Herb Tannenbaum, Ph.D., is an established psychologist in New Jersey, with more than 40 years of experience in counseling and psychology consultation. As the founder and Executive Director of the Center for Effective Living, Dr. Herb Tannenbaum often works with couples seeking relationship therapy.

1. COUPLES THERAPY TO ADDRESS
UNCONSCIOUS SELF-HATRED
Herb Tannenbaum

2. INTRODUCTION
 Herb Tannenbaum, Ph.D., is an established psychologist
in New Jersey, with more than 40 years of experience in
counseling and psychology consultation. As the founder
and Executive Director of the Center for Effective Living,
Dr. Herb Tannenbaum often works with couples seeking
relationship therapy.
During his professional career, Dr. Tannenbaum has
pursued the idea of unconscious self-hatred, a concept
addressed in his work as a certified Imago Relationship
Therapist. In 2015, he presented a lecture on the topic.
The desire to modify one’s behavior is a common reason
partners choose to participate in couples’ therapy.

3. COUPLES THERAPY
 Sometimes, problematic behavior stems from unconscious
insecurities or negative attributes one senses in oneself.
When this unconscious self-hatred is directed toward a significant
other as frustration or anger, therapists can assist clients in
developing healthier communication. With the psychologist’s help,
clients are able to identify the qualities or memories in themselves
that are causing them to lash out at their partner or resist their
partner’s efforts of assistance.
Through their own acceptance, and the empathy of the partner,
the individual is able to facilitate a stronger, more open
relationship that helps the person acknowledge and eventually
repair these internal wounds.