoming resistance is difficult when one is discouraged and de‐motivated. Taking
risks is not a high priority for the person who experiences conditional acceptance. When
the person is disheartened and discouraged they may say, “Why trouble myself with
anything? With my luck I was bound to fail. I'm not getting anywhere." These
statements are signs of frustration and hopelessness. Conditional acceptance creates
discouragement and resistance toward change and growth. Unconditional acceptance
creates encouragement, warmth, and understanding in relationships. Resistance to
growth is eliminated when one is feels unconditionally accepted by him and others.
However, you may wonder, “Isn’t accepting things easy? Isn’t it only natural to accept
when good things come to you?”
Ideally, it is supposed to be easy and very natural. Unfortunately, this is not always true.
Some people actually find it hard to accept good things in life as they are experiencing
negative emotions that block the flow of good things to them. When people experience
low self‐esteem, resentment, fear or guilt, it is difficult for them to receive from others
around them.
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Some people have been used to living in lack and hardships. This may result in them
having a characteristic of poor self‐image or lack of self‐esteem, consciously or
unconsciously. In other words, they do not feel that they deserve to experience any
good things in life. Worse, some may actually sabotage their own dreams – usually
unconsciously. This may mean that they could already close to their goals, when they
suddenly do something that will take them further away from it.
Such feelings of unworthiness usually spring from childhood or may come in the form of
trauma from a single event or repeated events, at home or at school. The trauma may
have a lasting impact on thought patterns, self‐image and behavior even in adulthood.
To check if you are capable of accepting yourself and the outcome of your desired goals,
you can carry out the following exercises.
1. Ask yourself: “Am I willing to receive this fully?” Are you in a light, happy mood
whenever you think about your goal, visualize it, and imagine its outcome? Or do you
get knots in your stomach, however fleeting? Do you sometimes feel, even briefly, that
you do not deserve the outcome when you visualize it? Do you feel guilt in anyway?
If you do find that a part of you feels that you do not deserve the outcome of your goal,
honestly ask yourself why. If this triggers a painful childhood memory, then you should
allow that memory and feelings enter you. Avoid fighting it and instead allow yourself to
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feel the emotions that accompany them. Should you feel that you need help sorting out
your feelings and memories in order to heal your past, you could seek help and support
from a friend or professional counselor.
As you remember that memory, you can close your eyes and acknowledge it in your
mind. Address it and say “You have hurt me before and I have carried you for a long
time. But I will leave you now. You no longer have any power over me.” Imagine walking
away, feeling lighter and lighter with each step.
2. To heal your past, you can carry out the “Unloading Exercise.” Close your eyes and
imagine that you are carrying several heavy bags and loads of many kinds. Assign each
bag or load to represent a painful memory in your past. Now put the bags down, one by
one, and feel yourself getting lighter and lighter. After putting all your bags down, walk
away.
Now, to replace all the negative feelings associated with these painful memories with
positive ones that boost your self‐image, make affirmations about your worth every day,
ideally upon waking up and before going to bed.
Examples are:
“I am a unique, wonderful human being.”
“I do not need to please everyone. I love myself and the people who matter love me.”
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from materializing. Having doubt blocks your power and the manifestation of your
goals.
Worse, if you put your energy into visualizing the opposite of what you want, then it will
most likely happen. Statements expressing doubt such as, “That’s impossible!”, “That
has never been done before!” and “How can you go beyond that?” prevents you from
living the life that you want and deserve.
On the other hand, if you believe in the power of your mind, nothing is impossible. In
fact, it is the people who refused to accept these statements who did the impossible. A
quick glance at those who have achieved great success in the today’s world would show
that all of them hold the common belief of trusting and having faith in their own
abilities. It is precisely these characteristics that you need to adopt to achieve a similar
level of success in your life.
To help you create a mindset of belief, you can use the following affirmations daily.
Repeat to yourself everyday, “Anything is possible”, “There is always a way” and
“Everything I want is now slowly materializing.”
These affirmations will generally help you assume a more open and believing attitude.
Meanwhile, to ensure that your specific goals materialize, make specific affirmations
after your visualization. You can say things like, “I believe this is now materializing,” and
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try to feel the feeling associated with that belief. It is important to do so as not believing
in yourself considerably diminishes the power or energy, of your goals.
If you find yourself expressing apprehension in your own ability to achieve a goal, recall
the belief that you have in yourself. Recognize the fact that anything is possible through
the mind. If you believe this, why should you not believe in yourself? It is important to
realize that the only limits you have are the limits you set for yourself. Other than that,
you are an influential human being with powerful, unlimited potential.
When feeling a tinge of self doubt, repeat the following affirmations to yourself:
“I have a special, amazing power to make my dreams come true.”
“I can do anything through mind power.”
“I can accomplish anything I want right now.”
Yes, anything is indeed possible with the power of your mind and your entire self.
Creating empowering beliefs and behaviors enhances the way you view yourself,
encouraging you to take more positive action in the future. As you become more self‐
determined, you will feel more motivated to contribute to the welfare of others as well.
Your successful self‐image consists of healthy feelings and behaviors needed to achieve
your desires. Having empowering beliefs and actions will keep you on the road to
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3.4 Staying Positive
Your journey toward success will flow more smoothly if you ride the "right" attitude all
the way to the top. Statements like "I think I can" beats "I can't" every time. An
optimistic outlook on life helps you to achieve goals in record time and enhances the
way you make friends and lifelong business associates along the way. This is because
everyone enjoys being around someone who is a solution‐finder and one who looks for
the good instead of the bad in everything.
The way we view ourselves and our outlook on life is usually based on the various
experiences that have impacted us. They affect our judgment on issues and we develop
responses to them that gradually become a part of who we are. We therefore
progressively adapt and conform to certain behaviors, reinforcing them, whether or not
they positively affect our attitudes.
For instance, if you were repeatedly praised as a bright child, you began to believe that
you were one. Your young mind worked overtime, coming up with new ways to show
how bright you were, and to elicit further praise. This is the way beliefs are formed and
assimilated.
As adults, however, we have the power to originate beliefs of our own choice. We can
replace negative, limiting beliefs about ourselves with freshly chosen alternatives. Our
minds have the ability to get rid of beliefs that do not support us. In fact, to live our
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dream fully, a new belief system that enables us to be our best is a necessity. Our old
beliefs have gotten us this far, and we need new ones to take us further into our
dreams.
A winning attitude often takes work to develop. An important part of this work involves
forming positive statements about yourself to replace old, negative and self‐defeating
thoughts. To adopt new and positive thoughts, we need to systematically choose
affirming statements, and consciously live in them, believing in what they represent.
They will become increasingly true, until we are certain that they describe who we are.
You can begin by taking a closer look at the way affirmations are formed. An affirmation
is a firm, positive sentence designed to convey a message from your conscious mind to
your subconscious. It asserts something that you know is true, even though it may not
have manifested in your life yet. When the subconscious mind receives this message, it
goes to work on a subconscious level to align with it and bring it about.
An effective affirmation must always be in first person (I), the present tense, and must
be stated positively. So instead of, "I will not catch a cold and be sick tomorrow", which
focuses your mind on the idea of sickness, you should instead tell yourself, "I am
radiantly healthy now. My body feels wonderful! I see myself performing beautifully in
my dance recital." Now, you have replaced the negative thought with a positive and
more colorful image. As the mind can only hold one thought at a time, the thought of
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sickness is removed, and your subconscious mind has grabbed hold of the healthy idea,
swinging into action by creating better health for you.
When you begin to discover situations that raise your self‐worth and self‐confidence,
take advantage of those situations. Instead of saying to yourself, "What does it really
matter," believe that you have control of changing your life and say, "I'm going for it," "I
feel so optimistic that every situation is an exciting challenge," "I'm unstoppable."
Change your negative vocabulary and self‐talk into positive vocabulary and self‐talk on a
continual basis. Identifying statements that create negative emotions, for example
anxiety, fear, and insecurity and statements that create positive emotions, for example
excitement, joy, and challenge, affords you the opportunity to change your statements
to create positive emotional and mental states.
Ultimately, this will change how you act towards yourself and others. You ought to get
involved in healthy and optimistic situations that generate positive outcomes and help
you overcome your fears. Fears are inner barriers, or roadblocks, that can be removed
by changing negative thoughts into positive ones to create positive action. For example,
when you fear failure, your motivation is to avoid failure rather than to achieve or seek
success. You can fear your best as well as your worst. These barriers will also prevent
you from exerting yourself, not because you cannot perform, but because you fear that
you are not able to perform well.
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am a part, and specifically for my family and friends. I will also express gratitude for the
fact that my career is rewarding in ways that go far beyond financial remuneration.”
The practice of engaging in affirmations allows you to replace stale, worn out, or
negative mind chatter with more positive ideas and concepts. It is a powerful technique,
one which can in a short time transform many of our attitudes and expectations about
life, thereby changing what we create for ourselves. Affirmations can be done silently,
spoken aloud, written down, or even sung or chanted. Even ten minutes a day of
repeating effective affirmations can counterbalance years of old bad mental habits. If
you are aware that you are repeating habitual negative thought patterns or attitudes,
then try saying an affirmation to yourself a few times right then and there.
Therefore, it is evident that empowering your mind with positive thoughts translates to
having a winning attitude that is necessary in facilitating your journey to success.
3.5 Relaxation Exercises To Stay In Control
When conditioning your mind for success, do not forget to include relaxation exercises
in your daily routine. Doing so helps to keep your mind in optimum working order, ready
to receive what the world has to offer you and the opportunity for you to take time off
to evaluate and visualize what you actually want.
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3. When stressed or feeling out of control of the situation that you are in, take a short
break to get yourself back on track and focused. Close your eyes and imagine that you
are by the sea, enjoying the breeze and sounds of the waves. Take deep breathes, relax
and tell yourself that you are calm. You may wish to let out soft and gentle sounds at
the same time, allowing them to clear your mind of all your frustrations. As you
gradually feel more and more relaxed, leave everything behind and open your eyes.
Transmit this positive energy to the things that you are doing and influence your actions
and behaviors.
Conducting these 3 simple exercises one at a time will help you regain and establish
control of yourself. Recognizing the fact that you are in total control of your mind and
body, tells your subconscious and conscious mind that you are ready and open to accept
what the future has install for you. Doing so prepares your mind to face the challenges
that lie ahead, helping you overcome any mental barriers that could possibly hinder
your journey to success.
However, if these exercises have little or no effect on you, or you are simply too pressed
for time, consider trying out these similar exercises which promise effective results.
Other than helping you relax, these exercises also help you gain control of your life as
you map the journey to your goals mentally.
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4. Get into a comfortable sitting position, close your eyes and breathe deeply. Imagine
that you are in a comfortable place relaxing with your eyes closed. It could be your
favorite beach or the cinema that is playing your favorite movie. Focus on each muscle
of your body and let each relax one by one. Keep breathing deeply until you feel that
you are fully relaxed. A relaxed mind and body will allow you to focus more on your
thoughts, in this case, enjoying the sea breeze or the movie that is played. After
imagining, take several deep breaths again and slowly open your eyes.
This exercise helps you to regain focus and recompose your thoughts quickly. Having a
peaceful mind is effective when you wish to get yourself back on track after having lost
your train of thoughts on a busy day. This exercise may prove to be less effective for
some, as it challenges the mind to process several thoughts and emotions over a short
period of time. However, regular practices will enable you and your mind to get used to
this process and therefore develop the ability to master this technique quickly.
5. At times, you may feel that the journey to your destination is a long and hard to reach
one. In such cases, you may feel that things are in a mess and out of your control.
What you should do then is visualize your goals repeatedly. This is particularly helpful
for long‐term goals, as repetition makes your visualizations more powerful. In addition,
it would be especially helpful to you if you can make it into a habit. This means making it
a point to imagine your desired ending or goals at least once daily, upon rising in the
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morning or before going to sleep. Ideally, you should do it both in the morning and at
night. This will naturally give you the drive and motivation when you are conscious to
work towards your goals.
Visualization will help you to discover more energy and joy in life as you tune in to your
inner self. It will also help you gain the competitive edge in your personal and
professional relationships. This is because visualization, also known as 'mental imaging,'
is a powerful skill that can be practiced regularly to improve your communication skills.
It is a process of relaxation that enables you to consciously evoke your desired
sensations and images. It works as if you are watching yourself and your surroundings
on an inner screen. When you visualize, you are giving signals to your body to either
increase or decrease sensation. Visualizations enable you to be in total control of your
sensations of feeling, hearing, smelling, seeing, color and temperature. As such, when
you visualize, you control your feelings and thoughts. It is therefore important to
communicate positive signals, feelings, or ideas to maximize pleasant thoughts and
situations, and eliminate unpleasant ones in your mind.
To practice visualization, begin by choosing a place that is relatively quiet and where you
can be alone for fifteen to thirty‐minutes. Then close your eyes and concentrate on your
breathing. Breathe deeply and calm your body and mind. Imagine yourself sitting on the
beach watching the sunset over the ocean. Try to listen to the sound of the wind and
waves, and feel the sun as it touches your face. Admire the beauty of the clear blue sky,
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touch the rocks and sand, and focus on anything else that pleases you. Upon
completion, open your eyes, relax, and get ready for the next segment.
Next, close your eyes and try to create as real an image of the actual situation that you
want to change or hope to achieve. Focus on what is in the background and the
foreground of your surroundings. Now choose a behavior or a skill that is important to
you. Make sure that it is one that you wish to modify or change. For example, it could be
a new skill that you want to improve upon such as public speaking. When you have that
particular situation in mind, visualize your movements and begin to slow yourself down
by breathing deeply. Imagine yourself speaking in front of a group and listen to what
you are saying. Observe your nonverbal gestures and visualize this segment as if it were
in slow motion. You need to pay close attention to your own movements and sounds.
Following that, begin to change and correct your verbal and nonverbal behaviors that
could frustrate your communication and performance. Replace your unproductive
actions with ones that are more appropriate to improve your skills and increase your
performance. With your eyes still closed, allow yourself to review the situation again,
only this time in the normal speed and in the new way.
Remember, you need to pay close attention to your verbal and nonverbal
communication constantly. After doing so, you should be gradually experiencing feelings
of confidence and inner calmness develop within you.
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Finally, imagine the audience applauding and you achieving the success that you desire.
When you have finished, open your eyes and enjoy the way that you are feeling about
yourself.
For some, it may be useful to write down certain parts of the experience that have
significantly affected one’s behaviors or thoughts. It is also important to note that this
form of guided imagery can be implemented on a regular basis. In fact, it is
recommended that you practice these steps fifteen minutes a day, increasing your time
incrementally, to thirty minutes.
As you gradually feel yourself improving from these changes, consider adopting this
method to change other aspects of your life that previously prevented you from
achieving the success you desire. Visualization is therefore necessary to help you regain
calmness of your mind, while making positive changes to your subconscious behaviors
that will eventually alter your conscious actions and feelings.
Thus, it is evident that conducting visualization exercises will be effective in helping you
achieve your goals. Also, having goals help you determine what success in life is. Having
known what your desired ending is, you can visualize it to have actually happened using
this technique, and get motivated as you discover your mental potential to reach your
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As long as you have optimistic and supportive people around you, seeking support from
them can be done easily in a variety of ways.
1. You can get support and advice from a friend or some one close to you. Before
making a big decision or doing something that you are uncertain about, you can ask for
encouragement, advice, or just good luck from a friend or someone you are close to.
Whether you are preparing for a big presentation or planning your next career move,
getting advice from those who have had similar experiences will definitely be beneficial
to you. Otherwise, having someone there listening you is also helpful in giving you the
support you need.
Share your dreams and goals with people whom you know will support and not ridicule
them. As listening is perhaps the simplest way to give support to a person, sharing your
thoughts while they listen will already fill you with enough energy to motivate you
towards success. Of course, do gather feedback from those that you deem suitable and
see if they are of any use to you. Do not get discouraged by views that are not aligned
with yours, and instead judge for yourself to see if those suggestions can work for you.
Whenever you are feeling down, talk to the person who you know will listen to you and
lift your spirits up. Do not talk to someone who simply sympathizes with you and
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4
Setting Goals
The definition of success varies from person to person. Depending on the goals set and
the expectations that one has of him or herself, success can be achieved in various ways.
Nonetheless, whatever it is and however it appears to you, success is having reached
goals that you have set for yourself. Thus, identifying your true goals in life is necessary
in determining your level of success.
4.1 What Are Goals?
Before setting goals, you need to know what they are and what they mean to you. So,
what exactly are they?
Goals are experiences that you have not yet had, places you have not yet been to,
people you have not met, a level of income you have not achieved, a type of
relationship you are not enjoying now, or having something that you do not currently
own. Like your dreams, there is no limit to the number of goals you can set, other than
the limits of your imagination. And although goals represent what you intend to achieve
in the future, they are always set and worked on in the present.
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between yourself and others. Committing yourself to a relationship with others helps
create an environment of self‐support. The willingness to define your goals and the
aspirations you have provides the motivation you need to focus on achieving your goals.
Bear in mind that your willingness to take action and achieve your goals is different from
wishing your goals to complete on their own. Wishing, like expecting, is a desire for the
possibility of some act or state arbitrarily occurring. This however, will not be true in all
situations for each individual.
When it comes to making your goals happen, wishing can be self‐sabotaging.
Willingness to do something is a self responsible behavior. As such, when you take
conscious control of your life, you actively plan your course or direction. Determining
your direction builds positive momentum in your life. Thus, you should always attempt
to create positive momentum and enthusiasm in the things you do if you wish to
progressively make improvements to your life.
Now that you know what goals are and what they should mean to you, the next thing
you should to do is choose a goal for yourself that is important to you. If you need to set
goals for your career, find a job or profession that is important to you, beyond the bills
that it pays.
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Goal setting is an ongoing, reciprocal process between you and the world. Being able to
accomplish your goals help you overcome inner barriers of fear and affirm your
confidence as a successful individual. Planning your goals is not necessarily a mundane
process that you will always have to dread doing. This is because goal setting will
naturally generate your human need for self‐drive and accomplishment.
This drive for accomplishment is innate and comes from within you. Setting goals
complete your entire existence as a human, physically, mentally and emotionally. It
enables you to feel more connected to yourself and to the world, making your life on
earth more meaningful.
Without goals and a direction in life, you will miss out on much potential for
experiencing the positive emotions of excitement, aliveness, enthusiasm, joy, and even
happiness. Without goals, you can end up living from problem to problem, instead of
from opportunity to opportunity.
Setting goals will steer you toward opportunities while enabling you to overcome
obstacles, and break through barriers necessary for your accomplishments. To be
effective in the goal setting process, you must go far beyond the usual ideas of goal
setting.
There are many things to do when creating goals for yourself.
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If the experiences you had were fulfilling and satisfying, then you would be hoping to
achieve similar levels of success in the future. Take note of what you should and should
not do to get to where you desire. However, if they were not, avoid such situations
again in the future and learn from the mistakes that you have committed.
Having this thought process enables you to re‐evaluate the goals you have for yourself
and determine whether or not they work for you.
3. Imagine that you are able to achieve your goals. Visualize it happening and feel the
entire experience. Are you sensing lots of happiness and joy or do you feel that
something is still missing? After that, re‐evaluate the goals that you have set out for
yourself and see if they should be changed or re‐prioritized. Record down the
differences that you wish to make and visualize if that is the experience you want to feel
at the end of your journey. Bear in mind that limiting yourself merely limits your ability
to succeed. In other words, you are the master of your own destiny.
4. After going through several though processes, it is important that you start planning
the specific goals that you wish to achieve. Your goals must be specific, measurable,
attainable, realistic, and timely. This means writing down every goal you have and
putting boundaries around them so that you will know when you have achieved those
goals. Some goals must be big and some goals must be long‐range.
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You need to be able to identify how you can benefit from the goals set. This is because
some people often fail to reach their goals because they concentrate too much on the
costs rather than the benefits of them.
5. List down the obstacles that stand between you and your goals. Identify obstacles in
order to be realistic and avoid being surprised at untimely situations. Many people have
experienced times at which they had no idea pursuing their goals were going to be so
demanding, require so much effort, take so long, and involve so many unexpected
pitfalls. As such, having carefully planned your goals in advance eliminates much of such
disappointment.
Nonetheless, you must also understand that you cannot always see roadblocks that lie
ahead. This is why commitment, attitude, responsibility, and focus on the benefits
remain constant necessities and qualities that give you the drive and motivation to
continue on your dreams. Patience is also extremely important. Remember, keeping
yourself focused on your goals enable you to see the benefits, just the obstacles.
6. When setting your goals, bear in mind that you need to create realistic and obtainable
goals. The more effectively you can measure a goal, the more likely you will be able to
complete the goal because progress itself is a tremendous encourager. Even though you
are not able to see the progress by the day, you will be able to see changes and
improvements by the end of the week, or certainly by the end of the month.
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Many people set goals that are completely out of reach, whereas others set them so low
that they represent no challenge. Both approaches are unrealistic. Many people
knowingly set impossible goals so that they have a built‐in excuse for not achieving
those goals. This practice is clearly self‐defeating and one which you must avoid. You
must have a realistic chance of reaching a goal, combined with a belief that you will
reach it, in order for it to have long‐range motivational impact.
7. When planning your goals, do incorporate the practice of prioritizing them. Recognize
the fact that not all of your daily activities are of equal importance, and that you should
instead organize and prioritize them into a working plan. You ought to work your plan in
order, from the high‐priority activities to low‐priority activities, until all are complete or
till you run out of time at the end of the day.
If you are as busy as most people, you will find yourself running out of time far more
often than you complete your list. However, there is no need to worry as there is always
the next day to work with. Nonetheless, it is the number of priority activities that you
can complete each day which will determine how many of your goals and dreams you
achieve each year.
8. When you are setting the course for your future, ensure that you do it with an open
mind. Remember that the opportunities available to you are limitless and plentiful. So
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The process of planning your goals may seem like a long and daunting one. However, it
is important that you realize the importance of doing so and how it helps guide the way
you work towards your success.
4.3 Sticking To Your Values
Goals that you set for yourself and the dreams that you wish could come true must be a
reflection of who you want to see yourself become. Thus, you need to ask yourself if the
goals you set are aligned with your values. Generally, when you reach your dreams, you
should be feeling happy and in harmony with your surroundings.
However, if your dreams go against your value system, you may feel ill at ease and not
be completely happy once you do attain it. When you do not feel particularly
comfortable with something that you hope to achieve, go back to your motivations and
question yourself. Why did you want that thing in the first place? What was the value
behind it? Looking at your hierarchy of values, does it violate any higher value you hold?
After examining your motivations, you can now look at your desired outcome. In it, do
you see anything happening that compromises or can compromise your values? If you
answered yes to any or both of these questions, re‐examine your dream again. It may
just not be worth it.
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